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SomeGuyUO 06/16/21 1:06:57 PM #1: |
Really bro
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Lost_All_Senses 06/16/21 1:10:17 PM #2: |
When I was in my teens, I literally never made the first move. I was a shy guy. Then the girl would keep saying we should go out. But that was partially because in teens chicks just like the idea of having a bf and don't care if it's a puddle deep relationship. And in my 20s it was all drunk shit, so that doesn't really count. Plus I'm super flirty when Im drunk. I still think some do tho.
But you can't be ok with this and not be ok with being proposed to by a woman tho, can you? How you feel about that? --- Name checks out "Try to talk and they ain't listening, but they'll point it out when you get ignorant" - Dreezy ... Copied to Clipboard!
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philsov 06/16/21 1:11:43 PM #3: |
why bother seeking out guys when there's a line of dudes already seeking her out?
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Damn_Underscore 06/16/21 1:13:13 PM #4: |
Lost_All_Senses posted...
But you can't be ok with this and not be ok with being proposed to by a woman tho, can you? How you feel about that? I think engagement rings are stupid af so I would be fine with this --- Super Nintendo Sega Genesis ... Copied to Clipboard!
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BilalPowell 06/16/21 1:13:20 PM #5: |
It's been getting more socially acceptable over time
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Background_Guy 06/16/21 1:14:06 PM #6: |
When a woman is like "Ugh, I gave him all these signals, why won't he ask me out!" it's very silly.
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Garlands_Soul 06/16/21 1:14:34 PM #7: |
Most of my girlfriends asked me out or made the first move
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Solution_45 06/16/21 1:15:45 PM #8: |
If the guy is hot enough they do
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Lost_All_Senses 06/16/21 1:16:22 PM #9: |
Also, ask yourself if you even make yourself approachable. No one's gonna just walk up to you if you got your head in your phone or your body language screams "I wanna be left alone".
I dunno. I think regardless it's just best to work on your approaching skills and ability to handle rejection, rather than expecting someone else to do the work you can't do. --- Name checks out "Try to talk and they ain't listening, but they'll point it out when you get ignorant" - Dreezy ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Kolibri X 06/16/21 1:17:52 PM #10: |
They won't though. Too much pride and no game. They'll wait and wait until they're surrounded by cat poop and wine bottles.
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codey 06/16/21 1:18:10 PM #11: |
My partner asked me out first. I'm grateful for it too, because I was always terrible at picking up cues. I could approach girls at bars because they were essentially strangers, but when it was a friend like she was I could never if they were actually flirting with me or not, so I just never acted on it.
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VigorouslySwish 06/16/21 1:18:23 PM #12: |
Its the direction society is heading for sure
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The_Yahtz09 06/16/21 1:21:30 PM #13: |
Plenty of women make the first move.
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HBOSS 06/16/21 1:49:18 PM #14: |
Same but girls asked me out.
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Will_Vill 06/16/21 1:49:55 PM #15: |
They do.
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ZannoL 06/16/21 1:50:42 PM #16: |
Its changing a lot.
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Flockaveli 06/16/21 1:52:03 PM #17: |
Happens to me all the time.
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Simp 06/16/21 1:55:50 PM #18: |
Yeah, I don't know what tc is on about. I can't even leave the house anymore without being asked out. Women are voracious.
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Cobra1010 06/16/21 1:57:44 PM #19: |
If the girl asked me alone, i would have said yes but she was with 2 other friends. I thought they were going to prank me so i fucked off.
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NoxObscuras 06/16/21 1:59:00 PM #20: |
ZannoL posted...
Its changing a lot.True. She's my ex now, but my last relationship started because she asked if I wanted to go see a movie. It caught me off guard though, I'm not going to lie lol. --- PSN - NoxObscuras Z490 | i9-10900K | EVGA 3080 FTW3 Ultra | 32GB DDR4 3600 | 4TB SSD ... Copied to Clipboard!
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smoke_break 06/16/21 2:15:31 PM #21: |
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Lost_All_Senses 06/16/21 2:23:32 PM #22: |
smoke_break posted...
I've never had a woman make the first move, must be flattering. Do you make yourself available? The difference could just be us being available. If you're not in areas where people are socializing and just chillin, it's not gonna happen. No one's gonna approach you in a grocery store or anything, cause they're not there for that. It has to be a place where the reason people are there is just to hang out --- Name checks out "Try to talk and they ain't listening, but they'll point it out when you get ignorant" - Dreezy ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Simp 06/16/21 2:24:22 PM #23: |
Lost_All_Senses posted...
It has to be a place where the reason people are there are to hang outlike CE? --- Faceless goofus in a sea of alts ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Lost_All_Senses 06/16/21 2:56:31 PM #24: |
Simp posted...
like CE? Preferably where the ratio isn't 1 to 30. --- Name checks out "Try to talk and they ain't listening, but they'll point it out when you get ignorant" - Dreezy ... Copied to Clipboard!
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rexcrk 06/16/21 3:00:36 PM #26: |
Lost_All_Senses posted...
