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apolloooo 07/02/25 2:40:31 AM #1:	The more i think about performing well on bed the worse i actually do it both by mine and wife's metric lol. Best go in without thoughts just ooga booga. --- http://i.imgtc.com/iJyp6bF.png http://i.imgtc.com/ZBw36Qh.png Thanks for the peeps that made the pics <3 if i make typos it means i am on phone <cite>apolloooo posted [p:985634939] in performanc... [t:81007349]...</cite> <quote>The more i think about performing well on bed the worse i actually do it both by mine and wife's metric lol. Best go in without thoughts just ooga booga.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
solosnake 07/02/25 2:47:34 AM #2:	they make pills for that --- "We would have no NBA possibly if they got rid of all the flopping." ~ Dwyane Wade <cite>solosnake posted [p:985634978] in performanc... [t:81007349]...</cite> <quote>they make pills for that</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
BlueKat 07/02/25 2:49:49 AM #3:	It is weird, I find THC helps, would like to see others suggestions... --- There is no good. There is no evil. There just is. <cite>BlueKat posted [p:985634986] in performanc... [t:81007349]...</cite> <quote>It is weird, I find THC helps, would like to see others suggestions... </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
haloiscoolisbak 07/02/25 2:54:57 AM #4:	apolloooo posted... The more i think about performing well on bed the worse i actually do it both by mine and wife's metric lol. Best go in without thoughts just ooga booga. Yeah no shit lol. Easier said than done especially if you have penis issues --- Started from the bottom now we here <cite>haloiscoolisbak posted [p:985635009] in performanc... [t:81007349]...</cite> <quote>apolloooo posted... </cite><quote>The more i think about performing well on bed the worse i actually do it both by mine and wife's metric lol. Best go in without thoughts just ooga booga.</quote>Yeah no shit lol. Easier said than done especially if you have penis issues</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
solosnake 07/02/25 2:55:08 AM #5:	get prescribed the pill and after getting your confidence back up you probably won't even need them anymore --- "We would have no NBA possibly if they got rid of all the flopping." ~ Dwyane Wade <cite>solosnake posted [p:985635011] in performanc... [t:81007349]...</cite> <quote>get prescribed the pill and after getting your confidence back up you probably won't even need them anymore</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
BlueKat 07/02/25 2:57:47 AM #6:	solosnake posted... get prescribed the pill and after getting your confidence back up you probably won't even need them anymore prescribed? That's too much trouble... --- There is no good. There is no evil. There just is. <cite>BlueKat posted [p:985635019] in performanc... [t:81007349]...</cite> <quote>solosnake posted... </cite><quote>get prescribed the pill and after getting your confidence back up you probably won't even need them anymore</quote>prescribed? That's too much trouble...</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
haloiscoolisbak 07/02/25 3:01:04 AM #7:	ED is easy to fix try having frenulum breve. I need a frenuloplasty which has a chance of permanently affecting my sensation down there --- Started from the bottom now we here <cite>haloiscoolisbak posted [p:985635032] in performanc... [t:81007349]...</cite> <quote>ED is easy to fix try having frenulum breve. I need a frenuloplasty which has a chance of permanently affecting my sensation down there</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
apolloooo 07/02/25 3:06:17 AM #8:	It's not consistent though, but overall i am doing great, it doesnt happen often and probably either my mood or mental state isnt well enough so it happens lol. Otherwise we're young and healthy. --- http://i.imgtc.com/iJyp6bF.png http://i.imgtc.com/ZBw36Qh.png Thanks for the peeps that made the pics <3 if i make typos it means i am on phone <cite>apolloooo posted [p:985635059] in performanc... [t:81007349]...</cite> <quote>It's not consistent though, but overall i am doing great, it doesnt happen often and probably either my mood or mental state isnt well enough so it happens lol. Otherwise we're young and healthy.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
MotaroRIP619 07/02/25 3:38:00 AM #9:	My marriage was like that, and it turned out I was gay and she was really abusive if that helps any. <cite>MotaroRIP619 posted [p:985635194] in performanc... [t:81007349]...</cite> <quote>My marriage was like that, and it turned out I was gay and she was really abusive if that helps any.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
