Current Events > Has anyone else hit a point of realizing you hate nearly everyone in your life?

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I feel totally fed up and disgusted with my closest friends and significant other. I cant stand any of them.

I want to believe its a me problem, but then I still love hanging out with my friends who ARENT dickhead college kids
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shockthemonkey posted...

Its not really your fault though, Rhode Island is fucking trash

Funny enough, the people I dont hate are largely -not- from ri

My s/o tried to tell me bitch (used in a non-pejorative, ungendered context, ie not directed at a person) was comparable to the n word and I had to roll over and pretend they werent even there to keep myself from saying fuck this, Im out
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not at all. somewhat disappointed in how little time they're willing to devote to me, but it's whatever
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Man I think I actually HATE my partner

Like holy shit every time were together it is fucking SOMETHING, just no concept whatsoever of give and take in a relationship.
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Did you ever think the simple solution is you're the bad apple? Like everyone around you happens to be a piece of shit except you? The odds are not in your favor.
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I'm with TC on this one

I've hit this same point recently too. From liars to thieves to various emotional abuse to enabling of each others bad habits. Like I want a better happier life but no one but me wants to make the changes to improve and so we just all constantly behave like crabs being slowly boiled alive.

It's such a never ending cycle of the world is ending problems with these people

I know this is half the reason I suck at sleeping and have bad habits because I am kept at high stress levels constantly

Honestly short of saying fuck you all, I feel stuck here

A couple of times throughout life, and once I cut all of those people off and surrounded myself with people who weren't hot garbage my quality of life tremendously improved.
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The problem is I have no friends I made on my own anymore. Which means, I'm no one's primary friend, first and foremost.
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butthole666 posted...

Man I think I actually HATE my partner

Like holy shit every time were together it is fucking SOMETHING, just no concept whatsoever of give and take in a relationship.

It's because you not a Chad. She thinks she deserves something better which is why she has little patience

fhqwhgads posted...

Did you ever think the simple solution is you're the bad apple? Like everyone around you happens to be a piece of shit except you? The odds are not in your favor.

did you even read the fucking op
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kayoticdreamz posted...

I'm with TC on this one

I've hit this same point recently too. From liars to thieves to various emotional abuse to enabling of each others bad habits. Like I want a better happier life but no one but me wants to make the changes to improve and so we just all constantly behave like crabs being slowly boiled alive.

It's such a never ending cycle of the world is ending problems with these people

I know this is half the reason I suck at sleeping and have bad habits because I am kept at high stress levels constantly

Honestly short of saying fuck you all, I feel stuck here

Damn this is me on the money

With my friends theyre a bunch of flakey alcoholics whose loyalty lies only with whoever is the most fun in the moment, with my partner its a constant stream of mole-hill-begat-mountain horseshit that has me frequently on the verge of yelling what is fucking wrong with you; the two situations feed into each other with horrifying voracity.

Its this massive feedback loop of toxicity
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get out of that relationship my guy
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Get out that relationship foo
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butthole666 posted...

fhqwhgads posted...

Did you ever think the simple solution is you're the bad apple? Like everyone around you happens to be a piece of shit except you? The odds are not in your favor.

did you even read the fucking op

My thoughts exactly when I read his posts.

I mean it's one thing to not read all of TC's posts in a topic, but to not even read he first post.... wtf?

Anyway, no, I don't hate everyone. Depending on how one defines hate, possibly I hate none at all.
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butthole666 posted...

constant stream of mole-hill-begat-mountain horseshit that has me frequently on the verge of yelling what is fucking wrong with you

I know youre irritated and all but this made me lol
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NinjaBreakfast posted...

get out of that relationship my guy

Lost_All_Senses posted...

Get out that relationship foo

I mean, yeah

We also only ever hang out at their place and fool around bc i cant do any kind of date shit w them and im honestly sick of getting my dick touched i want to get dinner or go to a fucking movie
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butthole666 posted...

I feel totally fed up and disgusted with my closest friends and significant other. I cant stand any of them.

I want to believe its a me problem, but then I still love hanging out with my friends who ARENT dickhead college kids

Tell me about it, ive noticed it with a lot of us guys in our late 20s. My so called friends idea of a good time is putting each other down until we all corner ourselves. It's absolutely pathetic, and for a measly $100 a month we could have a studio to just chill and hang out at on the weekends, maybe help some of the ones who need a cheap place to stay... No, they all want to be the first to reach the top and have a battle for insignificant amount of power.

butthole666 posted...

