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BloodyNate
07/23/18 8:18:17 PM
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No, regular crying is good for everyone
41.86% (18 votes)
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Yes, but it's NOT strange when women cry regularly
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Yes, and it's ALSO strange when women cry regularly
34.88% (15 votes)
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catboy0_0
07/23/18 8:18:48 PM
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Regular crying isn't normal
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BloodyNate
07/23/18 8:19:17 PM
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catboy0_0 posted...
Regular crying isn't normal


why do you say that?
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catboy0_0
07/23/18 8:20:52 PM
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It usually means there's something wrong if you cry on the reg
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ThyCorndog
07/23/18 8:23:58 PM
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not sure what you mean by the wording. is it normal for men to cry? yes. forcing people to internalize their emotions will hurt them mentally. is it normal to cry often? I would say no and you probably have some things in your life that need sorted
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BloodyNate
07/23/18 8:24:16 PM
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catboy0_0 posted...
It usually means there's something wrong if you cry on the reg


i've never heard that. for the most part what i hear is that it's a great emotional release that can prevent meltdowns from lack of release
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Cleo_II
07/23/18 8:24:28 PM
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What do you mean by regularly?
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SpinKirby
07/23/18 8:24:48 PM
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catboy0_0 posted...
Regular crying isn't normal

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catboy0_0
07/23/18 8:25:12 PM
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BloodyNate posted...
catboy0_0 posted...
It usually means there's something wrong if you cry on the reg


i've never heard that. for the most part what i hear is that it's a great emotional release that can prevent meltdowns from lack of release

it's not strange to cry from time to time, but if you cry like every day there's something wrong
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BloodyNate
07/23/18 8:25:41 PM
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Cleo_II posted...
What do you mean by regularly?


I think whatever definition you think? Some people is once a week, once a month, once every few days, it depends on what stressors you have in your life.
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BloodyNate
07/23/18 8:27:18 PM
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catboy0_0 posted...
it's not strange to cry from time to time, but if you cry like every day there's something wrong


I think it depends on what your life is like. Someone working at a 911 call center, for example, might need a lot of release, especially if they have other stressors like children or difficult relationships. in that case, it's a good way to keep yourself present.

Especially if you suffer from depression, it's not a bad way to really live in your feelings, too, because depression tends to be very deflating and causes some to feel little or nothing.
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Lost_All_Senses
07/23/18 8:30:09 PM
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Last time I cried was over half a year ago when my best friend was here and he got a call that his brother was hit by a car, then he called his mom and told her and she just started screaming really loud. It was one of the most overwhelming sensations I had ever felt. As soon as he took off I just fell apart for like 20 mins. Thankfully he didn't die but he was lucky he didn't.
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BloodyNate
07/23/18 8:32:48 PM
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Lost_All_Senses posted...
Last time I cried was over half a year ago when my best friend was here and he got a call that his brother was hit by a car, then he called his mom and told her and she just started screaming really loud. It was one of the most overwhelming sensations I had ever felt. As soon as he took off I just fell apart for like 20 mins. Thankfully he didn't die but he was lucky he didn't.


Jesus that sounds so stressful to deal with, even just listening to her screaming. I'm glad he survived.
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gatorsPENSbucs
07/23/18 8:33:43 PM
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Yes, very strange.
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KlRBEH
07/23/18 8:33:55 PM
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Men by nature aren't as emotional as women so they probably shouldn't be crying every day unless they have an estrogen problem
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SpinKirby
07/23/18 8:35:05 PM
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Just by reading this topic, you can tell TC is way out of frequency.
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BloodyNate
07/23/18 8:36:35 PM
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KlRBEH posted...
Men by nature aren't as emotional as women so they probably shouldn't be crying every day unless they have an estrogen problem


uhm this sounds like bullshit bruh.

