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| Topic | I really upset a dear friend and feel terrible. Advice please? |
| joe40001 02/03/21 8:59:11 PM #51 | The biggest thing I took away from this topic is "don't use your friends as therapists" and this is absolutely right. I was 100% in the wrong, and this is how I acted and before I noticed I had really hurt them and feel terrible. Thanks all for the advice. It's entirely up to them if they ever want to reach out again. I hope they do but respect their decision if they don't. I used them as a therapist and did not notice their feelings at all, And because of that I was being a shitty friend and person. --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | I really upset a dear friend and feel terrible. Advice please? |
| joe40001 02/03/21 3:13:48 AM #31 | I was in the wrong, I hope they give me a chance to talk because they are a good friend, but regardless I will respect their decision. --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | Anyone play the shit out of Toy Story for PS1/N64 |
| joe40001 02/03/21 3:07:16 AM #5 | The SNES one is super tough --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | I'm a foreveralone who is very lonely, what should I do? |
| joe40001 02/03/21 2:58:38 AM #21 | |
| Topic | I really upset a dear friend and feel terrible. Advice please? |
| joe40001 02/03/21 2:54:30 AM #30 | On the off chance they read this topic I don't want to bring up anything about it again because it was upsetting to them. I will take it for granted that I was in the wrong talking about my issues how I did, but it was never an attack on them. And I feel horrible that they were hurt or uncomfortable. --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | I really upset a dear friend and feel terrible. Advice please? |
| joe40001 02/03/21 2:53:01 AM #29 | Schwarz posted... No real advice for how to salvage this one, but in the future: don't use your friends as therapists. Use your therapist as your therapist, and keep the ugly, real shit away from people who aren't licensed or being paid to listen to extreme issues. That's not something most people want dumped on them, and if you're doing this often it's even worse. It's mentally exhausting to be used as constant, serious emotional support. Yes very much. I care about them. --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | I really upset a dear friend and feel terrible. Advice please? |
| joe40001 02/03/21 2:19:30 AM #24 | teepan95 posted... Not your unilateral decision to make No it's not my decision to make, but if I thought I was in a safe space and if I thought they knew I would never want to say anything to upset them, then there's gotta be a way to fix my mistake of speaking freely when I shouldn't have right? I really don't want to lose this friend, and not a single word of what i said was meant to hurt them. Though I recognize I did very much upset them and feel like trash about it. --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | Would you have sexual intercourse with Anne Hathaway? |
| joe40001 02/03/21 2:16:12 AM #54 | Very much yes. I'm going to die alone though... --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | I really upset a dear friend and feel terrible. Advice please? |
| joe40001 02/03/21 1:41:27 AM #22 | Bump... :( --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | I really upset a dear friend and feel terrible. Advice please? |
| joe40001 02/02/21 11:13:15 PM #21 | I've not had an issue like this in many years. I don't keep friends and when I do I never let loose because I fear something like this. I feel so terrible about it. I guess the best advice is wait it out, and when they unblock me explain how sorry I am, and what lead me to be confused and act wrong. Correct? --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | I really upset a dear friend and feel terrible. Advice please? |
| joe40001 02/02/21 8:13:54 PM #18 | smoke_break posted... It's concerning that they would block you so quickly. I would try to contact them in a month or two and see if they will hear an apology. But right now I'd just leave it be. If they blocked you, respect that and don't bother them in my opinion. I really don't want to lose them as a friend. --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | I really upset a dear friend and feel terrible. Advice please? |
| joe40001 02/02/21 7:58:13 PM #14 | ArchNemo posted... You're being super vague which makes me think you said something really shitty and you know exactly why she blocked you. I just kept talking about a personal issue I had that they said made them uncomfortable and I didn't understand because they had said I could speak freely I just stayed on that path for way too long. Rather than noticing their pushback I kept the conversation going trying to understand or challenge their pushback about my issue, not realizing a big part of it was just that I was upsetting them in a real way that I feel terrible about. --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | I really upset a dear friend and feel terrible. Advice please? |
| joe40001 02/02/21 7:47:03 PM #11 | RedJackson posted... At least you understand and empathize with 'em >_> They have been blocked. Plus I'm worried if I press the issue too soon it will only make things worse. They have every right to take as long as they need to be mad at me. I upset them and deserve it. I just worry that I've lost a great friend, or that they think I believe things hurtful to them that I don't believe. --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | I really upset a dear friend and feel terrible. Advice please? |
| joe40001 02/02/21 7:39:05 PM #8 | HypnospaceInlaw posted... You gave literally zero details on what was said. How the hell is anyone supposed to help you It basically turned into an argument and I didn't understand that from my side. I shared personal issues with them that I should really only share with my therapist and then got frustrated when they gave their honest perspective. But I wasn't mad at them I was mad at the truth, and I was trying to understand it. But very quickly it became upsetting and uncomfortable for them and I didn't pick up on it at all. I was in this mindset of "but why would you believe that? That's unfair to me". And I lost that they were getting hurt in the process, I stumbled on something that was a trigger and wasn't aware what specifically was triggering. So by the time I understood it was too late. --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | I really upset a dear friend and feel terrible. Advice please? |