Its this massive feedback loop of toxicity

This so much

catboy0_0 posted...

not at all. somewhat disappointed in how little time they're willing to devote to me, but it's whatever

lol
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Pretty much, yeah. I've convinced myself I deserve it though. Trying to break out if that mindset, but it's not easy.
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butthole666 posted...

NinjaBreakfast posted...

get out of that relationship my guy

Lost_All_Senses posted...

Get out that relationship foo

I mean, yeah

We also only ever hang out at their place and fool around bc i cant do any kind of date shit w them and im honestly sick of getting my dick touched i want to get dinner or go to a fucking movie

So what's your plan of getting out of it. Cause you seem comfortably miserable. You say you agree but then follow it up with more stuff you hate instead of actually committing to having the conversation about actually leaving. How long you gonna live your 1 life you get for others that you don't even like? That's weak
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HighOnSolar posted...

catboy0_0 posted...

not at all. somewhat disappointed in how little time they're willing to devote to me, but it's whatever

lol

what so funny mr
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yup I hit it a while ago I've been burnt out for so long
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This happened to me with a group of people I hung out with a lot early into college. After college they did nothing but get high and play borderlands all day on the weekends while most of them worked soul crushing jobs and hated their lives generally. Nobody wanted to do anything different just the same thing every weekend, same game same shit, all sense of adventure lost. I mean, the group went from being a bright spot in my life to ultimately becoming overly cynical and toxic as time passed. There used to be a kind of charm and humor in the atmosphere that kept things lively and I had held onto hope for it way too long. We had dreams and things to look forward to early on and were excited to go do different things and I think that never left me like it did for them. Eventually I just realized one day that they all grew into this group I didn't want to be a part of anymore. I blocked their numbers and stopped interacting with them and things have been much better.

I've since found many people to talk with that aren't overly cynical/passive aggressive/chronic complainers. Some are even close friends. The only thing I regret is not doing it sooner. Life is fleeting, people are not always going to be the same and learning that is just another life lesson. Sometimes it's better to get out than try to become a savior trying to get people out of their slum minds.
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Kombucha posted...

This happened to me with a group of people I hung out with a lot early into college. After college they did nothing but get high and play borderlands all day on the weekends while most of them worked soul crushing jobs and hated their lives generally. Nobody wanted to do anything different just the same thing every weekend, same game same shit, all sense of adventure lost. I mean, the group went from being a bright spot in my life to ultimately becoming overly cynical and toxic as time passed. There used to be a kind of charm and humor in the atmosphere that kept things lively and I had held onto hope for it way too long. We had dreams and things to look forward to early on and were excited to go do different things and I think that never left me like it did for them. Eventually I just realized one day that they all grew into this group I didn't want to be a part of anymore. I blocked their numbers and stopped interacting with them and things have been much better.

I've since found many people to talk with that aren't overly cynical/passive aggressive/chronic complainers. Some are even close friends. The only thing I regret is not doing it sooner. Life is fleeting, people are not always going to be the same and learning that is just another life lesson. Sometimes it's better to get out than try to become a savior trying to get people out of their slum minds.

is there more to this..? a little hard to travel to paris when you're paying bills straight out of college, can't all be ceos.
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yeah i was at that point in high school. i couldn't wait to get away.

now i miss them for a day every 5 years or so, so i say hi and ask how they're doing. then i don't really want to speak to any of them anymore, even though i'm sure they've all changed since.
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i'm paranoid of everyone :(.

the complete opposite of the twisted scale.
though sometimes the dog can bring some laugh's. today she digged in the dirt and sneezed that's always funny.
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HighOnSolar posted...

is there more to this..? a little hard to travel to paris when you're paying bills straight out of college, can't all be ceos.

It was more like, we would rather not leave this garage rather than we would not leave the country.
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i see. just curious is all
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I got a question for people with shitty communities. Do you feel like you deserve to be around better people? Or are you just as shitty as your shitty friends?

Cause you gotta be the person you want to be around.
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Lost_All_Senses posted...

