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Jeff_AKA_Snoopy 07/17/25 1:05:39 PM #1:	https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/9/99a481b2.jpg That is our first picture together from... 2012? Our first date. She would have been 22 at the time and I was 28. https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/9/9a72cbd3.jpg Us together at my high school reunion. ^_^ https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/2/2f641601.jpg I adore this picture of her so much. Her hair would get a LOT of volume and would turn into a lion's mane if she just didn't want to tame it. XD https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/a/a3329cad.jpg And this is the picture I got of her two years ago, 5 minutes or so before she passed away. *************************************************** For those who don't know, my late wife used the MAID program up here in Canada to have medically assisted death. Shortly after we started to date she began to have medical problems which soon spiraled out of control. It took us MANY years to find out exactly what was going on, but the most pressing concerns was that she had Vascular Ehlors Danlos (VEDS). It is a connective tissue problem that makes it so that her body did not properly use collagen. So... the stuff that kinda holds the body together? Yeah, no dice. It started off mostly as a lot of gut problems mixed with most of her joints being easily able to pop out of the sockets and whatnot. It led to a lot of issues with her dental health despite doing literally everything possible to take care of them, the breaking down of her internal organs. Most VEDS patients do not live past their 40's, as a trip and fall will cause a major organ to rupture (again no collagen) and they simply bleed to death internally. She had to have a pacemaker put in at 25 years old as the electrical in her heart was damaged. While visiting a chiropractor (before we knew the extent of any of her VEDS), he did a manipulation on her neck which caused a partial dissection of an artery/vein, which led to a minor stroke. One of the common things with EDS is sensitivities to various things. We found out literally about 2 months before she passed that she had Mast Cell Activation Syndrome (MCAS), which meant that her body reacted to many things as an allergy. This made any sort of treatment plan for everything else more complicated as her body wouldn't really stand for most medications. She had to constantly take Benadryl to calm her body down from these MCAS reactions, which of course causes other problems. The MCAS severely limited her food options, for a number of years she lived mostly on rice, turkey, and some chocolate. However as her VEDS continued to get worse, she started to have problems swallowing and she had to move to an all-liquid diet. My part in all of this as her husband and primary care giver was... challenging. For many years I would have to buy specific DIN's of food items. One of the weird things we found out was that MANY food processing places don't have specific rules about what type of gloves people wear. My wife was very sensitive to latex to the point where specific batches of food products she would have reactions to because the people working were wearing latex. So when we found a DIN that worked, I literally scoured the city finding as many as I could so we could stock up. My wife's ability to work was severely hampered before it was impossible for her to work in 2020. She was a very driven, intelligent, witty person and so sitting at home while I worked to pay for everything really impacted her mental health (beyond just the trauma and depression of being chronically ill). She obviously had dozens of specialists, doctors visits, dental appointments, all of that. I took her to all these things, I was her caregiver as much as I was her husband. Through therapy I've worked through how this affected me and my own life. I made choices to support her that alienated me from family and friends as I would have to prioritize her. Her family was out of the picture MANY years ago as they were all terrible people who emotionally and physically abused her. I had to balance being her husband, her partner, her therapist, her caregiver. I did the best I could. She wrote in her memoirs that I saved her life, that I was the best person she ever knew, and that she never would have subjected me to all this if she knew what was coming. I told her all the time I wouldn't have changed it if I knew, and I still feel that way today. Her greatest fear was being brought to the hospital one day and never leaving. Slowly dying for weeks in that environment, perhaps being unable to walk, talk, and engage with the world anymore. After we both got COVID and she got Long COVID, she knew that there was not going to be a true recovery at all. It was at this point where she told me of her intentions to use the MAID program to pass away under her own power. It wasn't the easiest process as the law was made at first primarily for cases where death was CERTAIN, stuff like aggressive cancer. Those laws were eased slightly to basically say that you can plead your case that there was no hope for recovery, you have tried all treatment offered, and that your continued life would be suffering. It took us about 18 months to get approval (in another province) So two years ago yesterday, I flew out to Vancouver with my beautiful, suffering, wonderful, dying wife. And two years ago today I held her hand as she passed away, with a smile on her face. Like look at that smile I got from that picture before she passed. She was finally free of all that would have come to die naturally. She didn't like the way she looked towards the last 5 years of her life. You can see the difference between when we met and how she looked on her final day (she is beautiful always to me), so I don't have many pictures from those times. I am so glad I got that picture though. It reminds me on tough days that she was happy at the end. --- Lindsay - Jan 13, 1990 - July 17, 2023 Thank you for fighting the fight for so long for me. <cite>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted [p:985800283] in My wife di... [t:81014372]...