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Topicif you had 5 days, which of these 2 california amusement parks would you visit?
SusanGreenEyes
07/06/18 8:17:39 PM
#22
Jen0125 posted...
oh man i can buy season passes for some of these places through my employee perks website for really cheap.

i should do that before i get a new job >_>

If you can get them cheaply then do it if you're planning on visiting the park often. Otherwise it's not worth it.
Why are you planning on leaving your job?
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TopicI got pea milk
SusanGreenEyes
07/05/18 11:15:25 PM
#48
Doctor Foxx posted...
LinkPizza posted...
True. But if you aren't happy because of the food you are forcing yourself to eat even if you don't like it, then those years start to feel worthless or like a lot of work. I mean, it's good if whoever likes it and it works for them, but it's not for everybody. Like for me, living longer means nothing if I'm not happy with my food that I have to eat everyday. For me, at least...

That's how I felt before I tried it. Initially I was just going to do a week. Then two. Them a month. Turned out I didn't actually miss those things that much. Now they're no longer appealing.

This is true of many people that adopt plant based diets.

You don't know until you actually try.

Nah. I'm good
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TopicI got pea milk
SusanGreenEyes
07/05/18 3:41:00 PM
#43
Doctor Foxx posted...
SusanGreenEyes posted...
Doctor Foxx posted...
Flappers posted...
I seriously didn't even know this shit existed until now.
Sounds like another ridiculous way of people trying to make something "healthier" that has its own plethora of preservatives and God knows what else when the original food wasn't even unhealthy on its own. How desperate and naive are us Americans that to eat healthy that we invent new foods that are supposed to automatically make people healthier instead of just understanding the sizes of our portions and adjusting our lifestyle? "If I drink pea milk instead of regular milk but don't change anything else, I'll be healthier!"

It's like that thing a while back when people started using eggs from goddamn cartons. Didn't make a dick of difference, did it? Don't see that shit anymore, do you?

You mean egg beaters? Yeah that stuff still exists.

To the bold: Dairy isn't healthy. Aside from most of the world being lactose intolerant, diets high in dairy are more likely to cause issues for people.

Look at the healthiest populations out there: they aren't dairy heavy users

I don't necessarily care if something is healthy.
I'd rather eat what makes me happy and live to be 95 instead of 99, as opposed to for forcing myself to eat a bunch of shit I don't want to eat.

Ok? No one said you had to eat it. I was only responding the claim that dairy is healthy. It's not.

It's also about being healthy while you're alive. You live shorter and you have fewer quality years while being alive. That's not good.

I can live with that. I need bacon and real ice cream in my life.
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TopicI am a shut-in. Ask me anything.
SusanGreenEyes
07/05/18 10:35:41 AM
#73
The majority of us have seen this so many times that we no longer care though.
That's why I was asking why you were creating this topic again.
It's been done over 15 times already and it's old and tired.
No offense, but nobody owes you attention simply because you don't leave the house.
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TopicI got pea milk
SusanGreenEyes
07/05/18 10:32:27 AM
#40
Doctor Foxx posted...
Flappers posted...
I seriously didn't even know this shit existed until now.
Sounds like another ridiculous way of people trying to make something "healthier" that has its own plethora of preservatives and God knows what else when the original food wasn't even unhealthy on its own. How desperate and naive are us Americans that to eat healthy that we invent new foods that are supposed to automatically make people healthier instead of just understanding the sizes of our portions and adjusting our lifestyle? "If I drink pea milk instead of regular milk but don't change anything else, I'll be healthier!"

It's like that thing a while back when people started using eggs from goddamn cartons. Didn't make a dick of difference, did it? Don't see that shit anymore, do you?

You mean egg beaters? Yeah that stuff still exists.

To the bold: Dairy isn't healthy. Aside from most of the world being lactose intolerant, diets high in dairy are more likely to cause issues for people.