I got a question for people with shitty communities. Do you feel like you deserve to be around better people? Or are you just as shitty as your shitty friends?

Cause you gotta be the person you want to be around.

I feel like this cuts both ways

There is a phrase "you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with". I think this applies to our internet usage here(such as the generally toxic gamefaqs). But as also in real life, if you are surrounded by people that are constantly doom and gloom, lying, and will intentionally or unintentionally sabotage your efforts, that will eventually wear you down to become like them.

Kombucha posted...

HighOnSolar posted...

is there more to this..? a little hard to travel to paris when you're paying bills straight out of college, can't all be ceos.

It was more like, we would rather not leave this garage rather than we would not leave the country.

especially in cases like this. It wouldnt matter how much he was like what he wanted to be, that group would forever drag him down. If this person had any kind of mental health problems or was already stressed or worn down, leaving this group I would imagine would be quite difficult. And that is my problem anyway, and probably the problem of a lot of people.

We wake up, realize our life is a type of hell yet strangely comfortable(not wanting of food or a house or water or anything), yet we are objectively miserable. We decide, "hey guys let's change and stop being miserable" and that is hit with every conceivable possible excuse in the world as to why that won't work. The world is conspiring against you afterall(could be true, but who cares, try anyway damnit)

At least in my view, I find it very hard to make self improvement while surrounded in a toxic cycle feedback loop.

and yes I Feel like i deserve better than this. But I also know i have to work for it, but I sadly let myself get stuck in this hell, so it will be hard and everyday is a struggle because of that.

EDIT:

Then we have shitty bosses that compound the problem....I've seen bosses who the first thing in the morning are already fuming and ready to blow....that just ensures the day is about to be a total suck.

It really is a cycle of toxic feedback loop

kayoticdreamz posted...

I feel like this cuts both ways

There is a phrase "you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with". I think this applies to our internet usage here(such as the generally toxic gamefaqs). But as also in real life, if you are surrounded by people that are constantly doom and gloom, lying, and will intentionally or unintentionally sabotage your efforts, that will eventually wear you down to become like them.

I definitely objectify women more when Im with my one friend even though Im also preaching how shallow it is lol. I think being open is a huge part cause if you aren't open then they become more like who they think you are instead of who you actually are too. I feel like people are more honest about themselves arou d me cause Im constantly making jokes about all my faults. I love the relationships Ive created
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Lost_All_Senses posted...

kayoticdreamz posted...

I feel like this cuts both ways

There is a phrase "you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with". I think this applies to our internet usage here(such as the generally toxic gamefaqs). But as also in real life, if you are surrounded by people that are constantly doom and gloom, lying, and will intentionally or unintentionally sabotage your efforts, that will eventually wear you down to become like them.

I definitely objectify women more when Im with my one friend even though Im also preaching how shallow it is lol. I think being open is a huge part cause if you aren't open then they become more like who they think you are instead of who you actually are too. I feel like people are more honest about themselves arou d me cause Im constantly making jokes about all my faults. I love the relationships Ive created

if women didn't want to be objectified they wouldn't dress the way they do lol.

I don't know though, I'm not convinced being open will fix it the toxic feedback cycle loop. I think it could help in some cases, but probably not all or near enough.

No I don't have this problem
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kayoticdreamz posted...

Lost_All_Senses posted...

kayoticdreamz posted...

I feel like this cuts both ways

There is a phrase "you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with". I think this applies to our internet usage here(such as the generally toxic gamefaqs). But as also in real life, if you are surrounded by people that are constantly doom and gloom, lying, and will intentionally or unintentionally sabotage your efforts, that will eventually wear you down to become like them.

I definitely objectify women more when Im with my one friend even though Im also preaching how shallow it is lol. I think being open is a huge part cause if you aren't open then they become more like who they think you are instead of who you actually are too. I feel like people are more honest about themselves arou d me cause Im constantly making jokes about all my faults. I love the relationships Ive created

if women didn't want to be objectified they wouldn't dress the way they do lol.

I don't know though, I'm not convinced being open will fix it the toxic feedback cycle loop. I think it could help in some cases, but probably not all or near enough.

Of course there is no one fix all for any relationship. For instance if mutual respect doesn't exist then a relationship will never work out regardless of what you do.
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