</cite> <quote>https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/9/99a481b2.jpgThat is our first picture together from... 2012? Our first date. She would have been 22 at the time and I was 28. https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/9/9a72cbd3.jpgUs together at my high school reunion. ^_^https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/2/2f641601.jpgI adore this picture of her so much. Her hair would get a LOT of volume and would turn into a lion's mane if she just didn't want to tame it. XDhttps://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/a/a3329cad.jpgAnd this is the picture I got of her two years ago, 5 minutes or so before she passed away. ***************************************************For those who don't know, my late wife used the MAID program up here in Canada to have medically assisted death. Shortly after we started to date she began to have medical problems which soon spiraled out of control. It took us MANY years to find out exactly what was going on, but the most pressing concerns was that she had Vascular Ehlors Danlos (VEDS). It is a connective tissue problem that makes it so that her body did not properly use collagen. So... the stuff that kinda holds the body together? Yeah, no dice. It started off mostly as a lot of gut problems mixed with most of her joints being easily able to pop out of the sockets and whatnot. It led to a lot of issues with her dental health despite doing literally everything possible to take care of them, the breaking down of her internal organs. Most VEDS patients do not live past their 40's, as a trip and fall will cause a major organ to rupture (again no collagen) and they simply bleed to death internally. She had to have a pacemaker put in at 25 years old as the electrical in her heart was damaged. While visiting a chiropractor (before we knew the extent of any of her VEDS), he did a manipulation on her neck which caused a partial dissection of an artery/vein, which led to a minor stroke. One of the common things with EDS is sensitivities to various things. We found out literally about 2 months before she passed that she had Mast Cell Activation Syndrome (MCAS), which meant that her body reacted to many things as an allergy. This made any sort of treatment plan for everything else more complicated as her body wouldn't really stand for most medications. She had to constantly take Benadryl to calm her body down from these MCAS reactions, which of course causes other problems. The MCAS severely limited her food options, for a number of years she lived mostly on rice, turkey, and some chocolate. However as her VEDS continued to get worse, she started to have problems swallowing and she had to move to an all-liquid diet.My part in all of this as her husband and primary care giver was... challenging. For many years I would have to buy specific DIN's of food items. One of the weird things we found out was that MANY food processing places don't have specific rules about what type of gloves people wear. My wife was very sensitive to latex to the point where specific batches of food products she would have reactions to because the people working were wearing latex. So when we found a DIN that worked, I literally scoured the city finding as many as I could so we could stock up. My wife's ability to work was severely hampered before it was impossible for her to work in 2020. She was a very driven, intelligent, witty person and so sitting at home while I worked to pay for everything really impacted her mental health (beyond just the trauma and depression of being chronically ill). She obviously had dozens of specialists, doctors visits, dental appointments, all of that. I took her to all these things, I was her caregiver as much as I was her husband. Through therapy I've worked through how this affected me and my own life. I made choices to support her that alienated me from family and friends as I would have to prioritize her. Her family was out of the picture MANY years ago as they were all terrible people who emotionally and physically abused her. I had to balance being her husband, her partner, her therapist, her caregiver. I did the best I could. She wrote in her memoirs that I saved her life, that I was the best person she ever knew, and that she never would have subjected me to all this if she knew what was coming. I told her all the time I wouldn't have changed it if I knew, and I still feel that way today. Her greatest fear was being brought to the hospital one day and never leaving. Slowly dying for weeks in that environment, perhaps being unable to walk, talk, and engage with the world anymore. After we both got COVID and she got Long COVID, she knew that there was not going to be a true recovery at all. It was at this point where she told me of her intentions to use the MAID program to pass away under her own power. It wasn't the easiest process as the law was made at first primarily for cases where death was CERTAIN, stuff like aggressive cancer. Those laws were eased slightly to basically say that you can plead your case that there was no hope for recovery, you have tried all treatment offered, and that your continued life would be suffering. It took us about 18 months to get approval (in another province)So two years ago yesterday, I flew out to Vancouver with my beautiful, suffering, wonderful, dying wife. And two years ago today I held her hand as she passed away, with a smile on her face. Like look at that smile I got from that picture before she passed. She was finally free of all that would have come to die naturally. She didn't like the way she looked towards the last 5 years of her life. You can see the difference between when we met and how she looked on her final day (she is beautiful always to me), so I don't have many pictures from those times. I am so glad I got that picture though. It reminds me on tough days that she was happy at the end. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