SpinKirby posted...
Just by reading this topic, you can tell TC is way out of frequency.


i mean i totally am i'm not even trying to deny that, but also for healthy minded people it can be okay if it helps them stay present and moving towards contentment.
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Lost_All_Senses
07/23/18 8:39:07 PM
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BloodyNate posted...
Lost_All_Senses posted...
Last time I cried was over half a year ago when my best friend was here and he got a call that his brother was hit by a car, then he called his mom and told her and she just started screaming really loud. It was one of the most overwhelming sensations I had ever felt. As soon as he took off I just fell apart for like 20 mins. Thankfully he didn't die but he was lucky he didn't.


Jesus that sounds so stressful to deal with, even just listening to her screaming. I'm glad he survived.


Yeah. It's when I realized just how drastic the difference is between hearing about it and being their when everyone is finding out. Makes me wonder if I could even make it through something like that happening right in front of my face. I just immediately start thinking about what everyone is experiencing instead of just myself and it's way more horrible.
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catboy0_0
07/23/18 8:39:52 PM
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I don't think you should be shamed for it, but you should definitely get a therapist if you cry very often.
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Yomi
07/23/18 8:40:28 PM
#21:


BloodyNate posted...
catboy0_0 posted...
it's not strange to cry from time to time, but if you cry like every day there's something wrong


I think it depends on what your life is like. Someone working at a 911 call center, for example, might need a lot of release, especially if they have other stressors like children or difficult relationships. in that case, it's a good way to keep yourself present.

Especially if you suffer from depression, it's not a bad way to really live in your feelings, too, because depression tends to be very deflating and causes some to feel little or nothing.
That person should look into getting a different job. Yes, crying is a good emotional release and all that but if you're in a situation where you end up crying every third day you should look into getting away from said situation. Being in very stressful situations so often will take a toll on your body whether you're crying regularly or not and crying might relieve some stress but it won't make your problems go away.
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halomonkey1_3_5
07/23/18 8:40:58 PM
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"regularly" is pretty nebulous, and if you're crying on the daily b/c your mom is dying or some shit thats a little different than crying because someone said something mean at work, or whatever
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Mr_Biscuit
07/23/18 8:41:01 PM
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Define regularly

Everyone should be in touch with their emotions to cry, but no one should be just bursting into tears daily
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BloodyNate
07/23/18 8:45:57 PM
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catboy0_0 posted...
I don't think you should be shamed for it, but you should definitely get a therapist if you cry very often.


bruh i'm the biggest proponent of therapy, i had an appointment just a few hours ago

Yomi posted...
That person should look into getting a different job. Yes, crying is a good emotional release and all that but if you're in a situation where you end up crying every third day you should look into getting away from said situation. Being in very stressful situations so often will take a toll on your body whether you're crying regularly or not and crying might relieve some stress but it won't make your problems go away.

who said it makes your problems go away? it's a natural stress reliever. I'm not talking about sobbing to death, but maybe while driving alone in the car having a quick look at your sadness and stress and just saying okay to it, acknowledging that it's heavy and hard so that you can actually work on it. For me, what often triggers my tears is just acknowledging to someone that I'm sad or why I'm sad, which allows me to mourn it and then move on.

halomonkey1_3_5 posted...
"regularly" is pretty nebulous, and if you're crying on the daily b/c your mom is dying or some shit thats a little different than crying because someone said something mean at work, or whatever

i don't see what's wrong with having a cry to get over someone being mean, or especially after a particularly hard day. speaking of nebulous, everybody faulting regular criers are being pretty vague about why it's not a good thing

Mr_Biscuit posted...
Define regularly

Everyone should be in touch with their emotions to cry, but no one should be just bursting into tears daily


depends on the type of crier, tbqh
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catboy0_0
07/23/18 8:46:41 PM
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BloodyNate posted...
bruh i'm the biggest proponent of therapy, i had an appointment just a few hours ago

then you should bring up this idea to your therapist and see what they say
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Yomi
07/23/18 8:53:26 PM
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BloodyNate posted...
who said it makes your problems go away? it's a natural stress reliever. I'm not talking about sobbing to death, but maybe while driving alone in the car having a quick look at your sadness and stress and just saying okay to it, acknowledging that it's heavy and hard so that you can actually work on it. For me, what often triggers my tears is just acknowledging to someone that I'm sad or why I'm sad, which allows me to mourn it and then move on.
Nobody said that, I'm just stating it just in case. My point is that crying will only do so much and if you're in situations where you end up crying regularly, and it might help to relieve some stress, you're still putting yourself through harmful situations and that's simply not good for you.

