Current Events > What are your thoughts/experiences regarding unrequited love?

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Maybe you experienced it on both ends of the spectrum.

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Too real of a topic for CE lol

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It's the worst and I'm glad I'll never feel anything for another person again

Sucked, but I never got too caught up on it. I usually just stayed a friend while making non disruptive comments to keep my feelings relevant. I kept doing my thing on the side and figured maybe they'll come around or they won't. Usually our lives just eventually grew apart.

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Feels bad man

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Back in high school and maybe a year after graduating, I had a bunch of crushes and "almost but not quite" kind of things and it bothered me because none of them were direct with what they wanted. If someone had just said, "hey I'm not into you" I would've dropped it. I was too oblivious to pick up on all the meaning in the excuses, and my friends/pop culture really pushed the whole "persistence" angle, so I gained a reputation as an "orbiter," I think is the word used today. I never got into creepy or harassing territory but I did get a bit of a chip on my shoulder after not knowing when to leave people alone drew resentment and hostility towards me. I was also a pawn in someone's game with their partner, and that really sucked.

I got some perspective in my early to mid 20s when I was on the other side a few times and realized it's not fun/easy for (most) people to reject someone. I try to be as direct and firm as possible while not being an asshole about it but it's not always successful. The good thing about experiencing that kind of rejection first was that it gave me the insight to not use people in situations like that. My friends would use somebody they didn't care about and get all kinds of revenge antics, then couldn't understand why someone would lash out like that. I was just like

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