_Valigarmanda_ 07/02/25 3:41:33 AM #10:	https://youtu.be/5awrOAFd5i4?si=7Im3DEUMfHS7Oy_L I've faked it... sometimes it's just 'enough' and you wanna get some sleep --- aka TritochZERO <cite>_Valigarmanda_ posted [p:985635207] in performanc... [t:81007349]...</cite> <quote>https://youtu.be/5awrOAFd5i4?si=7Im3DEUMfHS7Oy_LI've faked it... sometimes it's just 'enough' and you wanna get some sleep</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Arcanine2009 07/02/25 5:12:04 AM #11:	If you have ED out of performance anxiety, some adjustments can help a lot. Getting 7-8, exercise (weights and cardio), and cutting back on junk food (especially high carb and salt) should help. As well as losing weight, if you have weight you mode. I would honestly do all these first before resorting to medication. --- Less is more. Everything you want, isn't everything you need. <cite>Arcanine2009 posted [p:985635463] in performanc... [t:81007349]...</cite> <quote>If you have ED out of performance anxiety, some adjustments can help a lot. Getting 7-8, exercise (weights and cardio), and cutting back on junk food (especially high carb and salt) should help. As well as losing weight, if you have weight you mode.I would honestly do all these first before resorting to medication.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
pinky0926 07/02/25 5:14:17 AM #12:	Seriously, try viagra or similar. I had this issue and the pill really, really helped. Its not a sure thing in the sense that you'll be bricked up automatically, but it just means that if youre a tiny bit aroused you will be able to actually put that arousal where you want it to go, rather than brain anxiety getting in the way. --- CE's Resident Scotsman. http://i.imgur.com/ILz2ZbV.jpg <cite>pinky0926 posted [p:985635467] in performanc... [t:81007349]...</cite> <quote>Seriously, try viagra or similar. I had this issue and the pill really, really helped. Its not a sure thing in the sense that you'll be bricked up automatically, but it just means that if youre a tiny bit aroused you will be able to actually put that arousal where you want it to go, rather than brain anxiety getting in the way. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
bsp77 07/02/25 6:30:28 AM #13:	solosnake posted... get prescribed the pill and after getting your confidence back up you probably won't even need them anymore This is what happened with me. I was always worried and it could cause issues. I no longer needed them at all after I started dating my now wife because I longer felt anxious with her. It was mainly because she never judged if things didn't go super well every single time. And if you have a Costco nearby, get the prescription sent there. Insanely cheap and you do not need a membership to go to the Costco pharmacy. It is illegal to restrict access to a pharmacy. Just say "pharmacy" at the door and they let you in. --- Currently playing - Kingdom Come Deliverance II <cite>bsp77 posted [p:985635706] in performanc... [t:81007349]...</cite> <quote>solosnake posted... </cite><quote>get prescribed the pill and after getting your confidence back up you probably won't even need them anymore</quote>This is what happened with me. I was always worried and it could cause issues. I no longer needed them at all after I started dating my now wife because I longer felt anxious with her. It was mainly because she never judged if things didn't go super well every single time. And if you have a Costco nearby, get the prescription sent there. Insanely cheap and you do not need a membership to go to the Costco pharmacy. It is illegal to restrict access to a pharmacy. Just say "pharmacy" at the door and they let you in.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Rai_Jin 07/02/25 6:45:12 AM #14:	do more fun stuff if it's not fun enough. <cite>Rai_Jin posted [p:985635774] in performanc... [t:81007349]...</cite> <quote>do more fun stuff if it's not fun enough.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
haloiscoolisbak 07/02/25 7:13:32 AM #15:	bsp77 posted... This is what happened with me. I was always worried and it could cause issues. I no longer needed them at all after I started dating my now wife because I longer felt anxious with her. It was mainly because she never judged if things didn't go super well every single time. And if you have a Costco nearby, get the prescription sent there. Insanely cheap and you do not need a membership to go to the Costco pharmacy. It is illegal to restrict access to a pharmacy. Just say "pharmacy" at the door and they let you in. Did your ex wife judge if things didn't go perfectly? My ex would be so harsh if things weren't perfect(like if I'd had a big meal, I'm gonna get tired quick) and would make real snarky comments --- Started from the bottom now we here <cite>haloiscoolisbak posted [p:985635901] in performanc... [t:81007349]...</cite> <quote>bsp77 posted... </cite><quote>This is what happened with me. I was always worried and it could cause issues. I no longer needed them at all after I started dating my now wife because I longer felt anxious with her. It was mainly because she never judged if things didn't go super well every single time. And if you have a Costco nearby, get the prescription sent there. Insanely cheap and you do not need a membership to go to the Costco pharmacy. It is illegal to restrict access to a pharmacy. Just say "pharmacy" at the door and they let you in.</quote>Did your ex wife judge if things didn't go perfectly?My ex would be so harsh if things weren't perfect(like if I'd had a big meal, I'm gonna get tired quick) and would make real snarky comments </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