Look at the healthiest populations out there: they aren't dairy heavy users

I don't necessarily care if something is healthy.
I'd rather eat what makes me happy and live to be 95 instead of 99, as opposed to for forcing myself to eat a bunch of shit I don't want to eat.
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TopicI am a shut-in. Ask me anything.
SusanGreenEyes
07/05/18 12:09:58 AM
#68
Why is this crap topic occurring again?
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TopicTwo people I know just had a baby and I don't understand why people do this
SusanGreenEyes
07/04/18 11:53:57 PM
#23
I've heard of a few people using the name Khaleesi for babies, which is a fictional Game of Thrones term meaning 'Princess '.
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Topic4th of July appetizers/picnic side dish to buy for gathering?
SusanGreenEyes
07/04/18 3:08:37 PM
#4
Go to the deli and get some pasta salad
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TopicI'm freaking out right now
SusanGreenEyes
07/04/18 9:14:15 AM
#19
KogaSteelfang posted...
I hope all turns out well, get better soon.

Also, no idea what's up with Discord.
Anyone know what's up with Helly?
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TopicHow are you going to celebrate the 4th of july?
SusanGreenEyes
07/04/18 1:00:11 AM
#30
I'm getting up early to see what animes are on Netflix.
I may do some laundry too.
I made chicken with rice and beans Sunday so we still have leftovers tomorrow for dinner.
I love lazy days.
So excited because I found a few on YouTube that I want to watch too.
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TopicI got pea milk
SusanGreenEyes
07/04/18 12:54:35 AM
#24
I don't understand why people add water to mushed up food and call it milk.
There's oat water, pee water, almond water, soy water, cashew water and hemp water.
None of these items contain milk.
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TopicI can't believe you banned my girlfriend, who is asd, because shes strong
SusanGreenEyes
07/04/18 12:46:15 AM
#30
The mods banned the person in question, not any of us.
Nobody asked for the topic or cared about it.
Making another topic complaining about it is pointless.
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Topicadultswim came out with the most cringeworthy show ever recently
SusanGreenEyes
07/02/18 10:23:10 AM
#18
NightMareBunny posted...
titled "mostly 4 millenials" it's basically youtube poop the series and a bunch of skits where the whole joke is "Derp SJW's Derpity Derp! Millenials Like this right? so let's scream about it!"

the entire project seems horribly outdated using tumblr memes to get its point across

So don't watch the show.
Problem solved.
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Topici got $75 in amazon gift cards for my birthday. what should i get
SusanGreenEyes
07/02/18 10:20:34 AM
#44
Jen0125 posted...
i just bought 2 books the other week

this is why i'm having a hard time thinking of something to buy lmao

Which new books did you buy?
I got a copy of Ovid's Metamorphosis and Mort (e) by Robert Rupino last week while we were in NY.
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TopicI'm Autistic, so everyone bullies and makes fun of me
SusanGreenEyes
07/02/18 3:18:36 AM
#107
xKitsunex posted...
SkynyrdRocker posted...
Sucks, dude


What, you have to find someone to look down on? Screw you, get lost. You aren't supportive with your condescending "oh that really sucks" crap.. plus i am not a dude, plus i am not needing your attitude because it isn't beneficial to me, so you already screwed up any chance of pics or attention from me.

I don't recall anyone asking you for pictures or attention.
In addition, why do you believe that other people owe you attention?
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TopicEvans, Hemsworth, Pratt?
SusanGreenEyes
07/01/18 4:38:10 PM
#11
I chose the Pirate Angel.
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TopicHappy Birthday Jen
SusanGreenEyes
07/01/18 4:30:23 PM
#46
The_tall_midget posted...
SusanGreenEyes posted...

You're being a creep on a video game website. Good job, dude.
Can't you find a house to haunt, or a bridge to live under so you can collect tolls from people? !?


Sorry, self-proclaimed victim tactics don't work on me. She has all the tools needed to prevent me from replying to her and yet does nothing. I've even suggested she should do that if she didn't like what I said.

She makes a public thread on a public forum and then cry because she's not getting all the positive replies her idiotic simps and white knights typically give her.

Also, you might want to learn what being a creep entails. I did nothing creepy. But do keep acting like an sjw. It entertains more than you seem to realize. Nothing is prettier than watching a snowflake melt.


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TopicHappy Birthday Jen
SusanGreenEyes
07/01/18 4:22:12 PM
#41
The_tall_midget posted...
Jen0125 posted...

Please stop stalking me.


