Current Events > I'm really torn about how I want to handle my situation with my ex.

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Basically, shes really apologetic about the situation and really wants to rebuild our relationship, starting at an actual friendship (we both admit we havent been actual friends in years and that might be what we need)

But I dont necessarily forgive her about the situation, even though I acknowledge thats what I would of done in that situation, especially at her age.

our relationship will never been the same, shell never be that person to me again

i wanna give her that opportunity but I dont wanna go down that road with her if its anything less than her being a great friend to me.

and Im not quite sure how to express that to her.

Man we've been hearing about this gf saga for years, are you really going to waste your entire life going around in circles with this toxic woman?

i truly hope this story is as fake as it sounds

gamepimp12 posted...

and that might be what we need

also if it is real then no. this isn't what you need for any reason, literally. god will it ever end.

Tell her to fuck off, and move on with your life

No

Sounds like you need to find a new gf. I get the inclination to stick around w/ someone you already have report w/ , but if it ain't worked out in years, it probably ain't gonna work out.

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KanWan posted...

What did she do? In some cases, I guess you could say fuck it. If its the worst thing that can happen and it has already happened, whats worse? Some people do really change for the better I guess.

I wouldnt do it personally. Apart from having the worst happen, youd have to deal with their guilt over it which completely robs people of their sanity. Especially in todays world. Its cute to see people in their 60s and 70s say they experienced the worst, but in that world, you didnt have all these inane distractions to sack up in a different direction.

btw, if thats what you wanna do then express just that

Uhhhhh I know I think it's kinda horrendously bad and eye changing

You know that there is no financial incentive to engagement farm on gamefaqs.gamespot.com. You'd be better off going to somewhere like Reddit or Twitter.

BignutzisBack posted...

Man we've been hearing about this gf saga for years, are you really going to waste your entire life going around in circles with this toxic woman?

GuerrillaSoldier posted...

i truly hope this story is as fake as it sounds

also if it is real then no. this isn't what you need for any reason, literally. god will it ever end.

bsp77 posted...

Tell her to fuck off, and move on with your life

for what its worth I am dating around.

but I tend to give her a lot of leeway for better or worse. Because its like the 21 year old, (now 25 year old) does shit you would expect out of someone that age.

Like I want to give her the opportunity to be a better person. But I doubt she will.

Compsognathus posted...

You know that there is no financial incentive to engagement farm on gamefaqs.gamespot.com. You'd be better off going to somewhere like Reddit or Twitter.

oh I use gamefaqs as a way to yell into the void.

because most of yall opinions dont matter and its cathartic for to vent about my thoughts about the situation.

if I wanted actual advice Id be talking to someone else.

gamepimp12 posted...

oh I use gamefaqs as a way to yell into the void.

because most of yall opinions dont matter and its cathartic for to vent about my thoughts about the situation.

if I wanted actual advice Id be talking to someone else.

I think you should listen to that bsp guy poster personally I think he has a good head and honestly with the situation you described earlier I would be that Blunt too if it was somehow a guy I saw go through it firsthand and he was a friend I wouldn't wish that situation on my worst enemies

gamepimp12 posted...

oh I use gamefaqs as a way to yell into the void.

because most of yall opinions dont matter and its cathartic for to vent about my thoughts about the situation.

if I wanted actual advice Id be talking to someone else.

alright you want some real advice

you're going to be alone forever. stop making topics here because no one wants to read them.

I sincerely doubt you would post here if there was anybody else that wanted to talk to you

KanWan posted...

What did she do? In some cases, I guess you could say fuck it. If its the worst thing that can happen and it has already happened, whats worse? Some people do really change for the better I guess.

I wouldnt do it personally. Apart from having the worst happen, youd have to deal with their guilt over it which completely robs people of their sanity. Especially in todays world. Its cute to see people in their 60s and 70s say they experienced the worst, but in that world, you didnt have all these inane distractions to sack up in a different direction.

btw, if thats what you wanna do then express just that

Basically she lied about dating someone and how serious it was.

she downplayed and lied about it regardless, but how much she lied about it is still up to debate and a matter of opinion.