But you can't be ok with this and not be ok with being proposed to by a woman tho, can you? How you feel about that?I legitimately would not care if a woman I was with proposed to me. But Ive also never been the type to get hung up on well the man should do this! And the woman should do this! type stuff. --- Bah weep grannah weep ni ni bon ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Shablagoo 06/16/21 3:02:35 PM #27: |
Lost_All_Senses posted...
When I was in my teens, I literally never made the first move. I was a shy guy. Then the girl would keep saying we should go out. But that was partially because in teens chicks just like the idea of having a bf and don't care if it's a puddle deep relationship. And in my 20s it was all drunk s***, so that doesn't really count. Plus I'm super flirty when Im drunk. I still think some do tho. Yeah same with all of that. Or once or twice I lucked out by being in a manic state but the good kind where it makes me seem charming and interesting and super confident where I went for it because I was thinking that aliens were sending me signals to do so or something. --- "If you wanna grow your business you need to exploit more." ~Austin_Era_II "Out of those two? Racist for me... easily." ~Vicious_Dios ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Lost_All_Senses 06/16/21 3:03:21 PM #28: |
rexcrk posted...
I legitimately would not care if a woman I was with proposed to me. That's good. Was a genuine question. Only would care, cause if I didn't ask, it meant I wasn't ready and would have to say no and make stuff awkward. But I'm open with how I feel about everything, so discussions would be had regularly about it until it became a mutual agreement. Then I'd ask. --- Name checks out "Try to talk and they ain't listening, but they'll point it out when you get ignorant" - Dreezy ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Shablagoo 06/16/21 3:06:01 PM #29: |
Lost_All_Senses posted...
Do you make yourself available? The difference could just be us being available. If you're not in areas where people are socializing and just chillin, it's not gonna happen. No one's gonna approach you in a grocery store or anything, cause they're not there for that. It has to be a place where the reason people are there is just to hang out This is true too, I was in a long relationship drought while I was unemployed years ago but once I got a job I was dating one of my coworkers within a month or two. --- "If you wanna grow your business you need to exploit more." ~Austin_Era_II "Out of those two? Racist for me... easily." ~Vicious_Dios ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Pepys Monster 06/16/21 3:15:17 PM #30: |
I've had women approach me and ask if I had a girlfriend. You just have to get lucky, pretty much.
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KogaSteelfang 06/16/21 3:29:56 PM #31: |
Lost_All_Senses posted...
When I was in my teens, I literally never made the first move. Garlands_Soul posted... Most of my girlfriends asked me out or made the first move codey posted... My partner asked me out first. HBOSS posted... Same but girls asked me out. Flockaveli posted... Happens to me all the time.*Slams head on the table* --- Work in progress, please be patient. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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bobaban 06/16/21 3:31:45 PM #32: |
Shablagoo posted...
This is true too, I was in a long relationship drought while I was unemployed years ago but once I got a job I was dating one of my coworkers within a month or two. what industry? Restaurant/Retail? ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Robot2600 06/16/21 3:34:41 PM #33: |
I had girls ask me out, but I made the moves with my partner. I had to ask her out like 5-6 times before she said yes.
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ROOTFayth 06/16/21 3:35:00 PM #34: |
happened to me a few times back when I wasn't married, if it's not happening to you, you're either not attractive enough, not exposing yourself to situations favorable to that or both
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Arcanine2009 06/16/21 3:35:20 PM #35: |
IRL, a lot of girls have made some moves on me first. it's probably been 50-50.
online they rarely initiate. usually it's by onesn i'm not attracted to. --- Less is more. Everything you want, isn't everything you need. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Lost_All_Senses 06/16/21 3:36:34 PM #36: |
KogaSteelfang posted...
*Slams head on the table* I hope you're not taking that as there's something wrong with you. It's more of a confidence thing. Which you don't even need a lot, just enough to be able to play along. I was never over confident, I always just had enough to entertain people's lead. Now, I might lead here and there, but I had to get there through exposure therapy. This has nothing to do with women, but any practice at social interactions helps. Last night the movie we were watching was blurry, so I took it upon myself to go ask if they could fix it. The thought of it made me anxious and I was anxious for the entire walk over to them, but I did it anyway. A lot of interactions aren't just someone fearlessly doing the thing, it takes work. Sadly, they acted like it was no problem and didn't fix anything lol. But Im glad I got to proceed with my life knowing I didn't let that anxiety stop me from trying. Little victory --- Name checks out "Try to talk and they ain't listening, but they'll point it out when you get ignorant" - Dreezy ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Shablagoo 06/16/21 3:42:56 PM #37: |
bobaban posted...
what industry? Restaurant/Retail? Restaurant, it was a theatre that served food (and had a small restaurant with a bar). It would get really busy of course but there was also lots of downtime, and it was a 2-screen theatre so even with cleaning we had a decent amount of time where wed just be chilling looking at our phones and chatting. --- "If you wanna grow your business you need to exploit more." ~Austin_Era_II "Out of those two? Racist for me... easily." ~Vicious_Dios ... Copied to Clipboard!
