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Vol2tex 10/19/19 4:21:42 PM #1:	I had several friends throughout school, but I also had tremendous social anxiety in junior high and high school. I actually would freeze up when talking to most of the girls or giving a presentation. Most of the friends I've had in my life were people who initiated friendships with me. I didn't get over it until sometime towards the end of college when I was depressed and stopped caring about life, so I no longer cared what people thought of me. --- https://imgtc.com/i/7cQjt43.jpg https://i.imgtc.ws/8FM6Wui.jpg <cite>Vol2tex posted [p:928976637] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>I had several friends throughout school, but I also had tremendous social anxiety in junior high and high school. I actually would freeze up when talking to most of the girls or giving a presentation. Most of the friends I've had in my life were people who initiated friendships with me. I didn't get over it until sometime towards the end of college when I was depressed and stopped caring about life, so I no longer cared what people thought of me.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Lost_All_Senses 10/19/19 4:22:23 PM #2:	Slowly come to the realization that no one actually gives a shit about the things you're anxious about. That was a big part of it for me --- Name checks out https://i.imgtc.ws/vBF8odT.png <cite>Lost_All_Senses posted [p:928976660] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>Slowly come to the realization that no one actually gives a shit about the things you're anxious about. That was a big part of it for me</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Pepys Monster 10/19/19 4:26:58 PM #3:	Alcohol and something else. --- GOML <cite>Pepys Monster posted [p:928976815] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>Alcohol and something else.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
gamer167 10/19/19 4:28:08 PM #4:	Overcome it? Heh, Ill let you know know when that happens. And Im 27. <cite>gamer167 posted [p:928976853] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>Overcome it? Heh, Ill let you know know when that happens. And Im 27. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Lost_All_Senses 10/19/19 4:29:59 PM #5:	Pepys Monster posted... Alcohol and something else. Overcoming =\= hiding from it --- Name checks out https://i.imgtc.ws/vBF8odT.png <cite>Lost_All_Senses posted [p:928976922] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>Pepys Monster posted...</cite> <quote>Alcohol and something else.</quote> Overcoming =\= hiding from it</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Rikiaz 10/19/19 4:31:35 PM #6:	I just dont go out around people, or socialize, or talk to anyone thats not my friend or someone Im comfortable around. --- From the depths, the thing they called Worm King did rise. Nirn itself did scream in the Mages' and Necromancers' war. <cite>Rikiaz posted [p:928976980] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>I just dont go out around people, or socialize, or talk to anyone thats not my friend or someone Im comfortable around.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Xenozoa425 10/19/19 4:32:12 PM #7:	I used to just not like talking to and dealing with people, period. But what turned it around for me was working in a retail job that requires providing customer service to numerous people each day. So you learn how to talk to different kinds of people beyond your age group in school. Different ethnicities, creeds, religions, ways of life and more. And you better understand other intricacies of social interaction like small talk, body language, how to hold a conversation, what to say and not say, etc. I mean, I still dislike talking to some people, but at least I can deal with it head on and come out on top, rather than skulk away and ignore. --- "Your flesh is a relic, a mere vessel. Hand over your flesh, and a new world awaits you. We demand it." <cite>Xenozoa425 posted [p:928977003] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>I used to just not like talking to and dealing with people, period. But what turned it around for me was working in a retail job that requires providing customer service to numerous people each day. So you learn how to talk to different kinds of people beyond your age group in school. Different ethnicities, creeds, religions, ways of life and more. And you better understand other intricacies of social interaction like small talk, body language, how to hold a conversation, what to say and not say, etc. I mean, I still dislike talking to some people, but at least I can deal with it head on and come out on top, rather than skulk away and ignore.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Lost_All_Senses 10/19/19 4:32:15 PM #8:	Rikiaz posted... I just dont go out around people, or socialize, or talk to anyone thats not my friend or someone Im comfortable around. Lost_All_Senses posted... Overcoming =\= hiding from it --- Name checks out https://i.imgtc.ws/vBF8odT.png <cite>Lost_All_Senses posted [p:928977005] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>Rikiaz posted...</cite> <quote>I just dont go out around people, or socialize, or talk to anyone thats not my friend or someone Im comfortable around.</quote> Lost_All_Senses posted...</cite> <quote>Overcoming =\= hiding from it</quote></quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