It's a little difficult to not "stalk" someone that is basically the equivalent of this: http://operationrainfall.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/11/Sexism.png

Imagine: a drunkard in the public square screaming at 3 am, waking everyone up, and then screaming that people are staring at him.

You have ways to block me and yet don't do it. Nice job proving my point. Me thinks the attention-starved girl doth protest too much.

Now go swallow your pills or something.

You're being a creep on a video game website.
Good job, dude.
Can't you find a house to haunt, or a bridge to live under so you can collect tolls from people? !?
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TopicHad to call the paramedics on my brother today. FUCK.
SusanGreenEyes
07/01/18 10:46:37 AM
#77
SunWuKung420 posted...
The first time you realize that there is zero difference between your thoughts and the brightness of the Sun can be an enlightening and harrowing experience.

The sun doesn't think you're an asshole though.
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TopicI witnessed the most unprofessional act from a manager last night
SusanGreenEyes
06/30/18 6:42:38 PM
#18
Why did you just copy that huge wall of text?
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TopicI witnessed the most unprofessional act from a manager last night
SusanGreenEyes
06/30/18 6:39:27 PM
#16
Mead posted...
Pfft I did way worse things than that as a manager

What did you do dude?
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TopicHappy Birthday Jen
SusanGreenEyes
06/30/18 6:34:48 PM
#14
Happy Birthday Jen. Have a great day and an awesome weekend.
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TopicIt's my birthday!
SusanGreenEyes
06/26/18 10:16:30 PM
#29
KogaSteelfang posted...
Happy birthday!

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TopicMy Husband's Friends Are Going to Be Mad and I've Never Felt so Free!
SusanGreenEyes
06/25/18 9:38:55 PM
#87
LinkPizza posted...
I recently went home as well. And hung out with my friends. It was fun. The only thing that is ever a problem is my best friends boyfriend. But, in the end, I still always hang out with her.

Nice!
Glad you had a great time.
What's the deal with the boyfriend?
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Topici just really hate the hospital.
SusanGreenEyes
06/25/18 8:07:11 PM
#81
Far-Queue posted...
#freehelly #ifthemancanpissyoumustdismiss

Yo dude... Have you tried using The Chewbacca Defense?:

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TopicMy Husband's Friends Are Going to Be Mad and I've Never Felt so Free!
SusanGreenEyes
06/25/18 8:01:21 PM
#85
^
Dude, whatever you do with your guy friends is your own business.
Don't try to pin your lifestyle on me.
Have a great night, guys.
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TopicMy Husband's Friends Are Going to Be Mad and I've Never Felt so Free!
SusanGreenEyes
06/24/18 8:37:25 AM
#81
MartianManchild posted...
Good morning. Hope you have a good day.

Good morning. Have a great day.
LinkPizza posted...
SunWuKung420 posted...
I'm so lucky my wife is cool. Poor Juan.

I'm cool. I have my own mind and my own friends though. They were glad to see me and I was glad to see them.
I dont know why youre saying poor Juan... Susans super nice. And everybody got to see their friends.

Thanks dude. You get it. Hugs. Lol
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TopicMy Husband's Friends Are Going to Be Mad and I've Never Felt so Free!
SusanGreenEyes
06/24/18 6:10:50 AM
#77
Keebs05 posted...
SusanGreenEyes posted...
He went out with his friends and I went out with my friends.
I was ditching his friends, not him..

I'll take "Arguing Semantics" for $1000, Alex.

I'll take "I had a fantastic time so I don't mind any negative comments I may receive on a video game message board" for $1". Lol
I seriously had an awesome night and I would do it all again in a heartbeat.
I've been friends with these guys for 20 years and I'm glad that we had the chance to finally chill out together.
I had to do that in the place of seeing acquaintances and I'm fine with that.
My husband understood once we sat down and discussed everything so he's not angry.
From now on I'm free to make my own plans when we visit again.
He got to see his friends and I got to see mine.
We're good. No worries.
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TopicMy Husband's Friends Are Going to Be Mad and I've Never Felt so Free!
SusanGreenEyes
06/24/18 1:07:47 AM
#73
My_Unit posted...
SusanGreenEyes posted...
Tomorrow I get to see my friends and I'm excited. I'm going to have a great time and they get an amazing story about the time I chose to ditch people for them without considering consequences because I couldn't go through with seeing people I don't care about, when in my heart I straight up missed my friends and had to see them. Like me or not, agree with me or not, but that's some pretty epic shit right there.

