Current Events > Would you let your 16 yo daughter go out of town with her friends for a concert?

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Shes very bright and mature for her age and she says her friends are very reliable, but you have doubts...
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I don't see any winning here, lol. Whenever I think about having kids (especially a girl) it's like nightmare fuel.

If you're always telling her no and trying to control her life, you'll have a shit relationship with her that may last forever.

If you let her go, you do so knowing there's more than likely going to be drugs and alcohol, casual sex, the whole shebang. You'll get points with her, but you have to trust that she's going to make good decisions (be aware of what she's taking, stick close to people she trusts, don't get in a car with a drunk driver, use condoms for sex, etc). I think you'd worry about them a lot.
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depends on if I know the friends and how closely. but even then, I might be worried. anything can happen on the backroads between towns. I've seen lots of movies

Nope, and Im only 6 years away from this potential reality.... fuck

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nativengine posted...

Nope, and Im only 6 years away from this potential reality.... fuck

Bro, I went to a concert recently and I swear I here we're 15 year olds twerking half naked. Not sure how they even got in.
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My 24 year old friend's mom wouldn't let her go out of town to a rave with me. So no, I wouldn't let my 16 year old daughter.
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Id lean no, id probably defer to the mom

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Yes, assuming I know and trust the friends and have reliable information
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What made you think of this topic?
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inloveanddeath0 posted...

What made you think of this topic?

Well my eldest younger sister goes to concerts a lot with her friends and my mom is worried sometimes. I wanted to know how CE would handle it just at an age where you are still her guardian.
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Depends how well I know her friends
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Pretty safe assuming her friends are protective
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so duncanwii's totally real sister is out having drug fueled orgies at concerts while duncanwii has to ask permission to hold his totally real girlfriend's hand
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The Trent posted...

so duncanwii's totally real sister is out having drug fueled orgies at concerts while duncanwii has to ask permission to hold his totally real girlfriend's hand

I think both of those are wild misrepresentations of what is really going on.
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Another reason to never have kids.
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Probably not, because I'm paranoid as fuck.

But I also wouldn't want to restrict my daughter forever. 16 is that age where you really want to prove your independence.

If she could prove that she'd be safe, maybe.
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Probably

AzNDarkSamurai posted...

Depends how well I know her friends

Actually, yeah that's a good metric.
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Duncanwii posted...

The Trent posted...

so duncanwii's totally real sister is out having drug fueled orgies at concerts while duncanwii has to ask permission to hold his totally real girlfriend's hand

I think both of those are wild misrepresentations of what is really going on.

Well how is your sister in social situations?
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inloveanddeath0 posted...

Duncanwii posted...

The Trent posted...

so duncanwii's totally real sister is out having drug fueled orgies at concerts while duncanwii has to ask permission to hold his totally real girlfriend's hand

I think both of those are wild misrepresentations of what is really going on.

Well how is your sister in social situations?

Um, shes a wild alcheholic. But she doesnt do drugs or participate in orgies. She only has one man, who cheats all the time.
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I did that when I was that age-- of course, I'm just talking about a short road trip & would be back before dawn. Big difference if she's going to be staying the night somewhere.

I'd worry a lot but allow it.

As long as they were back the same night

i went to lots of concerts at that age. But I wouldnt let my kid stay overnight somewhere unsupervised

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No. Ill tell her sorry though but daddys too worried to let you. In a year or 2 you can do whatever but im too worried to let you now and you can be mad at me for it but id rather you be here and pissed at me than somewhere else possibly in danger.
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yes i would.
hopefully she listened to my sermons of consequences, not out of fear but from an understanding. if i ever have a daughter, i hope i raised her with enough common sense and situational awareness to never fully lose control of herself where she ends up doing things she doesnt want to do.

i know she wont be able to understand without experiencing it herself - drugs, sex, alcohol. i know the world will eventually test her with or without me & i just hope she will always be in position where nobody ever takes advantage of her.


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Yes but Id drive her myself and take her home

Are we sure this isn't Duncanwii talking about his girlfriend going out to concerts and he wants to stop her?

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RedWhiteBlue posted...

LordMarshal posted...

No. Ill tell her sorry though but daddys too worried to let you. In a year or 2 you can do whatever but im too worried to let you now and you can be mad at me for it but id rather you be here and pissed at me than somewhere else possibly in danger.

And then when she's 18 she does it anyway. Why hold her back and make her distrust you, why prevent her from experiencing things while she's young?

Thats fine. I should just let her fuck anyone at 15-16. Why wait? Because when she fucks up it was against my judgment and if your so set to do whatever you can at 18.
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RedWhiteBlue posted...