| joe40001 02/02/21 7:13:49 PM #1 | I have this great friend that I've been talking with a lot recently. They've been a great listener and supportive and it's nice to have somebody I can talk to freely and be open with. Per my therapist's advice I've been pushing myself to be much more vulnerable. And so in that spirit I had a great Voice Chat with my friend. I was feeling positive about it so I wanted to continue the discussion. When talking about certain of my issues I have the friend did say it made them somewhat uncomfortable, but I did not really understand the extent to which they were upset. Anyway we were just text chatting yesterday (which I think was a big part of the problem) and I really wanted to vent some feelings and fears and just try to hash through some confused emotions I had and so I asked "can I speak freely" and they said yes. And I'm a very binary person, so I took that extremely literally and spoke completely freely about my fears, and worries, and issues I have with my identity and self, and I spoke in a challenging way, but I thought it was understood that I was in no way trying to upset hurt or attack the other person, I was just being raw in what i thought was going to be this infinitely safe space. It was less than 20 minutes into the conversation that I even noticed I had upset them, and then I started trying to ask and understand how I had upset them, but at that point it was too late within a minute they blocked me. I value and respect this friend a lot and I know I was in the wrong because I was just speaking this raw and often false emotional rant and not thinking at all how it was being received. I thought I had permission and so I didn't think at all about the other person's feelings in the conversation because being open like that is so foreign to me. What should I do? I'm thinking the best idea is to give them time and space, but I feel so mortified by how upset I must have made them if they needed to block me. I had no idea at the time, I never meant to hurt them at all, I was just not thinking about them because I was in my own emotional volatile vulnerable place giving voice sloppily to frustrations. I hate that my communication skills are so bad that I could mess it up like this. Advice? --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | I think the single saddest truth about my life is this: |
| joe40001 02/02/21 1:29:14 AM #1 | There is not a single person I can trust to be fully honest with... And what's worse? Me admitting this might also be a thing that is not allowed. --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | Is Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez the hottest politician in the world? |
| joe40001 02/01/21 8:12:59 PM #37 | CADE FOSTER posted... traitor like her father fuck her Yes... (consensually) hate fuck her --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | Matt Groening had this self insert character. |
| joe40001 02/01/21 8:11:10 PM #31 | Probably lived in the simpsons's rumpus room: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PKQ6CmIDV1g --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | The Jakovasaur episode of South Park is not only bad, it might be the worst ever |
| joe40001 02/01/21 8:09:36 PM #13 | What was the oprah towlie one? --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | Is Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez the hottest politician in the world? |
| joe40001 02/01/21 8:08:27 PM #29 | Veggeta X posted... Ivanka exists Does she count? Because gat damn, particularly like a few years earlier. --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | I can't tell if Skylar Mae is hot or ugly |
| joe40001 02/01/21 7:32:35 PM #8 | Hot body, something wrong with face --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | I'm a foreveralone who is very lonely, what should I do? |
| joe40001 02/01/21 6:42:16 PM #20 | cardoor123 posted... Work on your shitty personality then maybe people would want to be around you. My personality isn't that bad save for my crippling depression which I can hide. --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | I'm a foreveralone who is very lonely, what should I do? |
| joe40001 02/01/21 6:41:55 PM #19 | Firewerx posted... Then try getting to know them a little before you think about dating them (probably sound advice for anyone...), and don't let your first verbal contact be a pick-up line or anything that sounds like a pick-up line. Maybe just get some basic practice in simply communicating with people, before you try to make your conversations "go somewhere". Sure, but even then if they are of the opposite sex and I talk to them being friendly I might make them uncomfortable. --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | I'm a foreveralone who is very lonely, what should I do? |
| joe40001 02/01/21 3:50:55 PM #14 | Eliza-Schuyler posted... get out there!! (but stay safe and keep your mask on, wash your hands, you know)I wouldn't want to make people uncomfortable or creep them out by saying something like that maybe find a cool hobby that you could talk about with others. live your life to the fullest! and just vibe, you know?God I wish I could just live life to the fullest, that would make my depression just melt away --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | I'm a foreveralone who is very lonely, what should I do? |
| joe40001 02/01/21 3:49:39 PM #13 | RedJackson posted... Stop sleeping on your dates lol Idk who you are talking about, but I've never been on a date. (Thus the foreveralone) --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | I'm a foreveralone who is very lonely, what should I do? |