DipDipDiver 07/17/25 1:12:07 PM #2:	I'm glad you have these pictures to look at. They'll become increasingly more important as time passes. It can't be easy, but I hope you're doing well --- Sack to crack, going to town <cite>DipDipDiver posted [p:985800341] in My wife di... [t:81014372]...</cite> <quote>I'm glad you have these pictures to look at. They'll become increasingly more important as time passes. It can't be easy, but I hope you're doing well</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
DuuuDe14 07/17/25 1:14:38 PM #3:	I'm truly so sorry for your loss. --- The Official Sons of Sparda of all GameFAQS boards. June 10, 2018. The day Dante returned to us. Do what you want, just don't expect to get paid. <cite>DuuuDe14 posted [p:985800364] in My wife di... [t:81014372]...</cite> <quote>I'm truly so sorry for your loss.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
LightSnake 07/17/25 1:15:42 PM #4:	May her memory be a blessing always. Im so sorry --- Ring the bells that still can ring/Forget your perfect offering/There is a crack in everything/That's how the light gets in."- RIP, Leonard Cohen <cite>LightSnake posted [p:985800371] in My wife di... [t:81014372]...</cite> <quote>May her memory be a blessing always. Im so sorry </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Jeff_AKA_Snoopy 07/17/25 1:17:17 PM #5:	DipDipDiver posted... I'm glad you have these pictures to look at. They'll become increasingly more important as time passes. It can't be easy, but I hope you're doing well I am doing well with this, yeah. I worked with a therapist to be OK with it. I have regrets in the fact that when we were earlier in our relationship we didn't think to travel and create those sorts of memories together (we were both in University, didn't have a lot of money), but otherwise I lived with my best friend and one of the kindest, most intelligent people I've ever known for 11 years. I'm at the place where I'm more glad for the fact that I got that time versus being upset I didn't get more. I'm also really glad that it was ME who was there to be that person for her as things got worse. When I think back to everything I was doing for her and how I was taking care of her through this, I have no idea how I did it. The idea of her not having me through all that? Someone who could handle all that for her? A lot of chronically ill people out there don't have that person who can do that for them and that makes me really sad for them. --- Lindsay - Jan 13, 1990 - July 17, 2023 Thank you for fighting the fight for so long for me. <cite>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted [p:985800392] in My wife di... [t:81014372]...</cite> <quote>DipDipDiver posted... </cite><quote>I'm glad you have these pictures to look at. They'll become increasingly more important as time passes. It can't be easy, but I hope you're doing well</quote>I am doing well with this, yeah. I worked with a therapist to be OK with it. I have regrets in the fact that when we were earlier in our relationship we didn't think to travel and create those sorts of memories together (we were both in University, didn't have a lot of money), but otherwise I lived with my best friend and one of the kindest, most intelligent people I've ever known for 11 years. I'm at the place where I'm more glad for the fact that I got that time versus being upset I didn't get more. I'm also really glad that it was ME who was there to be that person for her as things got worse. When I think back to everything I was doing for her and how I was taking care of her through this, I have no idea how I did it. The idea of her not having me through all that? Someone who could handle all that for her? A lot of chronically ill people out there don't have that person who can do that for them and that makes me really sad for them. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Ivynn 07/17/25 1:19:16 PM #6:	May she rest in peace. --- http://i.imgur.com/vDci4hD.gif <cite>Ivynn posted [p:985800415] in My wife di... [t:81014372]...</cite> <quote>May she rest in peace.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
DnDer 07/17/25 1:20:35 PM #7:	Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted... I'm at the place where I'm more glad for the fact that I got that time versus being upset I didn't get more. Some people never get there. Big props to you. That is putting in the work. --- What has books ever teached us? -- Captain Afrohead Subject-verb agreement. -- t3h 0n3 <cite>DnDer posted [p:985800427] in My wife di... [t:81014372]...</cite> <quote>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted... </cite><quote>I'm at the place where I'm more glad for the fact that I got that time versus being upset I didn't get more.</quote>Some people never get there. Big props to you. That is putting in the work. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Pow_Pow_Punishment 07/17/25 1:23:39 PM #8:	Thanks for sharing all of that and I'm very sorry for your loss. --- Currently playing: Tales of the Abyss, Shenmue 2, Pokemon Soul Silver Training log: https://powpowpunishment.blogspot.com <cite>Pow_Pow_Punishment posted [p:985800480] in My wife di... [t:81014372]...</cite> <quote>Thanks for sharing all of that and I'm very sorry for your loss. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Jeff_AKA_Snoopy 07/17/25 1:28:55 PM #9:	DnDer posted... Some people never get there. Big props to you. That is putting in the work. Thanks. It has taken a lot of work to also be really at the place where I can appreciate that I live a different life now. I loved Lindsay more than I've ever loved anything or anyone in my life. What that asked of me was total commitment to the detriment of all other things. I live a life now where I'm not watching the person I love the most die to a horrible condition/disease/illness. I'm not trying to fight off the perils of the world for her. I'm not awake at 3am taking her to the emergency room. I'm not going every 2 months to the dentist with her to get a filling done for something that isn't her fault. I'm not taking her to a doctor's appointment and then providing her all the support she needs when they have nothing to offer and no idea what to do to ease her pain and suffering. For a long time I felt so much guilt over feeling free from that part of my life. Even now when I say it there is still a piece of me that makes me feel like a shit head for even acknowledging that I enjoy the fact that part of my life is done. But I do. It is the hardest thing in the world to provide that level of support day after day, week after week, year after year. I'm OK not doing the hardest thing in the world anymore. --- Lindsay - Jan 13, 1990 - July 17, 2023 Thank you for fighting the fight for so long for me. <cite>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted [p:985800543] in My wife di... [t:81014372]...