Poll of the Day > I'm going to a meet up today

(+) Yeah! (+)

We are meeting in a pizza place

I hope its not cringe Im driving thirty minutes just to get there. Hour trip overall.

Ive really been trying to be more social lately. Im in my 30s and just dont get out anymore. Worst comes to worst I get pizza

Nice. I went to a few meetups when I moved to a new city just to get to know people and made two friends I still have a decade later. There are worse ways to spend your time.

Yeah honestly it will probably be fine. Being in your 30s it takes a little more effort to meet people so at least Im putting myself out there

The general rule is that friendships are made doing stuff.
But nobody's putting sign-upsheets to do stuff, you gotta find people.

we_dey posted...

Yeah honestly it will probably be fine. Being in your 30s it takes a little more effort to meet people so at least Im putting myself out there

I dont think it takes more effort. Its the same as its always been for me.

But its a common complaint. People stay in watching Netflix and every night after work and then complain that they dont have a social life.

I went. It wasnt terrible and at least gave me something to do tonight but I didnt stay the whole time just got bored eventually

I started going to these about a year ago, and I can say I haven't made a single friend. It's really hard. We are brought up not really being "taught" how to make friends but you go to school and are expected to learn it. And most of us do, including me, but it's (relatively) easy because you spend time with those people almost every day. Once you get out into the working world it's supposed to be the same with work, but the nature of work is changing (more remote, people staying in one place for less time) so that it's getting harder and harder to make friends.

I wouldn't say I had an outright bad experience at any meetup, but there have been very few where I came home like damn I had a great time. Most of the time the best outcome is just that I got myself out of the house for a bit. That's fine but that's not all I want to get out of it. Seems like when you do find a good one, they don't do it again, or it's like once a month and it's very easy to miss one or two and then you feel like you have no momentum. My last complaint for now is that the gender ratio at these things is always horrid lol

Glob posted...

But its a common complaint. People stay in watching Netflix and every night after work and then complain that they dont have a social life.

This is so true, it's not like a social life is just gonna materialize out of thin air, but given... all the stuff I said above, plus more, it's easy to see why people feel defeated by the whole thing. All we are left to do is lament what we don't have. It's fun to complain sometimes. I don't actually expect complaining to do anything (though you're right some people seem to think it will)

What kind of meet up?

Yeah, it can be tough. Sometimes an event will go relatively well and show some progress, but then they take 3-4 months to do something else and any momentum is lost.

EDIT: Post above basically said the same thing lol