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Antifar
04/30/22 4:45:31 PM
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When I'm at a bar, either with friends or by myself, I get in my head about approaching new people. I don't want to overstep any boundaries and end up not doing anything as a result. With a dating site, I feel like the rules and expectations are a little more clear-cut. If a woman is on there, she's looking to date; even someone with my anxiety issues can grasp that.

But I know that there are guys who meet women at bars and hook up or form relationships from that, so it's gotta be possible. I'm just... Unsure how.

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DoctorPiranha3
04/30/22 4:46:39 PM
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Open that hole in your face
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Pepys Monster
04/30/22 4:48:47 PM
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You could walk up to her and say hi, and introduce yourself.

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04/30/22 4:49:47 PM
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Hayame Zero
04/30/22 4:49:57 PM
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Look for a conversational opening that interests you, and chime in. Or just compliment them.

Conversation-wise, a bar isn't really an "overstepping boundries" kind of place since it's a sociable and flirty atmosphere for most (unless you're weird to them, obviously)

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Naysaspace
04/30/22 4:51:00 PM
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stare at a girl from across the bar for about 16 minutes and then hover really close and ask questions you don't care about the answer to.

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Flockaveli
04/30/22 4:52:01 PM
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All my friends I go with are women, so that really helps.

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TheGoldenEel
04/30/22 4:54:05 PM
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Hayame Zero posted...
Look for a conversational opening that interests you, and chime in. Or just compliment them.

Conversation-wise, a bar isn't really an "overstepping boundries" kind of place since it's a sociable and flirty atmosphere for most (unless you're weird to them, obviously)
its this.

just treat them like people and strike up a conversation. Its what people do at bars; Ive done it many times over the years with anyone, weird old guys, young people, that one time it turned out the guy I was talking to was in NSYNC, couples, whoever

obviously its not always going to be easy and its weirder when theyre with an isolated group vs sitting at the bar or whatever

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Smackems
04/30/22 4:55:54 PM
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Only way to do it is to do it

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Alteres
04/30/22 4:58:25 PM
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I would go at odd hours or quieter places, not like loud nightlife places. Then would sit around and comment on what was on tv or something.

One bar I went to kept a paper at one end, and you could go grab sections to read while you had a beer or whatever. I might pick it up and randomly comment on something in it to someone nearby. Just strike up conversations in different ways.

Except if we were going out as a group or something then it was loud places and shouting at whatever randos happened to interact with you/the people with you, back when I actually did that kind of thing anyway.

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CreekCo
04/30/22 5:05:59 PM
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Also if she is there with a bunch of her friends, dont waste your time probably

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AbstraktProfSC2
04/30/22 5:08:49 PM
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Alteres posted...
I would go at odd hours or quieter places, not like loud nightlife places. Then would sit around and comment on what was on tv or something.

One bar I went to kept a paper at one end, and you could go grab sections to read while you had a beer or whatever. I might pick it up and randomly comment on something in it to someone nearby. Just strike up conversations in different ways.


mans said to just read the newspaper out loud lmao
is this bar in 1940?

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Alteres
04/30/22 5:10:33 PM
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That was like 2013, which is a long ass time ago now.

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CRON
04/30/22 5:20:10 PM
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Do people still do this? I feel like it's something outdated.

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TheGoldenEel
04/30/22 5:27:00 PM
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CRON posted...
Do people still do this? I feel like it's something outdated.
Talk to other people?

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DoctorPiranha3
04/30/22 5:54:58 PM
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[LFAQs-redacted-quote]

Dating apps aren't even close to the same thing as meeting someone in person
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Super Saiyan 3 Goku
04/30/22 5:57:41 PM
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When I'm at a bar, either with friends or by myself, I get in my head about approaching new people
Oh, that's easy. If you're thinking like that it means you haven't had enough to drink.

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Hornswoggled
04/30/22 5:59:39 PM
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Just have drugs and let people know you have drugs.
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bsp77
04/30/22 6:00:19 PM
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DoctorPiranha3 posted...
Dating apps aren't even close to the same thing as meeting someone in person
No fighting, boys. Both methods work.

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action52
04/30/22 6:06:11 PM
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DoctorPiranha3 posted...
Dating apps aren't even close to the same thing as meeting someone in person
No, of course they're not, but they appeal to a lot of people because the time and money costs, and avoid the risk of being directly rejected in public.

Of course dating apps bring a host of problems of their own that we have no need to get into. What's relevant is that their popularity has led to fewer people going to bars to meet people than they used to.

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David1988
04/30/22 6:06:36 PM
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@No_U_L7

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HovaRex
04/30/22 6:11:51 PM
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I dont think that's true at all tbh. Maybe just your personal perception. If you go out to a public bar, don't expect to not be approached by the ya know...public

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bsp77
04/30/22 6:16:18 PM
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HovaRex posted...
I dont think that's true at all tbh. Maybe just your personal perception. If you go out to a public bar, don't expect to not be approached by the ya know...public
Yeah, I do think it is still considered fine to approach at places like bars.

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TheGoldenEel
04/30/22 6:20:58 PM
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I think the mindset you have to have in the age of dating apps (at least for those of us who are more socially awkward) is that youre going to the bar to meet interesting people and sometimes it might be a woman you want to get to know better

even striking up a conversation with any rando is practice for that

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HovaRex
04/30/22 6:28:34 PM
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TheGoldenEel posted...
I think the mindset you have to have in the age of dating apps (at least for those of us who are more socially awkward) is that youre going to the bar to meet interesting people and sometimes it might be a woman you want to get to know better

even striking up a conversation with any rando is practice for that

Pretty perfect mindset imo

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bsp77
04/30/22 6:32:44 PM
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TheGoldenEel posted...
I think the mindset you have to have in the age of dating apps (at least for those of us who are more socially awkward) is that youre going to the bar to meet interesting people and sometimes it might be a woman you want to get to know better

even striking up a conversation with any rando is practice for that
I have met guys who ended up becoming friends this way. Also, they may have a social circle with women in it. I feel just being more carefree and just seeing what happens is better than getting obsessed with a certain woman. Seem spontaneous and fun and that can get you women without actively trying as hard.

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action52
04/30/22 6:36:44 PM
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bsp77 posted...
Yeah, I do think it is still considered fine to approach at places like bars.
Oh, definitely. The only thing that has probably changed is that at most bars the proportion of people who aren't interested in meeting people is higher than it used to be. But as long as you can take no for an answer and leave them alone if they're not interested, nobody's going to think you're a creep for just trying to talk to them.

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ZevLoveDOOM
04/30/22 6:37:43 PM
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make sure you're all sweaty and order some milk steaks!
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FL81
04/30/22 6:38:00 PM
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  1. go to bar
  2. find women
  3. talk to women
  4. ???????
  5. PROFIT!!

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Guide
04/30/22 6:41:33 PM
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I think that, if you have to think about it, it's' not for you in the first place. Conversation just happens incidentally any time I'm around a group of strangers, I never think "oh man what if I can't talk to this girl".

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