</cite> <quote>DnDer posted... </cite><quote>Some people never get there. Big props to you. That is putting in the work.</quote>Thanks. It has taken a lot of work to also be really at the place where I can appreciate that I live a different life now. I loved Lindsay more than I've ever loved anything or anyone in my life. What that asked of me was total commitment to the detriment of all other things. I live a life now where I'm not watching the person I love the most die to a horrible condition/disease/illness. I'm not trying to fight off the perils of the world for her. I'm not awake at 3am taking her to the emergency room. I'm not going every 2 months to the dentist with her to get a filling done for something that isn't her fault. I'm not taking her to a doctor's appointment and then providing her all the support she needs when they have nothing to offer and no idea what to do to ease her pain and suffering. For a long time I felt so much guilt over feeling free from that part of my life. Even now when I say it there is still a piece of me that makes me feel like a shit head for even acknowledging that I enjoy the fact that part of my life is done. But I do. It is the hardest thing in the world to provide that level of support day after day, week after week, year after year. I'm OK not doing the hardest thing in the world anymore. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Robot2600 07/17/25 1:50:45 PM #10:	I think your story really touched everyone on CE, in some way. Dignity is a human right; thanks for sharing your story with the forums. --- April 15, 2024: The Day the Internet Died <cite>Robot2600 posted [p:985800760] in My wife di... [t:81014372]...</cite> <quote>I think your story really touched everyone on CE, in some way.Dignity is a human right; thanks for sharing your story with the forums.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Jeff_AKA_Snoopy 07/17/25 1:57:50 PM #11:	Robot2600 posted... I think your story really touched everyone on CE, in some way. Dignity is a human right; thanks for sharing your story with the forums. In my teenage years I came to the conclusion that I felt like people deserve to have dignity in how they pass away, especially in the event of chronic illness. I didn't know how my views would be so challenged, but I held to my convictions. Lindsay also told me that like, this is what she was doing. While it was a conversation, the conversation was less about whether or not she was going to try, but if I wanted to be part of it at all, how I could help or not, etc. --- Lindsay - Jan 13, 1990 - July 17, 2023 Thank you for fighting the fight for so long for me. <cite>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted [p:985800821] in My wife di... [t:81014372]...</cite> <quote>Robot2600 posted... </cite><quote>I think your story really touched everyone on CE, in some way.Dignity is a human right; thanks for sharing your story with the forums.</quote>In my teenage years I came to the conclusion that I felt like people deserve to have dignity in how they pass away, especially in the event of chronic illness. I didn't know how my views would be so challenged, but I held to my convictions. Lindsay also told me that like, this is what she was doing. While it was a conversation, the conversation was less about whether or not she was going to try, but if I wanted to be part of it at all, how I could help or not, etc. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
josiskrazy 07/17/25 2:00:21 PM #12:	Beautiful. Thank you for sharing and helping me not too long ago. We were both lucky to have met someone so special in our lives. RIP Lindsay! --- https://gofund.me/17ebad6d My beautiful Danille Chea 1988 - 2025 <cite>josiskrazy posted [p:985800851] in My wife di... [t:81014372]...</cite> <quote>Beautiful.Thank you for sharing and helping me not too long ago.We were both lucky to have met someone so special in our lives.RIP Lindsay! </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Jeff_AKA_Snoopy 07/17/25 2:02:11 PM #13:	How are you lately josis? RIP Danille. --- Lindsay - Jan 13, 1990 - July 17, 2023 Thank you for fighting the fight for so long for me. <cite>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted [p:985800864] in My wife di... [t:81014372]...</cite> <quote>How are you lately josis? RIP Danille. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
josiskrazy 07/17/25 3:37:45 PM #14:	Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted... How are you lately josis? RIP Danille. I make it to another day. I can't say I'm happy, I'm still very sad and stressed. But I know it's all part of the process. It's only been about a month and a half, it's still so fresh. --- https://gofund.me/17ebad6d My beautiful Danille Chea 1988 - 2025 <cite>josiskrazy posted [p:985801829] in My wife di... [t:81014372]...</cite> <quote>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted... </cite><quote>How are you lately josis? RIP Danille. </quote>I make it to another day. I can't say I'm happy, I'm still very sad and stressed. But I know it's all part of the process.It's only been about a month and a half, it's still so fresh. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Kaldrenthebold 07/17/25 3:40:19 PM #15:	Man I'm going through a rough time at work and this topic made me tear up. Sorry for your loss TC. I can't even imagine. I'm married 5 years together 12 and I can't imagine. --- http://i169.photobucket.com/albums/u223/chocolateFRESH/arts/kraid.png - Thanks GP cosmonaut! http://i.imgur.com/TuJWAR8.jpg <cite>Kaldrenthebold posted [p:985801850] in My wife di... [t:81014372]...