TomNook20 10/19/19 4:32:26 PM #9:	If you legit have social anxiety you most likely won't unless you do behavioral therapy or take medication. --- http://fc02.deviantart.net/fs70/f/2011/098/7/4/tom_nook_by_themerce-d3dhi0q.png http://www.gameswagonline.com/uploads/9/0/8/9/9089979/1372277527.jpg <cite>TomNook20 posted [p:928977013] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>If you legit have social anxiety you most likely won't unless you do behavioral therapy or take medication. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Crayon_Lover 10/19/19 4:34:51 PM #10:	Xenozoa425 posted... I used to just not like talking to and dealing with people, period. But what turned it around for me was working in a retail job that requires providing customer service to numerous people each day. So you learn how to talk to different kinds of people beyond your age group in school. Different ethnicities, creeds, religions, ways of life and more. And you better understand other intricacies of social interaction like small talk, body language, how to hold a conversation, what to say and not say, etc. I'll agree with this, having to talk to people all day really did the trick for me. Also just putting myself out there more helped with situations that I wasn't comfortable with --- Cleveland sports fan <cite>Crayon_Lover posted [p:928977087] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>Xenozoa425 posted...</cite> <quote>I used to just not like talking to and dealing with people, period. But what turned it around for me was working in a retail job that requires providing customer service to numerous people each day. So you learn how to talk to different kinds of people beyond your age group in school. Different ethnicities, creeds, religions, ways of life and more. And you better understand other intricacies of social interaction like small talk, body language, how to hold a conversation, what to say and not say, etc.</quote> I'll agree with this, having to talk to people all day really did the trick for me. Also just putting myself out there more helped with situations that I wasn't comfortable with</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Lost_All_Senses 10/19/19 4:37:02 PM #11:	I like how people have actual examples and the defeated CEmen are just like "it's forever, no cures, everyone is hopeless, LALALALA CAN'T HEAR HELP" --- Name checks out https://i.imgtc.ws/vBF8odT.png <cite>Lost_All_Senses posted [p:928977168] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>I like how people have actual examples and the defeated CEmen are just like "it's forever, no cures, everyone is hopeless, LALALALA CAN'T HEAR HELP"</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Antifar 10/19/19 4:37:49 PM #13:	Therapy, getting involved in politics. --- kin to all that throbs <cite>Antifar posted [p:928977192] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>Therapy, getting involved in politics.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
hockeybub89 10/19/19 4:42:24 PM #14:	I didn't. Working in retail hasn't really changed much. I still can't figure out how to end a phone call and I wish a lot of the people I deal with would stop trying to small talk me. I'm also autistic though so maybe it's just me not "getting" why we partake in these niceties. I'm more annoyed than anxious at some of those things now, so I guess medication and therapy has helped. --- http://card.psnprofiles.com/1/NIR_Hockey.png http://www.last.fm/user/hockeybub89/ <cite>hockeybub89 posted [p:928977344] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>I didn't. Working in retail hasn't really changed much. I still can't figure out how to end a phone call and I wish a lot of the people I deal with would stop trying to small talk me. I'm also autistic though so maybe it's just me not "getting" why we partake in these niceties. I'm more annoyed than anxious at some of those things now, so I guess medication and therapy has helped.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Flockaveli 10/19/19 4:43:02 PM #15:	Exercise (really clears my mind for a whole day) and learning how to engage in small talk. I recommend the book "Never Eat Alone" by Keith Ferrazzi. --- I'm in Chicago, I'm shaking my head. <cite>Flockaveli posted [p:928977363] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>Exercise (really clears my mind for a whole day) and learning how to engage in small talk. I recommend the book "Never Eat Alone" by Keith Ferrazzi.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Inferno Dive Dragoon 10/19/19 5:00:08 PM #16:	I didn't, and being stuck in a homeless shelter and having to rely on a public library for internet access is agony. --- Les aristocrates a la lanterne! Les aristocrates on les pendra! <cite>Inferno Dive Dragoon posted [p:928977938] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>I didn't, and being stuck in a homeless shelter and having to rely on a public library for internet access is agony.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
