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How cute am I =3

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dotsdfe posted...

I'm not familiar with that method precisely, but skimming it, it doesn't sound too different from my own method.

Starting with core ideas is obviously essential. Start trying to figure out the directions that you want the plot to take and the biggest story beats, then start mapping it out into a coherent story. You don't need to spontaneously know the whole novel in one sitting. I typically go from like a key plot concept to general plot points and then organize them and refine them over time.

The biggest thing that helps me, though, is to get a physical notebook to jot ideas down on. Having my ideas on paper helps so much, and in particular, I make pages for each character to help write out traits or quirks or just smaller details as I develop them. Even if they aren't all important and are just mentioned in passing (or maybe not at all), developing your characters like that really helps.

When you get to actually writing it, pacing is really important. I tried to just attack it on my first time writing a novel, and I burnt out pretty hard and didn't feel up to writing for quite a while after that. Even "a chapter a day" isn't always realistic when it comes to longer chapters. My biggest advice there is to just try to write something every day. Even if it's just a few sentences, keep making progress without pushing yourself too hard.

That's really helpful! Thank you

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dotsdfe posted...

I've written two. Both were awful.

Where are you at in the process exactly? I can try to offer some tips, though I'm not really an expert or anything, but it'd help to know precisely where you're at with it as of now.

I have 3 of the character's story arch's broadly outlined and the general plot outlined to about 1-2 paragraphs worth. So at the very very beginning

I'm following the snowflake method
https://www.advancedfictionwriting.com/articles/snowflake-method/

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that was brave of you to experiment in college by trying a coffee

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Kaiganeer posted...

you reincarnate into a fantasy world as a slime

Makes sense to me *becomes slime*

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Just curious. I've written poems, short stories, essays, but never a novel. It's a novel thing for me (LOL).

I'm attempting to do so now, and I'm having a lot of fun outlining it. Curious if you would have any tips/tricks/advice regarding anything at all during the novel writing process?

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Topic

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Lawyer
Accountant
Financial Advisor
Pay Off Debts
House

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Scotty_Rogers posted...

I'm not gonna drag her down. But why couldnt she just be happy with what God gave her, man? She felt her forehead was too big. Some people teased her for her forehead. So she gets surgery to make it smaller, instead of accepting and rocking it like a truly dignified woman?

I'll forever be disappointed in her. I can't look at her the same anymore.

You had this vision of who your sister is - a girl who would never conform to the expectations of others. And when she got plastic surgery, it shattered your reality of who she is and replaced it with a different reality that she would change her appearance by getting plastic surgery. Take all the time you need to mourn the loss of the image you once had of your sister.

But also, realize it's 100% completely her decision and not yours. Try putting yourself in her shoes - you make a decision that is 100% your decision to make (maybe you buy an expensive car, or give all your money away to charity, or get a tattoo, or join the military) and she is forever disappointed in you for making a decision that you had valid reasons to make, and was completely your call and not hers. How would that make you feel?

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The Trent posted...

it's okay TC i believe you

thank you ;_;

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PrettyTonyTiger posted...

Formerly

cool cool

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I was working in a hotel once and this guest had a hole in their throat (the kind you get from smoking too much). No big deal, right? That's when it happened. He burped through the hole in his throat right into my face. I almost threw up.

I just randomly remembered that.

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masticatingman posted...

Recruiters can slide you into good positions but I believe some take a cut of your pay. This is probably slightly different than what tc is talking about though.

Recruiters don't take a cut of your pay. They charge the employer a fee that is a percentage of your pay ON TOP OF your pay. You don't make any less

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They're in the bargaining phases

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Odyssey is really fun, haven't played Origins (but I have it, I suddenly am reminded of lol)

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MedeaLysistrata posted...

are you not talking about gender stuff in your op and topic title, TC?

edit: maybe 'gender stuff' is a bit of a clumsy way of putting it c_c i am reminded of that sex junk video

Oh I reread and now I understand. Yeah that's what it's about

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TheLiarParadox posted...

Not at all. There's simply no realistic path forward for me after that.

What about just knowing yourself better? Or would be burden of knowing be too much?

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MedeaLysistrata posted...

Idk how racialized people deal with gender stuff because there is enough going on

huh?

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The_Creep_2020 posted...

Very many apologies, I must have you confused with someone else who keeps making bait topics.

I think you just confuse my gender related topics to be bait, when they're not ;)

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You're absolutely right

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TheLiarParadox posted...

Does that include someone who suspects they're non-binary but never intends to find out for sure?

Why do you never intend to find out for sure? Are you scared about what you might realize?

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The_Creep_2020 posted...

Jesus Christ, are all your topics about gender?

No, and I don't like when you call me Jesus Christ XD

Middle hope posted...

Maybe they (sorry TC I don't know your preferred pronouns. Please educate me on them) are coming to realize their gender identity, so they post about it to learn more. The more people that stand with them, the better they can fit in and fell comfortable.

Do you not want TC to feel comfortable?

Something like that
they/them pls =3

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are you an egg

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SrRd_RacinG posted...

How did you f*** that up?

I broke up with her because I didn't feel a strong enough connection. She's a lawyer now lol

I don't regret it tho

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So I dated this girl for a few months back in 2014 and I knew her family lived in like a 6k sq ft home in an expensive part of LA. I just checked real estate listings in their neighborhood and apparently their home might be worth around $15,000,000. Maybe more?

Stephen Spielberg lived on their street I think

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Phone calls, facetime, etc.

