Current Events > Gf says she wants to be married to me, but I can't get over some hiccups.

(+) Yeah! (+)

I still feel like her ex husband is a much higher priority than me sometimes.

She has two kids with him, helps pay his bills, and recently got a car with him (they already have 1). This most recent car thing sort of bothers me.

Her dad gave her some money to purchase a new car. Naturally, I had to go to the doctor yesterday for severe pain. Her and the ex go and get the new car. I wasnt involved with the purchased, nor have a I been put on to be able to drive it.

despite my illness, she immediately came and stayed with me to make sure that I was ok. Ive got such a weird ebb and flow feeling with her, she takes good care of me sometimes but then I have this emotional distress when it comes to her ex. Am I just over reacting here CE?

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lmfao who's alt is this

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Is this copypasta? Cause if not, you have the emotional read skills of a piece of tuna. No, you do not marry this person.

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Try drinking water or having someone scare you

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Guide posted...

Is this copypasta? Cause if not, you have the emotional read skills of a piece of tuna. No, you do not marry this person.

ok so Im literally that infatuated then arent I?

R1masher posted...

Try drinking water or having someone scare you

Is it really that bad lol

The real question is does she still answer your texts when she's fucking him? If she does it means she loves you more but just can't forget about his D, that's all.

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Chicken_Butt posted...

The real question is does she still answer your texts when she's fucking him? If she does it means she loves you more but just can't forget about his D, that's all.

bleh that made my stomach turn

Is this a joke, TC?

All youre missing is some details like your girlfriend saying youre allowed to watch her have sex with other men when you behave, so that you can be a true feminist ally.

On the off chance that you were being serious, please run, not walk, far away from that relationship.

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Lorenzo_2003 posted...

Is this a joke, TC?

All youre missing is some details like your girlfriend saying youre allowed to watch her have sex with other men when you behave, so that you can be a true feminist ally.

On the off chance that you were being serious, please run, not walk, far away from that relationship.

Yeah Im being serious.

heres a wrench: shes pregnant with my kid.

Why did she buy a car with him?

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this does not seem like a healthy romantic dynamic

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maoriwarrior posted...

shes pregnant with my kid.

Half of this statement has a 100% chance of being true. The other half, not so much.

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so her ex husband is actually her husband and you're some guy she knows?

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I'm glad this is CE where everyone lies because damn this would be a sad existence for a real person.

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Alteres posted...

Why did she buy a car with him?

they share cars on behalf of the kids.

TheMikh posted...

this does not seem like a healthy romantic dynamic

A fair amount of time it certainly doesnt feel healthy.

Chicken_Butt posted...

Half of this statement has a 100% chance of being true. The other half, not so much.

Ive considered that, but see it as highly unlikely.

Flockaveli posted...

I'm glad this is CE where everyone lies because damn this would be a sad existence for a real person.

@Flockaveli yeah, welcome to my shitty life.

If you continue being a good sport he might buy you a Nintendo Switch Lite for your birthday

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maoriwarrior posted...

Ive considered that, but see it as highly unlikely.

If you have to consider it at all, there is a HUGE problem.

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So do you just agree to this because you're afraid of and uncomfortable with being alone?

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maoriwarrior posted...

Ive considered that, but see it as highly unlikely.

Please do not sign anything until you are 100 percent sure. Dont let anyone pressure you into signing your life away.

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R1masher posted...

Try drinking water or having someone scare you

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Well one thing I think you should do is go down to the courthouse and make sure there's a divorce certificate.

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Stand on your head for a minute and eat a spoonful of sugar while upside down, that helps

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Have you discussed any of this with her?

Chicken_Butt posted...

If you have to consider it at all, there is a HUGE problem.

@Chicken_Butt trust me, I know. I guess Im just trying to be considerate and faithful of the situation.

Flockaveli posted...

So do you just agree to this because you're afraid of and uncomfortable with being alone?

@Flockaveli in a sense, yeah. Ive been alone for so much of my life, and it was the driving force of losing all my weight. I think Ive just come to a breaking point.

Lorenzo_2003 posted...

Please do not sign anything until you are 100 percent sure. Dont let anyone pressure you into signing your life away.

wont the hospital force me to sign after the child is born if Im present?

__aCEr__ posted...

Well one thing I think you should do is go down to the courthouse and make sure there's a divorce certificate.

Already checked that haha

maoriwarrior posted...

@Chicken_Butt trust me, I know. I guess Im just trying to be considerate and faithful of the situation.

@Flockaveli in a sense, yeah. Ive been alone for so much of my life, and it was the driving force of losing all my weight. I think Ive just come to a breaking point.

wont the hospital force me to sign after the child is born if Im present?

Already checked that haha

The hospital can't force you to sign a birth certificate

Cleo_II posted...

Have you discussed any of this with her?

@Cleo_II

off and on most definitely. The problem I have with discussing these things with her always falls into her talking about how shes ruined me and how she feels suicidal. I always have to steer the conversation into proactive steps to fixing these things and recommending her therapy and/or mental help. I just feel tired of it being a revolving door. I too have mental difficulty so I understand her viewpoint, I just cant bring myself to constantly have to deal with that.

maoriwarrior posted...

The problem I have with discussing these things with her always falls into her talking about how shes ruined me and how she feels suicidal.

Holy hell, my dude.

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maoriwarrior posted...

@Cleo_II

off and on most definitely. The problem I have with discussing these things with her always falls into her talking about how shes ruined me and how she feels suicidal. I always have to steer the conversation into proactive steps to fixing these things and recommending her therapy and/or mental help. I just feel tired of it being a revolving door. I too have mental difficulty so I understand her viewpoint, I just cant bring myself to constantly have to deal with that.

