Current Events > How much are you willing to change for a woman?

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This topic inspired by I Can Change by John Legend.
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Only qualities I don't consider significant to my personality.
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My shirt and my socks but not my pants.
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For a woman? Everything.

For a man? Nothing.
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My clothes I guess. Still have all my old shit and definitely wear them, but got some shit that I would never have bought or worn.
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Eh, I'd probably eat out more. At restaurants you sick fucks. And I'd probably regulate my sleeping pattern better. That's about it.
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Reis posted...

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I was expecting a lot more posts like this.

Glad to see there is more maturity here than I thought. Im honestly at a point where Id work on any part of myself I don't hold pride in if I had the high of being involved with a good woman.
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In all seriousness, majorly changing yourself for another person is quite frankly a horrible idea, and it doesn't even guarantee they'll stay. So yeah, don't bother.
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Anything that involves taking more responsibility and helping her out in turn.
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joestarrr posted...

In all seriousness, majorly changing yourself for another person is quite frankly a horrible idea, and it doesn't even guarantee they'll stay. So yeah, don't bother.

You sound like you're talking about negative change. Id only change stuff that made me an overall more better and more involved person. If I break out of my seclusion and they break up with me after Im still better off than I was before. I enjoy my seclusion to a degree but I feel like for the right person I might just find the overall enjoyment of being a more productive part of society
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Lost_All_Senses posted...

joestarrr posted...

In all seriousness, majorly changing yourself for another person is quite frankly a horrible idea, and it doesn't even guarantee they'll stay. So yeah, don't bother.

You sound like you're talking about negative change. Id only change stuff that made me an overall more better and more involved person. If I break out of my seclusion and they break up with me after Im still better off than I was before. I enjoy my seclusion to a degree but I feel like for the right person I might just find the overall enjoyment of being a more productive part of society

That's certainly a fair assessment and I don't deny that there are positive changes that another person could bring out in you. I wouldn't say I'm necessarily only referring to negative changes, but rather, ones that force you to be a facsimile of a different person because it's the other person's type.
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I'd put more effort into things that aren't very attractive but I'm too lazy to fix while single.

Examples include not cleaning my apartment enough, being more positive around other people, shaving consistently.

I'll try new things but I'm not selling my motorcycle and not changing my core hobbies.
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joestarrr posted...

Lost_All_Senses posted...

joestarrr posted...

In all seriousness, majorly changing yourself for another person is quite frankly a horrible idea, and it doesn't even guarantee they'll stay. So yeah, don't bother.

You sound like you're talking about negative change. Id only change stuff that made me an overall more better and more involved person. If I break out of my seclusion and they break up with me after Im still better off than I was before. I enjoy my seclusion to a degree but I feel like for the right person I might just find the overall enjoyment of being a more productive part of society

That's certainly a fair assessment and I don't deny that there are positive changes that another person could bring out in you. I wouldn't say I'm necessarily only referring to negative changes, but rather, ones that force you to be a facsimile of a different person because it's the other person's type.

Positive and negative are all relative terms though.
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joestarrr posted...

Lost_All_Senses posted...

joestarrr posted...

In all seriousness, majorly changing yourself for another person is quite frankly a horrible idea, and it doesn't even guarantee they'll stay. So yeah, don't bother.

You sound like you're talking about negative change. Id only change stuff that made me an overall more better and more involved person. If I break out of my seclusion and they break up with me after Im still better off than I was before. I enjoy my seclusion to a degree but I feel like for the right person I might just find the overall enjoyment of being a more productive part of society

That's certainly a fair assessment and I don't deny that there are positive changes that another person could bring out in you. I wouldn't say I'm necessarily only referring to negative changes, but rather, ones that force you to be a facsimile of a different person because it's the other person's type.

That's a whole other discussion I guess. Im not talking about playing a part for someone. I mean being open minded to stuff you aren't doing when alone. I agree I wouldn't do anything that felt too uncomfortable and out of character. But Is definitely be open even if It was outside my comfort zone.
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if they can't handle me at my worst, they don't deserve me at my best

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Kaiganeer posted...

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Lost_All_Senses posted...

That's a whole other discussion I guess. Im not talking about playing a part for someone. I mean being open minded to stuff you aren't doing when alone. I agree I wouldn't do anything that felt too uncomfortable and out of character. But Is definitely be open even if It was outside my comfort zone.

Certainly. I think that as people, we won't grow unless we push ourselves outside of our own comfort zones, and sometimes we push ourselves when we wouldn't because of another person. Nothing wrong with that.
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theAteam posted...

I'd put more effort into things that aren't very attractive but I'm too lazy to fix while single.

Examples include not cleaning my apartment enough, being more positive around other people, shaving consistently.

I'll try new things but I'm not selling my motorcycle and not changing my core hobbies.

That's reasonable and I definitely agree with cleaning my house more. Shit, last time I thought a chick was into me I started cleaning up my place just in case it got that far. I jumped the gun but was still happy I got cleaning done haha. The high off thinking you might of found someone is a good time to use the momentum to be productive
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joestarrr posted...

Lost_All_Senses posted...

That's a whole other discussion I guess. Im not talking about playing a part for someone. I mean being open minded to stuff you aren't doing when alone. I agree I wouldn't do anything that felt too uncomfortable and out of character. But Is definitely be open even if It was outside my comfort zone.

Certainly. I think that as people, we won't grow unless we push ourselves outside of our own comfort zones, and sometimes we push ourselves when we wouldn't because of another person. Nothing wrong with that.

Yeah. I think we're at an agreement. Smart
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