haloiscoolisbak posted...
I very rarely hear the term red flag used in a non holier than thou way. A lot of people think they "get" and understand dating behaviour better than others
Having said that having standards and boundaries is fine, any related to politics, religion and drugs is completely valid in my book. It's just becoming a little ridiculous with the amount of things now that are apparently red flags
Personally, I tend to think of red flags as something more ubiquitous for signs of an unhealthy or harmful relationship, and wouldnt conflate them with personal preferences.
Back when I was in the dating scene, I matched with someone on an app who was complimenting me a lot, telling me Im pretty, talking about taking me to fun places, etc. We had been messaging back and forth a day or two, then one day goes by where no messages are exchanged. After that, they sent me a message attempting to call me out for allegedly doing them wrong, claiming I should have messaged them after they did all these nice things for me. I didnt see it that way, because Im just getting to know someone online before meeting in person to decide if I want to date or not.
Ill talk about sexual preferences in a more general sense and such before meeting though, but when they start saying things like cant wait to take a shower together Im like hey, we havent even met in person yet.