Current Events > More and more women are becoming addicted to porn. Now they....

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....are seeking counseling.

https://www.kshb.com/rebound/kansas-woman-counsels-women-who-struggle-with-porn-addiction

A Kansas woman, who counsels women addicted to porn, reached out to us.

"The only thing I ever heard even from like church sermons talking about pornography addiction was about men and their struggle and how men should don't watch porn as adultery and all of that, Crystal Renaud Day, an author and counselor on pornography addiction, said. But it never addressed the female side and never addressed the fact that women also struggle in this way.

Renaud Day said she was first exposed to pornography at the age of 10 and spent nearly a decade addicted to it. Today, she knows just how many women struggle.

My client load has grown exponentially since the start of the quarantine, three months ago or so, Renaud Day said.

Crystal has written books about her struggle and says the conversations shes having with women right now focus on whats missing from their lives.

They're saying, I didn't realize how severe my issue was until I was isolated at home and I didn't have any other outlet for my emotional, physical, mental, spiritual needs because even churches were closed, Renaud Day said. There really wasn't that ability to reach out for support.

She connected us with Brea, a woman in her twenties that found Crystal through her website.

I actually have Googled many different times and went through pages on Google, to try and find female porn addiction, or just help, Brea said. Because a lot of it was just male-dominated. And so when I was able to see even just a female name, I was like, Hey, maybe I can look on this one. Maybe there's hope.

Brea was stuck, working from home, and stuck in a cycle that she couldn't break.

But it truly has been the need, per se, of me having to watch a video in the morning before I really start my day, Brea said. It is to take a break from the reality of work and being surrounded by dishes and clothes that need to be done, and not being able to go anywhere. I really want to sleep right now. And, well, what do I do? I watch porn, so I can have that release. And then I can finally go to sleep."

[Redacted], one of the most visited pornography sites in the world, dropped the pay portion of its site when the stay-at-home orders began, and traffic saw a spike. Literally millions visit every day.

Im in a relationship and dont watch it as much as I used to. What about you dudes?

2-3 times a week

I think it's messed me up pretty bad though. Most normal chicks I'm able to hook up with don't do much for me just seeing them naked. Boobs too saggy/small/far apart, cellulite on ass/thighs.

Nothing outside of normal but my brain is just like "meh"

Comfy_Pillow posted...

2-3 times a week

I think it's messed me up pretty bad though. Most normal chicks I'm able to hook up with don't do much for me just seeing them naked. Boobs too saggy/small/far apart, cellulite on ass/thighs.

Nothing outside of normal but my brain is just like "meh"

Yea... it can definitely skew your perspective in a negative way. Its like nothing compares to the stuff you see on the screen.

Maybe once a month, I'm trying to quit entirely. As I've cut back, I do feel a lot stronger sexual desire for real women, attraction to numerous different body types, and my erections are just better too.

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Before I was in a relationship I used to watch it several times a day almost every single day

DespondentDeity posted...

Maybe once a month, I'm trying to quit entirely. As I've cut back, I do feel a lot stronger sexual desire for real women, attraction to numerous different body types, and my erections are just better too.

Thats awesome

I had an epiphany while watching porn a few months ago, where I just had this feeling that I was looking at the hottest sex that I've ever seen, and the realization that I would probably never feel like any sex I have is that hot if I continue to watch porn. I don't ever want to do that to another person, compare something beautiful they're sharing with me to something that is forever out of their reach, and I wouldn't want someone to hold me to those standards either.

I've never looked into nofap or really thought it held any value, but I am surprised at the effect that just cutting back has had on me.

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Porn is fantastic and also helps relationships. It broadens the ideas and helps create new techniques.

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You can discover new techniques with your partner through experimentation. An addict will say anything to justify their behavior tho.

Like, porn is fantastic? Even porn that exploits women, glorifies rape and incest and other types of abuse, or perpetuates racist stereotypes? I think some porn is genuinely artistic and beautiful, and really emphasizes the agency of the artists to make their own choices in how they express themselves, but so much of it is just gross.

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you need to stop watching those types of porn videos

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^ That's a silly thing to say

Plenty of movies, books, music glorifies horrible attitude or bad things

Hating the medium for the sick things people do with it is madness
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I think everything in moderation is fine. Just dont watch the super degrading kind of porn. And try not to watch porn all day.

I still watch porn. But nowhere near the amount I used to watch.

now i think i watched too much that im tired of even looking for something new/exciting for me

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Dark_SilverX posted...

you need to stop watching those types of porn videos

I don't and I never have, and don't forget I asked you a question. You said porn is fantastic and you're refusing to say that that doesn't include the gross unethical shit.

UnfairRepresent posted...

^ That's a silly thing to say

Plenty of movies, books, music glorifies horrible attitude or bad things

Hating the medium for the sick things people do with it is madness

I don't hate the medium, I literally just said that some of it is genuinely artful, but I hate the inherent misogyny and abuse and anyone who creates a demand for it.

You're the one on some super dumb shit because those other mediums don't express those ideas by actually performing the acts on participants whose consent is nebulous, or gained through coercion and misdirection.

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DespondentDeity posted...

I don't and I never have, and don't forget I asked you a question. You said porn is fantastic and you're refusing to say that that doesn't include the gross unethical shit. Like I said, an addict will say anything.

It depends on the type of porn that can be fantastic.

The "degrading" videos you're talking about have both men and women getting disrespected in them and videos like those shouldn't be watched or made and such acts shouldn't happen.

So...stop watching the Evil porn.

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