I hope one day you guys are on the receiving end of something like this. I hope one day someone says 'Fuck rules. Fuck expectations. Fuck time fuck space fuck distance. Fuck what other people think. I HAD to see you because I missed you. That's badass and epic as fuck.

Sometimes we must do what feels right, even though other people may not agree with it. I never came here thinking everyone would agree with me, and to be honest I never intended to change my plans or feel guilty if people didn't. Most people wouldn't change their plans either. Lol

My husband is fine with everything now, and it's been decided it's best that I see my friends while he see his own for future trips, so that we get to both see the people we want to see.
They're going to have guy time this visit.
I hope you all have a great day.
Thanks for sharing I'm my experience.


Ditching your husband to see two dudes from college

He went out with his friends and I went out with my friends.
I was ditching his friends, not him.
If my husband had no plans for the night, he would have been invited to come out with me and my friends.
I had no interest in spending time with his friends though.
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TopicMy Husband's Friends Are Going to Be Mad and I've Never Felt so Free!
SusanGreenEyes
06/23/18 8:56:03 PM
#69
trentpac posted...
Who cares

I do and they do. Lol
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TopicMy Husband's Friends Are Going to Be Mad and I've Never Felt so Free!
SusanGreenEyes
06/23/18 8:53:31 PM
#67
Friday night was so awesome!
We went out for pizza, walked around and talked for hours, went out for karaoke and I got home at 3:30 in the morning.

Hanging out with my dudes was like catching up from right where we left off 12 years ago- no awkwardness or anything like that.

I'm so glad that these are my friends, and
that I dropped people who I didn't really want to see in order to chill out with them.

We're going to chill out whenever I am in town as opposed to having plans made for me to see other people.

Thanks to everyone who chilled with me during my topic. I'm a very lucky girl!
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TopicHow much of a plan do you have?
SusanGreenEyes
06/22/18 6:04:29 AM
#13
50% plan and 50% rolling the dice and seeing what happens
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TopicMy Husband's Friends Are Going to Be Mad and I've Never Felt so Free!
SusanGreenEyes
06/22/18 12:18:54 AM
#64
LinkPizza posted...
ultra magnus13 posted...
SpaceBear_ posted...
You sound like a needy nightmare.

Also LOL @ ditching your husband to go hang out with a couple dudes from college.


Pretty much.

This is not bad ass, or epic, or awesome.

You mildly annoyed and inconvinenced your husband because you are needy and bad at planning. You had months to make plans with your friends, you could have invited them out with you and Juans friends, or you and Juan could have seen them the next night. You chose to drop a day before drama bomb.

Btw if the dudes you hang with think its "epic" confirmed they want to sleep with you.

I don't see how she's bad at planning because of this. Based on the reason why she decided to hang out with her friends instead of her husband's, at least.

You get it dude. Thank you. Lol
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Topicbruh. Those two egg & cheese English Muffins for 3$ at Dunkin....
SusanGreenEyes
06/21/18 12:02:35 PM
#9
Kyuubi4269 posted...
SunWuKung420 posted...
I can make them at home, at smaller costs and healthier.

Dude you can't cook, go away.

Bwahaha.
What the crap?!?
Sometimes you guys can be so evil.
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TopicMy Husband's Friends Are Going to Be Mad and I've Never Felt so Free!
SusanGreenEyes
06/21/18 9:50:59 AM
#57
Tomorrow I get to see my friends and I'm excited.
My husband is fine with everything now, and it's been decided it's best that I see my friends while he see his own for future trips, so that we get to both see the people we want to see.
They're going to have guy time this visit.
I hope you all have a great day.
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TopicMy Husband's Friends Are Going to Be Mad and I've Never Felt so Free!
SusanGreenEyes
06/20/18 11:33:50 PM
#49
LinkPizza posted...
I think people are maybe misunderstanding a little bit. Its not Allie she thinks they have to make her a priority. Especially since they are her husbands friends. But she is trying to show them shes her own person. And trying to make a bond or connection with them on her own. Thats why she tries to talk to them, even if its not through her husband. Or tried to just talk to them more often. They dont have to, but it would sure be nice. Maybe they find out about things they have in common and start talking way more often. It would be nice if you and you SO shared friends. And not just because they were friends with the other. Its nice to be able to actually make you SOs friends your friends as well... Thats how I see it, at least...

