Current Events > If I did this, my future wife would be 13 years old right now

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Ive spent time with a fairly large amount of late teens and early 20s people over the last couple of years and had no trouble finding similar interests and things to relate with them about. If you cant it just might be a personal issue.

Gross

OmnimonZwart posted...

99% chance they more than knew each other before then.

Only 99%?

hockeybub89 posted...

Gross

Adults dating is always gross.

Wow he didnt age well and she isnt aged at all

Normally I'd say it's fine, but for Dane Cook? I can probably get outraged.

JustMyOpinion posted...

Kid, shut the fuck up. It's not being argued from a legal perspective.

There is no other argument.

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Then what is being argued? My fiance was born when I was in high school. So what? You can always make things sound creepy with comparisons that are irrelevant to when we started dating.

This is creepy no matter how you want to spin it

It always amazes me how only older man younger woman age gap relationships piss off this place, rarely does anyone say anything, and much less flip shit when it is a older woman younger man age gap.

RiKuToTheMiGhtY posted...

It always amazes me how only older man younger woman age gap relationships piss off this place, rarely does anyone say anything, and much less flip shit when it is a older woman younger man age gap.

"Equality! ...except when I don't like it" is essentially CE's motto.

Asherlee10 posted...

I thought it came out that he had been "friends" with her since like 16 or 17?

Sounds totally legit.

bsp77 posted...

Then what is being argued? My fiance was born when I was in high school. So what? You can always make things sound creepy with comparisons that are irrelevant to when we started dating.

I really want to make this sound creepier by asking who you had sex with in high school that produced your fiance but I won't :P

I feel weird thinking about i lost my virginity to a 14 year old. I wasn't much older granted. Year and half tops but it's still makes me feel disgusted to think about

Idk what's worse that or me fucking a 20 year old when I was 16.

Ill stay with my wife being 5 years younger than me. At least we have similar experiences and status of where we are personally.

NO2_Fiend posted...

How do you relate to someone so much younger than you?

In nonromantic scenarios, it's very common. Teachers can relate to students, for example.

Guide posted...

In nonromantic scenarios, it's very common. Teachers can relate to students, for example.

People can still have common interests too. Same hobbies or whatever

Ruvan22 posted...

I really want to make this sound creepier by asking who you had sex with in high school that produced your fiance but I won't :P

Lol, just saw this. I wasn't having sex with anyone in high school. I had no clue back then.

two consenting adults can do what they want but it does not make it any less creepy
when grandpa or grandma start sleeping with people the same age as their grandchildren

The_Wheelman1 posted...

Naturally single older men in their 40s and 50s will go after younger women in their 20s and 30s. Its not a mental illness its human nature.

Also girls in their 20s often go for older men.

This.

Here is a thought experiment, if a population of husbands had access to 3 buttons, de-age his wife 10 years, advance his wife's age by *5 years (lemme be nice), and the last button does nothing. Which one would be the most popular button to press? And why?

Sad_Face posted...

This.

Here is a thought experiment, if a population of husbands had access to 3 buttons, de-age his wife 10 years, advance his wife's age by *5 years (lemme be nice), and the last button does nothing. Which one would be the most popular button to press? And why?

well if they press the 2nd button to age up the wife murders him so that option is dead on arrival.

wife likely prefers option 1 to lose 10 years or option three if wife would drop below 18 annulling their marriage (unless that was the plan)

bsp77 posted...

Lol, just saw this. I wasn't having sex with anyone in high school. I had no clue back then.

Haha sorry for the ribbing :P

Sad_Face posted...

This.

Here is a thought experiment, if a population of husbands had access to 3 buttons, de-age his wife 10 years, advance his wife's age by *5 years (lemme be nice), and the last button does nothing. Which one would be the most popular button to press? And why?

Ehh - lots of things we define as "human nature" we (as a society) have also decided to do less off/curb.

Is your thought experiment trying to prove a pattern? Or justify a pattern?

Saxon posted...

Young fertile females

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/1/6/1/AAVkBcAAEd7Z.jpg

The_Wheelman1 posted...

