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MedeaLysistrata posted...

plenty of trashheaps are dating. What makes them different from me?

also feel free to explain this >_>

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WingsOfGood posted...

Online dating is not a measure of you but how well you can fake a persona.
Try approaching women in person. Yea, I know that might mean waiting a bit due to corona but it is ok.

Dude, just having a conversation or forcing a date is a futile exercise. Even if she's into it eventually my real self will reveal itself, so a relationship is impossible anyway (irl)

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WingsOfGood posted...

So you kinda admit it is a choice for you at least. Why would it be different for any others?

It is not that you can't change but that you don't want to.

I mean, like I said, I don't have a metric for real life but my online success is kind of bleak. It's not a choice to get no matches.

And yes, you're right, I don't "want" (loaded and disingenuous) to change, but I don't think it's fair to just say "don't date at all before you change into the best possible version of yourself", because plenty of trashheaps are dating. What makes them different from me?

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Kitt posted...

See? That's cute as hell. I love it. Have you talked to her at all since the break up?

yeah, we talked a bit later on when we were in university. but i haven't talked to her since then, she hates social media lol she didn't even have a facebook in hs

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WingsOfGood posted...

So do you identify as an incel?

idk, somewhere between that and volcel I guess? i can't just get results but i also don't want to change my whole life for some pussy

also I guess, at places like work or university I never really approached women. so I don't have a good measuring stick for whether I get rejected a lot or actually do better than I think (in person)

Online I've had 1 date and maybe 5 conversations since 2011

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WingsOfGood posted...

Or just a date you know. Why go to sex?

Just say "You cute, let me buy you coffee" till someone says yes.

same energy, but that's not so bad

I still think wandering the streets approaching people should be saved for philosophy

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Bad_Mojo posted...

Great idea

Maybe just meet in the middle?

I mean, on the other hand it's good that athletes make a lot of money because some of them reinvest that in communities, so maybe more rich athletes can be good rather just "great, more rich people"

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Neither my mom or sister showers every day, I don't think that a good idea. Personally I only shower when I leave the house or just once a week or so.

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Gobstoppers12 posted...

That doesn't seem like a feel good story at all.

It's about pulling a girl you had a crush on, not having a happy outcome

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So in grade 12 there was a new girl at our school. I hadn't even noticed her until my two best friends came up to me and said "we found a girl for you dude" and then pointed her out to me. So obviously I started noticing her more and more. She was hot, so I was already planning our relationship. I even saw her on a bus after coming home from the movies, but i never talked to her. During finals in the first semester I was hanging out in the cafeteria with some people. Someone told me the girl was at school too (you only have to show up if you have an exam). They all were telling me to go talk to her, but I was way too nervous. I just kept refusing. Eventually a girl grabbed me by the hand and literally dragged me to where the girl was sitting.

The girl was literally just sitting on a bench in the foyer by herself. So the girl that brought me to her introduced us and left. We started talking a bit, eventually I asked for her msn and then we parted ways. So then I added her and we started talking but I never really made a romantic move.

So then second semester started and I asked her out to the winter dance, I kinda had to convince her a bit because she wasn't sure if she wanted to. Eventually she said yes. My mom drove me to her house to pick her up and I remember sitting in her piano room and her mom offered me some water lol. We got to the dance and were sitting at different tables (each of us with our friends) and I straight up IGNORED her. Then a slow song came on so I asked her to dance (typical script lol) and then after that we started grinding and stuff when the song was over. I remember staring the school chaplain in the eyes while i was grinding, haha. After that we went to a cafe and had a really cute little date, and then we went home. My mom dropped her off and she kissed me on the cheek. I told her I had something I wanted to give her next time we hung out (an actual kiss).

I invited her over to my house to watch a movie (Saw 4). My dad was upstairs. We watched the movie for like 20 minutes until I put my hand on her hip and she straight up just said "you can touch me anywhere you want" so I did the logical conclusion. Then we started making out and stuff and she asked if I had a condom (I didn't wasn't expecting to actually do anything more than kiss at the most) so I went upstairs to ask my dad. He only had one lol. After sex on the couch we went to my room and cuddled and talked and she gave me a massive fucking hickey.

Maybe a week later we ditched class in the morning and went back to my house to hang out, but she said we weren't offical yet. We went 'official' like two months later and then broke up three months after that. School was ending anyway so whatever.

