Current Events > Woman choosing to ghost me

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We'd had a date that went, in my view, fairly well. At the end we had the usual "message me when you get home" convo, at which point she says oh I don't have your number. I message it to her, and she did text me when she gets home.

This date was last Wednesday and she had said she'd be busy this week up through labor day with family visiting. But I've gotten only limited, delayed responses when texting her since the night of our date. I texted her yesterday to see if she'd be up for meeting up again next week, and she just hasn't responded at all.

At this point, I'm smart enough to recognize that this isn't happening. But the manner of it is what's throwing me off; why ask for my number and text me? Why respond initially and then have nothing to say about the prospect of going out again?

Women, am I right?

maybe she got annoyed because you kept bugging her when she said she was busy

Maybe she was busy fuckin her cousin

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This.

Its entirely possible that the date didnt go as well as you feel it did but she didnt want to openly reject you.

Yeah when your responses are delayed, and limited, take these hints to back off. Let her come to you.

She said she was busy. Leave her alone until she said she would no longer be busy, then try texting her.

"msg me when you get home" is like to make sure they get home OK after being out with you. you're the last person who saw them so if they go missing or get into an accident or some other horrible thing you're one of the first people who would know and be able to help.

it's not like consent to keep talking and dating indefinitely

I guess the other thing that's on my mind here is that I had gone like several months on dating apps without being ghosted like this, at least getting the "I just wasn't feeling the connection" message. But now it's happened a few times in quick succession and I'm wondering if something I'm doing is causing this.

Fuck that.
Go find another woman
You deserve better TC

silverpine posted...

"msg me when you get home" is like to make sure they get home OK after being out with you. you're the last person who saw them so if they go missing or get into an accident or some other horrible thing you're one of the first people who would know and be able to help.

it's not like consent to keep talking and dating indefinitely

Sure, I get that. But to me, giving out your number after that point signals some interest in moving things forward.

As a fellow struggling online dater I follow your topics. How have your other efforts gone? You seem to go on dates somewhat often. How do these things conclude?

Intro2Logic posted...

Sure, I get that. But to me, giving out your number after that point signals some interest in moving things forward.

how exactly would the conversation go at that point?
"text me when you get home"
"no, i don't think i will"

it's very awkward

AloneIBreak posted...

As a fellow struggling online dater I follow your topics. How have your other efforts gone? You seem to go on dates somewhat often. How do these things conclude?

For the most part, with a message along the lines of "Hey, it's been fun getting to know you, but I'm not feeling a romantic connection." not getting any message at all is out of the norm, but also a couple times in a row now.

If it makes you feel any better TC, those women are probably ghosting every guy they meet. It's not just you. I've been ghosted a couple of times now as well. It definitely says a lot about the maturity (or lack of it) of the ghoster.

Yeah find a better one

This is a pretty normal occurrence. Just move on and don't waste energy worrying about it.