Current Events > Why are MEN 6 times more likely to separate if their partner has CANCER?

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LinkFanatic posted...

Just ignore him; he's bullying you and enjoying it. No actual good person would take someone's obvious traumas and play with them.

This persons hatred of men is also not acceptable.

Might have something to do with how the relationship works.

If the man is the primary earner in the house and the woman becomes terminally ill, the burden of care ultimately falls on him financially and emotionally, which can be difficult to juggle and bring on significant, crippling stress. In my experience, men deal with stress worse than women, and can be more destructive outwardly, whereas a woman, more inward. That's anecdotal, by my experience.

My old man didn't leave my mother when she had two bouts of cancer (clear now) but she knew how much help she needed made work life very difficult for him and felt bad for him over it. Not that I think she should have of course. My old man also very much loves my mother, so he wouldn't leave, they're in it til the end, but the stress brought on by the health issues was huge. She needed a lot of support and he needed to take a lot of time off work and become a caregiver for her too, which had significant financial implications at the time as he'd been made redundant, especially through the pandemic.

Luckily, his new work was very understanding. Though he's now doing an extra hour or two at work likely to compensate for time off. He was paid well during his time off too. Probably because of how well qualified he is as an automotive technician, not an easy guy to replace as far as resume goes and he's pretty much never taken time off work.

I should clarify though, I'm based in the UK, our health-care is a little different to the US so if this study is indeed US based (didn't check, I assume it is) then the financial woes of it all could be more significant there.

Punished_Blinx posted...

Maybe those women initiative divorces because of the men who want to be taken care of like a son.

Maybe true, maybe not, but some of you want your cake in your hand and to be eating it too.

I mean are we going to blame men for dumping women for reasons, and then still blame them when its the women dumping them for reasons? Come on now, wheres that til death do us part commitment? And if were going to talk about caring for someone, which is your example, dont forget that this topic started because its about caring for someone but then not wanting to do that anymore.