Current Events > So how many dates until you can assign the title "girlfriend"

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To the girl you are talking to/dating? And even if yall go eat somewhere together like twice or have lunch together on campus...when is the title "gf" actually assigned? Or do I formall ask them to be my gf after one of the dates?

Im seeing this girl, we already had one date a while back and when school starts up again I'm planning on asking her on a second date, I've just never been this far with a girl before so idk how this works in terms of naming shit
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If you've only been on a few dates, don't call her your girlfriend. Too soon.

Shoot closer for at least a month.
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When you decide to go "exclusive" and bit go on dates with anyone else. No real set number.

So you pretty much have to feel it? Im guessing these people with specific dates in their insta bio for when they became "official" are pretty much when they felt that relationship became solidified
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After some time you need to have the "where is this going" conversation.

You can either
A) Keep seeing each other with no commitment
B) Make a commitment to only see each other (reagular, non open relationship)
C) Break it off

When people do this and Option B is picked they are then in a relationship.
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Conflict posted...

How long was 'a while back'?

Right before the semester ended (late April) but we've been texting all summer so yeah
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Whenever so long as you're both on the same page.

When you first start talking to her
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Communication is key, homie. Just follow your gut, and when you feel time is right, just bring up the exclusivity convo.
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Cornmuffins posted...

When you first start talking to her

Met her last december, met for one on one lunch twice at one of the severies on our campus in March, first "date" in late April...soooo?
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After you bang

People still go on dates in 2018?

Couldnt you just... you know, ask her?

You: Weve been dating for a month now. Can I call you my girlfriend, if people ask about our relationship?
Her: Sure, yeah, of course. (Problem solved.)
Or
Her: What?! <laughter> No, do not call me that. (Problem still solved, but now youre sad.)
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Lorenzo_2003 posted...

Couldnt you just... you know, ask her?

You: Weve been dating for a month now. Can I call you my girlfriend, if people ask about our relationship?
Her: Sure, yeah, of course. (Problem solved.)
Or
Her: What?! <laughter> No, do not call me that. (Problem still solved, but now youre sad.)

Mmm seems simple enough at first but ive gotten different answers all throughout this thread...so yeah its not really obvious to a rookie like me
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Uh, its more of a thing you need to discuss then it is a number of dates....
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was it that same girl you were into for a while? whatever happened with that? also what happened on the first date? Anything physical?

it depends on the quality of dates too.

e.g. if you guys went to a bunch of movies but didnt' really talk before or after the number doesn't matter
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Solid Snake07 posted...

Uh, its more of a thing you need to discuss then it is a number of dates....

This. You're thinking of it like a video game or something. If things are going well, ask her if she wants to be official.
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If she doesn't commit to me on the first date, we're done!
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Ask if things are exclusive, it sounds less awkward than asking if its official. But have that type of conversation regardless of what words you use.
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King_Hellebuyck posted...

Ask if things are exclusive, it sounds less awkward than asking if its official. But have that type of conversation regardless of what words you use.

This sounds like a good plan. I'll keep it in mind.
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Literally ask her "Will you be my girlfriend?" If it's the right time, she will say yes.
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Only real answer is when she consistently leaves things at your place

Forgettable posted...

It depends how well each date goes. The better the date goes, the more xp you get and the quicker you level up. Once the relationship hits level 10 you can start calling her your girlfriend.

Lol this aint a video game (i havent played a video game in like 5 months)
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As soon as you make eye contact as far as I'm concerned
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it depends on the relationship.

when me and my girlfriend started going out, it was pretty clear from the start that we were exclusive and we were serious about our relationship. about 2 weeks in asked if thats what it was and she said yeah.

but some people are more uh, lax in their dating, i guess? date multiple people, or are just trying to see if they like them at all first. in that case yeah wait. but only you will know when its right to ask
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Lorenzo_2003 posted...

Couldnt you just... you know, ask her?

You: Weve been dating for a month now. Can I call you my girlfriend, if people ask about our relationship?
Her: Sure, yeah, of course. (Problem solved.)
Or
Her: What?! <laughter> No, do not call me that. (Problem still solved, but now youre sad.)

This is the right answer.

You could literally date a girl for a year and she wont consider herself your girlfriend. Or you could date a girl once and she sees herself as in a committed relationship with you. You cant know how she feels unless you talk about it. Its really best to always ask before deciding to give someone the girlfriend / boyfriend title anyway, because people really do have very different ideas about relationships and boundaries and you could easily cause upset and embarrassment if you just assume.

So basically communication between the two parties is essential, but the way to go about it is purely subjective. Got it. Lets just see if she agrees to a second date and go from there.
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TheDarkCircle posted...

was it that same girl you were into for a while? whatever happened with that? also what happened on the first date? Anything physical?

Yes, that girl. Had a little doubt when I asked her out to the dance, but she had an EMS shift for most of that day so I wasn't trippin, she has been genuine up to that point so I didn't give up.. First date was standard though, nothing physical aside from a goodbye hug.
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You two literally just have a conversation about it and decide to make it official one day.

Its corny, its not smooth, but just ask if she wants to be your girlfriend.
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DeroIin posted...

TheDarkCircle posted...

was it that same girl you were into for a while? whatever happened with that? also what happened on the first date? Anything physical?

Yes, that girl. Had a little doubt when I asked her out to the dance, but she had an EMS shift for most of that day so I wasn't trippin, she has been genuine up to that point so I didn't give up.. First date was standard though, nothing physical aside from a goodbye hug.

good luck with it. hope it works out!

My fiance and I never had a day that we became official. The first 6 months we were just fucking and told each other we didn't even like each other, the sex was just that good. Then we decided not to see anyone else except each other (although neither of us had in the time we'd known each other anyway), then we started going on a few more "dates", then we told each other we actually loved each other.

We just picked the day we first met as our anniversary date, even though it was like 9 months after we got into a "proper" relationship.
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TheDarkCircle posted...

DeroIin posted...

TheDarkCircle posted...

was it that same girl you were into for a while? whatever happened with that? also what happened on the first date? Anything physical?

Yes, that girl. Had a little doubt when I asked her out to the dance, but she had an EMS shift for most of that day so I wasn't trippin, she has been genuine up to that point so I didn't give up.. First date was standard though, nothing physical aside from a goodbye hug.

good luck with it. hope it works out!

Thanks man
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Im scared. She knows I like her but idk if she is just having lunch with me/went on rhe date just to be friendly or if she is genuinely interested in me.

Also, I can't wait for school to start, this wait to get my life on a roll again instead of sitting here bored is killing me, idc how busy I'll be when the semester starts lol.

*mini rant over*
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