Current Events > I'm so glad I don't have kids

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Caution998 posted...

you really can't judge what it's like to have children until you have one yourself.

With all due respect.

oh i'm not falling for that one
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EliManning posted...

I laughed
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I'm so grateful for my kids every day. Thinking of them gets me out of the darkest holes and motivates me to be the best version of myself.

_Matchabuu_ posted...

Vyrulisse posted...

How can you possibly hate kids that much? Does not compute to me.

Interacting with my nieces and nephews is more than enough for me.

Same. The best part is being able to do so without being responsible for them ^_^
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Vyrulisse posted...

they remind me of when I wasn't such a cynical person.

Also same... but not in a good way. I don't like that I was ever not a cynical person...
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There's a good part of me that still wants kids, but I'm at the point where a partner of similar age to me is probably not all that gung ho.
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TheGreatGeno326 posted...

CheekSqueak posted...
Does anyone know whos alt this is? Hoth? 462?

There is an easy way to find out if it's either of those two.
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Machete posted...

TheGreatGeno326 posted...

CheekSqueak posted...
Does anyone know whos alt this is? Hoth? 462?

There is an easy way to find out if it's either of those two.

you're a bit late
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CyricZ posted...

There's a good part of me that still wants kids, but I'm at the point where a partner of similar age to me is probably not all that gung ho.

Fair enough. Finding the right person is hell
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dont be a dummy, cum on her tummy
keep bae a snacc, nut on her back
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There is a lot of stress with having kids. I wouldn't give them back if I could though. Teaches you a lot.
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dj1200 posted...

There is a lot of stress with having kids. I wouldn't give them back if I could though. Teaches you a lot.

True. I would imagine there are a lot of lessons to be gained through parenthood.
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PrideOfLion posted...

Caution998 posted...

Perhaps, but she's saying stuff that she has no idea would very likely change her perception. A lot of women fall in love with their children once they're born and then realize they had the wrong notions about the entire thing.

I imagine the ones who regret having children don't really advertise that fact

Yeah. It exists though.
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Honestly, I LOVE my daughter. She is the funniest, most clever and all the good things a parent says about their own, but I wish I had waited and didn't believe the loser I was with that we would build a home. Did it backwards and it's the most difficult life.

TheGreatGeno326 posted...

Caution998 posted...

you really can't judge what it's like to have children until you have one yourself.

With all due respect.

Well in my case if you find kids to be annoying then you can safely assume you wouldn't want to take care of one 24/7.

"Your" kid(s) and "someone elses" kids are 2 different things. Until you have them youll never know the difference.

Seraphim13 posted...

Honestly, I LOVE my daughter. She is the funniest, most clever and all the good things a parent says about their own, but I wish I had waited and didn't believe the loser I was with that we would build a home. Did it backwards and it's the most difficult life.

Thats definitely a major concern yeah. Also I think its good youre being honest regarding the difficulty - good to see input from someone in that actual situation.
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Dyinglegacy posted...

CheekSqueak posted...

Dyinglegacy posted...

Fossil posted...

CheekSqueak posted...

lmfao i worry about your patients.

Says the new account who probably works retail or fast food.

What's wrong with that?

retail sucks ass, been there. fast food is just a dead end job (mostly), been there too. would not go back to either unless i had zero other options.

He just said it like it was an insult. Some people are lucky to have any job they can get.

Working in either of those job categories is an insult. If you are working there other than your first job out of high school, you're probably a failure tbh.

I don't believe in luck. If you want a job you can get one. People stay unemployed generally because they are lazy and unwilling to do what's necessary.

I dont agree with that entire sentiment per se, but yeah working retail is usually taken to be an insult because its regarded poorly. Plus its awful
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Conflict posted...

This is a really simple-minded take, you're smarter than this tbh

*shrug* not everything requires a complicated response

True. Though I do think that some people are stuck to an extent.
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I likely won't ever be a dad but I'm a really good uncle. Taking care of kids full-time seems rough but I can watch them for a few days with no issues.