Exactly.
I've known 2 of the guys for almost 20 years and his wife for ten.
I'm not stupid. I know if we ever split they'd be loyal to him. I get that.
However they also live in NY and we're in AZ so I was thinking it would be nice to keep in touch with them the same as I was with other out of state friends and say hi to each other every few days or so, and they said they liked that idea.
We have other married friends that we talk to separately because we're different people and they like talking to us separately because they're 2 entirely different conversations.
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TopicMy Husband's Friends Are Going to Be Mad and I've Never Felt so Free!
SusanGreenEyes
06/20/18 3:43:12 PM
#38
quigonzel posted...
Am I misinterpreting something or are you saying you're upset that his friends don't make you a priority?

Not only that but one said there's no point in talking to me if they already update Juan on what's going on in their lives because he can just tell me what's going on.
These aren't my friends.
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TopicMy Husband's Friends Are Going to Be Mad and I've Never Felt so Free!
SusanGreenEyes
06/20/18 2:20:36 PM
#35
Is it awful that I love the badassery of texting people I haven't seen in ten years, saying "Yo Booger Face, check your messenger. I'm in town and want to see you on Friday night!!", making impromptu plans, then showing up in a tiara and eyeliner and boots looking awesome and saying "Dudes!!! Hugs!! I missed you so much! I had plans with people who don't love me, or really even like me so much... so I ditched them to see you. .. because Dammit you're my people and you're important to me!!! THAT'S the shit I would do for you!!"

Because if that's wrong then I don't even want to be right!

If his friends were also my friends then I would never dream of skipping out, but they're not.
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TopicMy Husband's Friends Are Going to Be Mad and I've Never Felt so Free!
SusanGreenEyes
06/20/18 1:49:01 PM
#33
Jen0125 posted...
Susan, do you think that maybe it's a bit overwhelming for people for you to ask them to say good morning and goodnight to you every. single. day. Or to expect them to say hi to you everyday? It just seems excessive. A lot of people don't even talk to their families every day. Having an expectation that people need to say words to you or something to you every day or almost every day in order for them to care about you is overwhelming. Even "every so often" doesn't come through clear when you're messaging them everyday. It can make it uncomfortable for people to message you when they have 15 missed messages from you already.

Not necessarily.
Everyone I talk to regularly knows how this works.
They catch up when they catch up.
Some friends I speak to each day. Some once a week. Some once every few weeks.
I'm always happy to hear from a friend and as a rule I would never dream of asking why they haven't answered for awhile.
I greet someone I haven't spoken to in 2 weeks the same as I would someone I spoke to the day before. . With a hug and a smile. Lol
I say that I miss them and ask how they are.
I'm honestly grateful for the friends in my life and I get that life is busy.
However, when people don't speak to me in nearly 2 months and I ask if there's a preferred form of communication other than messenger, and I'm told that it was assumed that speaking to Juan is the same as speaking to me, in terms of updates then it makes my skin crawl, to be honest.
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TopicMy Husband's Friends Are Going to Be Mad and I've Never Felt so Free!
SusanGreenEyes
06/20/18 1:28:48 PM
#30
At full disclosure this is what I said in response to the guy's message to me:

* My feelings aren't necessarily hurt. I'm simply expressing how I feel and my perception. My initial point was that reconnecting with other people has been awesome and I guess I was hoping we could all experience that as well. Maybe it was my fault for making that assumption or for assuming that people saw me as an entity totally separate from Juan, with my own perspective to offer. Honestly the cool thing about us is that despite the fact that we're married we are completely different people. Talking to Juan is nothing like talking to me, and I guess I was hoping that people saw that. If they didn't it was simply rolling the dice and seeing what happened which is kind of how I live my life.