AFrench2 10/19/19 5:01:17 PM #17:	1) started taking Lexapro SSRI 2) Started behavioral therapy with a doc 3) Got a girlfriend 4) Still don't like crowds but i'm trying to not be socially anxious! --- Ohh boy <cite>AFrench2 posted [p:928977974] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>1) started taking Lexapro SSRI 2) Started behavioral therapy with a doc 3) Got a girlfriend 4) Still don't like crowds but i'm trying to not be socially anxious!</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
JTilly 10/19/19 5:02:32 PM #18:	Copious amounts of alcohol. self medication if you will --- WittleJimmyJimmyjumper <cite>JTilly posted [p:928978019] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>Copious amounts of alcohol. self medication if you will </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Guide 10/19/19 5:04:12 PM #20:	I got the chance to be a new person when I transferred to a new high school, and I took full advantage of it. --- formerly evening formerly guide https://youtu.be/Acn5IptKWQU <cite>Guide posted [p:928978092] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>I got the chance to be a new person when I transferred to a new high school, and I took full advantage of it.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
NOM 10/19/19 5:14:49 PM #21:	I haven't. Every day I come home from work I have to go in my room, close the door and lay down from the stress. --- I dream broken dreams I make them come true <cite>NOM posted [p:928978448] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>I haven't. Every day I come home from work I have to go in my room, close the door and lay down from the stress.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
MegaTech 10/19/19 5:20:36 PM #22:	Medication, therapy and a lot of will power. It's never truly gone just well managed. Exercise, deep breathing and keeping up socially keeps it in check these days. No more meds n therapy. --- That one bloke with a haggard smirk, whereabouts unknown, puttin in that cloak and dagger work. https://imgur.com/c8xCRi7 - CoolbeansAvi <cite>MegaTech posted [p:928978632] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>Medication, therapy and a lot of will power. It's never truly gone just well managed. Exercise, deep breathing and keeping up socially keeps it in check these days. No more meds n therapy.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
KookyCouture 10/19/19 5:22:02 PM #23:	Never had it, I was kind of shy when I was a lot younger but I grew out of it --- Drink up me hearties, yo ho <cite>KookyCouture posted [p:928978677] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>Never had it, I was kind of shy when I was a lot younger but I grew out of it</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Beveren_Rabbit 10/19/19 5:22:35 PM #24:	Social anxiety isn't something you get over alone. CE will tell you to man up and stop caring about what others think, that's a normie response. --- flops <cite>Beveren_Rabbit posted [p:928978699] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>Social anxiety isn't something you get over alone. CE will tell you to man up and stop caring about what others think, that's a normie response.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Lost_All_Senses 10/19/19 6:18:26 PM #25:	Beveren_Rabbit posted... Social anxiety isn't something you get over alone. CE will tell you to man up and stop caring about what others think, that's a normie response. Except people are actually telling him helpful information. The ones that aren't motivating are the ones that are telling him to just be defeated like they are. I personally don't have the mind to get all introspective atm but I can still acknowledge those who do. You have one the most "normie" posts in this topic so far. Very unhelpful. --- Name checks out https://i.imgtc.ws/vBF8odT.png <cite>Lost_All_Senses posted [p:928980563] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>Beveren_Rabbit posted...</cite> <quote>Social anxiety isn't something you get over alone. CE will tell you to man up and stop caring about what others think, that's a normie response.</quote> Except people are actually telling him helpful information. The ones that aren't motivating are the ones that are telling him to just be defeated like they are. I personally don't have the mind to get all introspective atm but I can still acknowledge those who do. You have one the most "normie" posts in this topic so far. Very unhelpful.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Esrac 10/19/19 6:25:16 PM #26:	Exposure over time. --- http://steamcommunity.com/id/Esrac/wishlist/ <cite>Esrac posted [p:928980797] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>Exposure over time.