</cite> <quote>Man I'm going through a rough time at work and this topic made me tear up.Sorry for your loss TC. I can't even imagine. I'm married 5 years together 12 and I can't imagine.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Jeff_AKA_Snoopy 07/17/25 4:01:47 PM #16:	Kaldrenthebold posted... Man I'm going through a rough time at work and this topic made me tear up. Sorry for your loss TC. I can't even imagine. I'm married 5 years together 12 and I can't imagine. I'm sorry you're going through a rough time at work. Work stress is fucking shitty man. I certainly hope nobody has to go through what we went through. She was 33 when she passed away, so very young. I've definitely been chatting with young widows/widowers who have gone through it with Cancer and accidents and whatnot. It's always pretty shocking when it happens so young. --- Lindsay - Jan 13, 1990 - July 17, 2023 Thank you for fighting the fight for so long for me. <cite>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted [p:985802083] in My wife di... [t:81014372]...</cite> <quote>Kaldrenthebold posted... </cite><quote>Man I'm going through a rough time at work and this topic made me tear up.Sorry for your loss TC. I can't even imagine. I'm married 5 years together 12 and I can't imagine.</quote>I'm sorry you're going through a rough time at work. Work stress is fucking shitty man. I certainly hope nobody has to go through what we went through. She was 33 when she passed away, so very young. I've definitely been chatting with young widows/widowers who have gone through it with Cancer and accidents and whatnot. It's always pretty shocking when it happens so young. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
boxoto 07/17/25 4:02:56 PM #17:	damn, RIP to you and josiskrazy's wives --- Don't you agree, Zach? https://streamable.com/ueacaz <cite>boxoto posted [p:985802094] in My wife di... [t:81014372]...</cite> <quote>damn, RIP to you and josiskrazy's wives </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Jeff_AKA_Snoopy 07/17/25 4:34:59 PM #19:	[LFAQs-redacted-quote] I still try to be the person that she was. We would buy Timbits (donut holes for non-Canadians) for reception staff at the doctors office because, "They look like they were having a tough day and I want them to know that I appreciate them" She was an amazingly kind woman who tried to show everyone kindness and appreciation. She was also a fantastic teacher for the years she could teach. I was able to come in and be a guest speaker for her class one day (I was also in school to teach and I already had a degree in Poli-Sci, so I came to talk about politics with her Grade 6 class) and seeing her work with her students was just phenomenal to see. She was a much better teacher than I ever was. XD --- Lindsay - Jan 13, 1990 - July 17, 2023 Thank you for fighting the fight for so long for me. <cite>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted [p:985802405] in My wife di... [t:81014372]...</cite> <quote><cite>[LFAQs-redacted-quote]</cite> I still try to be the person that she was. We would buy Timbits (donut holes for non-Canadians) for reception staff at the doctors office because, "They look like they were having a tough day and I want them to know that I appreciate them" She was an amazingly kind woman who tried to show everyone kindness and appreciation. She was also a fantastic teacher for the years she could teach. I was able to come in and be a guest speaker for her class one day (I was also in school to teach and I already had a degree in Poli-Sci, so I came to talk about politics with her Grade 6 class) and seeing her work with her students was just phenomenal to see. She was a much better teacher than I ever was. XD</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Verdekal 07/17/25 4:39:05 PM #20:	Sorry for your loss. --- Don't tease the octopus, kids! <cite>Verdekal posted [p:985802447] in My wife di... [t:81014372]...</cite> <quote>Sorry for your loss.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
archizzy 07/17/25 5:13:27 PM #21:	There just really isn't any type of comment I can make that feels worthy enough to make. I'm just glad you have been able to process this so well and seem to be in a good place with it. I think the fact she was so ill, and it was in fact her wish, and that you supported her so much that allowed you to start your processing before she was even gone that at the end by the time you got there you were able to see her be released from her struggles and have relief at that instead of just focusing on the loss you feel. Thank you for sharing these pictures and memories Jeff. You are a wonderful person and definitely ones of the small group of people I would share a meal with, have a conversation, and would love to go to a hockey game with, even if it was the Canucks. --- PSN ID: sled_dogs76 60" Pioneer Kuro Elite PRO151FD, Yamaha RX-V3900 A/V Receiver, Oppo DV983-H player. Coming soon: 2 Seaton Submersives from Mark Seaton <cite>archizzy posted [p:985802773] in My wife di... [t:81014372]...</cite> <quote>There just really isn't any type of comment I can make that feels worthy enough to make. I'm just glad you have been able to process this so well and seem to be in a good place with it. I think the fact she was so ill, and it was in fact her wish, and that you supported her so much that allowed you to start your processing before she was even gone that at the end by the time you got there you were able to see her be released from her struggles and have relief at that instead of just focusing on the loss you feel.Thank you for sharing these pictures and memories Jeff. You are a wonderful person and definitely ones of the small group of people I would share a meal with, have a conversation, and would love to go to a hockey game with, even if it was the Canucks.