"Having standards is a sign you aren't considering the standards of others!" seems like pretty plain bullshit projection. Some people are just as harsh, or even more harsh, on themselves as they are on others.
Like, people who have some very standard red flags that turn people off dating them are going to be engaged in some very motivated reasoning as to why red flags are actually bad.
Disobedience is the stamp of the hero. -Ragnar Redbeard
Also, this is Kagata..