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Beveren_Rabbit 10/19/19 6:27:52 PM #27:	Lost_All_Senses posted... Beveren_Rabbit posted... Social anxiety isn't something you get over alone. CE will tell you to man up and stop caring about what others think, that's a normie response. Except people are actually telling him helpful information. The ones that aren't motivating are the ones that are telling him to just be defeated like they are. I personally don't have the mind to get all introspective atm but I can still acknowledge those who do. You have one the most "normie" posts in this topic so far. Very unhelpful. First post in topic is "just stop caring what others think" --- flops <cite>Beveren_Rabbit posted [p:928980887] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>Lost_All_Senses posted...</cite> <quote>Beveren_Rabbit posted...</cite> <quote>Social anxiety isn't something you get over alone. CE will tell you to man up and stop caring about what others think, that's a normie response.</quote> Except people are actually telling him helpful information. The ones that aren't motivating are the ones that are telling him to just be defeated like they are. I personally don't have the mind to get all introspective atm but I can still acknowledge those who do. You have one the most "normie" posts in this topic so far. Very unhelpful.</quote> First post in topic is "just stop caring what others think"</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Lost_All_Senses 10/19/19 6:34:43 PM #28:	Beveren_Rabbit posted... Lost_All_Senses posted... Beveren_Rabbit posted... Social anxiety isn't something you get over alone. CE will tell you to man up and stop caring about what others think, that's a normie response. Except people are actually telling him helpful information. The ones that aren't motivating are the ones that are telling him to just be defeated like they are. I personally don't have the mind to get all introspective atm but I can still acknowledge those who do. You have one the most "normie" posts in this topic so far. Very unhelpful. First post in topic is "just stop caring what others think" Can't tell if you're purposely not acknowledging that that was me lol. And all I did was state what personally helped me. Nowhere in it did I say that was the answer. Also, doesn't help you completely misinterpreted what I said. Because what I said was people aren't thinking about the things you think they're thinking about. I didn't even imply "stop caring what others think". So, misunderstanding. --- Name checks out https://i.imgtc.ws/vBF8odT.png <cite>Lost_All_Senses posted [p:928981103] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>Beveren_Rabbit posted...</cite> <quote>Lost_All_Senses posted...</cite> <quote>Beveren_Rabbit posted...</cite> <quote>Social anxiety isn't something you get over alone. CE will tell you to man up and stop caring about what others think, that's a normie response.</quote> Except people are actually telling him helpful information. The ones that aren't motivating are the ones that are telling him to just be defeated like they are. I personally don't have the mind to get all introspective atm but I can still acknowledge those who do. You have one the most "normie" posts in this topic so far. Very unhelpful.</quote> First post in topic is "just stop caring what others think"</quote> Can't tell if you're purposely not acknowledging that that was me lol. And all I did was state what personally helped me. Nowhere in it did I say that was the answer. Also, doesn't help you completely misinterpreted what I said. Because what I said was people aren't thinking about the things you think they're thinking about. I didn't even imply "stop caring what others think". So, misunderstanding.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
PrettyBoyFloyd 10/19/19 6:38:52 PM #29:	Alcohol... as already mentioned. --- The Evil Republicans - Est.2004 - WoT [Government Destabilizing Branch] <cite>PrettyBoyFloyd posted [p:928981267] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>Alcohol... as already mentioned.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Alteres 10/19/19 6:39:28 PM #30:	I drank all day every day for ten years until I didn't give a fuck about anyone. I wouldn't suggest it, but I've been sober for four years and still don't care... so there's that. --- ........the ghost in the machine... IGN: Fox, FC: 5344-2646-0982 <cite>Alteres posted [p:928981291] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>I drank all day every day for ten years until I didn't give a fuck about anyone. I wouldn't suggest it, but I've been sober for four years and still don't care... so there's that.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