| joe40001 02/01/21 2:57:33 PM #3 | vigorm0rtis posted... Find a hobby that you'll do around people. Focus on the hobby, not the people. You basically can't do anything around people these days... --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | I'm a foreveralone who is very lonely, what should I do? |
| joe40001 02/01/21 2:45:51 PM #1 | I'd like my situation to change. I also don't want to ever make somebody else uncomfortable in that pursuit. EDIT: To be more specific I'd like to date somebody --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | Gamers have now officially ruined my favourite game: New Vegas (Frontier spoils) |
| joe40001 01/31/21 10:22:48 PM #249 | I4NRulez posted... Or, they spent a lot of time on it and it was awful? I've seen people not on twitter play it and not like it. Just because its free doesnt make it good. And what of all the people who did like it? There is a difference between criticism and trashing. And yes, it being free makes a HUGE difference about how appropriate it is to harass the creators because you don't like the content. --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | Gamers have now officially ruined my favourite game: New Vegas (Frontier spoils) |
| joe40001 01/31/21 4:23:56 AM #246 | I4NRulez posted... so because people tried their best it deserves not criticism? There is fair criticism and then there is trashing something. And yeah, if somebody worked years on something for free you can say "not my cup of tea" but you have no business shaming them for what they created for free. That's messed up, particularly when your shaming comes from a clickbait reductive misrepresentation. It's just people being shitty and destroying the souls of passionate people. It's annoying af. --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | Gamers have now officially ruined my favourite game: New Vegas (Frontier spoils) |
| joe40001 01/30/21 6:13:48 AM #244 | Dabrikishaw15 posted... Uh, twitter didn't do anything joe. The devs took their mod down on their own. Because literally everybody was positive and they just had a change of heart? --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | Gamers have now officially ruined my favourite game: New Vegas (Frontier spoils) |
| joe40001 01/28/21 9:17:38 PM #242 | People put their heart into things and of course twitter found the worst parts and magnified them as if they were the point, all about a franchise that always has questionable content. When you are giving 7 year labor of love free content creators panic attacks and shaming them into resignation maybe they aren't the problem. --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | Local band you all will ignore |
| joe40001 01/26/21 4:07:42 PM #1 | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZJEZeaKV70s --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | Joe Rogan does a shit thing |
| joe40001 01/25/21 1:08:00 PM #55 | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tSKVXl-WnrA --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | Joe Rogan does a shit thing |
| joe40001 01/25/21 6:12:04 AM #6 | Why are we supposed to have ig accounts now? I don't care about that site, just tell me what the post is --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | Gamers have now officially ruined my favourite game: New Vegas (Frontier spoils) |
| joe40001 01/25/21 5:58:15 AM #203 | Inferno Dive Dragoon posted... Yeah... *now* the mod and the makers can go fuck themselves. "I'm willing to defend them... except I'm not fuck them" ??? --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | I need help finding a mask, I have to work in the office... |
| joe40001 01/24/21 7:41:20 PM #1 | I have glasses, I don't like them getting fogged because of the mask. Also I actually know coronavirus is real, so I don't want comfort to trump safety. I want to the 100% safest mask I can order on amazon that won't fog up my glasses. --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | Oh shit, it might be happening. Gina Carano removed from official Mando artwork |
| joe40001 01/24/21 6:46:09 PM #173 | HalSteinbrenner posted... He stopped arguing with me after this post Many people don't delete their old posts. It'd be different if she reposted something, but to not erase history is different that perpetually endorsing something. Do you legit think people who haven't deleted their twitter history from 2013 fully currently endorse every single post they made back then? --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | Gamers have now officially ruined my favourite game: New Vegas (Frontier spoils) |
| joe40001 01/24/21 6:32:32 PM #200 | "This free additional expansion of one of the best games ever isn't written identically to how I'd want it even though it's largely consistent with the franchise as a whole WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH!" --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | Oh shit, it might be happening. Gina Carano removed from official Mando artwork |
| joe40001 01/24/21 6:26:17 PM #171 | EnvoyOfTheLight posted... I get your point, though that was the worst way to convey it. I doubt you can derive anything without wilful injection of arbitrary descriptions. Let's put it this way then: If you (like me) don't want a world where people like trump get elected, we shouldn't play into the "left loves oppressing and suppressing people" narratives of the right. And a good way to not play into that, is to never "cancel" somebody for something they didn't explicitly say. --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | Oh shit, it might be happening. Gina Carano removed from official Mando artwork |
| joe40001 01/24/21 6:14:48 PM #168 | EnvoyOfTheLight posted... It would be dumb to project one context into all scenarios, but it's also pretty dumb to not recognize the context when it's there. What dogwhistles are you actually cognizant of? Most of them, but I also know better than to tell others "what they really mean". Think how fast even this discussion would get of the rails if I attributed the worst meaning onto all of your words. --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | Oh shit, it might be happening. Gina Carano removed from official Mando artwork |
