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UnfairRepresent
05/15/18 3:47:42 PM
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Your daughter has left home to persue her education with a full scholarship. To your surprise you found out that she has moved into a house and not a dorm without explaining how or why. Thinking nothing of it as you always thought of her as a good girl, you never asked questions.

Then one day you have a work meeting in the same town and decide to drop in on her as a surprise visit, when you arrive you discover she is living intimately with 3 other women.

"Dad! This is er.. It's not.. This is just a slumber-party and these are all my studybuddies who are learning...... *sigh* I can't keep this up. I don't want to. Don't freak out or anything and I was going to tell you eventually and I did want to tell you and don't tell mom, but.. I'm Gay Dad, and these are my girlfriends?

This is Jane, she's ex military but who from Israel isn't? Now a rookie cop. This is Lequininsha, she's an atheist who reviews anime, Manga and amiibos profressionally online. And this is Makoto, she's a Shinto med-student that speaks 4 languages whose come over from Japan to learn, she wants to be a doctor."

HGnSUBN

"Nice to meet you, Sir." Jane says extending her hand and walking towards you.
"Yes, [Daughter's Name] is the best." Makoto says nervously while backing away into the corner of the room embarrased. Hoping to go unnoticed
"Meh she's okay I guess." Lequininsha murmors while looking down, tapping away on her phone.

"We're all in one big relationship, it's what I want. We're happy. That's okay right?" your daughter asks

Only Makoto is the same age as your daughter. Jane and Lequinisha are a little older.

How do you react?
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Nightmare_Luna
05/15/18 3:48:49 PM
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UnfairRepresent posted...
Lequinisha

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HaVeNII7
05/15/18 3:49:30 PM
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Good for her.

I mean Im polyamorous myself, and if my wife was, Id definitely want to be in some situation like that.
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Webmaster4531
05/15/18 3:50:03 PM
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18 you say?
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Master_Bass
05/15/18 3:50:34 PM
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She can do what she wants. It's her life.
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UnfairRepresent
05/15/18 3:50:57 PM
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HaVeNII7 posted...

I mean Im polyamorous myself, and if my wife

You can't be polyamorous while married to one chick.

That's just monogamy
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desperationR
05/15/18 3:52:56 PM
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UnfairRepresent posted...
Don't freak out or anything and I was going to tell you eventually and I did want to tell you and don't tell mom, but.. I'm Gay Dad, and these are my girlfriends?

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UnfairRepresent
05/15/18 3:53:37 PM
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Webmaster4531 posted...
18 you say?

Or whatever age you'd expect someone to get a full scholarship.
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HaVeNII7
05/15/18 3:53:44 PM
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UnfairRepresent posted...
HaVeNII7 posted...

I mean Im polyamorous myself, and if my wife

You can't be polyamorous while married to one chick.

That's just monogamy

I always thought the definition was tied to how a person feels rather than their situation? Id be okay with a polyamorous relationship, and I think Id actually prefer it. But my wife doesnt think the same way, so I just dont pursue anything of that nature. That still makes me polyamorous, right? Even if the situation is monogamy, I myself am a polyamorous person.
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JE19426
05/15/18 3:55:22 PM
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UnfairRepresent posted...
"We're all in one big relationship, it's what I want. We're happy. That's okay right?" your daughter asks


"Sure. Nice to meet you all."
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Sabram
05/15/18 4:06:27 PM
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"Good for you kiddo. Nice to meet all of you."
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Funkydog
05/15/18 4:10:58 PM
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UnfairRepresent posted...
HaVeNII7 posted...

I mean Im polyamorous myself, and if my wife

You can't be polyamorous while married to one chick.

That's just monogamy

Yes you can.

Just because you are open to polygamy yourself, doesn't mean you are necessarily practising it in your current relationship. Would mean Bi people who are dating the opposite gender are no longer bi, according to you, otherwise.

Either way, I would continue to support and love her.
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Sylph
05/15/18 4:12:18 PM
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I read this as polymorphic and was thinking of it like an Alex Mack fanfic.
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Mistere Man
05/15/18 4:14:35 PM
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Like father like daughter as I myself am a polyamorous lesbian.
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UnfairRepresent
05/15/18 4:14:45 PM
#15:


Funkydog posted...


Just because you are open to polygamy yourself, doesn't mean you are necessarily practising it in your current relationship. Would mean Bi people who are dating the opposite gender are no longer bi, according to you, otherwise.

Someone who has only had sex with one gender is not bi
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JE19426
05/15/18 4:17:46 PM
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UnfairRepresent posted...
Someone who has only had sex with one gender is not bi


Bullshit. Sexuality is about the gender you are attracted to, not the gender you have sex with.
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Funkydog
05/15/18 4:18:08 PM
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UnfairRepresent posted...
Funkydog posted...