bsp77 07/02/25 7:23:50 AM #16:	haloiscoolisbak posted... Did your ex wife judge if things didn't go perfectly? My ex would be so harsh if things weren't perfect(like if I'd had a big meal, I'm gonna get tired quick) and would make real snarky comments Ex wife and a 2 year ex gf. Things would be great most of the time, but feeling awful about the small % of times then led to me worrying about it all the time. --- Currently playing - Kingdom Come Deliverance II <cite>bsp77 posted [p:985635940] in performanc... [t:81007349]...</cite> <quote>haloiscoolisbak posted... </cite><quote>Did your ex wife judge if things didn't go perfectly?My ex would be so harsh if things weren't perfect(like if I'd had a big meal, I'm gonna get tired quick) and would make real snarky comments</quote>Ex wife and a 2 year ex gf. Things would be great most of the time, but feeling awful about the small % of times then led to me worrying about it all the time.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
haloiscoolisbak 07/02/25 7:54:01 AM #17:	bsp77 posted... Ex wife and a 2 year ex gf. Things would be great most of the time, but feeling awful about the small % of times then led to me worrying about it all the time. Man, can relate. My ex had been SA when she was young so I was never gonna challenge her on these things, but if she wasn't feeling it(for whatever reason, sometimes I had zero idea why) she'd just be like "let's stop" super suddenly. And would often say things like "there's things about me you just don't need to know, that's just for my therapy sessions" so it was really hard to get to the bottom of issues Destroyed my confidence most of the time --- Started from the bottom now we here <cite>haloiscoolisbak posted [p:985636052] in performanc... [t:81007349]...</cite> <quote>bsp77 posted... </cite><quote>Ex wife and a 2 year ex gf. Things would be great most of the time, but feeling awful about the small % of times then led to me worrying about it all the time.</quote>Man, can relate. My ex had been SA when she was young so I was never gonna challenge her on these things, but if she wasn't feeling it(for whatever reason, sometimes I had zero idea why) she'd just be like "let's stop" super suddenly.And would often say things like "there's things about me you just don't need to know, that's just for my therapy sessions" so it was really hard to get to the bottom of issues Destroyed my confidence most of the time</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Robot2600 07/02/25 9:02:28 AM #18:	Most of the problems in here can be solved with communication and foreplay. --- April 15, 2024: The Day the Internet Died <cite>Robot2600 posted [p:985636497] in performanc... [t:81007349]...</cite> <quote>Most of the problems in here can be solved with communication and foreplay.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
bsp77 07/02/25 9:28:12 AM #19:	Robot2600 posted... Most of the problems in here can be solved with communication and foreplay. Not when one party communicates poorly about that stuff. And of course regarding foreplay --- Currently playing - Kingdom Come Deliverance II <cite>bsp77 posted [p:985636729] in performanc... [t:81007349]...</cite> <quote>Robot2600 posted... </cite><quote>Most of the problems in here can be solved with communication and foreplay.</quote>Not when one party communicates poorly about that stuff.And of course regarding foreplay</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
WrkHrdPlayHrdr 07/02/25 9:34:02 AM #20:	I had that issue happen before, twice I think. Even in my early 20s. But it would only ever happen with a girl I liked and/or was dating. A one night thing I never had that problem. It was nerves. Only ever happened the first time. --- "No. I'm a man so theyll get me a full size McDouble." - DuncanWii https://i.imgur.com/cSxy3Od.png <cite>WrkHrdPlayHrdr posted [p:985636789] in performanc... [t:81007349]...</cite> <quote>I had that issue happen before, twice I think. Even in my early 20s. But it would only ever happen with a girl I liked and/or was dating. A one night thing I never had that problem. It was nerves. Only ever happened the first time. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
haloiscoolisbak 07/02/25 9:44:39 AM #21:	bsp77 posted... Not when one party communicates poorly about that stuff. And of course regarding foreplay I deleted my post because it felt like too much but basically yeah I agree. I've dated two girls who got so frustrated if I "screwed up" their pleasure by getting into a poor thrusting rhthym or tiring out or slipping out and not being able to quickly get back in etc. Just literal logistical problems, never anything to do with my attraction to them or my care for them Like to me, it's just a "who cares" type thing there's no need to ever get stressed out by these things. But I'd cop serious changes in voice tone and some real knee-jerk rude comments(when they were usually really kind out of the bedroom) and yeah by the end I was hesitant to have sex with them as they really brought down my confidence. Nothing has ever "pissed me off" in the bedroom but my exes got annoyed the way a shitty boss would at me --- Started from the bottom now we here <cite>haloiscoolisbak posted [p:985636873] in performanc... [t:81007349]...