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Imagine you had a child that was born with a lifelong, crippling disability. That they would never be able to support themselves or live on their own. Could you handle caring for them from now on? Spending most of your life supporting them?

I don't think I could handle that myself. And what alternatives are there? There's nothing. Put them up for adoption, what? There's no escape to that life. Even if you loved them unconditionally, the course of your life from that point forward is set.

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I wouldn't want to care for a child period

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nope

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TheRadiant posted...

I wouldn't want to care for a child period

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Nope.

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TheRadiant posted...

I wouldn't want to care for a child period

This.

One of my cousins has downs syndrome. Luckily the father makes a super good living as a real estate developer so the mom never had to work.

But I'd think caring for someone who's now a grown man 24/7 would be a terrible fate. Last time I saw my cousin was at a family gathering and he insisted on watching Ace Ventura Pet Detective. He threw a fit until it was on the TV. Then he started humping the floor screaming "blood" and the mom just kept on socializing like nothing was happening.

I can only imagine the things his mother witnesses when no one else is around.

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It would definitely be difficult. There would be lots of love there but also lots of resentment because of the disability.

I don't know if I could ever put a child up for adoption though, I have seen how bad kids in foster care have it. I never want to ever contribute to that problem.


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I would hate it immensely. One of my cousins is late-30's, but he's literally like a 3 year old. His mom and dad (and sisters) are saints.

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People need to think this way about normal kids as well. Children are a big responsibility and you are responsible for them for life. As an analogy, they are not some pet you buy during quarantine and give them up once you go back to work. If you can't handle the possibility that your child will live with you even into adulthood, then do not have children. Do not bring a life into the world only to abandon them under the guise of: "Your an adult now, go get a job!" Thats on you. That being said, my son is autistic and will more than likely have to live with me for the rest of his life. I'm fine with it. Quite frankly I relish in the idea that he will always be with me and I will always have a little buddy to hang and go watch movies with.

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