Just because you are open to polygamy yourself, doesn't mean you are necessarily practising it in your current relationship. Would mean Bi people who are dating the opposite gender are no longer bi, according to you, otherwise.

Someone who has only had sex with one gender is not bi

Yes they can be.

And I didn't say they had only had sex with one person in my statement regardless. At least learn to read if you want to do your inane gimmick. What I said was they are currently dating someone of the opposite sex. So in the same way a polyamorous person may not currently be "practising" they are still open to the possibility of doing so. I'm not sure why you want to put such neat and tidy boxes around sexuality when it isn't so easily defined.

People's sexuality can be many things, but they don't need to be actively practising it to be considered it. Or we may as well say that straight people not currently dating aren't straight, or people who haven't yet sex are "undetermined" which is just a load of rubbish.
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marthsheretoo
05/15/18 4:18:26 PM
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UnfairRepresent posted...
HaVeNII7 posted...

I mean Im polyamorous myself, and if my wife

You can't be polyamorous while married to one chick.

That's just monogamy


You're so wrong, dude.
Ignoring what all the other folks said about being poly being more a state of mind than a state of relationship, the most poly couple I know is happily married, with each of them having multiple boyfriends/girlfriends outside of that. I dare you to tell them how they aren't poly, lol. They'd laugh in your face.
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marthsheretoo
05/15/18 4:19:15 PM
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UnfairRepresent posted...
Funkydog posted...


Just because you are open to polygamy yourself, doesn't mean you are necessarily practising it in your current relationship. Would mean Bi people who are dating the opposite gender are no longer bi, according to you, otherwise.

Someone who has only had sex with one gender is not bi


Are you ok?
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UnfairRepresent
05/15/18 4:34:31 PM
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JE19426 posted...
UnfairRepresent posted...
Someone who has only had sex with one gender is not bi


Bullshit. Sexuality is about the gender you are attracted to, not the gender you have sex with.

So a man who marries 1 girl and has 6 kids and never fucks anyone else ever in their life is Bi to you?

Dude
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JE19426
05/15/18 4:38:46 PM
#21:


UnfairRepresent posted...
So a man who marries 1 girl and has 6 kids and never fucks anyone else ever in their life is Bi to you?


That depends on the gender(s) the man is attracted to. Are virgins asexual to you, after all they've never had sex?
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Turbam
05/15/18 4:40:13 PM
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I wouldn't really care
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marthsheretoo
05/15/18 4:42:40 PM
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UnfairRepresent posted...
So a man who marries 1 girl and has 6 kids and never f***s anyone else ever in their life is Bi to you?

Dude


It depends on whether or not he's attracted to guys as well.

How is something so simple beyond your ability to understand?

So going by your logic, someone needs to have sex with at least one guy and at least one girl to be bi.

A man has sex for the first time with another man. Would you say he was gay until he had sex with a woman, then all of a sudden he's bi? Before he had sex with that man, would you say he was asexual? What if this man has been attracted to women since puberty, never got the opportunity to sleep with one, then got drunk one night with his best friend and they ended up having sex? This is still a gay man to you? One who can "become" bi by sleeping with a woman?

Even for you, this is disappointing logic.
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pegusus123456
05/15/18 4:43:30 PM
#24:


Ya'll making Unfair's dick so turgid by arguing with him
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UnfairRepresent
05/15/18 4:50:45 PM
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JE19426 posted...
UnfairRepresent posted...
So a man who marries 1 girl and has 6 kids and never fucks anyone else ever in their life is Bi to you?


That depends on the gender(s) the man is attracted to. Are virgins asexual to you, after all they've never had sex?

I know what you're trying to say but you gotta have sex with both ends before you can claim to be Bi.


A man has sex for the first time with another man. Would you say he was gay until he had sex with a woman, then all of a sudden he's bi?


Yes?
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marthsheretoo
05/15/18 4:54:18 PM
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UnfairRepresent posted...
Yes?


I like how you ignored the rest of that paragraph because you know your POV doesn't hold up under scrutiny.
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UnfairRepresent
05/15/18 5:05:27 PM
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marthsheretoo posted...
UnfairRepresent posted...
Yes?


I like how you ignored the rest of that paragraph because you know your POV doesn't hold up under scrutiny.

No because it was redundant

But if you insist

Before he had sex with that man, would you say he was asexual?

No

What if this man has been attracted to women since puberty, never got the opportunity to sleep with one, then got drunk one night with his best friend and they ended up having sex? This is still a gay man to you? One who can "become" bi by sleeping with a woman?


