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Vita_Aeterna
02/04/20 2:25:33 AM
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Anyone else struggling or struggled with this?

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SoundNetwork
02/04/20 2:26:35 AM
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Why is it hard for you

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Garioshi
02/04/20 2:33:24 AM
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Offer to buy people lunch after class

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Cosmic_Diabetic
02/04/20 2:45:24 AM
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Do you join school clubs? Just keep trying, sometimes it takes time to find the right people. It's just about right time right place.

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Vita_Aeterna
02/04/20 2:45:29 AM
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SoundNetwork posted...
Why is it hard for you
People don't really want to create meaningful friendships. Once the semester is done, it's seeya later time.

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Lorenzo_2003
02/04/20 3:39:14 AM
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If people dont want to make deep friendships than they either arent friendly to begin with (could be due to anxiety or something like that), or they just dont see the value in spending their time, energy and other resources on you. It might be a harsh question, but are you worth being friends with and do other people know it?

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Chicken
02/04/20 3:49:47 AM
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Its hard for a young adult to befriend people in an environment where theres literally hundreds of people around your age who share similar beliefs and interests and you have no choice but to mingle with them every single day?

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darkmaian23
02/04/20 3:57:15 AM
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College is probably the best time in your life to create deep friendships. It gets so much harder when you are older. If you find yourself unable to make friends, take inventory:
  1. Are you negative all the time? Negativity pushes people away quickly.
  2. How are your social skills? If you come across as awkward or desperate for attention, that's a huge turn off even if you are a nice guy. Everyone is kind of awkward at your age, but try and beef up your social awareness.
  3. Are you engaged in clubs and outside activities? Class is fine for basic conversations and seeing people, but you need to go further to build actual relationships with people.
  4. Your expectations might not be realistic. It's normal in life for friends to grow apart. I don't know your exact age, but by the time you graduate, you'll have probably lost contact with everyone you used to know in high school aside from a good buddy or two. Later on when you get a career going, you'll make friends in a city and eventually leave them behind.
  5. Your expectations might not be realistic #2. Even when you have a good friend, unless they live close by, you won't see or hear from them all the time. They are your friend, not your wife or girlfriend.
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