_Matchabuu_ posted...

True. Though I do think that some people are stuck to an extent.

People can get stuck very easily for a variety of reasons. I worked a retail job prior to joining the Army and I'm well past high school, but it was entirely my fault for a multitude of reasons why over the years.

I got my girlfriend pregnant when we were 17. We were going to get an abortion but before it could happen her family found out she was pregnant and pressured her into having the child.

I love my daughter and have many fond memories of being a parent, but if I could do things over again I'd of worn a condom.
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I'm also in grad school and work full time (though probably not as much as you) and I totally feel it.

I would like to have kids someday though, just not yet.

a-c-a-b posted...

I got my girlfriend pregnant when we were 17. We were going to get an abortion but before it could happen her family found out she was pregnant and pressured her into having the child.

I love my daughter and have many fond memories of being a parent, but if I could do things over again I'd of worn a condom.

Thats terrible that they pressured her :/
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_Matchabuu_ posted...

JBaLLEN66 posted...

Same

Ikr I mean its just like Ive never really wanted kids but unless I was in like a cushy stay at home mom situation I think I would be miserable.
Well, more miserable. The idea of throwing away a job and education to play with kids all day is physically repulsive to me personally.

Jesus.
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Of all the things to be offended by lol
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I think it's great that people acknowledge that they don't want kids. Better that then having them and then resenting them because they exist. I've seen plenty of that and it is depressing.
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JBaLLEN66 posted...

Same

Youre also glad they dont have kids? I know we were all thinking it but damn

ZeroKelvin posted...

JBaLLEN66 posted...

Same

Youre also glad they dont have kids? I know we were all thinking it but damn

Why do you follow me into every topic to troll me and flame me
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Ive never wanted to have kids, honestly, and nothing Ive seen about being a parent has changed my mind.

But, at this point in my life, its not even a realistic goal. Im 31 and cant even get a girl to look at me, let alone want to have children with me lol.
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_Matchabuu_ posted...

Of all the things to be offended by lol

Thats not what offended looks like.
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My buddy reminds me often how much he wishes he had never met his wife and had kids...that said he's not financially smart.

Moments like right now I'm glad I dont because I'm still too selfish and would rather watch this town parade,have a few beers and go home and do what i want.Older i get the more I'm willing to sacrifice my personal time...I'm a work in progress.I think i would be a shitty partner atm.
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My wife sent me a video of my son going down a water slide for the first time today. He inched towards the edge of the slide slowly, unsure. Then he went flying down and splashed at the bottom and his face was priceless.

I never had much desire to have kids when I was younger but I wouldn't trade the joy I got watching the video today for anything in the world.
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modena posted...

My buddy reminds me often how much he wishes he had never met his wife and had kids...that said he's not financially smart.

Moments like right now I'm glad I dont because I'm still too selfish and would rather watch this town parade,have a few beers and go home and do what i want.Older i get the more I'm willing to sacrifice my personal time...I'm a work in progress.I think i would be a shitty partner atm.

I dont know you sound very dadlike to me. Drinking beer at a parade is very dadish.
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fhqwhgads posted...

modena posted...

My buddy reminds me often how much he wishes he had never met his wife and had kids...that said he's not financially smart.

Moments like right now I'm glad I dont because I'm still too selfish and would rather watch this town parade,have a few beers and go home and do what i want.Older i get the more I'm willing to sacrifice my personal time...I'm a work in progress.I think i would be a shitty partner atm.

I dont know you sound very dadlike to me. Drinking beer at a parade is very dadish.

Cheers to that
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Zodd3224 posted...

fhqwhgads posted...

modena posted...

My buddy reminds me often how much he wishes he had never met his wife and had kids...that said he's not financially smart.

Moments like right now I'm glad I dont because I'm still too selfish and would rather watch this town parade,have a few beers and go home and do what i want.Older i get the more I'm willing to sacrifice my personal time...I'm a work in progress.I think i would be a shitty partner atm.