LordMarshal posted...

RedWhiteBlue posted...

LordMarshal posted...

No. Ill tell her sorry though but daddys too worried to let you. In a year or 2 you can do whatever but im too worried to let you now and you can be mad at me for it but id rather you be here and pissed at me than somewhere else possibly in danger.

And then when she's 18 she does it anyway. Why hold her back and make her distrust you, why prevent her from experiencing things while she's young?

Thats fine. I should just let her fuck anyone at 15-16. Why wait? Because when she fucks up it was against my judgment and if your so set to do whatever you can at 18.

You don't seem like the kind of person who wants to have an honest talk. You'd hold a position of power for the sake of having said power, not willing to negotiate. You'd make a bad parent. It's the pitfall of most parents, actually.

"You wont let your daughter go out of state for a concert cause youre worried about her safety. Youre a bad parent."

Shut the fuck up.
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RedWhiteBlue posted...

LordMarshal posted...

RedWhiteBlue posted...

LordMarshal posted...

RedWhiteBlue posted...

LordMarshal posted...

No. Ill tell her sorry though but daddys too worried to let you. In a year or 2 you can do whatever but im too worried to let you now and you can be mad at me for it but id rather you be here and pissed at me than somewhere else possibly in danger.

And then when she's 18 she does it anyway. Why hold her back and make her distrust you, why prevent her from experiencing things while she's young?

Thats fine. I should just let her fuck anyone at 15-16. Why wait? Because when she fucks up it was against my judgment and if your so set to do whatever you can at 18.

You don't seem like the kind of person who wants to have an honest talk. You'd hold a position of power for the sake of having said power, not willing to negotiate. You'd make a bad parent. It's the pitfall of most parents, actually.

"You wont let your daughter go out of state for a concert cause youre worried about her safety. Youre a bad parent."

Shut the fuck up.

You can teach them how to be prepared. Where to go when feeling unsafe, how to avoid getting into strange predicaments, etc. It's not like we're all suddenly dealing with a random 16 y/o, this is someone we're assumed to have been parenting from the very beginning. Repressing your kid because you're afraid does not do you two any favors.

The answers no. Nobodies on a video game sites social board wouldnt make me even begin to consider my decision.

When shes 18 and she wants to fuck off thats her prerogative.
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The Nintendo Master posted...

Are we sure this isn't Duncanwii talking about his girlfriend going out to concerts and he wants to stop her?

My gf is 26 years old. 27 in 4 days.
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RedWhiteBlue posted...

Again, you're not trying to discuss it like a civil person. You even acknowledged it when you said at the arbitrary age of 18 she can do what she wants and that she likely would. I really hope you don't have any kids, they won't have many stories to tell, experiences to share, they'll be fairly sheltered.

This is so stupid its hard to respond. Please have children. You sound like you already know what to do.
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LordMarshal posted...

RedWhiteBlue posted...

Again, you're not trying to discuss it like a civil person. You even acknowledged it when you said at the arbitrary age of 18 she can do what she wants and that she likely would. I really hope you don't have any kids, they won't have many stories to tell, experiences to share, they'll be fairly sheltered.

This is so stupid its hard to respond. Please have children. You sound like you already know what to do.

You're one to talk. Basically locking a child up until 18. Yeah she'll turn out real well

RedWhiteBlue posted...

You don't seem like the kind of person who wants to have an honest talk. You'd hold a position of power for the sake of having said power, not willing to negotiate. You'd make a bad parent. It's the pitfall of most parents, actually.

I'd say the opposite tbh. Too many parents "negotiate" with their kids and they end up becoming spoiled brats, and then annoying entitled adults.

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Axiom posted...

LordMarshal posted...

RedWhiteBlue posted...

Again, you're not trying to discuss it like a civil person. You even acknowledged it when you said at the arbitrary age of 18 she can do what she wants and that she likely would. I really hope you don't have any kids, they won't have many stories to tell, experiences to share, they'll be fairly sheltered.

This is so stupid its hard to respond. Please have children. You sound like you already know what to do.

You're one to talk. Basically locking a child up until 18. Yeah she'll turn out real well

You sound like a child. Im use to this.

"You cant go out of state with friends to a concert."

"Omg youre LOCKING ME UP! Until im 18!"

Yeah, if she sounds like this im sure shes a real winner.
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Thanks to social media it's a lot harder for them to lie about going to a concert or anything so as long as I know the times, her friends and how she's getting home and when she's getting home it should be all good.
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