Naturally single older men in their 40s and 50s will go after younger women in their 20s and 30s. Its not a mental illness its human nature.

This is not true.

Average age gap in heterosexual relationships is like 2-3 years.

Shadow_Don posted...

This is not true.

Average age gap in heterosexual relationships is like 2-3 years.

To play devils advocate that is probably due to society. Before society I'm sure rape was normal.

Sufferedphoneix posted...

Before society I'm sure rape was normal.

You have a misunderstanding of how laws come to be.

Men have had mothers, sisters, daughters, and lovers since the dawn of time. So early early early on, men came to an understanding that because they don't want anything to happen to their darling mommies, little sisters, daughters, and wives, they came to an understanding, a gentleman's agreement, to treat other women in their own society like they were their own family.

But then there's always that one fucking guy who has to ruin it for everyone else.

Thus either groups had to socially outcast that one fucking guy who has to ruin it for everyone else and then when society came into place, X governmental entity had to write in laws and enforce it to prevent that population of the type that meets the criteria of that one fucking guy who has to ruining it for everyone.

But generally speaking, even in times of anarchy and chaos, it'll only exist for a short while before some hierarchy arises to get people to cooperate and generate some sense of safety and security. Things just need to be formalized into laws and enforced when there's too many of that one fucking guy who ruins it for everyone else.

texanfan27 posted...

well if they press the 2nd button to age up the wife murders him so that option is dead on arrival.

lmao true true true

Ruvan22 posted...

Is your thought experiment trying to prove a pattern? Or justify a pattern?

Probably prove I guess. Can't justify if you don't establish what the pattern is.

Shadow_Don posted...

This is not true.

Average age gap in heterosexual relationships is like 2-3 years.

Among people with money and means, I'm sure that average adjusts wildly.

Sad_Face posted...

ou have a misunderstanding of how laws come to be.

Men have had mothers, sisters, daughters, and lovers since the dawn of time. So early early early on, men came to an understanding that because they don't want anything to happen to their darling mommies, little sisters, daughters, and wives, they came to an understanding, a gentleman's agreement, to treat other women in their own society like they were their own family.

But then there's always that one fucking guy who has to ruin it for everyone else.

Thus either groups had to socially outcast that one fucking guy who has to ruin it for everyone else and then when society came into place, X governmental entity had to write in laws and enforce it to prevent that population of the type that meets the criteria of that one fucking guy who has to ruining it for everyone.

But generally speaking, even in times of anarchy and chaos, it'll only exist for a short while before some hierarchy arises to get people to cooperate and generate some sense of safety and security. Things just need to be formalized into laws and enforced when there's too many of that one fucking guy who ruins it for everyone else

Sounds like my point exactly. A society formed and shunned these behaviors.

I was talking like caveman days I'm sure rape was normal. We see it In wild animals I'm sure humans wherent much different.

24, dated 6 years. I wonder if he fucked her the day she turned 18.

Sad_Face posted...

You have a misunderstanding of how laws come to be.

Men have had mothers, sisters, daughters, and lovers since the dawn of time. So early early early on, men came to an understanding that because they don't want anything to happen to their darling mommies, little sisters, daughters, and wives, they came to an understanding, a gentleman's agreement, to treat other women in their own society like they were their own family.

But then there's always that one fucking guy who has to ruin it for everyone else.

Thus either groups had to socially outcast that one fucking guy who has to ruin it for everyone else and then when society came into place, X governmental entity had to write in laws and enforce it to prevent that population of the type that meets the criteria of that one fucking guy who has to ruining it for everyone.

But generally speaking, even in times of anarchy and chaos, it'll only exist for a short while before some hierarchy arises to get people to cooperate and generate some sense of safety and security. Things just need to be formalized into laws and enforced when there's too many of that one fucking guy who ruins it for everyone else.

lmao true true true

Probably prove I guess. Can't justify if you don't establish what the pattern is.

LMAO.

Sad_Face posted...

This.

Here is a thought experiment, if a population of husbands had access to 3 buttons, de-age his wife 10 years, advance his wife's age by *5 years (lemme be nice), and the last button does nothing. Which one would be the most popular button to press? And why?