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Jeff_AKA_Snoopy 07/17/25 5:19:43 PM #22:	Sad state of affairs to recognize a Canucks fan as a wonderful person? We all make mistakes. Mine was loving Bure in my youth and thus falling in love with the Canucks. XD Thanks for the kind words archizzy. Beyond a couple of yahoo's who just could not understand and respect the idea of MAID, CE was wonderfully supportive and helped me to just vent and come to terms with things. My best form of self monitoring and decompressing and whatnot are all about dialogue. I work best when talking things out, bouncing ideas off people, that sort of thing. I will definitely share other pictures and stories over the next few days. --- Lindsay - Jan 13, 1990 - July 17, 2023 Thank you for fighting the fight for so long for me. <cite>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted [p:985802823] in My wife di... [t:81014372]...</cite> <quote>Sad state of affairs to recognize a Canucks fan as a wonderful person? We all make mistakes. Mine was loving Bure in my youth and thus falling in love with the Canucks. XDThanks for the kind words archizzy. Beyond a couple of yahoo's who just could not understand and respect the idea of MAID, CE was wonderfully supportive and helped me to just vent and come to terms with things. My best form of self monitoring and decompressing and whatnot are all about dialogue. I work best when talking things out, bouncing ideas off people, that sort of thing. I will definitely share other pictures and stories over the next few days. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Kaldrenthebold 07/17/25 7:42:46 PM #24:	Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted... I'm sorry you're going through a rough time at work. Work stress is fucking shitty man. I certainly hope nobody has to go through what we went through. She was 33 when she passed away, so very young. I've definitely been chatting with young widows/widowers who have gone through it with Cancer and accidents and whatnot. It's always pretty shocking when it happens so young. Nah you don't have to wish me well man. Things can always be worse. I appreciate it but you deserve the best in life and I hope you can get it. --- http://i169.photobucket.com/albums/u223/chocolateFRESH/arts/kraid.png - Thanks GP cosmonaut! http://i.imgur.com/TuJWAR8.jpg <cite>Kaldrenthebold posted [p:985804230] in My wife di... [t:81014372]...</cite> <quote>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted... </cite><quote>I'm sorry you're going through a rough time at work. Work stress is fucking shitty man. I certainly hope nobody has to go through what we went through. She was 33 when she passed away, so very young. I've definitely been chatting with young widows/widowers who have gone through it with Cancer and accidents and whatnot. It's always pretty shocking when it happens so young.</quote>Nah you don't have to wish me well man. Things can always be worse. I appreciate it but you deserve the best in life and I hope you can get it.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
kingdrake2 07/17/25 7:55:57 PM #25:	DipDipDiver posted... I'm glad you have these pictures to look at. They'll become increasingly more important as time passes. 100% agree with this. condolences for TC's loss. --- currently playing: borderlands 3 (ps5) RIP Sophie the dog: February 2011-april 2024. we'll miss you alot. <cite>kingdrake2 posted [p:985804349] in My wife di... [t:81014372]...</cite> <quote>DipDipDiver posted...</cite><quote>I'm glad you have these pictures to look at. They'll become increasingly more important as time passes. </quote>100% agree with this. condolences for TC's loss.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Jeff_AKA_Snoopy 07/17/25 8:48:54 PM #26:	I said I'd share more stories. When I decided to propose, I wanted to do something special. My wife absolutely LOVED Professor Layton. She didn't know the series before we met but after getting to know her and whatnot, I had a feeling she would enjoy the series. She ended up just devouring everything Professor Layton. So, I did this with my proposal. https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/3/3d241227.jpg https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/c/c6e322ea.jpg https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/1/12781188.jpg https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/d/d6d3fce9.jpg It was not an especially difficult puzzle, definitely would be a beginner level one... but she loved it and said yes, so you know, mission accomplished. XD --- Lindsay - Jan 13, 1990 - July 17, 2023 Thank you for fighting the fight for so long for me. <cite>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted [p:985804793] in My wife di... [t:81014372]...</cite> <quote>I said I'd share more stories. When I decided to propose, I wanted to do something special. My wife absolutely LOVED Professor Layton. She didn't know the series before we met but after getting to know her and whatnot, I had a feeling she would enjoy the series. She ended up just devouring everything Professor Layton. So, I did this with my proposal. https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/3/3d241227.jpghttps://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/c/c6e322ea.jpghttps://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/1/12781188.jpghttps://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/d/d6d3fce9.jpgIt was not an especially difficult puzzle, definitely would be a beginner level one... but she loved it and said yes, so you know, mission accomplished. XD</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Jeff_AKA_Snoopy 07/18/25 4:01:35 PM #27:	She was also a very talented artist. While she lost strength in her hands eventually so again it was another thing that was taken from her, she does have a bunch of drawings that she did scanned thankfully. https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/b/bef5bbf9.jpg https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/1/19986f80.jpg https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/5/552d7318.jpg https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/2/2c453ee5.jpg When I'm off my anti-coagulants I'm gonna look into getting a tattoo of one of her drawings. I kinda wanna incorporate one of her drawings into a Patronus from HP with the statement, "After All This Time? Always" in it. --- Lindsay - Jan 13, 1990 - July 17, 2023 Thank you for fighting the fight for so long for me. <cite>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted [p:985812236] in My wife di... [t:81014372]...