mooreandrew58 10/19/19 6:41:09 PM #31:	Fake it till you make it. In other words I forced myself to be more social and talkative and after awhile it became easy. I went from a guy who wouldn't speak unless spoken to to a guy who sometimes is the one who starts up small talk with a stranger. --- Cid- "looks like that overgrown lobster just got served!" Bartz-"with cheese biscuts AND mashed potatoes!" <cite>mooreandrew58 posted [p:928981362] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>Fake it till you make it. In other words I forced myself to be more social and talkative and after awhile it became easy. I went from a guy who wouldn't speak unless spoken to to a guy who sometimes is the one who starts up small talk with a stranger.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Lost_All_Senses 10/19/19 6:44:33 PM #32:	mooreandrew58 posted... Fake it till you make it. In other words I forced myself to be more social and talkative and after awhile it became easy. I went from a guy who wouldn't speak unless spoken to to a guy who sometimes is the one who starts up small talk with a stranger. Yoo, exact same experience. Good advice. There was a point Id feel like I was getting minor panic attacks before leaving the house to get in a friends car. I did it anyway and just pretended I was fine. --- Name checks out https://i.imgtc.ws/vBF8odT.png <cite>Lost_All_Senses posted [p:928981477] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>mooreandrew58 posted...</cite> <quote>Fake it till you make it. In other words I forced myself to be more social and talkative and after awhile it became easy. I went from a guy who wouldn't speak unless spoken to to a guy who sometimes is the one who starts up small talk with a stranger.</quote> Yoo, exact same experience. Good advice. There was a point Id feel like I was getting minor panic attacks before leaving the house to get in a friends car. I did it anyway and just pretended I was fine.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
hockeybub89 10/19/19 6:50:32 PM #33:	I'm not discouraging anyone from bettering themselves, but I don't think anyone with a legitimate disorder can ever completely overcome it. It will take a continuous conscious effort to not fall into old trappings. Don't pretend to be somebody else. Just be your best self. --- http://card.psnprofiles.com/1/NIR_Hockey.png http://www.last.fm/user/hockeybub89/ <cite>hockeybub89 posted [p:928981695] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>I'm not discouraging anyone from bettering themselves, but I don't think anyone with a legitimate disorder can ever completely overcome it. It will take a continuous conscious effort to not fall into old trappings. Don't pretend to be somebody else. Just be your best self.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
FursonaNonGrata 10/19/19 6:54:02 PM #34:	Worked as a bartender for a while --- A.M.A.B. ~The Outlaw Country of Posting~ <cite>FursonaNonGrata posted [p:928981827] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>Worked as a bartender for a while</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Lost_All_Senses 10/19/19 6:54:26 PM #35:	hockeybub89 posted... I'm not discouraging anyone from bettering themselves, but I don't think anyone with a legitimate disorder can ever completely overcome it. It will take a continuous conscious effort to not fall into old trappings. Don't pretend to be somebody else. Just be your best self. The thing is, some people who have gotten 90% better have felt exactly like what you said at some point. Most people have felt like "anyone who is better must just of not really had it" --- Name checks out https://i.imgtc.ws/vBF8odT.png <cite>Lost_All_Senses posted [p:928981838] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>hockeybub89 posted...</cite> <quote>I'm not discouraging anyone from bettering themselves, but I don't think anyone with a legitimate disorder can ever completely overcome it. It will take a continuous conscious effort to not fall into old trappings. Don't pretend to be somebody else. Just be your best self.</quote> The thing is, some people who have gotten 90% better have felt exactly like what you said at some point. Most people have felt like "anyone who is better must just of not really had it"</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
masticatingman 10/19/19 6:55:48 PM #36:	Im way, way better at it as an adult. I just realized its best to be to the point and say it how it is from your perspective. If people like/respect you already, theyll listen. Just dont be a total dick - itll come back on ya unless youre just that well off that you dont give a rats ass. --- Raised on VHS, anchored to DVD <cite>masticatingman posted [p:928981882] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>Im way, way better at it as an adult. I just realized its best to be to the point and say it how it is from your perspective. If people like/respect you already, theyll listen. Just dont be a total dick - itll come back on ya unless youre just that well off that you dont give a rats ass.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
