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AFrench2 posted...

You will NEVER defeat the human spirit. You will NEVER defeat God....

You willl NEVER win!

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Topic title is probably true

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Harpie posted...

Welp lol

The only advice I can give you then is to pace yourself. If you seem overeager to be talking to her, it looks like youre desperate. And being desperate is a HUGE turnoff.

Tips on how to not appear desperate when youre desperate:
* Dont compliment her more than once or twice per conversation/date. Youd think itd be the other way around, but its common for guys to go overboard with this. Too much and it seems like youre just trying to compliment your way into her pants. Which wont work
* No bombarding her with texts, especially when shes not even answering
* Going off the first one, dont make any comments about her taking too long to respond. Dont ask why, dont triple text. Just leave it and have patience. Its very unlikely shes playing mind games so try not to let it affect your ego. Its a breath of fresh air when you dont seem demanding, and shell like you a lot more for it
* Do not mention your insecurities when first talking to a girl. Even though you may be self conscious about taking her out/not having a lot of experience, keep it to yourself in the beginning and pretend that you know what youre doing

A guy that looks like he knows what hes doing is a huge turn on. It doesnt matter what you look like if youre confident and sit up straight. I promise you Im not lying about this to make you feel better. Confidence is probably one of the hottest things you can have in the beginning of a relationship

This is all based on my experience, and what other girls Ive talked with have said. Youre welcome for the essay you never asked for

so Im pretty successful with chicks (Im attractive) but pretty much what you said is right (I dont even realize I do this naturally)

so dudes out there, just be cocky/dont care at the same time

i never compliment, I even say it to the chick just to make her know, then after a while I say your hair is fire and shell start blushing and remember how you said you never compliment but you just have her one


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AFrench2 posted...

You will NEVER defeat the human spirit. You will NEVER defeat God....

You willl NEVER win!

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Harpie posted...

Welp lol

The only advice I can give you then is to pace yourself. If you seem overeager to be talking to her, it looks like youre desperate. And being desperate is a HUGE turnoff.

Tips on how to not appear desperate when youre desperate:
* Dont compliment her more than once or twice per conversation/date. Youd think itd be the other way around, but its common for guys to go overboard with this. Too much and it seems like youre just trying to compliment your way into her pants. Which wont work
* No bombarding her with texts, especially when shes not even answering
* Going off the first one, dont make any comments about her taking too long to respond. Dont ask why, dont triple text. Just leave it and have patience. Its very unlikely shes playing mind games so try not to let it affect your ego. Its a breath of fresh air when you dont seem demanding, and shell like you a lot more for it
* Do not mention your insecurities when first talking to a girl. Even though you may be self conscious about taking her out/not having a lot of experience, keep it to yourself in the beginning and pretend that you know what youre doing

A guy that looks like he knows what hes doing is a huge turn on. It doesnt matter what you look like if youre confident and sit up straight. I promise you Im not lying about this to make you feel better. Confidence is probably one of the hottest things you can have in the beginning of a relationship

This is all based on my experience, and what other girls Ive talked with have said. Youre welcome for the essay you never asked for

I wonder if girls on Tinder think I desperate because I type decent sized messages to genuinely get to know them.


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Everytime I had one it always eventually felt like a chore after a few months. For the most part im a real home body that needs me time and when you have a gf you gotta see them frequently multiple times a week which felt like a drain to me lol. Or maybe im just too selfish for a gf i dont know

Its easily one of the most overrated experiences or i just have never met the right one. If I want the gf experience i jsut listen to Lana Del Rey albums and close my eyes XD

Maybe i just was meant for one lol

SaccharineSmile posted...

so Im pretty successful with chicks (Im attractive) but pretty much what you said is right (I dont even realize I do this naturally)

so dudes out there, just be cocky/dont care at the same time

i never compliment, I even say it to the chick just to make her know, then after a while I say your hair is fire and shell start blushing and remember how you said you never compliment but you just have her one

Exactly. A lot of guys treat dating like a transaction, and then theyre surprised when it doesnt work. Compliments and going wayyy out of your way to be nice her liking you back

Vermander posted...

I wonder if girls on Tinder think I desperate because I type decent sized messages to genuinely get to know them.

100%

Ive had a lot of girls show me their tinder messages because of long winded texts they got from a guy. It comes off as desperate and like you only have one goal in mind.

Take it easy on the messages. Texting is not the way to get to know each other anyways. Keep things flirty and fun in the dms, and save the getting to know each other part for your actual date

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The sad truth is that people's perception of you is partly determined by your look, so a lot of common advice doesn't actually work if you're not good-looking. A good-looking guy will always seem more confident and funny because people are primed to see that in them already. You can make up for ugliness by being confident or funny but it only goes so far

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Harpie posted...

Exactly. A lot of guys treat dating like a transaction, and then theyre surprised when it doesnt work. Compliments and going wayyy out of your way to be nice her liking you back

100%

Ive had a lot of girls show me their tinder messages because of long winded texts they got from a guy. It comes off as desperate and like you only have one goal in mind.

Take it easy on the messages. Texting is not the way to get to know each other anyways. Keep things flirty and fun in the dms, and save the getting to know each other part for your actual date

What actual date? The world is in a pandemic.


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I have a girlfriend, but it's for the first time in my life. We've been together a while now and it's nice. But before her I definitely thought I was going to die foreveralone and a virgin. Aside from losing a lot of weight, I didn't really do anything to deserve a girlfriend. Still don't get what she sees in me but I try not to think about it like that. I think about it more like "she must like something about me, roll with it" and that's a better/more positive frame of mind.

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Isn't this vegys motto?

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Just lower your standards guys.

joe40001 posted...

It's weird when people come into a topic for depressed or lonely people just to flex how they are not depressed or lonely.

That's sums up this whole board actually.

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Chicken_Butt posted...

I have a girlfriend, but it's for the first time in my life. We've been together a while now and it's nice. But before her I definitely thought I was going to die foreveralone and a virgin. Aside from losing a lot of weight, I didn't really do anything to deserve a girlfriend. Still don't get what she sees in me but I try not to think about it like that. I think about it more like "she must like something about me, roll with it" and that's a better/more positive frame of mind.

Would you say that having someone in your life like that has been a positive change? Obviously it's not going to be world shattering, but it's made things easier?

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KogaSteelfang posted...

Would you say that having someone in your life like that has been a positive change? Obviously it's not going to be world shattering, but it's made things easier?

Yeah, for sure. Before, I used to think I was just an unwantable foreveralone. I think most of that was in my head tbh. Always down, always negative, always doubting, always second-guessing, no will to live or put in effort. My outlook is way better since we got together. Plus now it always feels like I have something to look forward to. Before, it felt like I was stuck in a loop. Every day was about the same. Now every day feels new like when I was a kid.

I'll be 30 next year. I was almost a wizard. I was real real close to buying my robe and wizard hat.

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Chicken_Butt posted...

Yeah, for sure. Before, I used to think I was just an unwantable foreveralone. I think most of that was in my head tbh. Always down, always negative, always doubting, always second-guessing, no will to live or put in effort. My outlook is way better since we got together. Plus now it always feels like I have something to look forward to. Before, it felt like I was stuck in a loop. Every day was about the same. Now every day feels new like when I was a kid.

I'll be 30 next year. I was almost a wizard. I was real real close to buying my robe and wizard hat.

Ok thanks. Good to know.

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