*Secondly... I get that we're all busy. We're adults with our own responsibilies. We have bills to pay, lives to live. Problems to solve shit to do. I get that.

That's why the plan was to make a couple of seconds here or there to just simply say hi to each other every so often. I wasn't asking anyone for an hour long phone conversation or a 20 minute update on their lives.

About time zones... I get time zones. The majority of the people I speak to have moved away or stayed where they were.. and we left.
Here's the kooky thing though. We make it work. Magically and creatively because we want to. Each day we say fuck it. Fuck time space and fuck distance. We throw words out and the other person catches them . Because words are fuckin important and so are friends.

Yeah we get busy... but that's the beauty of messenger. I have friends from college that I talk to who also live in NY and one in Ohio. It's 3 hours too. They say good morning whenever they get up. My phone is on mute and my screen is all the way dim so I don't wake up when they wake up. When I get up I say good morning back. Because they're important to me. And I'm important to them. They sometimes say good night first. Sometimes they fall asleep first and that's okay. Sleep happens. Literally.

As Eric Matthews from Boy Meets World said "Lose one friend. Lose all friends. Lose yourself".
Fuck that. I like myself.
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TopicVader died.
SusanGreenEyes
06/20/18 12:11:44 PM
#10
Damn. I remember that guy.
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TopicMy Husband's Friends Are Going to Be Mad and I've Never Felt so Free!
SusanGreenEyes
06/20/18 12:09:54 PM
#23
Aculo posted...
i don't know. adult life issues are legitimate. i know since having a baby, it's suuuuper damn tough to get out and see anyone these days. also, i know plenty of close friends who have just not been able to talk or hang with recently because of their schedules, and demanding lifestyles, ok?

just because people aren't communicating with you in as quickly a manner as you'd like them to doesn't mean they don't care, or aren't your good friends anymore. life is legit crazy and things happen. adulting is tough, ok?

That's the reason I opt for messenger. I tell people that each morning I'm going to say good morning and each night I'm going to say good night. If people are busy and can't say either on a particular day then I understand. Even if they talk to me once a week or every 8 days it's cool. The point is that we communicate on a regular basis. I get that life is crazy and people are busy. I believe in contacting people, rolling the dice and seeing what happens. How people react to me tells me what I need to know. I make important people in my life a priority.
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Been a murder, over in Riften. Some old lady who runs an orphanage. Those poor children must be heartbroken.
TopicMy Husband's Friends Are Going to Be Mad and I've Never Felt so Free!
SusanGreenEyes
06/20/18 11:05:13 AM
#13
trentpac posted...
Shortened version.

You and husband plan a trip months ago

It has been decided to hang out with his friends

You get a wild hair up your butt & change plans on your husband

You put him in an uncomfortable position to have to explain why you don't want to spend time with them/or make excuses for why you're not there...thus making all future get togethers with your husband's friends uncomfortable

Yeah you're being pretty selfish. You have every right to have your own friends and time with said friends. You should've made plans for another time.


With all my heart I couldn't see these peokple.
I didn't have it in me when I realized that these 3 don't truly perceive me as one of their friends, or consider me a priority in their lives.
I needed to spend time with people who see me for myself, and adore me for the person I am, as opposed to being kind of okay with me simply because they are my husband's friends.
I don't think I can spend time with these people anymore and I think on future vacations to New York, which really occur every few years, I'm going to make plans with my friends and let him go out with his.
As messed up as it may sound, I truly believe that if you're sitting at a table surrounded by people who aren't thrilled to be with you, then you're at the wrong table.
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Been a murder, over in Riften. Some old lady who runs an orphanage. Those poor children must be heartbroken.
TopicBlueberries are trash tier fruit
SusanGreenEyes
06/20/18 8:22:18 AM
#17
Blueberry pancakes are my most favorite pancake variety though.
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Been a murder, over in Riften. Some old lady who runs an orphanage. Those poor children must be heartbroken.
TopicFucking A, grandma! Close the goddamn door if you're changing clothes!
SusanGreenEyes
06/20/18 8:18:30 AM
#17
I once walked upstairs as a child to my grandma sitting on the toilet pooping with the bathroom door wide open.
I must have been maybe 9 or 10. I remember screaming and running down the stairs because I was grossed out!
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Been a murder, over in Riften. Some old lady who runs an orphanage. Those poor children must be heartbroken.
TopicMy Husband's Friends Are Going to Be Mad and I've Never Felt so Free!
SusanGreenEyes
06/20/18 8:08:42 AM
#3
LaggnFragnLarry posted...
you go girl