</cite> <quote>She was also a very talented artist. While she lost strength in her hands eventually so again it was another thing that was taken from her, she does have a bunch of drawings that she did scanned thankfully. https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/b/bef5bbf9.jpghttps://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/1/19986f80.jpghttps://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/5/552d7318.jpghttps://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/2/2c453ee5.jpgWhen I'm off my anti-coagulants I'm gonna look into getting a tattoo of one of her drawings. I kinda wanna incorporate one of her drawings into a Patronus from HP with the statement, "After All This Time? Always" in it. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Sephirothe 07/18/25 4:13:18 PM #28:	My condolences TC. I dont really know what else to say. It seems like such an utterly tragic situation --- "It would imply the regeneration of mankind, if they were to become elevated enough to truly worship sticks and stones" - Henry David Thoreau <cite>Sephirothe posted [p:985812336] in My wife di... [t:81014372]...</cite> <quote>My condolences TC. I dont really know what else to say. It seems like such an utterly tragic situation </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Bass 07/18/25 4:13:26 PM #29:	Wow, that proposal is an awesome idea. I'm glad she loved it, and you were both were fortunate to have each other. I can see through your writing how much you loved each other. --- Many Bothans died to bring you this post. <cite>Bass posted [p:985812337] in My wife di... [t:81014372]...</cite> <quote>Wow, that proposal is an awesome idea. I'm glad she loved it, and you were both were fortunate to have each other. I can see through your writing how much you loved each other. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
AlCalavicci 07/18/25 4:53:59 PM #30:	Two years already? Holy shit where does the time go. TC, you're probably feeling that even moreso than me. I remember this saga and kind of kept up with it here and there. Glad to hear you're in a much better place since then --- Sent from my AI Chatbot <cite>AlCalavicci posted [p:985812786] in My wife di... [t:81014372]...</cite> <quote>Two years already? Holy shit where does the time go. TC, you're probably feeling that even moreso than me.I remember this saga and kind of kept up with it here and there. Glad to hear you're in a much better place since then</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
evilpresident 07/18/25 5:00:19 PM #31:	That puzzle proposal is so sweet. I'm so sorry for your loss, my condolences. --- Corruption that you can believe in. (She/her) <cite>evilpresident posted [p:985812858] in My wife di... [t:81014372]...</cite> <quote>That puzzle proposal is so sweet. I'm so sorry for your loss, my condolences.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Jeff_AKA_Snoopy 07/18/25 5:36:39 PM #32:	AlCalavicci posted... Two years already? Holy shit where does the time go. TC, you're probably feeling that even moreso than me. I remember this saga and kind of kept up with it here and there. Glad to hear you're in a much better place since then It definitely feels both like it was SO long ago and just yesterday. It is more crazy to think that it's been two years now for sure. --- Lindsay - Jan 13, 1990 - July 17, 2023 Thank you for fighting the fight for so long for me. <cite>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted [p:985813207] in My wife di... [t:81014372]...</cite> <quote>AlCalavicci posted... </cite><quote>Two years already? Holy shit where does the time go. TC, you're probably feeling that even moreso than me.I remember this saga and kind of kept up with it here and there. Glad to hear you're in a much better place since then</quote>It definitely feels both like it was SO long ago and just yesterday. It is more crazy to think that it's been two years now for sure. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Jeff_AKA_Snoopy 07/22/25 7:39:35 PM #33:	As my wife started to get more sick and she couldn't work anymore, she got into various hobbies. Some she took up to try and make some extra money for us, like Perler Beads. https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/a/a91dbbf4.jpg But the biggest one was Japanese Crane games, specifically Toreba. You could earn free plays answering dozens of online surveys, win, and then you would pay for shipping. But you could pay like 40 bucks to ship like, 8 items. --- Lindsay - Jan 13, 1990 - July 17, 2023 Thank you for fighting the fight for so long for me. <cite>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted [p:985856778] in My wife di... [t:81014372]...</cite> <quote>As my wife started to get more sick and she couldn't work anymore, she got into various hobbies. Some she took up to try and make some extra money for us, like Perler Beads. https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/a/a91dbbf4.jpgBut the biggest one was Japanese Crane games, specifically Toreba. You could earn free plays answering dozens of online surveys, win, and then you would pay for shipping. But you could pay like 40 bucks to ship like, 8 items. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Jeff_AKA_Snoopy 07/22/25 7:41:23 PM #34:	https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/5/5039cb1f.jpg Almost all these totes are filled with stuff she won. 312 total. We/I kept a bunch of things I liked, but these she wanted me to sell. I'm working through them slowly. --- Lindsay - Jan 13, 1990 - July 17, 2023 Thank you for fighting the fight for so long for me. <cite>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted [p:985856792] in My wife di... [t:81014372]...