I felt like she was seriously dating someone and was looking towards a relationship.

she felt like it was something strictly casual, and she lied about it to keep me from being jealous.

had she not offered to return something I had bought her around that same time. I wouldnt even slightly believe her.

gamepimp12 posted...

Basically she lied about dating someone and how serious it was.

she downplayed and lied about it regardless, but how much she lied about it is still up to debate and a matter of opinion.

I felt like she was seriously dating someone and was looking towards a relationship.

she felt like it was something strictly casual, and she lied about it to keep me from being jealous.

had she not offered to return something I had bought her around that same time. I wouldnt even slightly believe her.

I thought this was the death attempt girl, oops

super_felicia posted...

I thought this was the death attempt girl, oops

if she read his topics here it probably would be

thronedfire2 posted...

if she read his topics here it probably would be

Wow....stop please
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Sounds like she's manipulating you into becoming someone she can use.

Isn't she younger than you? This is very common and she shouldn't be your first/only option

thronedfire2 posted...

alright you want some real advice

you're going to be alone forever. stop making topics here because no one wants to read them.

then dont post in them ?

BuzzKilljoy posted...

I sincerely doubt you would post here if there was anybody else that wanted to talk to you

so whats your excuse for posting here then.

I have plenty friends to have actual discussions about the situation with
super_felicia posted...

I think you should listen to that bsp guy poster personally I think he has a good head and honestly with the situation you described earlier I would be that Blunt too if it was somehow a guy I saw go through it firsthand and he was a friend I wouldn't wish that situation on my worst enemies

yeah me and him have had actual convos about the situations like off records with personal details added.

hes given good advice, I just tend to want to give her chances because all our issues are centered around her being immature.

gamepimp12 posted...

then dont post in them ?

so whats your excuse for posting here then.

Train wrecks are entertaining for everyone not involved.

I have plenty friends to have actual discussions about the situation with

Seems unlikely

yeah me and him have had actual convos about the situations like off records with personal details added.

hes given good advice, I just tend to want to give her chances because all our issues are centered around her being immature.

I'm not sure how much advice you think he's going to give you after he reads that you're admitting to just posting for attention.

Jaguar34 posted...

Sounds like she's manipulating you into becoming someone she can use.

Isn't she younger than you? This is very common and she shouldn't be your first/only option

So when we originally met I thought she was too young for me and she basically convinced me otherwise.

at the time she had a good head on her shoulders and knew what she wanted and I gave her a pass knowing it would still be some real growing pains.

the next year she kinda had that quarter life crisis post college, and basically the ideas and the goals she had for herself are basically changed over night and a dude whos wants to marry her when the time is right is scary all of a sudden.

thronedfire2 posted...

Train wrecks are entertaining for everyone not involved.

Seems unlikely

I'm not sure how much advice you think he's going to give you after he reads that you're admitting to just posting for attention.

Ive never admitted to posting for attention?

I literally said I post to yell into the void.

i dont care if the void yells back.

gamepimp12 posted...

Ive never admitted to posting for attention?

I literally said I post to yell into the void.

i dont care if the void yells back.

post #14 is a pretty obvious admission that you only want input from people who will make you feel better

gamepimp12 posted...

hes given good advice, I just tend to want to give her chances because all our issues are centered around her being immature.

Dude, trust me, stop waiting for her to "become a better person." I was with my ex for nearly 10 years and I kept thinking that the immature parts of her personality would "get better." They didn't. We had a kid together and she was still just as immature as she was when she was 20. Hell, even now being a co-parent with my ex, she's gonna be 33 soon and still does a lot of the same immature stuff she used to do.

You could very well be "waiting" for this girl until she's well into her 40's or older. Don't do that to yourself. Stop dwelling on her, move on with your life.