Really? You don't think I'm being selfish or bratty? Lol
Because initially my husband was angry but he's mellowed to the idea. Before I sent the message to them, he asked me to reconsider because he felt I was ruining the trip and making things awkward with friends by saying anything at all, because they're busy and I should just accept the fact that we barely talk, and just be happy we were going to see them.on Friday in person, but I couldn't!
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Been a murder, over in Riften. Some old lady who runs an orphanage. Those poor children must be heartbroken.
TopicMy Husband's Friends Are Going to Be Mad and I've Never Felt so Free!
SusanGreenEyes
06/20/18 7:51:33 AM
#1
Crazy story!!

Juan and I have been planning a trip to New York for a few months, and while we're there it's am ongoing assumption that we spend time with his best friend that he's known since high school, the guy's wife, and another friend, because we live in Arizona and only see them every few years, so the visit is kind of a big and expected deal. I have friends of my own who live there that I hadn't spoken to in forever so I typically wouldn't make plans with my friends in the past.

However my birthday was in March and around my birthday it hit me that I needed to do a lot better about making time to talk to my friends, so I messaged my best friend who lives in Ohio and suggested that we should talk on messenger a lot more despite the fact that our lives are busy because I straight up missed him, and he was excited about that, so we talk a lot more now and it's been awesome.
So I started contacting other friends in New York and doing the same and it's been incredible because I get to communicate with people I haven't seen in years!
I added Juan's 3 friends that we normally make plans with to a messenger group and suggested the same, but in the past few months they've hardly made an effort to talk to me despite the fact that I reach out to them.

That's when it hit me... hard! So I messaged the group we normally see in New York on Monday, the morning before our trip to New York and I told them I felt conflicted about spending time with them for dinner Friday night because we never talk anymore despite the fact that I reach out, and asked if there was a better way to communicate with them.

They pretty much all made excuses that they are dealing with life shit, time zones are difficult, and one actually said that he regularly updated my husband on their lives so he doesn't feel the need to send me an identical message. My heart both dropped and soared!

So I said Fuck it! At 10:30 Monday night I messaged 2 friends in New York that I had been speaking to regularly since March and hadn't seen in 10 years and told them I'd be in town and wanted to see them Friday night, and Tuesday morning before we left to board the plane they both confirmed!!!
So I'm ditching my husband's friends to see my own and I'm so excited. My husband isn't thrilled but he gets that it's my turn to see my people.
I responded in an epic way to his friends telling that my other friends and I take time out of our lives to communicate because it's a priority to us, so we say fuck time, space and distance and choose to talk to each other.

These 3 we normally see don't know yet that I'm not going to be there with them for dinner. One of them has a new girlfriend to introduce to is and in my heart I realized that I don't care.

So Friday night I'm thrilled and excited!!!
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Been a murder, over in Riften. Some old lady who runs an orphanage. Those poor children must be heartbroken.
Topictoday is my birthday and I'm spending it in the hospital
SusanGreenEyes
06/17/18 3:17:22 PM
#96
Happy Father's Day, Helly!
Get better soon, dude!
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Been a murder, over in Riften. Some old lady who runs an orphanage. Those poor children must be heartbroken.
TopicTonight is the first time I'll be going to a music show sober
SusanGreenEyes
06/15/18 10:08:22 PM
#9
Have fun at the show Jen!
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TopicSkyrim
SusanGreenEyes
06/15/18 8:19:46 AM
#17
Sahuagin posted...
zebatov posted...
Is it possible to enter the College of Winterhold with a non-magic character?

IIRC they ask for you to cast Summon Flame Atronach, which is not that easy for a non-caster. I think sometimes they might ask for something else that's a little easier (though I can't remember for sure), but there's also a way to impress the person by just using a shout as well.

At a very low level you have to cast Firebolt..
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