Sounds like shes manipulating you emotionally whenever you try to discuss anything with her. Thats a terrible dynamic. Are either of you in therapy? I know you have a kid with her on the way but this is not a healthy relationship, as Im sure you already know.

Chicken_Butt posted...

Holy hell, my dude.

@Chicken_Butt

yeah, to say the least. I truly do love her. I havent had a connection like this with anyone in my life which is why I suppose I tolerate this shit. Maybe a better question I can ask myself is what I can do to negate those responses from her when we discuss these things.

Cleo_II posted...

Sounds like shes manipulating you emotionally whenever you try to discuss anything with her. Thats a terrible dynamic. Are either of you in therapy? I know you have a kid with her on the way but this is not a healthy relationship, as Im sure you already know.

@Cleo_II

do you suppose its intentional? Or do you think shes using it subconsciously as some sort of defense mechanism?

maoriwarrior posted...

The problem I have with discussing these things with her always falls into her talking about how shes ruined me and how she feels suicidal. I always have to steer the conversation into proactive steps to fixing these things and recommending her therapy and/or mental help. I just feel tired of it being a revolving door.

Reread what you wrote there, except this time read it as if you were an objective, disconnected third party. Imagine what a person like that would think about the giant red flags you mentioned. Then imagine clearly what that person would say to you as advice. Turn those rational, unbiased thoughts into words and actually say them out loud.


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maoriwarrior posted...

do you suppose its intentional? Or do you think shes using it subconsciously as some sort of defense mechanism?

*Talk about A*
*Conversation steers away from A and into completely unrelated B and leaves A unresolved*
*happens multiple times*

Yes, it is intentional.
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Sad_Face posted...

*Talk about A*
*Conversation steers away from A and into completely unrelated B and leaves A unresolved*
*happens multiple times*

Yes, it is intentional.

Yup, definitely.

Don't marry her unless you're willing to take his last name.

Yah she doesn't sound like marriage material, get out quick.

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maoriwarrior posted...

She has two kids with him, helps pay his bills, and recently got a car with him (they already have 1). This most recent car thing sort of bothers me.

Her dad gave her some money to purchase a new car. Naturally, I had to go to the doctor yesterday for severe pain. Her and the ex go and get the new car. I wasnt involved with the purchased, nor have a I been put on to be able to drive it.

Uh assuming this is real that's a huge red flag lol

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TC is a cuck

CE blogfaqs topics are always glorious trainwrecks

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I actually believe this.

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maoriwarrior posted...

heres a wrench: shes pregnant with my kid.

Are you sure about that?

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She is pregnant, odds are very low that it is your child, run as fast as you can away from this woman, and never marry her unless you enjoy being a cuck.

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maoriwarrior posted...

She has two kids with him, helps pay his bills, and recently got a car with him (they already have 1).

she has enough kids... if you want to marry her then i would say avoid having any more. there are various reasons for that.


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Sad_Face posted...

*Talk about A*
*Conversation steers away from A and into completely unrelated B and leaves A unresolved*
*happens multiple times*

Yes, it is intentional.

@Sad_Face

i happen to agree. Love makes people consider completely abnormal things to be substantiated. I guess thats why this is all so fucking difficult.

MC_BatCommander posted...

Uh assuming this is real that's a huge red flag lol

@MC_BatCommander i quite literally have 0 reason to fabricate a story like this.

MirageOfRuins posted...

TC is a cuck

@MirageOfRuins

do you not see that I already extensively hate myself for this situation? Obviously Im having a difficult time with all of this bullshit. I also have no reason to believe that I deserve anything better.

I read the topic as OP having problem with literal hiccups. "Can't marry you because the hiccup problem."

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maoriwarrior posted...

I also have no reason to believe that I deserve anything better.

Not true man. What you don't deserve is to be mistreated or neglected or set aside.

Here man. It took me a minute to remember what this song was called and how it goes but dude.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0TLK-i2X9zw

And man, it's pretty clear now you're not happy in this situation. That's no way to live. You might think that what you're doing is the "right" thing to do but to me it only looks right for everyone but you.

I'm not saying just throw everything away and walk, but set clear boundaries and tell her how it's hurting you and how that's damaging your relationship and if she can't respect that, then you might have to make some harder choices.

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maoriwarrior posted...

The problem I have with discussing these things with her always falls into her talking about how shes ruined me and how she feels suicidal.

How far along is the pregnancy?

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Chicken_Butt posted...

Not true man. What you don't deserve is to be mistreated or neglected or set aside.

Here man. It took me a minute to remember what this song was called and how it goes but dude.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0TLK-i2X9zw

And man, it's pretty clear now you're not happy in this situation. That's no way to live. You might think that what you're doing is the "right" thing to do but to me it only looks right for everyone but you.

I'm not saying just throw everything away and walk, but set clear boundaries and tell her how it's hurting you and how that's damaging your relationship and if she can't respect that, then you might have to make some harder choices.

@Chicken_Butt

damn. That song hit hard. Thanks for giving me that. I know that Im blindly infatuated but I completely understand that the time may be near for some hard re evaluation.

PatrickMahomes posted...

How far along is the pregnancy?

Weve got three months left approximately

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hT2tAQluk0E

Skye Reynolds posted...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hT2tAQluk0E

That made me laugh

[LFAQs-redacted-quote]

Dont get me wrong, thats the plan.