Current Events > For those who are single/forever alones,is there a girl you just can't get over?

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For me long story but there was a girl I went to high school with and oddly ended up in the same dorm building in college. I was absolutely crazy for her but never felt like I was remotely good enough for her.

I've had a lot of failed hook up attempts, but that one never stopped hurting even over 10 years later.

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@Pepys_Monster

Not anymore. For years it was a classmate from University. Took her getting married and having kids for my dumb brain to go ok now it's not happening for sure.

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mattnd2007 posted...

Not anymore. For years it was a classmate from University. Took her getting married and having kids for my dumb brain to go ok now it's not happening for sure.

You're not dumb bro, I had a crush on a sales vendor from work who would take me to lunch/coffee/NBA games and stuff. She split from her fiancee and I was like "omg maybe a chance" but nah.

The heart wants what it wants, don't feel bad.
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mattnd2007 posted...

Not anymore. For years it was a classmate from University. Took her getting married and having kids for my dumb brain to go ok now it's not happening for sure.

Yeah the girl I'm thinking of recently got engaged and I'm very jelly. Personally I'm not sure if I even want to get married or have kids, but I always wish I could have formed a close relationship with her more than anyone else to find out for sure. In the end I wish her the absolute best she's had a very hard life and worked to earn everything she has but I can't deny it hurts like hell,

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GS4Life posted...

mattnd2007 posted...

Not anymore. For years it was a classmate from University. Took her getting married and having kids for my dumb brain to go ok now it's not happening for sure.

Yeah the girl I'm thinking of recently got engaged and I'm very jelly. Personally I'm not sure if I even want to get married or have kids, but I always wish I could have formed a close relationship with her more than anyone else to find out for sure. In the end I wish her the absolute best she's had a very hard life and worked to earn everything she has but I can't deny it hurts like hell,

Just date.

I was once the same, even recently. Found someone online and now we love eachother and it'll be 6 months here right at the end of DEC.

You just gotta get out there. Gamefaqs is fun but will never get you married or happy.
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Yeah :/ I dream about her sometimes when I'm not interested in anyone else. Pretty rough to wake up from. She's married now.

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AFrench2 posted...

Just date.

I was once the same, even recently. Found someone online and now we love eachother and it'll be 6 months here right at the end of DEC.

You just gotta get out there. Gamefaqs is fun but will never get you married or happy.

I mean don't get me wrong especially when I was in college I still tried to flirt and find other girls. Not too long ago there was another girl I had a bit of a crush where I worked but I didn't see her to often and ended up getting a different job. Bottom line is I'm just not good at the whole romance/flirting shtick.

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Aren't you a NBAB God? I refuse to believe that a big baller like you ain't dipping in hot cali blondes 24/7 tbh

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There was a lady at my current job I had a crush on. Didn't really know her that well. Just pretty and a good personality. Turned out she was already engaged and is now married.

It's not like I've really been trying though. Women are fun but can be a headache. My ex made me kind of "scared" of women. That she could treat me so poorly and seemingly not care about how she treated me. Like no remorse. At all.

Obviously I'm not saying all are like that. They are actually probably pretty rare. But she left some emotional scars for sure.

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mattnd2007 posted...

There was a lady at my current job I had a crush on. Didn't really know her that well. Just pretty and a good personality. Turned out she was already engaged and is now married.

It's not like I've really been trying though. Women are fun but can be a headache. My ex made me kind of "scared" of women. That she could treat me so poorly and seemingly not care about how she treated me. Like no remorse. At all.

Obviously I'm not saying all are like that. They are actually probably pretty rare. But she left some emotional scars for sure.

The shit I've heard that some exes do terrifies me (one of my cuz's exes was batshit insane), but I never experienced a relationship before and it's left an enormus void in my life.

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Yeah the early days were nice before she turned into a crazy bitch that treated me like shit.

She was like a good friend that I also got to do naughty stuff with. Had similar interests in common.

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Yes >_> she's single and I'd definitely ask her out, but she's off traveling and broke up with her bf cause they had a ldr, so I don't fancy my chances lmao
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I miss my ex fiance.
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A psychiatrist once told someone I know that normal people experience emotions like depression, sadness, etc. It's only abnormal when it lasts too long, whatever that is (I think a lot of this stuff is subjective).

Personally I think this passionate "love" thing is more of the same. It's normal to be charmed by someone for a bit, but being unable to get over it is a problem imo. I think it's perpetuated by movies and media that romanticizes this "undying" love, when it's a bunch of heartache that needs not have happened.

Everyone has what's coming to them in life. If you didn't get it, it is what it is. No different than crying over spilt milk.

I think about the only girlfriend I ever had, in high school, sometimes.

Also I wonder about this girl with asperger's (I have it too) that I tried to date for like 5 years but never could and then I moved away. I often wonder if I could have made it work if I did something different

Not in that sense. My last ex definitely messed with my head a bit, to the point where my mindset is well after the last one, I dont even have any interest in dating anymore. Fuck that shit. But Ive never had good luck with women at all. I know people say theres someone for everyone! but sometimes I truly feel that Im not meant for that kind of life.

There is the one girl I knew like two years ago at my job (while I was working at a different location within my job) that seemed like we were kind of clicking and of course before I could like give her my number or something, she quit. Couldnt find her on any social media or anything either. I think about her from time to time.
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I miss my ex. We only broke up last month, but fuck.

I can't go back with her, cause even though it was an amicable break, I have some pent up resentment. At the same time, I don't have the will to get involved with anyone again, unless it's the easiest thing in the world.
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yes.
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Not really. There's one that stings to think about how foolish I was at the time though. I had a fairly big crush on her, but she was way out of my league. Super pretty, talented, and always had a flock of guys after her. So I figured my chances were less than zero.

We worked the same job, but my shift was after hers. We'd only see each other when she was leaving. She had mentioned before that she hated that kind of attention, so I decided to leave her alone and just not bother. But one night she stayed late just to talk with me, it was really nice. We joked and laughed with each other, she was kind of playful and bubbly. No one's ever treated me like that before, or after... So like an idiot I kind of thought that maybe she did like me after all.

Turns out I was wrong of course. Some co-workers kept trying to get us to date, saying we'd make beautiful babies together. At this point she's still talking with me and being regular friendly. So when it got mentioned again that we should date, I said I wouldn't mind that. Word got back to her of what I said, and she distanced herself. Wouldn't talk to me or even look at me any more. I should've known, she was never interested. It was just an overly friendly moment that led to us being closer and then I ruined it.
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The one thing I feel compelled to note is that your "league" isn't something you should consider, ever; I'm not super handsome, and I have a ton of mental baggage, but most of the girls I've gotten were all super hot.

I mean, most of them were mentally unstable too, but they were super hot. Maybe I don't know what I'm talking about.
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Was gonna skip this part, but whatever. To continue on about the co-worker I liked, I quit that job shortly afterwards because of unrelated issues. Thought that would be the end of it

Turns out that my dad had been causing her issues too. Apparently he'd been sending her raunchy texts and pictures, she just forwarded them to my mom and it caused a lot of drama there. So, to be honest I'm not sure if her pulling away was actually a reaction to me, or if it was because of him. Also unsure if he was actually trying to get with her himself, or if he just did that to ruin things for me since he knew I liked her. I'm leaning towards the latter, but it doesn't matter now anyway. She's with someone else now and it turns out I never had a chance regardless.
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