| joe40001 01/24/21 6:10:33 PM #165 | EnvoyOfTheLight posted... I can give you proof via indirect means, joe. Go to racist places and search "equality" They are going to have a bigoted intolerant definition of what "it actually means" But I'm not dumb enough to take a bigots definition of a word and project it on everybody. You don't get to project a bad interpretation on a word and then blame people for using that word. I think, when it comes to getting off on destroying somebody's career. The very least you could do is take them at their word, rather than tell them what they mean by their words even if it goes against the literal definition of their words. And to be clear, here is how far down the rabbit hole this bs mind reading has got:
And what's hilarious is that nobody engaging in these intellectual contortions is even cognizant that they may be dishonest or inaccurate. --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | Oh shit, it might be happening. Gina Carano removed from official Mando artwork |
| joe40001 01/24/21 6:02:35 PM #163 | EnvoyOfTheLight posted... Haven't we all had this convo a billion times? What employees do reflects on the company, in an age where everyone willingly puts up their info on public mediums.It doesn't actually reflect on the company though. Anybody who isn't an idiot understands what a person says and does in their private time is not in any way endorsed by the company that employs them. The company only endorses them as an employee. I'll get a step further and say that anyone who posts their real fucking info on facebook should shut the fuck up about privacy forever. While I agree it's not helpful, I think people should be able to speak freely. It's so fucking crazy that you think a company has more rights to your name than the person itself. But that's basically what you think when you say "you posted your real name, so the company has every right to punish you" --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | Oh shit, it might be happening. Gina Carano removed from official Mando artwork |
| joe40001 01/24/21 5:55:07 PM #158 | HalSteinbrenner posted... Oh my god Prove to me her intent was anti-jewish Hell even give evidence it was --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | Oh shit, it might be happening. Gina Carano removed from official Mando artwork |
| joe40001 01/24/21 5:50:42 PM #156 | HalSteinbrenner posted... You're the only person saying anti establishment globalist: "a person who advocates the interpretation or planning of economic and foreign policy in relation to events and developments throughout the world." Ostensibly that's about valuing economies without affiliation to nation. I believe that somebody who is like "disney is good for using china in the ways it does because it helps their bottom line" would be literally globalist. So when the literal definition of your damning word has nothing to do with jews, have you thought maybe you might be projecting falsely? Fuck it, maybe she is super "anti-globalist". Until you prove that means "anti-jew" (which by the literal definition it does not) who gives a fuck? --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | Oh shit, it might be happening. Gina Carano removed from official Mando artwork |
| joe40001 01/24/21 5:32:35 PM #152 | HalSteinbrenner posted... Let me give you a history lesson on anti jewish coding. It's not on other people if every time somebody is anti-establishment you project them to be anti-jewish. There are damn good reasons to be anti-establishment. EDIT: TBQH it's kinda fucked up to act like jews actually run the world and therefore anytime somebody is anti-establishment they must be dog whistling anti-jewishness --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | Oh shit, it might be happening. Gina Carano removed from official Mando artwork |
| joe40001 01/24/21 5:16:29 PM #147 | Bio1590 posted... It Says who? If she's anti-jewish why the fuck is she not actually talking shit about people based on them being jewish and not their economic policies? Has it occurred to you that she doesn't give a fuck about if somebody is jewish and just doesn't like people who hoard wealth and power? --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | Oh shit, it might be happening. Gina Carano removed from official Mando artwork |
| joe40001 01/24/21 5:11:40 PM #144 | Bio1590 posted... I like how there's a globe in the middle of the goddamn photo but somehow it's not about globalism This is a weird game you guys play "If you assume jews run the capitalist/globalist world then anybody who is anti-globalist anti-capitalist is clearly anti-jew" Your entire argument hinges on globalist being explicitly a euphamism for jewish in some way. And not just she like everybody doesn't like shitty people in power. What's dumb is she's like "I hate white men, white men run everything and have too much power". People would be like "high five, you said it girl." but because some people project a dog whistle of "jewish" onto white men you think she shouldn't have a career. How about we wait for her to actually say something wrong before we cancel her? Why do we think it's cool to cancel somebody for what we in bath faith can project on to them? --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
| Topic | Oh shit, it might be happening. Gina Carano removed from official Mando artwork |
| joe40001 01/24/21 5:05:30 PM #139 | Ivynn posted... The specific rich men in that post are Jews. Classic "Jews control the world" canard. So you can't take issue with shitty capitalist people if they are jewish? Also if she's anti-rich assholes, and people are trying to project things she didn't mean onto that, why should she validate those people? I think going "yep, this was an anti-jew meme I shared" is conceding the wrong ground if she never saw it that way. --- "joe is attractive and quite the brilliant poster" - Seiichi Omori https://imgur.com/TheGsZ9 |
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