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KogaSteelfang 06/16/21 3:49:33 PM #38: |
Lost_All_Senses posted...
I hope you're not taking that as there's something wrong with you.I am. It's just more proof that I'm not good enough, and can't compete with literally any other guy. Lost_All_Senses posted... It's more of a confidence thing. Which you don't even need a lot, just enough to be able to play along.Play along with what? If I had women actively showing interest/flirting I wouldn't be in this shape. --- Work in progress, please be patient. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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bsp77 06/16/21 3:52:39 PM #39: |
KogaSteelfang posted...
*Slams head on the table*Most likely these guys put themselves into social situations on a consistent basis. They helped make it happen. --- Currently playing: Monster Hunter Rise, Bloodborne ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Lost_All_Senses 06/16/21 3:55:01 PM #40: |
KogaSteelfang posted...
I am. It's just more proof that I'm not good enough, and can't compete with literally any other guy. I just mean play along as in stay in conversation. Show interest. I get by by being open with how I feel about everything and asking questions I feel further the conversation. I literally have no knowledge of anything, but I can hold a conversation about most things because I know how to further the conversation by having them do the talking. Are you genuinely interested when having conversations about other people's lives? Cause that definitely helps --- Name checks out "Try to talk and they ain't listening, but they'll point it out when you get ignorant" - Dreezy ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Solo_Wing 06/16/21 3:56:08 PM #41: |
They do when you're attractive. Or at least, looks and feels semi attractive like having confidence, hygienic, etc. You won't land an instahoe but hey, you take what you can
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KogaSteelfang 06/16/21 4:00:21 PM #42: |
Lost_All_Senses posted...
I just mean play along as in stay in conversation. Show interest. I get by by being open with how I feel about everything and asking questions I feel further the conversation. I literally have no knowledge of anything, but I can hold a conversation about most things because I know how to further the conversation by having them do the talking.I try to. I don't talk about my life when inna conversation, so I've learned to ask about theirs instead when things head that way. It's risky, because sometimes they ask back and I don't have an answer, but yes, I try to keep the focus on them as much as possible. Solo_Wing posted... They do when you're attractive. Or at least, looks and feels semi attractive like having confidence, hygienic, etc.That's it, I'm out. --- Work in progress, please be patient. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Pepys Monster 06/16/21 4:01:20 PM #43: |
KogaSteelfang posted...
I am. It's just more proof that I'm not good enough, and can't compete with literally any other guy.Not true, bro. --- Ryzen 3700X | Evga GTX 1070 Ti | 16GB DDR4 3200 | Crucial MX500 2TB ... Copied to Clipboard!
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bsp77 06/16/21 4:01:48 PM #44: |
KogaSteelfang posted...
I try to. I don't talk about my life when inna conversation, so I've learned to ask about theirs instead when things head that way. It's risky, because sometimes they ask back and I don't have an answer, but yes, I try to keep the focus on them as much as possible.You gotta learn the give and take of talking about yourself too --- Currently playing: Monster Hunter Rise, Bloodborne ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Lost_All_Senses 06/16/21 4:03:50 PM #45: |
KogaSteelfang posted...
I try to. I don't talk about my life when inna conversation, so I've learned to ask about theirs instead when things head that way. It's risky, because sometimes they ask back and I don't have an answer, but yes, I try to keep the focus on them as much as possible. Well, you know some technique then. You might need to find an interesting hobby so that you got some type of response. I just started gardening, which isn't the most interesting thing. But at least I got a response I can throw out that's not just "watching tv and playing games" lol. And I just talk about it for 2 minutes and bounce the convo back to them, cause Im aware they probably don't wanna hear me talk about gardening. Just enough to make it known I'm doing something productive. Also, like I said, I can talk about how I feelabout whatever they talk about, which gives insight on me without talking about myself directly. Makes people feel comfortable when you're comfortable. --- Name checks out "Try to talk and they ain't listening, but they'll point it out when you get ignorant" - Dreezy ... Copied to Clipboard!
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VanananaHeyHey 06/16/21 4:05:06 PM #46: |
Where do you live, TC? I will take you out horn-doggin' with me and we will find a passably attractive girl to make small talk with you. Training wheels and confidence builders.
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teep_ 06/16/21 4:06:13 PM #47: |
I'm not aware of having been asked out
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smoke_break 06/16/21 7:31:45 PM #48: |
Lost_All_Senses posted...
Do you make yourself available? The difference could just be us being available. If you're not in areas where people are socializing and just chillin, it's not gonna happen. No one's gonna approach you in a grocery store or anything, cause they're not there for that. It has to be a place where the reason people are there is just to hang outThat's a good point and once I think about it, nope I don't. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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CoorsLight 06/16/21 7:53:34 PM #49: |
I've had girls I thought liked me but wasn't sure never ask me out, so maybe I was wrong, or this isn't as big of a thing as people are making it out to be. I don't think it's as taboo for a woman to ask a guy out anymore but it's definitely still generally the expectation for the guy to "take charge"
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Lordgold666 06/16/21 8:00:11 PM #50: |
And to stop getting oral from men in media
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