Current Events > God really does have a cruel sense of humor

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I'm 35 years old. I'm the most socially awkward person you'd ever meet. In spite of that, today I was prepared to ask a girl out for the first time.

This past Tuesday, I went to the restaurant where she works. She wasn't there, which was unusual. Her co-worker told me she was getting photos done. I didn't inquire further, thinking I'll just ask about it next time I see her.

They were wedding photos. Her upcoming trip to Yellowstone she had previously mentioned wasn't a vacation. It's her honeymoon.

For context, my last two years of high school were a living hell. There was a girl I was obsessed with, but never had the courage to speak to. This experience led to me taking Zoloft during my first year of college. Almost 20 years later, I felt like I was making progress, being able to talk to someone I was attracted to, getting to know them on a personal level. But I fell into the trap of thinking I was a main character, that my story arc would have a happy ending. But it turns out I'm not a main character.

And for an extra dose of cruelty, this revelation comes sandwiched right between the wedding anniversaries of my sister and cousin.

I know nobody here cares, but I have no one else to tell. I'm just so tired of being hopeful. I just can't do it anymore. I just have to accept that I wasn't destined to feel happiness.

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I'm in my 40s and I went though this arc over a decade ago. I realized I would never find someone. I'm used to it now though and I don't think at this point that I would even be capable of maintaining a functional relationship. I'm better just sticking with cats

There are very few times when asking out someone at their work/that you only know at someone's work is a good idea. Clearly the that trend holds.

Listen: I was 29 the first time I had a sexual experience and it ended with my d bleeding and the woman not wanting to see me again. It felt, as you described, like a cruel joke. But, I decided from that experience to keep pushing, keep working towards achieving that goal, and by the end of the year I had a girlfriend. It won't be easy. There will be disappointments and setbacks. But the effort you put in towards overcoming anxieties and insecurities can be rewarded.

Irony posted...

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Crayons are delicious. I wish I didn't have pica.

Probably dating app time

Yeah, that's a gut punch. Sorry dude.

But the thing to remember is to not give up, even during those times where it's so easy to. And I get it "Just don't give up" can ring hollow after you've been knocked down. Again.

As for "story arcs", we're the main character of our story. However, we're all side characters in the game of life. From the least noteworthy among us, to the most famous. We all take Ls and spoilers, one day the book will close on our story.

But some stories are longer than others. Not everyone gets married to their high school sweetheart at 18. Some of us are a slower burn, but you can still get your happy ending.

You just have to have faith that you can, and know that you deserve happiness.

FolkenRawr posted...

There are very few times when asking out someone at their work/that you only know at someone's work is a good idea. Clearly the that trend holds.

It wouldn't even had been a date in the traditional sense. We work next door to one another and I was going to suggest we go on break at the same time. It's not something that would have been a big deal to most, but this was something I never would have seen myself doing in a million years. Of course, I didn't get around to actually asking.

Umbreon posted...

But the thing to remember is to not give up, even during those times where it's so easy to. And I get it "Just don't give up" can ring hollow after you've been knocked down. Again.

The problem is I feel my life coming to a close. My time is finite. Just to give another example of my history of failure, I spent 10 years of my life writing a trilogy of novels. When I finally went to self publish, I earned $12 for my efforts, for what amounted to thousands of hours of work. I also graduated college and couldn't do anything with my degree. I'm stuck working retail now. Point is, I've gave it my all so many times in my life and I'm just exhausted at this point. Mentally, I just can't handle any more disappointments. I'm just tired.

Ahh, I gotcha. Tbh it seems like just the conversation experience is beneficial. No reason for that/the friendship to end

VideoboysaysCube posted...

I spent 10 years of my life writing a trilogy of novels. When I finally went to self publish, I earned $12 for my efforts, for what amounted to thousands of hours of work.

I understand if you decline, but would you be willing to let us know the titles of your books and if they're still available for purchase?

VideoboysaysCube posted...

Just to give another example of my history of failure, I spent 10 years of my life writing a trilogy of novels.

watch, one day someone is going to find one of your books at a used book store, check it out, post about it on their social media, and BOOM - you're the next JK Rowling (without the transphobia, I hope)

When I find out that a girl I like and pursue is in a relationship with someone else, I move on a lot faster. She's taken. There's nothing you can do about it. There's nothing you should do about it. Make yourself busy.l. Improve on yourself in every way possible. Career, intrapersonal relationships, be healthier and more confident (going to a gym helps with that).

I dated someone I thought i was gonna have a future with, and it went all wrong over a misunderstanding, 2 months ago. I'm still recovering from it. The Best thing to do is keep on dating; when I find someone else and get into a relationship with them, I'll move on quicker.