smoke_break 10/19/19 6:56:11 PM #37:	I'll never get over it, just learned to work around it. Internet makes it a lot easier. You can meet and get to know people without seeing them face to face. --- https://imgur.com/WTmIPt8 <cite>smoke_break posted [p:928981897] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>I'll never get over it, just learned to work around it. Internet makes it a lot easier. You can meet and get to know people without seeing them face to face.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
CanuckCowboy 10/19/19 6:57:00 PM #38:	If I didnt Id never get laid. Basically that says it --- "I got a rolla truc, look" ~ sleaford mods "The most tender place in my heart is for strangers." ~ neko case <cite>CanuckCowboy posted [p:928981930] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>If I didnt Id never get laid. Basically that says it</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
hockeybub89 10/19/19 6:58:37 PM #39:	smoke_break posted... I'll never get over it, just learned to work around it. Internet makes it a lot easier. You can meet and get to know people without seeing them face to face. This too. Made some really longtime friends over the Internet. --- http://card.psnprofiles.com/1/NIR_Hockey.png http://www.last.fm/user/hockeybub89/ <cite>hockeybub89 posted [p:928981974] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>smoke_break posted...</cite> <quote>I'll never get over it, just learned to work around it. Internet makes it a lot easier. You can meet and get to know people without seeing them face to face.</quote> This too. Made some really longtime friends over the Internet.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
hockeybub89 10/19/19 7:02:03 PM #40:	Lost_All_Senses posted... hockeybub89 posted... I'm not discouraging anyone from bettering themselves, but I don't think anyone with a legitimate disorder can ever completely overcome it. It will take a continuous conscious effort to not fall into old trappings. Don't pretend to be somebody else. Just be your best self. The thing is, some people who have gotten 90% better have felt exactly like what you said at some point. Most people have felt like "anyone who is better must just of not really had it" You can't get over terminal conditions. You can control them. You can accept them. You can never lose them. This is me trying to be motivating, not discouraging. --- http://card.psnprofiles.com/1/NIR_Hockey.png http://www.last.fm/user/hockeybub89/ <cite>hockeybub89 posted [p:928982090] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>Lost_All_Senses posted...</cite> <quote>hockeybub89 posted...</cite> <quote>I'm not discouraging anyone from bettering themselves, but I don't think anyone with a legitimate disorder can ever completely overcome it. It will take a continuous conscious effort to not fall into old trappings. Don't pretend to be somebody else. Just be your best self.</quote> The thing is, some people who have gotten 90% better have felt exactly like what you said at some point. Most people have felt like "anyone who is better must just of not really had it"</quote> You can't get over terminal conditions. You can control them. You can accept them. You can never lose them. This is me trying to be motivating, not discouraging.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Lost_All_Senses 10/19/19 7:07:04 PM #41:	hockeybub89 posted... Lost_All_Senses posted... hockeybub89 posted... I'm not discouraging anyone from bettering themselves, but I don't think anyone with a legitimate disorder can ever completely overcome it. It will take a continuous conscious effort to not fall into old trappings. Don't pretend to be somebody else. Just be your best self. The thing is, some people who have gotten 90% better have felt exactly like what you said at some point. Most people have felt like "anyone who is better must just of not really had it" You can't get over terminal conditions. You can control them. You can accept them. You can never lose them. This is me trying to be motivating, not discouraging. I said 90%, not 100%. So Im not denying any of that. Plus, you're going into a fuzzy area. Because being diagnosed is such a loose thing. Anyone who hangs onto a doctors diagnosis like it's Gods word is doing themselves a disservice. Im using "God's word" as an expression btw. You can't compare to others with 100% accuracy, regardless of anything --- Name checks out https://i.imgtc.ws/vBF8odT.png <cite>Lost_All_Senses posted [p:928982258] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>hockeybub89 posted...</cite> <quote>Lost_All_Senses posted...</cite> <quote>hockeybub89 posted...</cite> <quote>I'm not discouraging anyone from bettering themselves, but I don't think anyone with a legitimate disorder can ever completely overcome it. It will take a continuous conscious effort to not fall into old trappings. Don't pretend to be somebody else. Just be your best self.</quote> The thing is, some people who have gotten 90% better have felt exactly like what you said at some point. Most people have felt like "anyone who is better must just of not really had it"</quote> You can't get over terminal conditions. You can control them. You can accept them. You can never lose them. This is me trying to be motivating, not discouraging.</quote> I said 90%, not 100%. So Im not denying any of that. Plus, you're going into a fuzzy area. Because being diagnosed is such a loose thing. Anyone who hangs onto a doctors diagnosis like it's Gods word is doing themselves a disservice. Im using "God's word" as an expression btw. You can't compare to others with 100% accuracy, regardless of anything</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
