Current Events > I have an abusive step dad, but i never felt i could call him abusive.

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Has anyone else ever felt like you couldnt refer to your childhood abuse as actual abuse because you hear other people talk about their childhood abuse and you think their abuse sounds so much worse so you have no right to actually say you experienced abuse because you've convinced yourself it wasnt severe enough?

Like I think I've just recently come to terms with the fact that I lived a pretty oppressive childhood and I wasnt the one who was wrong when i felt like i was being treated badly as a kid. I still dont feel comfortable saying how much of my issues are my personal fault and how much is because my step dad was an abusive and emotionally manipulative monster.

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Don't understand how can you mistreat somebody else's kid

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I feel similarly, my father has always been problematic and attacked my mother and brother yesterday after getting drunk but I still hesitate to say it's abuse and leave

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VioletMassacre posted...

Yes.

My wife often points out how it sounds like my childhood was awful with the things I tell which I mostly shrug off.

I feel like I've done the same.

Kiyune posted...

I feel similarly, my father has always been problematic and attacked my mother and brother yesterday after getting drunk but I still hesitate to say it's abuse and leave

I think my mother is finally leaving my dad. Hopefully. I think hes pushed her too far, and even turned other family members against her.

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