Current Events > are there any bigger red flags than when despite being good-looking, one struggl

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struggles to find a partner

the best-looking people on 90 day fianc are often the most sketch/off of all of them, i swear

inb4kogasteelfangpostshere

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Physical attractiveness isn't the only requisite for finding a partner. So no, without further knowledge, I would just assume it's either bad luck, they've had a reason to not date, or perhaps there's something totally benign about them that makes it rare for them to be with someone.

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cavalierking posted...

struggles to find a partner

the best-looking people on 90 day fianc are often the most sketch/off of all of them, i swear

inb4kogasteelfangpostshere

Does he stalk you?

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Whoever is post 2 has me blocked

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inloveanddeath0 posted...

Does he stalk you?

No, I don't. I just post way too much in similar topics and he doesn't like me. This topic in particular seems designed specifically to draw my attention since the two things mentioned are exactly what I struggle with.

TC thinks I'm ugly, while most others here and irl say I'm attractive. Either way though, I'm hopelessly alone and can't find success in life. I have really bad self esteem, and take it out on myself by posting severely negative things about myself. I used to constantly post about being ugly, but then I realized that's not exactly my decision to make. So I stopped posting that and tried accepting that people thought I was attractive, and tc started letting me know he thinks they're full of it.

Now I just assume I'm not worth anything to any potential partner, and haven't tried in several years. I still lament here about it though.

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please don't conflate people willing to be on 90 day fiance with normal people.

There are tons of worse and larger red flags, lol.
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KogaSteelfang posted...

No, I don't. I just post way too much in similar topics and he doesn't like me. This topic in particular seems designed specifically to draw my attention since the two things mentioned are exactly what I struggle with.

TC thinks I'm ugly, while most others here and irl say I'm attractive. Either way though, I'm hopelessly alone and can't find success in life. I have really bad self esteem, and take it out on myself by posting severely negative things about myself. I used to constantly post about being ugly, but then I realized that's not exactly my decision to make. So I stopped posting that and tried accepting that people thought I was attractive, and tc started letting me know he thinks they're full of it.

Now I just assume I'm not worth anything to any potential partner, and haven't tried in several years. I still lament here about it though.

so you have a complex all because one user on an online message board thinks youre ugly? I must be missing something.

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dj1200 posted...

so you have a complex all because one user on an online message board thinks youre ugly? I must be missing something.

No, he has a problem with me because I have that complex. It's much farther reaching in my life than this place. It's just posting about it here has become my outlet.

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KogaSteelfang posted...

No, I don't. I just post way too much in similar topics and he doesn't like me. This topic in particular seems designed specifically to draw my attention since the two things mentioned are exactly what I struggle with.

TC thinks I'm ugly, while most others here and irl say I'm attractive. Either way though, I'm hopelessly alone and can't find success in life. I have really bad self esteem, and take it out on myself by posting severely negative things about myself. I used to constantly post about being ugly, but then I realized that's not exactly my decision to make. So I stopped posting that and tried accepting that people thought I was attractive, and tc started letting me know he thinks they're full of it.

Now I just assume I'm not worth anything to any potential partner, and haven't tried in several years. I still lament here about it though.

dude, i don't think you're ugly

i just don't think you're the 8+/10 you constantly claim yourself to be, especially given that you're an almost 40-year-old virgin despite trying

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my other problem with you is that you've posted the same story literally hundreds of times over the years, and the only way i can genuinely rationalize somebody doing that is if they were somehow trying to get pity sex from somebody on here/trying to get somebody on here to hook them up with somebody for pity sex

which is fucking pathetic

like, nobody vents that much - year after year, spanning hundreds of posts - all relating to the same

exact

thing

unless they have some creepy, disgusting ulterior motive

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lastly, this topic genuinely had nothing to do with you, but as i was writing it up, it occurred to me that there was a chance you'd somehow find and post in it, so i left that spoiler text in as a half-joke

that you actually still somehow found this topic, despite the last post having been three hours ago from your own reply, says it all

you purposely seek these topics out (again, like a creep) and will vomit up the same story you've been typing up for years to get anybody who isn't fortunate enough to already be familiar with your m.o. to pity you

it's completely disgusting

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nice essay

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seriously, what terms is this dude regularly typing into the search bar to where he found this topic

he claims to have no self-esteem and be depressed all of the time or whatever, but dissonantly, narcissistically, and regularly seeking these kinds of topics out and propagating that he's good-looking all of the time somehow isn't beyond him... ?

foh

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cavalierking posted...

seriously, what terms is this dude regularly typing into the search bar to where he found this topic

he claims to have no self-esteem and be depressed all of the time or whatever, but dissonantly, narcissistically, and regularly seeking these kinds of topics out and propagating that he's good-looking all of the time somehow isn't beyond him... ?

foh

Ask around, I claim to be ugly far more than I claim to be attractive. I never deny what I get from these topics, it feels good to vent, and I used to get support from people here. I'd never gotten that before.

Besides, I didn't search this topic out at all. It was on the 3rd page. You yourself noticed it's the type of topic I tend to post in, and even mentioned me by name in the opening post.

I post the same thing because it's still an issue in my life that's a major irritant. Especially seeing so many other topics about people's lives on here. It wears me down and the only relief is to vent. Plus I would never expect anyone from here to give me a chance, not after they've seen what I post. I just want to talk to people.

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