Current Events > do you guys believe it's easier to be friends with other guys? or with girls?

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i know asking this sort of question on CE isn't the best idea since there are some users who are unhinged and detached from reality, but i want to hear thoughts on guys and girls when it comes to friendships

i find that girls tend to be more open and you can talk about anything, but then it's hard to be honest/objective since the expectation is to always have their back. and with guys there's the macho bs. but they're more likely to be upfront if you're in the wrong and not to sugar coat their words, which i like

what's your experience CE? who do you feel more comfortable with? and do you have more guy or girl friends?

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guys
if a girl is attractive I'll want to fuck them and that doesn't make for a real, meaningful friendship

I only have one real female friend because she shares some of my interests but her personality is a turn off for me in a lot of ways
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Parappa09 posted...

i know asking this sort of question on CE isn't the best idea since there are some users who are unhinged and detached from reality,

Hi!

But girls mostly. Most guys I know have a weird tendency to state how much they want to fuck random women here
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what are "friend"
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RdVEHfJqAvUPIbk posted...

But girls mostly

why is that?

AlephZero posted...

what are "friend"

friend makes u feel warm inside

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Most of my friends are female. And some of are the no BS variety as well. I have some male friends too. But I tend to bond more with women in general.

Parappa09 posted...

why is that?

Because I'm more feminine that an Essex girl doing the walk of Shame. That and I cant stand the hyper-masculine insecurity a lot of guys have
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Cleo_II posted...

Most of my friends are female. And some of are the no BS variety as well. I have some male friends too. But I tend to bond more with women in general.

i would have guessed that most of your friends are guys. you seem to be comfortable hanging out in a place like this filled with men-children

RdVEHfJqAvUPIbk posted...

That and I cant stand the hyper-masculine insecurity a lot of guys have

yeah that's what i dislike the most. that, and the fact that a lot of men feel being toxic/macho is a good trait

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girl: hey, let's have a conversation about each other's lives, tell stories, joke around, and get to know each other on a real human level

guy: hey, let's sit silently together on this couch (a good heterosexual distance apart) and watch a football game in silence, only breaking the silence during commercials to talk about other sporting events or the traffic during our drives into work
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Romulox28 posted...

girl: hey, let's have a conversation about each other's lives, tell stories, joke around, and get to know each other on a real human level

guy: hey, let's sit silently together on this couch (a good heterosexual distance apart) and watch a football game in silence, only breaking the silence during commercials to talk about other sporting events or the traffic during our drives into work

And Im assuming youre a guy who completely breaks the stereotype you just described. Are you somehow a special exception?

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i find men to be easier to be friends with. I find most women are afraid of honesty and value the relationship over truth.

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I think I find it easier to make new friends with women, but the friendships I have with guys are usually deeper. Like with my old friends from high school. We can go months without catching up and when we can finally be bothered to meet up nothing has changed. They're different kinds of friendships.
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I don't want to have my penis handled by my male friends, so it's easier to be friends with guys.
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MrPeppers posted...

And Im assuming youre a guy who completely breaks the stereotype you just described. Are you somehow a special exception?

if it was up to me, all conversations would be about PS1 video games and what twinks we think are the most supple
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Girls. They tend to be more emotive in general.
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KILBOTz posted...

I find most women are afraid of honesty and value the relationship over truth.

i find this the case with some of my friends, but i think that's because of the upbringing and area i used to live in

like cleo said there's also some women who have a no BS attitude. i like that but none of my close childhood friends have that mentality

Romulox28 posted...

and what twinks we think are the most supple

i wish i could talk to my straight male friends about that. i feel they would deliver the best insight into twinks

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Parappa09 posted...

i find this the case with some of my friends, but i think that's because of the upbringing and area i used to live in

like cleo said there's also some women who have a no BS attitude.

No native Seattlites have a no-bs attitude. And people with a no-bs attitude dont last long in this cesspool of a city.


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As a dude, definitely girls.

I feel like you can just talk about anything with girls. Just shoot the shit and it's totally normal and comfortable.

But it feels like most guys have such a narrow range of interests, at least down here in Texas. Just sports, cars, hunting, stuff like that and that's it.

Theres also this wierd element where it feels like other men are mostly out in a social situation to hook up with women and that's all they care about, and can even consider me some kind of competition or something. Like for instance, if I'm in a group of both women and men, the men will only be friendly with the women and not each other.
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Guys, definitely.
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Guy here, who feels it's easier to be friends with guys.
The fact that I'm bisexual might be relevant in my situation: I've had close male and female friends throughout my life. I got along with the other person great, as long as we kept things on a platonic level.
With both sexes it has happened that at same point either I or the other person developed non-platonic feelings toward the other, but never in a mutual sense, and at that point the close bond usually ended. This has occured literally every time with female friends, and only scarcely with male friends. This is a matter of pure statistics, but it it an example of how male friendships have worked out better for me so far.

Another factor is mutual understanding and having that kind of connnection almost any conceivable thing can be said, without having to worry you might inadvertently offend the other person or make them feel uncomfortable, maybe even get an empathetic response out of them. I've experienced this much, much more often with men than with women.

Then again, I also feel it's actually quite challenging for me to be platonic friends with a woman, even if I don't have sexual/romantic feelings toward them, mostly due to them assuming a man being consistently nice to them must mean that man has ulterior motives.

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