</cite> <quote>https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/5/5039cb1f.jpgAlmost all these totes are filled with stuff she won. 312 total. We/I kept a bunch of things I liked, but these she wanted me to sell. I'm working through them slowly.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Kaitouace 07/22/25 7:44:16 PM #35:	Just saw this. Hang in there. Hopefully being so open helps. --- "They will never let a Black man be Captain America. And even if they did, no self-respecting Black man would ever wanna be." - Isaiah Bradley <cite>Kaitouace posted [p:985856825] in My wife di... [t:81014372]...</cite> <quote>Just saw this. Hang in there. Hopefully being so open helps.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Jeff_AKA_Snoopy 07/22/25 9:02:00 PM #36:	Kaitouace posted... Just saw this. Hang in there. Hopefully being so open helps. It does for sure. I do all my best thinking and problem solving and even grieving somewhat out in the open. I've always been someone who wants to share my thoughts and feelings rather than bottling it up. It's a big part of the reason I was so open here with the whole process and everything. It helped a lot. --- Lindsay - Jan 13, 1990 - July 17, 2023 Thank you for fighting the fight for so long for me. <cite>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted [p:985857614] in My wife di... [t:81014372]...</cite> <quote>Kaitouace posted... </cite><quote>Just saw this. Hang in there. Hopefully being so open helps.</quote>It does for sure. I do all my best thinking and problem solving and even grieving somewhat out in the open. I've always been someone who wants to share my thoughts and feelings rather than bottling it up. It's a big part of the reason I was so open here with the whole process and everything. It helped a lot. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
divot1338 07/22/25 9:04:30 PM #37:	Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted... https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/5/5039cb1f.jpg Almost all these totes are filled with stuff she won. 312 total. We/I kept a bunch of things I liked, but these she wanted me to sell. I'm working through them slowly. That doesnt seem healthy to have all that around still. Take care of yourself. --- Moustache twirling villain https://i.imgur.com/U3lt3H4.jpg- Kerbey <cite>divot1338 posted [p:985857642] in My wife di... [t:81014372]...</cite> <quote>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted... </cite><quote>https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/5/5039cb1f.jpgAlmost all these totes are filled with stuff she won. 312 total. We/I kept a bunch of things I liked, but these she wanted me to sell. I'm working through them slowly.</quote>That doesnt seem healthy to have all that around still.Take care of yourself.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Jeff_AKA_Snoopy 07/22/25 9:06:40 PM #38:	divot1338 posted... That doesnt seem healthy to have all that around still. I've been selling things off as I can find people who want to buy. It's not the easiest stuff to sell sometimes as a lot of it is VERY Japanese and you need to find people on Buy and Sell who know what it is. I've sold about... 30 or so thus far? I might take a weekend off during like a swap meet type thing and set up a table there and try to sell off a bunch of them in a weekend rather than doing them one at a time. --- Lindsay - Jan 13, 1990 - July 17, 2023 Thank you for fighting the fight for so long for me. <cite>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted [p:985857660] in My wife di... [t:81014372]...</cite> <quote>divot1338 posted... </cite><quote>That doesnt seem healthy to have all that around still.</quote>I've been selling things off as I can find people who want to buy. It's not the easiest stuff to sell sometimes as a lot of it is VERY Japanese and you need to find people on Buy and Sell who know what it is. I've sold about... 30 or so thus far? I might take a weekend off during like a swap meet type thing and set up a table there and try to sell off a bunch of them in a weekend rather than doing them one at a time. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
vycebrand2 07/22/25 9:37:53 PM #39:	Hope you are doing well Jeff. Health issues still continue. I'm at my tether of looking to move back to my place like she wanted to. I talked to her other friend and my stuff is fine. I said I'll get it next month. 3 1/2 years still miss her. --- All the iron turn to rust. All the proud men turn to dust. All things time will mend <cite>vycebrand2 posted [p:985857951] in My wife di... [t:81014372]...</cite> <quote>Hope you are doing well Jeff.Health issues still continue. I'm at my tether of looking to move back to my place like she wanted to. I talked to her other friend and my stuff is fine. I said I'll get it next month. 3 1/2 years still miss her. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Jeff_AKA_Snoopy 07/24/25 12:02:32 AM #40:	vycebrand2 posted... Hope you are doing well Jeff. Health issues still continue. I'm at my tether of looking to move back to my place like she wanted to. I talked to her other friend and my stuff is fine. I said I'll get it next month. 3 1/2 years still miss her. We will miss them forever. Ideally I will enter a new relationship with someone wonderful and actually actually spend more of my life with them than I did with Lindsay... and I will still miss her every day. --- Lindsay - Jan 13, 1990 - July 17, 2023 Thank you for fighting the fight for so long for me. <cite>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted [p:985869624] in My wife di... [t:81014372]...</cite> <quote>vycebrand2 posted... </cite><quote>Hope you are doing well Jeff.Health issues still continue. I'm at my tether of looking to move back to my place like she wanted to. I talked to her other friend and my stuff is fine. I said I'll get it next month. 3 1/2 years still miss her.</quote>We will miss them forever. Ideally I will enter a new relationship with someone wonderful and actually actually spend more of my life with them than I did with Lindsay... and I will still miss her every day. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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