I hope you marry her and then when she cheats and then divorces you taking most of what you have maybe you will have learned something.

She most likely doesn't understand your commitment here. Sometimes you just need to show people. The best choice is to cosign on a loan for her. That will show her just how seriously you're taking things. She'll reciprocate and things will work out between you two.

super_felicia posted...

Wow....stop please
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yeah that's what she said

thronedfire2 posted...

post #14 is a pretty obvious admission that you only want input from people who will make you feel better

pretty big assumption. Wrong though.

I only value input from people I actually respect, if they make me feel better isnt what I need.

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Oh my friends who dont know her dont like her.

and our mutual Friends either think we shouldnt be speaking at all or that we should be just friends because anything else right now is causing both of us too much stress. (She has had pretty frequent panic attacks about both our arguments and our situation)

they also acknowledge shes young and the timings off and I might be waiting another 2 years for her to be as mature as she would need of be.

NoxObscuras posted...

Dude, trust me, stop waiting for her to "become a better person." I was with my ex for nearly 10 years and I kept thinking that the immature parts of her personality would "get better." They didn't. We had a kid together and she was still just as immature as she was when she was 20. Hell, even now being a co-parent with my ex, she's gonna be 33 soon and still does a lot of the same immature stuff she used to do.

You could very well be "waiting" for this girl until she's well into her 40's or older. Don't do that to yourself. Stop dwelling on her, move on with your life.

thats exactly where Im at. I have a date with someone else in like an hour. Ive kinda moved on waiting on her to be more mature, the last few times we spoke I was a little disappointed at her progress, she grew up but not as fast as I wanted her to.

Jiek_Fafn posted...

She most likely doesn't understand your commitment here. Sometimes you just need to show people. The best choice is to cosign on a loan for her. That will show her just how seriously you're taking things. She'll reciprocate and things will work out between you two.

I already pay her rent !!! What more do I need to do.

but seriously she tends to mistake the fact that I am, or at least was in love with her for the fact that Id want a relationship with her and that wasnt the case. Which caused a lot of our issues.

she recently got upset because she didnt know I was dating other people while telling her how in love I was.

oh wait

is TC the guy who's like 40 and this girl is maybe 25?

thronedfire2 posted...

oh wait

is TC the guy who's like 40 and this girl is maybe 25?

32 and 25

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im playing along.

but it matters because she has this idea, that Im so in love with her and that not only do I want to be with her, I only have eyes for her and Im ready to spend the rest of my life with her.

when shes not ready for anything that serious

when in reality only one of those is true.

So she tends to like try and manage our relationship, in the sense of the amount of time we spend together, and is really hot and cold about us.

hows your progress of getting a new therapist?

Drrobotniks posted...

hows your progress of getting a new therapist?

I been focused on getting money.

At the very least take a month or a few weeks to pause and think over things and think about how you really feel.

Don't rush into any decisions

2Pacavelli posted...

At the very least take a month or a free weeks to pause and think over things and think about how you really feel.

Don't rush into any decisions

thats what Ive been thinking.

im not under any obligation to forgive her so I dont want it to be something where I rush into it.

gamepimp12 posted...

thats what Ive been thinking.

im not under any obligation to forgive her so I dont want it to be something where I rush into it.

Yeah make sure whatever you decide to do is fully authentic to what's in your heart, and that you didn't feel rushed into it. That's very important

gamepimp12 posted...

but I tend to give her a lot of leeway for better or worse. Because its like the 21 year old, (now 25 year old) does shit you would expect out of someone that age

Nah, my wife was 25 when I met her. She wasn't an awful, immature liar

Jfc stop posting this stupid shit

TC, where do you think this venture will be, a year from now?

bsp77 posted...

Nah, my wife was 25 when I met her. She wasn't an awful, immature liar

I mean sure. But I was at that time.

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its no question shes immature as fuck, and its other things relevant about that thats too personal to post about