mooreandrew58 10/19/19 7:33:39 PM #42:	Lost_All_Senses posted... mooreandrew58 posted... Fake it till you make it. In other words I forced myself to be more social and talkative and after awhile it became easy. I went from a guy who wouldn't speak unless spoken to to a guy who sometimes is the one who starts up small talk with a stranger. Yoo, exact same experience. Good advice. There was a point Id feel like I was getting minor panic attacks before leaving the house to get in a friends car. I did it anyway and just pretended I was fine. I didnt have it that bad i just cared way too much about what people thought of me. I still have issues to a degree. The more people you put around me the less I will talk. Like im Academy for this job and I cracked a joke at someones expense in class one day and this woman said "damn and thats coming from thr quiet guy" and this other girl piped up whos part of thr clique thats formed among some of the students i hang with, with "trust me he aint quiet" --- Cid- "looks like that overgrown lobster just got served!" Bartz-"with cheese biscuts AND mashed potatoes!" <cite>mooreandrew58 posted [p:928983062] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>Lost_All_Senses posted...</cite> <quote>mooreandrew58 posted...</cite> <quote>Fake it till you make it. In other words I forced myself to be more social and talkative and after awhile it became easy. I went from a guy who wouldn't speak unless spoken to to a guy who sometimes is the one who starts up small talk with a stranger.</quote> Yoo, exact same experience. Good advice. There was a point Id feel like I was getting minor panic attacks before leaving the house to get in a friends car. I did it anyway and just pretended I was fine.</quote> I didnt have it that bad i just cared way too much about what people thought of me. I still have issues to a degree. The more people you put around me the less I will talk. Like im Academy for this job and I cracked a joke at someones expense in class one day and this woman said "damn and thats coming from thr quiet guy" and this other girl piped up whos part of thr clique thats formed among some of the students i hang with, with "trust me he aint quiet"</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
CanuckCowboy 10/19/19 8:10:30 PM #43:	hockeybub89 posted... I'm not discouraging anyone from bettering themselves, but I don't think anyone with a legitimate disorder can ever completely overcome it. It will take a continuous conscious effort to not fall into old trappings. Don't pretend to be somebody else. Just be your best self. Yeah for sure be the best you figuring out what that is and living it is most of what life is. That said Im bipolar and I definitely believe its not some inevitably negative condition. So on that point you can overcome a lot of the stupid shit your brain might do to you. Or at least break even with supposedly unafflicted people. --- "I got a rolla truc, look" ~ sleaford mods "The most tender place in my heart is for strangers." ~ neko case <cite>CanuckCowboy posted [p:928984312] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>hockeybub89 posted...</cite> <quote>I'm not discouraging anyone from bettering themselves, but I don't think anyone with a legitimate disorder can ever completely overcome it. It will take a continuous conscious effort to not fall into old trappings. Don't pretend to be somebody else. Just be your best self.</quote> Yeah for sure be the best you figuring out what that is and living it is most of what life is. That said Im bipolar and I definitely believe its not some inevitably negative condition. So on that point you can overcome a lot of the stupid shit your brain might do to you. Or at least break even with supposedly unafflicted people.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Lost_All_Senses 10/19/19 8:21:37 PM #44:	Not having hope is a big part of depression. I can't say I don't understand where dude is coming from. I like to say, it wouldn't be depression if it didn't convince you it was forever. If you convincingly thought "Ill be over this soon" then you probably wouldn't be depressed. --- Name checks out https://i.imgtc.ws/vBF8odT.png <cite>Lost_All_Senses posted [p:928984640] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>Not having hope is a big part of depression. I can't say I don't understand where dude is coming from. I like to say, it wouldn't be depression if it didn't convince you it was forever. If you convincingly thought "Ill be over this soon" then you probably wouldn't be depressed.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
