Current Events > when friends ask to borrow my things, how do i say no w.o sounding pretentious

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so pretty much anything i own costs $500+. Watches, jackets, shoes, etc. Sometimes we'd be heading out, and my friend would say "hey your leather jacket is so cool and it's kinda chilly tonight, can i borrow it?" or "shoot, we're going to a club and i don't have my dress shoes, can i borrow a pair of yours?"

But i absolutely do not trust my friends to wear $500+ worth of my stuff on them and getting them back in good condition. how do i tell them no without sounding stuck up because my stuff is too expensive to let them borrow or like a dick that i don't trust them.
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Nobody believes you
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Turbam posted...

Nobody believes you

just because i understand the value of high craftsmanship and quality materials?
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"I honestly am not trying to sound like a dick here, but I've lost so many things over the years that I've had to straight up embargo lending things. It's not that I don't trust you, I just have to stick to my principles."

or something
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Get better friends.

Or, don't be a snoot about lending things out.

That's it.

16-BITTER posted...

No_U_L7 posted...

how do i tell them no without sounding stuck up because my stuff is too expensive to let them borrow or like a dick that i don't trust them.

"No"

And you pretend to be a PUA too

"pretend" how? I've demonstrated extensive knowledge and posted multiple pictures and stories of me hooking up with girls

NeoShadowhen posted...

Get better friends.

Or, don't be a snoot about lending things out.

That's it.

so you trust your friends with thousands of dollars worth of merchandise...?
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16-BITTER posted...

No_U_L7 posted...

I've demonstrated extensive knowledge and posted multiple pictures and stories of me hooking up with girls

But you couldn't figure out this simple social situation.

this situation doesn't involve girls....

i have never claimed to be a social expert. im an expert of attraction and seduction.
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No_U_L7 posted...

16-BITTER posted...

No_U_L7 posted...

how do i tell them no without sounding stuck up because my stuff is too expensive to let them borrow or like a dick that i don't trust them.

"No"

And you pretend to be a PUA too

"pretend" how? I've demonstrated extensive knowledge and posted multiple pictures and stories of me hooking up with girls

NeoShadowhen posted...

Get better friends.

Or, don't be a snoot about lending things out.

That's it.

so you trust your friends with thousands of dollars worth of merchandise...?

People are more important than things. Do you even like your friends?

NeoShadowhen posted...

No_U_L7 posted...

16-BITTER posted...

No_U_L7 posted...

how do i tell them no without sounding stuck up because my stuff is too expensive to let them borrow or like a dick that i don't trust them.

"No"

And you pretend to be a PUA too

"pretend" how? I've demonstrated extensive knowledge and posted multiple pictures and stories of me hooking up with girls

NeoShadowhen posted...

Get better friends.

Or, don't be a snoot about lending things out.

That's it.

so you trust your friends with thousands of dollars worth of merchandise...?

People are more important than things. Do you even like your friends?

not enough to waste thousands of dollars on them
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Maybe you should stop buying $500 coats when a $40-80 coat will do you just fine

think of all the money you'd have left over, shit, you could buy a couple extra laptops and shitpost on CE on three accounts at once

Nobody asks someone to wear their dress shoes dude. Try again.
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the_freak posted...

Maybe you should stop buying $500 coats when a $40-80 coat will do you just fine

maybe you should learn to appreciate fine materials and craftsmanship. once you've experienced a $500 coat and understand exactly why it costs $500, your life is never the same again, you literally start living in a different better world.

i low key feel bad for those that wear those 40-50 dollar scratchy wool blend uniqlo coats

Russman posted...

Nobody asks someone to wear their dress shoes dude. Try again.

they do in the scenario i outlined. are you even reading...
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All your friends have the same foot size as you? I dont see how this scenario would ever come up.
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Russman posted...

All your friends have the same foot size as you? I dont see how this scenario would ever come up.

they don't all, but at least one does. we're hanging out during the day doing something, day bleeds into night, we have to go to the club to meet with friends, club is dress shoes only and friend doesn't want to drive 1 hr round trip to go home and get dress shoes. not that difficult to figure out.
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No_U_L7 posted...

Russman posted...

All your friends have the same foot size as you? I dont see how this scenario would ever come up.

they don't all, but at least one does. we're hanging out during the day doing something, day bleeds into night, we have to go to the club to meet with friends, club is dress shoes only and friend doesn't want to drive 1 hr round trip to go home and get dress shoes. not that difficult to figure out.

That seems like a pretty niche scenario. Why does the friend not know to bring dress shoes if he knows hes going to the club later?
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"sorry i dont trust anyone, not even myself"

Russman posted...

No_U_L7 posted...

Russman posted...

All your friends have the same foot size as you? I dont see how this scenario would ever come up.

they don't all, but at least one does. we're hanging out during the day doing something, day bleeds into night, we have to go to the club to meet with friends, club is dress shoes only and friend doesn't want to drive 1 hr round trip to go home and get dress shoes. not that difficult to figure out.

That seems like a pretty niche scenario. Why does the friend not know to bring dress shoes if he knows hes going to the club later?

didn't say it happens every single time, but it's happened a few times

some people are bad at keeping track of time, think they'll have time to go home and change and then get lazy and don't plan ahead to take their dress shoes with them

newsflash: not everyone is on top of their shit
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Fair enough. You need better friends then. People who actually care and not slobs.
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tell them to fuck off
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