I dont know you sound very dadlike to me. Drinking beer at a parade is very dadish.

Cheers to that

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Zodd3224 posted...

fhqwhgads posted...

modena posted...

My buddy reminds me often how much he wishes he had never met his wife and had kids...that said he's not financially smart.

Moments like right now I'm glad I dont because I'm still too selfish and would rather watch this town parade,have a few beers and go home and do what i want.Older i get the more I'm willing to sacrifice my personal time...I'm a work in progress.I think i would be a shitty partner atm.

I dont know you sound very dadlike to me. Drinking beer at a parade is very dadish.

Cheers to that

Lmao cheers guys
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fhqwhgads posted...

Zodd3224 posted...

fhqwhgads posted...

modena posted...

My buddy reminds me often how much he wishes he had never met his wife and had kids...that said he's not financially smart.

Moments like right now I'm glad I dont because I'm still too selfish and would rather watch this town parade,have a few beers and go home and do what i want.Older i get the more I'm willing to sacrifice my personal time...I'm a work in progress.I think i would be a shitty partner atm.

I dont know you sound very dadlike to me. Drinking beer at a parade is very dadish.

Cheers to that

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fhqwhgads posted...

modena posted...

My buddy reminds me often how much he wishes he had never met his wife and had kids...that said he's not financially smart.

Moments like right now I'm glad I dont because I'm still too selfish and would rather watch this town parade,have a few beers and go home and do what i want.Older i get the more I'm willing to sacrifice my personal time...I'm a work in progress.I think i would be a shitty partner atm.

I dont know you sound very dadlike to me. Drinking beer at a parade is very dadish.

Only if you have dat sexy dad bod. You're not a true dad without it.
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Vyrulisse posted...

How can you possibly hate kids that much? Does not compute to me.

I mean theyre smelly, sticky, dirty, and require all of the attention.

_Matchabuu_ posted...

Holy_Pumpkin posted...

Correct me if I'm wrong, but it doesn't sound like to me you are completely against having kids, but the idea of having to balance kids, work, study, and personal life makes the endeavor unappealing, which is understandable.

I used to want kids when I was younger, in the sense that as a teen/young adult I looked forward to one day having a family and being a father. After becoming independent and becoming more responsible, I started to see the appeal of not having kids and doing whatever you want to do, even as a married couple. Being able to travel, vacation, and just not worry about the huge responsibility of having children. Over the years, growing wiser and having more life experience, I've reverted back to looking forward to having children again one day.

Life is the endless cycle of misery, hardship, and the pursuit of love/affection. Those who are disadvantaged, unlucky, and damaged end up giving up the pursuit and live a life seeking to numb the pain and are at higher risk to resort to negativity, hatred, and violence. There's so many troubled people in the world, and the only way we can get ahead as a society is to have mentors who can teach and care for our youth and our troubled so they grow to be leaders and better people, and people who have faced hardship and gone down bad paths can be put on a road to redemption. I feel as though I owe it to humanity to try and not just take my fortunate first world living for granted and indulge in my own selfish desires, and instead try to balance that with also working hard to put myself in preferable situations to properly and responsibly raise a kid one day, whether my own or adopting. If not that, at least be a mentor in some sort of capacity in a very serious sense.

I think it's a selfish waste to live your life, accumulate valuable life experiences, gain wisdom, and then not pass it off to someone who will be able to use your guidance and help spread your wisdom if you are in the position to. That qualifier at the end sets the standard for my entire perspective so I don't judge anyone at all who wouldn't want to be a parent or mentor of some kind. As long as they're not living a cushy live and are living in excess.

I definitely see where youre coming from, and I do find your personal philosophy of giving back to this world to be very inspiring. Truthfully with these things I find it hard to be that giving.

I'm with you on this one. It's a hard choice to make but I'm glad I went the no kids route, as a strictly personal choice. I just wouldn't be able to make those sacrifices well enough to give a child what he needs.
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