Crying is ok, but yeah, crying every day is definitely strange.
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BloodyNate
07/23/18 8:57:47 PM
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catboy0_0 posted...
then you should bring up this idea to your therapist and see what they say


thank you, i don't much need your advice, nor did i ask for it. i am doing these things, i happen to understand the issues i'm working with and how i'm dealing with them, and i don't much need people condescending to me as you are.
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catboy0_0
07/23/18 9:00:01 PM
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BloodyNate posted...
catboy0_0 posted...
then you should bring up this idea to your therapist and see what they say


thank you, i don't much need your advice, nor did i ask for it. i am doing these things, i happen to understand the issues i'm working with and how i'm dealing with them, and i don't much need people condescending to me as you are.

sorry, I didn't mean to be condescending... sorry it came across that way :O
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Kyurem-BIack
07/23/18 9:00:31 PM
#29:


yes

crying every once in a while is natural, crying regularly just makes you a bitch
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Reis
07/23/18 9:02:16 PM
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BloodyNate posted...
catboy0_0 posted...
then you should bring up this idea to your therapist and see what they say


thank you, i don't much need your advice, nor did i ask for it. i am doing these things, i happen to understand the issues i'm working with and how i'm dealing with them, and i don't much need people condescending to me as you are.

he isn't being condescending, shut the fuck up and stop being a bitch
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catboy0_0
07/23/18 9:02:34 PM
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Reis posted...
he isn't being condescending, shut the fuck up and stop being a bitch

please don't say that
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CircleOfManias
07/23/18 9:03:18 PM
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You're supposed to bottle it up until you end up blowing your brains out with a shotgun, apparently.
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Kyurem-BIack
07/23/18 9:04:18 PM
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catboy0_0 posted...
Reis posted...
he isn't being condescending, shut the fuck up and stop being a bitch

please don't say that

why shouldn't he

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catboy0_0
07/23/18 9:04:44 PM
#34:


CircleOfManias posted...
You're supposed to bottle it up until you end up blowing your brains out with a shotgun, apparently.

chances are men either know that expressing it would invite more things to cry over or pain or ridicule, or they tried expressing it and got more things to cry over, pain, and ridicule
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LinksLiege
07/23/18 9:17:31 PM
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I don't know the extent to which regular crying is normal, but crying itself certainly is. We have this sort of emotional-flushing reaction for a reason.

Reis posted...
he isn't being condescending, shut the fuck up and stop being a bitch

Show us on the doll where nate hurt you.
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BloodyNate
07/23/18 9:18:12 PM
#36:


catboy0_0 posted...
sorry, I didn't mean to be condescending... sorry it came across that way :O


all good, i let myself get wound up a bit and probably got annoyed because i typically like your posting. sorry for being cold bruh

i sometimes forget that i'm inviting a lot of criticism when i make these topics, but the ones ITT felt particularly targeted and i didn't handle it well
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Lost_All_Senses
07/23/18 9:18:16 PM
#37:


Kyurem-BIack posted...
catboy0_0 posted...
Reis posted...
he isn't being condescending, shut the fuck up and stop being a bitch

please don't say that

why shouldn't he

the way to stop being a bitch is to be firmly told to stop being a bitch


Except a lot of people use "bitch" as a manipulation tactic. "Turn the music down dude Im trying to sleep" "stop being a bitch dude". Because trying to sleep at midnight by telling a person to turn music down is way more being a bitch then just not saying something to people being disrespectful? I figured that tactic out immediately as a kid.
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Reis
07/23/18 9:21:39 PM
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LinksLiege posted...
Show us on the doll where nate hurt you.

nowhere, i don't even mind him as a poster but acting like a dude who's trying to give legitimate advice is being condescending is dumb
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catboy0_0
07/23/18 9:23:17 PM
#39:


Reis posted...
LinksLiege posted...
Show us on the doll where nate hurt you.

nowhere, i don't even mind him as a poster but acting like a dude who's trying to give legitimate advice is being condescending is dumb

tbf, it was ambiguous on a board of people that are condescending
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glitteringfairy
07/23/18 9:25:27 PM
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Well damn I didn't think you'd make a whole topic about this.

