Current Events > Friend is relocating for work and wants me to move in while he's gone.

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He has a two story house

He has two cats I would need to keep an eye on

I've never lived truly alone before. I've always either had roommates or family.

It's way more space than I have rn but it's almost too much space yknow

Like some rooms would be totally empty.

I'm kind of afraid of the isolation if that makes sense. Just not being around people. I'm curious as to what that would be like for my mental health.

And also of taking care of the cats. I've never been a cat guy lol.

On the other hand he would only charge me $600 a month w utilities included in that. And he has a fiber internet connection.

He also said I could redecorate however I like and make whatever changes I want and he would either split the cost with me or buy me out when I move out.

I dunno it's a great opportunity I'm just nervous lol

Id recommend taking the deal. Money-wise it sounds pretty nice, but more importantly, its an opportunity for you to learn how to live on your own and be content with being by yourself.

Remember that you should still have access to your friends and family when you feel you need some socialization time but it is important for you to be able to be happy when youre alone too. Give it a try!

jcmason posted...

Id recommend taking the deal. Money-wise it sounds pretty nice, but more importantly, its an opportunity for you to learn how to live on your own and be content with being by yourself.

Remember that you should still have access to your friends and family when you feel you need some socialization time but it is important for you to be able to be happy when youre alone too. Give it a try!

this is good advice, just remember you're not stuck in the place if you don't want to be there.

I'm assuming you'll take care of it properly anyway, I suggest taking pictures to cover your ass in case anything strange happens.

Unless its located in a bad neighborhood, I dont see any downsides.

How much rent do you pay as it is?
Is the new place convenient for work/education/whatever?
What about costs for the Cats? Do they even actually like (tolerate) you?

Living by yourself isn't so bad, but isn't for everyone. Could always just invite people over if you do find yourself lonely I guess?

Could you invite a friend or two to move in as well?

Id be anxious about the cats (because Im just not someone who likes taking care of animals, even though I do love cats) but you could use this as a great opportunity to learn how to be by yourself. Too much space? Better than not enough.

Ive been living on my own since 2018 and its been glorious. There hasnt been one single day where I was like gee, I really wish there was someone else here lol

^ Seriously, living by yourself is great. You can just chill the fuck out if you feel like being alone. If you want some company just hit somebody up.

How long would you be in his house?

Are you just sub-leasing it? Make sure that's allowed per his/her lease.

SomeLikeItHoth posted...

Unless its located in a bad neighborhood, I dont see any downsides.

Neighborhood is pretty nice. A lot of families and that sorta thing

Funkydog posted...

How much rent do you pay as it is?

$500 for much less room

Funkydog posted...

Is the new place convenient for work/education/whatever?

It's closer to my job, the college I go to, and my gym.

Plus several good friends are also in the neighborhoods nearby.

Funkydog posted...

What about costs for the Cats? Do they even actually like (tolerate) you?

One is very affectionate and the other is incredibly skittish but not like aggressive or mean just shy.

Magyar15 posted...

Could you invite a friend or two to move in as well?

Most folks I know already have their living situation worked out atm.

And I wouldn't want to live with a rando.

Ruvan22 posted...

How long would you be in his house?

As long as I like. He expects his contract to last anywhere from 9 months to 3 years. If I needed to leave before he's back I would just let him know and he'd get someone else to drop in.

Likewise if I want to keep living there after he's back we would then share the house and my rent would drop accordingly.

WrkHrdPlayHrdr posted...

Are you just sub-leasing it? Make sure that's allowed per his/her lease.

He doesn't rent, he owns the house outright.

Honestly sounds a pretty sweet deal to me then.

Yeah I told him yes

Everything sounds great except the cats. If youre good with that then this kinda sounds like a no brainer.

Sounds like a good deal. Enjoy it. You have a good friend too.

l0bcity posted...

^ Seriously, living by yourself is great. You can just chill the fuck out if you feel like being alone. If you want some company just hit somebody up.

This is all facts right here. Love having a little piggie bank to split my mortgage but also really enjoyed living alone before then.

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Text from my Mom earlier today

"____ should be paying you to live in his house."

Wtf is this shit lol

Doom_Art posted...

Text from my Mom earlier today

"____ should be paying you to live in his house."

Wtf is this shit lol

I did want to make a quippy remark about people usually paying people to housesit, not the housesitter paying but you're more living in the place rather than looking after it for a week or whatever.

Funkydog posted...

I did want to make a quippy remark about people usually paying people to housesit, not the housesitter paying but you're more living in the place rather than looking after it for a week or whatever.