Rape is irrelevant.
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marthsheretoo
05/15/18 5:08:01 PM
#28:


UnfairRepresent posted...
No


Okay, let's expand on this.

What label would you assign someone who has never had sex? Which of their qualities would inform you?
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JE19426
05/15/18 5:10:50 PM
#29:


UnfairRepresent posted...
I know what you're trying to say but you gotta have sex with both ends before you can claim to be Bi.


Why does that apply to Bisexuality, but not Homosexuality or Heterosexuality?
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UnfairRepresent
05/15/18 5:10:50 PM
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marthsheretoo posted...

What label would you assign someone who has never had sex? Which of their qualities would inform you?

I wouldn't "assign" anything

But it's dishonest and childish to go "George Bush is Bi because despite being married with kids he probably fantaizes about dicks too!"

I dont think you can claim to be bi or at least have it carry any weight if you've never had sex or at least a relationship with someone of both sexes.

It's like saying your favorite foods are Steak and Pizza but you've never eaten Steak.

Well it's not your favorite then
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Funkydog
05/15/18 5:11:11 PM
#31:


It's time like these why I remember "debating" with UR is utterly pointless.
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UnfairRepresent
05/15/18 5:11:55 PM
#32:


Funkydog posted...
It's time like these why I remember "debating" with UR is utterly pointless.

Translation: "I have no point so I will insult you."
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JE19426
05/15/18 5:13:06 PM
#33:


JE19426 posted...
UnfairRepresent posted...
I know what you're trying to say but you gotta have sex with both ends before you can claim to be Bi.


Why does that apply to Bisexuality, but not Homosexuality or Heterosexuality?


You going to answer this UR?
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Funkydog
05/15/18 5:14:30 PM
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UnfairRepresent posted...
Funkydog posted...
It's time like these why I remember "debating" with UR is utterly pointless.

Translation: "I have no point so I will insult you."

You've not responded to any of my claims, and your "refutations" contradict themselves and ignore reality.
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marthsheretoo
05/15/18 5:14:37 PM
#35:


UnfairRepresent posted...
But it's dishonest and childish to go "George Bush is Bi because despite being married with kids he probably fantaizes about dicks too!"


Sure, but nobody is doing this. If George Bush made a statement that he was bi and fantasized about dicks, though, I trust him to know that about himself.

UnfairRepresent posted...
I wouldn't "assign" anything


So people who haven't had sex exist in a label-less void? Not straight, gay, asexual, bisexual, or any other label? Having sex for the first time is this defining moment for you?

What about a blowjob? A handjob? A kiss? Looking at porn? Do any of these count to "determine" sexuality?

UnfairRepresent posted...
I dont think you can claim to be bi or at least have it carry any weight if you've never had sex or at least a relationship with someone of both sexes.


You're allowed to think whatever you want, but it doesn't make you any less wrong.
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UnfairRepresent
05/15/18 5:15:30 PM
#36:


JE19426 posted...
JE19426 posted...
UnfairRepresent posted...
I know what you're trying to say but you gotta have sex with both ends before you can claim to be Bi.


Why does that apply to Bisexuality, but not Homosexuality or Heterosexuality?


You going to answer this UR?

Because they're not the same thing?

A happily married man with kids who has never had sex with or dated another man is not bisexual.

It's verging on insulting to real bisexuals to claim he is.
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marthsheretoo
05/15/18 5:17:13 PM
#37:


UnfairRepresent posted...
It's verging on insulting to real bisexuals to claim he is.


Why don't you go ask some real bisexuals and see what they say?

The friend I mentioned earlier, who's poly and married, she's also bi. You can ask her about both things at once!
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Medussa
05/15/18 5:17:32 PM
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"clever girl"

not as if she has any real control over it, I just like making references.
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UnfairRepresent
05/15/18 5:19:33 PM
#39:


marthsheretoo posted...


So people who haven't had sex exist in a label-less void? Not straight, gay, asexual, bisexual, or any other label? Having sex for the first time is this defining moment for you?


Unless it's a mixed threesome you're not bi the first time you have sex.

What about a blowjob? A handjob? A kiss? Looking at porn? Do any of these count to "determine" sexuality?


So by your logic if a teenage girl looks up lesbian porn one time, then has sex with men for 50 years she's bi?

I don't agree with that, again it's kinda demeaning to people who have had duo relationships. Hell a lot of gay people even tried straight relationships first, it failed and then they realized they were gay

Or alternatively a lot of bi people thought they were gay or straight until they met one specific person who there were attracted too, rather than a whole sex.

It's not as cut and dry as you make it out to be.