Earlier TC posted in a topic that he cries at least 1-3 days
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Kyurem-BIack
07/23/18 9:28:09 PM
#41:


Lost_All_Senses posted...
Kyurem-BIack posted...
catboy0_0 posted...
Reis posted...
he isn't being condescending, shut the fuck up and stop being a bitch

please don't say that

why shouldn't he

the way to stop being a bitch is to be firmly told to stop being a bitch


Except a lot of people use "bitch" as a manipulation tactic. "Turn the music down dude Im trying to sleep" "stop being a bitch dude". Because trying to sleep at midnight by telling a person to turn music down is way more being a bitch then just not saying something to people being disrespectful? I figured that tactic out immediately as a kid.

very good point but the way it's being used here is justified
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BloodyNate
07/23/18 9:35:46 PM
#42:


Reis posted...
nowhere, i don't even mind him as a poster but acting like a dude who's trying to give legitimate advice is being condescending is dumb


giving unsolicited advice is always a dumb move, far and away most people are just trying to be heard when they talk about their problems. unless they ask for advice, stay quiet. it's a pretty easy code to live by, it helps to build trust

glitteringfairy posted...
Well damn I didn't think you'd make a whole topic about this.

Earlier TC posted in a topic that he cries at least 1-3 days


acting like you're tattling on me lol it's not a secret
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catboy0_0
07/23/18 9:37:32 PM
#43:


BloodyNate posted...

giving unsolicited advice is always a dumb move, far and away most people are just trying to be heard when they talk about their problems. unless they ask for advice, stay quiet. it's a pretty easy code to live by, it helps to build trust

okay now I agree with the other posters
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BloodyNate
07/23/18 9:39:24 PM
#44:


catboy0_0 posted...
okay now I agree with the other posters

try it sometime, you might be surprised
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Lost_All_Senses
07/23/18 9:43:07 PM
#45:


catboy0_0 posted...
BloodyNate posted...

giving unsolicited advice is always a dumb move, far and away most people are just trying to be heard when they talk about their problems. unless they ask for advice, stay quiet. it's a pretty easy code to live by, it helps to build trust

okay now I agree with the other posters


All I do is verbally force my advice on people lol. If people don't like it they sure are good at putting up with it cause they keep hitting me up.
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catboy0_0
07/23/18 9:43:10 PM
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BloodyNate posted...
catboy0_0 posted...
okay now I agree with the other posters

try it sometime, you might be surprised

your fault for soliciting opinions in TT

people generally discuss things in topics
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thrashmetal14
07/23/18 9:45:36 PM
#47:


catboy0_0 posted...
Regular crying isn't normal


I would say this. Crying is healthy when really bad things happen. If you're crying regularly, you probably just don't know how to cope with normal daily struggles. Or you have some intense trauma and/or psychological issues, which again, isn't "normal."
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catboy0_0
07/23/18 9:48:48 PM
#48:


BloodyNate posted...
giving unsolicited advice is always a dumb move, far and away most people are just trying to be heard when they talk about their problems. unless they ask for advice, stay quiet. it's a pretty easy code to live by, it helps to build trust

I mean you're kind of being a hypocrite by giving my unsolicited advice with this post...
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catboy0_0
07/23/18 9:51:08 PM
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and being snooty about it to boot
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RoboLaserGandhi
07/23/18 9:51:49 PM
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Strange for anyone to cry regularly, especially men.
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