cjs28 10/19/19 8:30:11 PM #45:	Eh, I feel like I've gotten a little worse as I got older >_> Back in high school / college, I could talk up strangers no prob. But now that I'm working all day, I'm fucking tired. Even though I talk to random people in high stress environments at work, it's kinda hard to chat up strangers during my leisure now unless I push myself to. idk why lol --- Everything is cool. <cite>cjs28 posted [p:928984933] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>Eh, I feel like I've gotten a little worse as I got older >_> Back in high school / college, I could talk up strangers no prob. But now that I'm working all day, I'm fucking tired. Even though I talk to random people in high stress environments at work, it's kinda hard to chat up strangers during my leisure now unless I push myself to. idk why lol</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
KogaSteelfang 10/19/19 8:33:04 PM #46:	I haven't. It can still get pretty bad, but my job forces me to interact with a bunch of people. When I worked here before it eventually caused me to grow more accustomed to it. Medication helped too, but I haven't had that for a while. --- Work in progress, please be patient. <cite>KogaSteelfang posted [p:928985019] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>I haven't. It can still get pretty bad, but my job forces me to interact with a bunch of people. When I worked here before it eventually caused me to grow more accustomed to it. Medication helped too, but I haven't had that for a while.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
PrettyBoyFloyd 10/19/19 10:02:37 PM #47:	KogaSteelfang posted... I haven't. It can still get pretty bad, but my job forces me to interact with a bunch of people. When I worked here before it eventually caused me to grow more accustomed to it. Medication helped too, but I haven't had that for a while. Some days I'm ready to fight people at my job. But I have to hold it back but my body becomes tense, cold and numb. --- The Evil Republicans - Est.2004 - WoT [Government Destabilizing Branch] <cite>PrettyBoyFloyd posted [p:928988026] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>KogaSteelfang posted...</cite> <quote>I haven't. It can still get pretty bad, but my job forces me to interact with a bunch of people. When I worked here before it eventually caused me to grow more accustomed to it. Medication helped too, but I haven't had that for a while.</quote> Some days I'm ready to fight people at my job. But I have to hold it back but my body becomes tense, cold and numb.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Vol2tex 10/20/19 5:42:28 PM #48:	bump --- https://imgtc.com/i/7cQjt43.jpg https://i.imgtc.ws/8FM6Wui.jpg <cite>Vol2tex posted [p:929019360] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>bump</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
YookaLaylee 10/20/19 5:54:59 PM #49:	There was one point where I was really close to overcoming it. I was making a lot of effort to talk to more people and initiate conversations. But then something happened that set me back a lot and now I'm probably worse than ever. I'm not giving up on getting over it though --- https://media.giphy.com/media/26gsuNHaqCPgziZYA/giphy.gif <cite>YookaLaylee posted [p:929019788] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>There was one point where I was really close to overcoming it. I was making a lot of effort to talk to more people and initiate conversations. But then something happened that set me back a lot and now I'm probably worse than ever. I'm not giving up on getting over it though </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Lost_All_Senses 10/20/19 5:58:04 PM #50:	YookaLaylee posted... There was one point where I was really close to overcoming it. I was making a lot of effort to talk to more people and initiate conversations. But then something happened that set me back a lot and now I'm probably worse than ever. I'm not giving up on getting over it though Hopefully it at least opened the insight that it's possible for you. --- Name checks out https://i.imgtc.ws/vBF8odT.png <cite>Lost_All_Senses posted [p:929019888] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>YookaLaylee posted...</cite> <quote>There was one point where I was really close to overcoming it. I was making a lot of effort to talk to more people and initiate conversations. But then something happened that set me back a lot and now I'm probably worse than ever. I'm not giving up on getting over it though </quote> Hopefully it at least opened the insight that it's possible for you.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
sLaCkEr408___RJ 10/20/19 6:05:40 PM #51:	Surround yourself with people you are comfortable with. <cite>sLaCkEr408___RJ posted [p:929020174] in How did yo... [t:78097347]...</cite> <quote>Surround yourself with people you are comfortable with. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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