I mean by your logic everyone (nearly) on CE is Bi because they watched porn that had a dick in it
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UnfairRepresent
05/15/18 5:20:11 PM
#40:


marthsheretoo posted...


Why don't you go ask some real bisexuals and see what they say?

They agree with me.
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JE19426
05/15/18 5:21:44 PM
#41:


UnfairRepresent posted...
Because they're not the same thing?


They share the same traits. You're essientially arguing that a person can't know pizza and steak are they favourite foods unless they've tried both, but for some strange reason they can know which one of them is their favourite food even if they've tried neither.

A happily married man with kids who has never had sex with or dated another man is not bisexual.


If they are attracted to both sexes they are bisexual, it's that simple.

It's verging on insulting to real bisexuals to claim he is.


No, what's actually verging on insulting to bisexuals is your claims that your know more about people's sexuality then they do.
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UnfairRepresent
05/15/18 5:23:58 PM
#42:


JE19426 posted...


If they are attracted to both sexes they are bisexual, it's that simple.

It's really not.

The first lesbian married couple I ever met (well technically they weren't married as the law didn't reongize it but they had a wedding ,and rings and lived together) consisted of one girl who had been gay her whole life and one girl who was straight until she met the other girl and fell in love with her, not women, but her.

According to you the latter is not Bi. Despite being married to girl and frequently having sex with both sexes.

You're looking at a 3D shape like it's 2D


They share the same traits. You're essientially arguing that a person can't know pizza and steak are they favourite foods unless they've tried both, but for some strange reason they can know which one of them is their favourite food even if they've tried neither.


I very monotonously pointed out that I would NOT assign such a thing.

You railed me for it and now seconds later you rail me for not doing it _
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JE19426
05/15/18 5:25:23 PM
#43:


UnfairRepresent posted...
It's really not.


Yes, it really is.

According to you the latter is not Bi.


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marthsheretoo
05/15/18 5:26:50 PM
#44:


UnfairRepresent posted...
Unless it's a mixed threesome you're not bi the first time you have sex.


A statement that has absolutely nothing to do with the question I asked. We're talking about people who haven't had sex at all.

UnfairRepresent posted...
So by your logic if a teenage girl looks up lesbian porn one time, then has sex with men for 50 years she's bi?


My logic? I'm trying to figure out what mental gymnastics you're pulling to come up with your weird-ass worldview. Turning this question back at me instead of answering it is just your way of avoiding this. It shouldn't be too difficult to give me straightforward answers if your worldview is honest or coherent.

UnfairRepresent posted...
Hell a lot of gay people even tried straight relationships first, it failed and then they realized they were gay


True. But by your logic, these people would be bi since they have had a relationship with both a girl and a guy.

UnfairRepresent posted...
Or alternatively a lot of bi people thought they were gay or straight until they met one specific person who there were attracted too, rather than a whole sex.


Also true. Do you think this somehow prevents bisexual people from knowing they're bi before they have sex with both genders?

UnfairRepresent posted...
It's not as cut and dry as you make it out to be.

I mean by your logic everyone (nearly) on CE is gay because they watched porn that had a dick in it


You're the one making it out to be cut and dried, and I have never even implied that I think anything of the sort. My reference to porn above has nothing to do with my own beliefs on the subject and was simply a stress-test of your own worldview (which again, you avoided).

UnfairRepresent posted...
They agree with me.


Funny, both my partners are bi, as is most of my friend group. All of them would say you were wrong.
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UnfairRepresent
05/15/18 5:26:51 PM
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JE19426 posted...
she's attracted to both sexes.

She wouldnt say so.
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UnfairRepresent
05/15/18 5:27:43 PM
#46:


marthsheretoo posted...

Also true. Do you think this somehow prevents bisexual people from knowing they're bi before they have sex with both genders?

I'd say so yes.
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JE19426
05/15/18 5:28:51 PM
#47:


UnfairRepresent posted...
She wouldnt say so.


She's, according to you anyway, attracted to multiple men and at least one woman. Clearly she's attracted to both sex.
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Panthera
05/15/18 5:29:08 PM
#48:


Sexual attraction apparently doesn't exist. Who knew?
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UnfairRepresent
05/15/18 5:30:03 PM
#49:


JE19426 posted...
UnfairRepresent posted...
She wouldnt say so.


She's, according to you anyway, attracted to multiple men and at least one woman. Clearly she's attracted to both sex.

That's debatable. She'd disagree.

But she enjoys consentual sex with both genders. So she's Bi.
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JE19426
05/15/18 5:31:13 PM
#50:


UnfairRepresent posted...
That's debatable


Not at all. You've stated she's attracted to multiple men, and in love with her wife. That makes her attracted to both sexes.
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