ParanoidObsessive posted...
Or worse, they will learn from their mistakes - and what they'll learn is that they never have to worry about their poor choices because there are multiple doormats in their family that will always bail them out every time.
I think that's what she was expecting to happen. She knows we'll do anything to help them(for his sake, not hers). The thing is, we are not a wealthy family. She knows this, he knows this.
I feel like I set a good boundary by not giving them the amount they asked for. My parents can't, my cousin won't, and I'm not giving them everything they asked for, and from now on I can't either. Now she knows that she can't just ask and get money from us.
My mom asked me why I thought she's not borrowing from her family(because she has nothing to do with us). I said it's because they've probably lent her too much and won't give her anything else. I see how she uses people, I saw it from the day I met her.
streamofthesky posted...
But yeah, she's probably cheating.
While that's certainly a possibility, I don't really get that impression. He goes to to work at like 3am, comes home and sleeps and she stays in bed with him or hangs out at the house till he gets up later. Then for the door dash stuff she likes to ride along with him most of the time. Then when they get home they hang out till it's time for him to work again.
It does sound like a lot of work, but it's 40 hours overtime per month, that's just one extra shift per week. Along with her riding with him for door dash stuff. While he's at work she's either home or at her mom's place.
While she is definitely a lying, manipulative, money hungry user, I don't get the feeling that she'd risk this set up by cheating. She does seem to care about him(or more likely the life he provides). Like most things in life, there's a lot more to it than appears on the surface. At some level, they do love each other.