</cite> <quote>bsp77 posted... </cite><quote>Not when one party communicates poorly about that stuff.And of course regarding foreplay</quote>I deleted my post because it felt like too much but basically yeah I agree. I've dated two girls who got so frustrated if I "screwed up" their pleasure by getting into a poor thrusting rhthym or tiring out or slipping out and not being able to quickly get back in etc. Just literal logistical problems, never anything to do with my attraction to them or my care for them Like to me, it's just a "who cares" type thing there's no need to ever get stressed out by these things. But I'd cop serious changes in voice tone and some real knee-jerk rude comments(when they were usually really kind out of the bedroom) and yeah by the end I was hesitant to have sex with them as they really brought down my confidence. Nothing has ever "pissed me off" in the bedroom but my exes got annoyed the way a shitty boss would at me</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
bsp77 07/02/25 9:57:47 AM #22:	haloiscoolisbak posted... I deleted my post because it felt like too much but basically yeah I agree. I've dated two girls who got so frustrated if I "screwed up" their pleasure by getting into a poor thrusting rhthym or tiring out or slipping out and not being able to quickly get back in etc. Just literal logistical problems, never anything to do with my attraction to them or my care for them Like to me, it's just a "who cares" type thing there's no need to ever get stressed out by these things. But I'd cop serious changes in voice tone and some real knee-jerk rude comments(when they were usually really kind out of the bedroom) and yeah by the end I was hesitant to have sex with them as they really brought down my confidence. Nothing has ever "pissed me off" in the bedroom but my exes got annoyed the way a shitty boss would at me Yep. But they start with the "you don't care about me" or "you aren't attracted to me". It was just two people for me that did that as well, and despite many others saying only positive things, it got to me. But after like a year with my now wife and her only being positive and saying "it's okay" if something went wrong, all my anxiety went away. Which also means that everything goes really well like 95% of the time now. --- Currently playing - Kingdom Come Deliverance II <cite>bsp77 posted [p:985636977] in performanc... [t:81007349]...</cite> <quote>haloiscoolisbak posted... </cite><quote>I deleted my post because it felt like too much but basically yeah I agree. I've dated two girls who got so frustrated if I "screwed up" their pleasure by getting into a poor thrusting rhthym or tiring out or slipping out and not being able to quickly get back in etc. Just literal logistical problems, never anything to do with my attraction to them or my care for them Like to me, it's just a "who cares" type thing there's no need to ever get stressed out by these things. But I'd cop serious changes in voice tone and some real knee-jerk rude comments(when they were usually really kind out of the bedroom) and yeah by the end I was hesitant to have sex with them as they really brought down my confidence. Nothing has ever "pissed me off" in the bedroom but my exes got annoyed the way a shitty boss would at me</quote>Yep. But they start with the "you don't care about me" or "you aren't attracted to me". It was just two people for me that did that as well, and despite many others saying only positive things, it got to me. But after like a year with my now wife and her only being positive and saying "it's okay" if something went wrong, all my anxiety went away. Which also means that everything goes really well like 95% of the time now.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
fjb 07/02/25 10:02:43 AM #23:	Performance anxiety is a killer. Most important things are definetly communication though, take it slow and try not pressuring yourself so much. Also helps if your partner is understanding. My wife was always so patient with me and never ever made it a big deal so it put me at ease. --- Focus. <cite>fjb posted [p:985637024] in performanc... [t:81007349]...</cite> <quote>Performance anxiety is a killer. Most important things are definetly communication though, take it slow and try not pressuring yourself so much. Also helps if your partner is understanding. My wife was always so patient with me and never ever made it a big deal so it put me at ease. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
orangefire25 07/02/25 10:45:43 AM #24:	MotaroRIP619 posted... My marriage was like that, and it turned out I was gay and she was really abusive if that helps any. Lmao --- "My lord, even 'the bud' slips into alcoholism these days." - AlCalavicci <cite>orangefire25 posted [p:985637456] in performanc... [t:81007349]...</cite> <quote>MotaroRIP619 posted... </cite><quote>My marriage was like that, and it turned out I was gay and she was really abusive if that helps any.</quote>Lmao</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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