Current Events > When it really comes down to it, do you lean to physical attraction or mental?

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I see a lot of topics on here talking about older men dating younger women and whether it's right or wrong. I don't think either is right or wrong, people like what they like, but I'm curious about a few things.

I know I'm generalising, but personally I think it can be narrowed down to a few things.

Younger females are typically more physically attractive, while older women are typically more wise, experienced, mature etc...

I often wonder which one I prefer myself. I'm 30. Now, I'm not saying young people have bad personalities or women my age can't be physically attractive, but I think with age comes a natural intuition and understanding about how life and relationships work. You certainly become less fickle. I feel I'd have to adjust myself less to date someone my age and would probably have less stress during the relationship. A girl in early 20s I'd find myself being more excited to date, because well let's face it... there's a reason it's a thing.

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It's close, but probably physical since I still have to be physically attracted to someone to wanna date.

Like a 6/10 with a great personality would be fine, but like a 3/10, no thanks.
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Physical one hundred percent. Mental comes later.

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Mental attraction is for ugly people with no webcams.

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I mean, you're going to get sick of somebody's personality before their looks. Average looks grow on you, a great personality can make the good parts shine through

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When I was younger, I didn't care about personality at all. I wasn't looking for a connection or a relationship.

Now, it doesn't matter how pretty you are. If I think you're a horrible person you can fuck right off.

Not that it matters, as I'm not single.

I have to go with physical here simply because we're lumping the 30 year olds into the same traits of "wise, experienced, mature". It isn't neccesarily what I'm going to be looking for at the time and sometimes you meet 30 year olds who are anything but and they're still 30.

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Personality and compatibility matter long term, but I wouldn't date someone i wasn't physically attracted to in some way to begin with.

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For a relationship purpose, it's basically:
Physical at first... Otherwise I wouldn't be talking to them to begin with.
Personality second... Otherwise I wouldn't stay with them for any length of time.


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Nah, most important is sexual skills.
The rest is secondary.

Youre not even going to make a move on someone if theres no physical attraction, be honest with yourselves.

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Being physically attractive gets you noticed. Having a good personality keeps them around.

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Herbette posted...

Nah, most important is sexual skills.
The rest is secondary.

I dated a girl and we had the best chemistry in bed I've ever had one with someone but I found her views on the world a bit incompatible (she was religious and I'm not)

There's a lot more to a relationship than great sex


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Everyone puts physical at a priority. People can lie in the poll, this is reality.

If you see an ogre of a man or woman it won't matter what their personality is like. You simply won't be sexually attracted to them or desire to peruse them.

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Yeah I need to like both parts about a person... But I'm perpetually single so it doesn't really matter.

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Physical attraction is just the opening presentation.
Emotional attraction is the actual contract I'm eager to sign.

Both are important for maintaining value in the long run.

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clyde_frog posted...

Youre not even going to make a move on someone if theres no physical attraction, be honest with yourselves.

Not true if you've known them awhile and their personality finally wins you over.

Less attractive people just gotta play the long game.

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