Here's another thought experiment:

The husband can de-age himself by 10 years, age himself by 5, or do nothing?

Most people place a value on being younger for themselves, as well as their female partner, so what does that prove?

So how long before the marriage collapses and she is with Pete Davidson?

Sufferedphoneix posted...

Sounds like my point exactly. A society formed and shunned these behaviors.

I was talking like caveman days I'm sure rape was normal. We see it In wild animals I'm sure humans wherent much different.

Unless those primitive humans didn't have feelings of jealousy, love, the desire to protect, and all those other emotions; I don't imagine it to be the case. You need cooperation within a tribe to survive and people need to have some sense of security and safety.

If it's a foreign tribe invading, sure. They'll see the other tribe as less than human and more so "the enemy" so the males will get killed and the females will be taken in as wives at maximum, slaves at the minimum. Slaves on average and median too.

But I can also imagine the rules of engagement being different in how a caveman would initiate sex with a cavewoman and how she views and values the act. Perhaps how they do it could be considered rape by our standards, so you have a point here.

ai123 posted...

Here's another thought experiment:

The husband can de-age himself by 10 years, age himself by 5, or do nothing?

Most people place a value on being younger for themselves, as well as their female partner, so what does that prove?

Ignoring athletes who are incentivized to be young, for guys, a perception of power is a huge draw to men as it influences how people behave around them, how people perceive them, and ultimately how people treat them. For men, age can influence "perception of power". You can see this in how society treat 2X year old males, treating them like they don't know what they're doing (which is generally true) versus 3X year olds where they are generally more respected, have an easier time dating and whatnot.

Conversely, it's roughly looking younger as a guy. In grade school, we had an elementary school right next door to a HS, complete with the same uniform. I was shorter than average and younger so people would mistake me for going to the elementary school all the time. And my interactions with others were usually them talking down to me, not treating me as an equal.

But back to the main topic, yes there are sweetspots for ages and obviously some people will go down in age for more freedom and a healthier body (i.e. a 75 year old man would want to go down to 50 to feel more fluid again). But health aside, the rules of engagement with age are completely different between men and woman. What I talked about above, doesn't really apply to women.

@ai123 did you put ANY thought into this thought experiment? Or was that just a driveby first immediate thought post?

NO2_Fiend posted...

How do you relate to someone so much younger than you?

I never really understood this. People can bond of mutual interests/hobbies. Sure growing up they didn't experience roughly the same things but that doesn't matter too much. I've really developed this opinion with how much I online game with people. I play with people from all kinds of different age groups and we all have fun. Our conversations aren't crickets either because of the age gaps. It is more than doable

Sad_Face posted...

@ai123 did you put ANY thought into this thought experiment? Or was that just a driveby first immediate thought post?

And yet we have threads on this board where people bemoan the fact that 30 year old men have dating problems because dating college age women is 'creepy' and women over 30 are all single mothers.

Would I press a button to make my partner 10 years younger? Yes. And she would thank me for it. But I would also press the same button for myself, because I would like another 10 years of looking and feeling at my 20s peak, thanks very much.

Your 'thought experiment' was presented in a one-sided way so that you could push the idea that youth and attractiveness were where a woman's value and appeal lies, and that the same did not apply to men. The desire to remain younger and healthier for longer is common to both sees.

ai123 posted...

Your 'thought experiment' was presented in a one-sided way so that you could push the idea that youth and attractiveness were where a woman's value and appeal lies, and that the same did not apply to men. The desire to remain younger and healthier for longer is common to both sexs.

And I addressed that. That was in the first couple lines. However, there are other factors that make it more interesting for guys in why they would see value in"leaving the button alone" or even going up in age that don't apply to women.

ai123 posted...

And yet we have threads on this board where people bemoan the fact that 30 year old men have dating problems because dating college age women is 'creepy' and women over 30 are all single mothers.

"I have the opportunities where college aged women are willing to choose the older me over their own male contemporaries but I avoid these opportunities due to social stigma. I avoid women my age because 'life happened to them'".

You are helping my case here. Men and women perceived differently by society. Men and women's age is one of those categories that society doesn't treat the same. What do you want me to say?