Yeah I don't know where the line is personally

lol he gives you a steal of a deal and ur mom is like "he should be paying you"

if i liked pets i'd ask to be ur roommate, shit i wish someone would let me live in a house by myself for $600 a month only lmao

Akagami_Shanks posted...

lol he gives you a steal of a deal and ur mom is like "he should be paying you"

She did this when I moved into my current place.

I got two rooms, a hallway, and a bathroom for $500 a month and she was like "They're overcharging and taking advantage of you."

And it's like dude shut up lol

ask her to find you something cheaper then since she knows all the deals apparently

I would quite literally do terrible things to be offered that offer, take it

The only downsides are he has hasn't upkept it very well and the previous owners weren't good to it.

So it's perfectly livable but it's some shit like paint over wallpaper, and unpainted wall where there were renos, that sorta thing.

That's nice of your friend. If it's feasible, go for it!

Now I'm kinda going back on it mentally

Like it's a great opportunity

But now I'm worried of burning myself out

Like I'll be moving in less than two weeks. I would have to go through the effort of moving, then fixing up parts of the place, and getting acclimated to taking care of two cats all while working part time and starting my next semester of school all at the same time.

So as I think ahead to it I'm just getting a lil freaked out that it's going to be too much for my mental health.

sounds like a good deal to me

you're working it up into more of a thing that it really is to be frank

Plus it's like a whole thing of

If I'm happy with my current living arrangement

Which I am

Should I put myself through this whole process?

Like I have less room at my current place, but I'm paying a great price, the house is new and clean, and I'm living with two close friends

So my brain is being like "do you really need to leave this rn tho?"

well, is it a better deal or isn't it?

frozenstar posted...

well, is it a better deal or isn't it?

It's $600 for a whole house and way more room whereas its $500 for two rooms and a bathroom rn

On paper it's a better deal to move, my sticking point now is like "but you're already happy where you are do you really need to make a change at this stage of your life"

I think you should do it.

Sounds like a good deal to me.

Your mum isnt quite as crazy as she sounds though. I get paid to live where I live. Sort of.

Yeah I don't know. I'll have to figure this whole mental block out.

Seeing my therapist in a few hours (happened to have an appointment already) so I'll bring up this stress I'm having

I don't know. Like I said I'd take it, but I'm worried that I'm not more excited about it. Like it's worrying to me that I'm dreading it now.

Funkydog posted...

I did want to make a quippy remark about people usually paying people to housesit, not the housesitter paying but you're more living in the place rather than looking after it for a week or whatever.

Yeah but he's also taking care of his pets and moving out whenever the guy comes back.

The only other option the owner has is to get rid of his cats, take them with him somehow or pay someone to take care of them. They can't exactly rent it out as an Airbnb and say "must feed cats".

Sounds like TCs friend found a perfect way to get his cats taken care of and also have his mortgage paid for him while he is staying out of town. Not saying it is a bad deal for TC necessarily but I'd say he has room to negotiate considering the owner pretty much has no other choice unless he has other friends dying to rent out his place and feed his cats.

How long is this agreement btw? Is it in writing anywhere?

yemmy posted...

moving out whenever the guy comes back.

that wouldn't be happening

yemmy posted...

take them with him somehow

I asked hypothetically what would happen if I said no and he said this would be what he'd do. It's just more of a headache to take them with him into the States right now.

yemmy posted...

Not saying it is a bad deal for TC necessarily but I'd say he has room to negotiate considering the owner pretty much has no other choice unless he has other friends dying to rent out his place and feed his cats.

Yeah I'm apparently the second choice. He asked two other friends of ours beforehand but both of them are buying their own place in the next few months and they were like "Well have you asked Doom_Art?"

yemmy posted...

How long is this agreement btw?

TBD

He mentioned I could come in and leave whenever I like. If I wanted to stay after he comes back I could just room with him and my rent would drop accordingly.

Though the guy is a bit of a slob so I don't know. I could see myself hating his guts if we lived together for an extended period.

Sounds good. 600 for rent is amazing. Plus you get cute cats.

Ehhh I think I'm going back on it.

Like it's a great deal and I want to help out but I'm going to be starting my new semester next week, starting my work placement (potentially out of town apparently) in the summer, and I have my current job in between it all.

Plus I have a social life I try to maintain.

Adding taking care of a house and cats to this feels overwhelming.

I don't know

Doom_Art posted...

She did this when I moved into my current place.

I got two rooms, a hallway, and a bathroom for $500 a month and she was like "They're overcharging and taking advantage of you."

And it's like dude shut up lol

where do you live that $500 for 2 bedrooms is considered overcharging??

Chicken posted...

where do you live that $500 for 2 bedrooms is considered overcharging??

She's a very unrealistic and out of touch woman.

I love her but she's kinda ridiculous