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i can share my story of pulling my hs gf I guess? it's not a story the jedi would tell you though

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what if they made the pay equal by paying them the women's wages

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Prolly sic it on my enemies

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But it does raise the question of why it works in person. No one wants to be that obnoxious dude at the bar talking to every woman he sees.

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WingsOfGood posted...

Boomhower approach is in person.
If you keep doing it, eventually some girl will be impressed by your "confidence". However, she might not be what you imagine.

Going from person to person begging for sex is slightly more dignified when it's online, but not that much more so, so I won't be doing that.

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WingsOfGood posted...

The boomhower approach works.
Just keep asking till someone says yes.
But you will find many of these dudes do not want to do this because they are picky.

I could probably spend 2 hours a day on multiple dating sites for a year taking all of your advice (in my current lifestyle) and not get laid

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Being an incel isn't a choice. If you want an adroit definition of the concept it's a person who is involuntarily celibate -as they are-. Ultimately it's a problem of human freedom centering on the idea that not everyone can make drastic changes.

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I guess Twitter proper is essentially forum like in spirit. It's close enough to one.

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PatrickMahomes posted...

bro what

9/11 defined millennials and COVID 19 defined zoomers

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JimmyFraska posted...

Essentially yes

Do you think I'm the first genius to make this connection

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Damn_Underscore posted...

What is a feed?

like twitch chat

twitch chat is a chatroom, but it moves so quickly in larger streams it might as well be a feed

a feed is the twitter or facebook timeline, just posts you can scroll through

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CyricZ posted...

Dude are you okay

I'm fine, I was just so excited I typed that out really quickly

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tragic, poorly handled, incendiary, and with long lasting repercussions

LOL COVID 9/11. Someone turn my autopilot off

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stoltenberg11 posted...

zoomers is such a dumb name

gen z... zoomer... zoom in the time of corona... might as well

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it's depressing to know boards and shit are dying, except reddit which is... barely a board. or maybe that's a myth?

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Tragic. Stuff like this can also cause sex imbalances in births. Crazy how this kind of stuff can affect us.

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uNTjtKYAfh4

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I think a score of 50 means you are neutral on the ideology, but that's just a guess

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That's actually interesting to know and the numbers between men and women are pretty close

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Turbam posted...

This question feels like a trap.

The question that felt like a trap for me was "the market supports men's abilities more than women's" because I initially said men and women are essentially similar

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My results were 30/70/~55/~55/~55

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https://www.idrlabs.com/feminism-5/test.php

It also includes traditionalism in addition to the 4 feminist types

42 Qs


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Turtlebread posted...

basically just take a mirror selfie instead of using the front facing camera

ah, i usually do

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RedJackson posted...

I mean, maybe its time for some change at some level then? >_>

Yeah. Thing is, I really really want the hairstyle i have in mind to work but it's just not lol. But I haven't tried gel or anything yet. Do 30 y/os use gel?

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Othello doesn't actually get cucked, does he? I haven't read it in ages, but cuckoldry is like a huge theme in that play

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When my grandma remarried she only spoke French (I mean, a bit of English) and her husband only spoke English. I was just a kid but they seemed happy.

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Turtlebread posted...

focal. length.

that picture also confuses me, all I can conclude from it is that different focal lengths produce different appearances, AND I don't know if appearance is the right word to use

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Turtlebread posted...

Its the focal length

yeah I mean I don't think optics is in my toolkit

I looked that up and it was totally incoherent to me, is what I mean

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CalypsoDoom posted...

same tbh like literally imagine being happy with selfies

is it just me or is looking at the camera on the phone screen something that makes people look even uglier

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this is bad, really bad

edit: apparently a hobo is a travelling worker. and they could look like anything, and so can a homeless person. but it's a bit distressing.

context edit: i have been trying to convince myself lately that I look alright with my hair how it is, grown out and wild looking. and full facial hair, despite the fact my sideburns are uneven. my natural appearance isn't so great.

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So it shuts off now but the whole thing still heats up

I also burned the fuck out of my finger

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I set it and it didn't shut off. Now it's hot as fuck

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emblem boy posted...

Na, don't think I do. Should I?

A lot of professional philosophers don't even have a 'favorite', according to a poll that was done

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AirFresh posted...

They use a communal computer in the living room. He might have one in his dorm, he's visiting for college.

true

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it's set in 99 and the story is about internet friends

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ImAMarvel posted...

I'm down

I need to get back on my coding anyhow

great! invite is active for 7 days so join whenever

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AirFresh posted...

This dude frames his waifu with pride

How does he not have a computer in his room?

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