Last Topic: 10:39:30am, 01/18/2022
Last Post: 11:37:17pm, 08/22/2023
Don't post here much but appreciated this topic always, so figured I'd drop in to update on life and just keep the topic moving.
This year has been an absolute roller coaster for me. Divorced (my decision) my partner of 13 years, therapy, job change making health insurance inconsistent so have only been to therapy twice since the spanorce process started, dating new person and going well though so mental health obviously boosted there if not temporarily. Feel a little direction less in some ways, like the spanorce was a step back to my desire for kids and it did entail selling a house so back in apartment.
Meanwhile my exercise routine is pretty great right now. At 6 ft, 205, lightly visible abs at best. Up to 22 reps at 225 from 18 at the start of the year. Done 255 at 14, want to push that more but no spot. Got a peloton to replace my sunny spinning bike I used daily for 3 years, which has made my cardio way better. Too competitive to take it easy when I have myself to compete against and it's a smooth thoughtless ride.
From a body composition standpoint I'm pretty similar to where I was a year and a half ago. 14.75-15 inch arms are now at 15-15.5 cold flexed depending on the day. Back on protein and just throwing every type of curl at my arms trying to change that. Chest and shoulders have put me in the needing a xxl dress shirt to tailor down to a L everywhere else.
Diet is pretty good, some weeks worse than others but that's life. Just try to eat lean meats and veggies since oil, carbs, and sugar are too easy to have in mass. Probably could get bigger gains by tightening up diet and eating more, but aside from getting another half inch or so on my arms I don't really have any goals beyond the mental and physical health benefits and making the numbers get better so it isn't a priority.
What else? I barely play video games since leaving my ex, I think they became a way for me to avoid them on the bad days when I felt helpless.
I've also learned I'm a super social person from all this, especially since I now work from home 3 weeks a month. The 2 days a week I don't see anyone typically aren't the most fun lol.
The hardest part of the change is my twin brother not really supporting the spanorce, and especially not supporting my dating. I think he and his wife would rather I still be miserable with my ex, because she became their friend over the long time we were together. He's still normal when I see him, but any mention of relationships at all and he gets weird and shuts down. It's kinda awful.
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