I suppose if you have to see someone, you can both test for COVID, but even if you both come up negative, there's still the risk of you having it but not testing positive, then testing positive later.

Generally, I'm using this time to meet people and have phone calls with them. If I like them enough, I mentally put them in a box for hitting them up later when COVID is over. During the phone call, I generally mention that COVID is making it hard to date - they agree - then I talk about how I like to get to know the person first anyway, this gives us time to become friends, then maybe in a few months, we'll still be talking. But my process is still evolving.

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Does he specifically say what he did to the product? Is it illegal to attach a stand and resell it?

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Google is gonna honestly be your best bet if you want accurate reliable information

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BloodMoon7 posted...

This sounds like a very familiar thread.
>_>

I wanted more adviiiceee :<

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I'm a democratic socialist, so this doesn't exactly apply to me, but I still feel like answering.

The Democrats are corporatists and definitely republican-lites. But the republicans are literal fascists. So no, they're not the same. Both suck tho

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DocDelicious posted...

Give your balls a tug and get the fuck over it. Your feelings are your problem, no one else's.

You cannot change another's actions, only how you choose to react.

In a healthy friendship, shouldn't you be allowed to share your feelings? And shouldn't your friend care about your feelings?

Sounds like you're preaching toxic masculinity, I dunno....

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Solid Snake07 posted...

I wouldn't really call that snobbish behavior.

Sounds more like an entitled attitude. Sounds like he's resentful that your grandfather dropped 100k into a car instead of into investments so he could leave more to his family, aka him

That could play a role. I think he also just wants to boost himself up, by saying that he's really really good with money and he knows the best decisions to make, and he's so thrifty which is so great of him.

He'll criticize me for buying a $3 thing of delicious Hershey's creamer, because "we could get a gallon of milk for that". Like excuse me, I used my own money. Actually, now that I typed out that last sentence, it probably does have something to do with enriching himself.

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I also feel like this friend purposely provokes me, because he brought up the political correctness joke 3 more times during the conversation.

I find that when I talk to this friend on the phone, I come out of it pretty stressed and I have to cool down substantially, but I feel guilty about dropping him as a friend. How do I know if it's the right decision? And how do I go about doing it? We've known each other for 10+ years and he's friends with my family and vice versa

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VanananaHeyHey posted...

It's normal, but not mature, useful or right. He's protecting his feelings by trying to sound sage, as though he's doing you a generous favor by not letting you get worked up by speaking your piece.

How would you respond if this happened to you?

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So I have this friend who has been sexist in the past, for years.

Now, he makes fun of people for being too politically correct, which I don't find funny given his sexist past.

When I said I don't think that's funny, he paused. I said, "Can I explain why?"

Then he shut me down and said, "I don't think anything good would come from that"

Is this normal behavior? Wouldn't a friend want to know why I don't think it's funny if I'm asking to explain why? It seems like he didn't want to be put on blast and cares more preserving his ego than hearing my feelings.


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Don't mention it unless she mentions it first

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I lent $200 to a guy who was supposed to pay me back $50 each week for the next (5) weeks (interest). Needless to say I never got paid back. That was 10 years ago. Thank goodness it wasn't more

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To characterize a woman as ready [for something sexual] because of what she's wearing, is very problematic.

It's a slippery slope between what you're saying and "She's asking for it"

SMH OP

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This topic is problematic

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Sometimes my brother will criticize other people for how they spend their money. He'll be like "they shouldn't have bought a $100,000 jaguar. That was a terrible investment"

And I'm like, "He didn't buy it as an investment, he bought it as a toy. And he was a multi millionaire"

And he'll be like, "I would've bought stocks"

And I'm like, "Nobody's making you buy a Jaguar. You can spend your money however you want"

And he's like, "That car is worth nothing now"

And I'm like, "He's dead. He doesn't care that it's worth nothing. He enjoyed his life"

This conversation was about our grandpa, by the way. He made many wise decisions, got a lot of money, and had a couple nice toys, which my brother criticizes, but it's like, it's not your money. Why are you criticizing our dead grandpa for how he decided to spend HIS money? Nobody buys a $100,000 Jaguar as an investment. You buy it as a toy when you're retired because you don't give a **** if it's worth $0 tomorrow

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I'm glad you guys get it o.o

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BloodMoon7 posted...

Tbf that pizza is legit trash. Doesn't even taste that good. So greasy, cardboard texture.

XD. "This isn't pizza. This is bread with toppings on it. People from California don't know how to make pizza. Some people say it's the water in NY that makes the pizza good, but it's just that they know how to make it better. When I was in HS I worked as a dish washer in a pizza place. The guy was from Connecticut. They make good pizza in Connecticut"

like I GET IT. I don't need to hear this story again

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Let's say you go for pizza with someone from New York and they tell you this pizza is garbage.

For me, it's like, just let people enjoy things. Once in a while would be one thing, but if every single time that person is like "This pizza is garbage" then I'm less likely to want to get pizza with them again. Just let people enjoy things. And don't tell me the pizza I'm about to eat (that I like) is garbage. Gosh

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For me, cleaning my room, making my bed, paying bills, etc. Even organizing the homescreen on my phone makes me feel productive.

Other things too, such as catching up with friends, or even playing a video game I've been meaning to play.

Pretty much anything besides actual productive things lol

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Something like this should do the trick



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I literally see no benefit to this

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Loving the discussion everyone thank you

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