Current Events > Is it sexist if a woman says she wants to be treated like a princess

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by her partner? You see it on dating sites all the time, they want to be treated like a princess and making her feel like shes the most special person in the world. And if not, is this sexist if a man says this is how he wants to be treated by his partner:



Well? Because Im pretty sure the later is seen as sexist while the former isnt
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If anyone made that request of me, I would demand divine proof of their heritage to verify their claim to royalty. Else I have no choice but to turn them in as impersonation of royalty is treasonous and must be dealt with forthwith.
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gunplagirl posted...

If anyone made that request of me, I would demand divine proof of their heritage to verify their claim to royalty. Else I have no choice but to turn them in as impersonation of royalty is treasonous and must be dealt with forthwith.

The question isnt what youd do. Is it sexist of them to even expect or want something like that?
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I don't have a problem with it. My girlfriend is my princess and she always loves it when I tell her.

Every relationship is different. If a girl doesn't like it and a guy says it anyway, or if she wants it but he thinks it's wrong/stupid then just find something else that works. It would be stupid to let other people dictate the terms of your relationship.
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SpiralDrift posted...

I don't have a problem with it. My girlfriend is my princess and she always loves it when I tell her.

Every relationship is different. If a girl doesn't like it and a guy says it anyway, or if she wants it but he thinks it's wrong/stupid then just find something else that works. It would be stupid to let other people dictate the terms of your relationship.

Agreed. Just to be clear, youre also fine with a man expecting something similar to stuff listed on the 1950 home Econ handbook pic right?
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So she wants to be wedded off against her will to a not-so-distant blood relative in order to keep the peace?
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K181 posted...

So she wants to be wedded off against her will to a not-so-distant blood relative in order to keep the peace?

If you want to play the lets be literal game, then sure I guess
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"Be a little gay and a little more interesting."

Kinky shit for the 1950s
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Kazi1212 posted...

gunplagirl posted...

If anyone made that request of me, I would demand divine proof of their heritage to verify their claim to royalty. Else I have no choice but to turn them in as impersonation of royalty is treasonous and must be dealt with forthwith.

The question isnt what youd do. Is it sexist of them to even expect or want something like that?

A woman declaring how she wants to be classified? That's liberating.

A non-woman forcing a gender role upon a woman? Maybe not sexist but it is one of those gray areas depending on how severe it gets. Denying a woman the right to work outside the home? That's a problem. Wanting to treat her as a princess as in, do everything they can for her while still allowing her free control over her own person? Not so much though the wording may get messy at times.
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gunplagirl posted...

Kazi1212 posted...

gunplagirl posted...

If anyone made that request of me, I would demand divine proof of their heritage to verify their claim to royalty. Else I have no choice but to turn them in as impersonation of royalty is treasonous and must be dealt with forthwith.

The question isnt what youd do. Is it sexist of them to even expect or want something like that?

A woman declaring how she wants to be classified? That's liberating.

A non-woman forcing a gender role upon a woman? Maybe not sexist but it is one of those gray areas depending on how severe it gets. Denying a woman the right to work outside the home? That's a problem. Wanting to treat her as a princess as in, do everything they can for her while still allowing her free control over her own person? Not so much though the wording may get messy at times.

What classifying is a woman doing when says she wants to be treated like a princess? Mind you people dont say that literally, language is rooted in vagueness and metaphors, but we understand the gist what she means, she wants to be treated like shes a very special person. Where I come from they dont call that classification, they call it expression of desire
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Kazi1212 posted...

I wouldn't really call this treating your man like a prince, so these aren't comparable

Not sexist. That's stupid.

Best of luck to any woman or man who says stupid shit like that, though.
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ThanksUglyGod posted...

Kazi1212 posted...

I wouldn't really call this treating your man like a prince, so these aren't comparable

Not literally, sure. Whats treating a woman like a princess to you (not literally) and are they in direct opposition to any of the points in the pic if a man said thats how he wants to be treated as a prince?
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Kazi1212 posted...

SpiralDrift posted...

I don't have a problem with it. My girlfriend is my princess and she always loves it when I tell her.

Every relationship is different. If a girl doesn't like it and a guy says it anyway, or if she wants it but he thinks it's wrong/stupid then just find something else that works. It would be stupid to let other people dictate the terms of your relationship.

Agreed. Just to be clear, youre also fine with a man expecting something similar to stuff listed on the 1950 home Econ handbook pic right?

Expecting, no. But if it's something that they come to together then it's all good. It might be unlikely for two people to come to that sort of arrangement today, but if they do and it makes them happy then that's great.
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Kazi1212 posted...

ThanksUglyGod posted...

Kazi1212 posted...

I wouldn't really call this treating your man like a prince, so these aren't comparable

Not literally, sure. Whats treating a woman like a princess to you (not literally) and are they in direct opposition to any of the points in the pic if a man said thats how he wants to be treated as a prince?

To me, treating a woman like a princess just means treating her like a VIP, but not like someone who's contentment is your sole prerogative. If anyone, man or woman, expected their partner to behave like that it would be rude and demeaning.

But I do think it's more sexist towards the woman than the man, because women had to deal with the negative effects of the homemaker/obedient spouse role longer and more detrimentally than men have. Ideally sexism would affect both genders equally, but in the real world, it affects one gender far more than the other. That's how I can see people calling one instance more sexist than the other.

K181 posted...

So she wants to be wedded off against her will to a not-so-distant blood relative in order to keep the peace?

https://68.media.tumblr.com/11ad26bfc989109dff68c6140c127eca/tumblr_oqkx0pvsLB1vpv898o1_500.jpg
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There's alot of traditional women out there who want to be the housewife and take care of their man as their priority and purpose. If that's your preference, you're no more sexist than the women who want to be that way by choice. However, if that's the type of woman you're after, dating sites are the last place you'll find them.
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Cool guys, so it seems most people a agree a man wanting similar treatment in return isnt sexist. But I cant shake the idea that a man articulating his wants in the same vein as the woman did would be more likely called a sexist in this day and age. Unreasonable?
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Kazi1212 posted...

Cool guys, so it seems most people a agree a man wanting similar treatment in return isnt sexist. But I cant shake the idea that a man articulating his wants in the same vein as the woman did would be more likely called a sexist in this day and age. Unreasonable?

That seems pretty likely, yeah. There's a double standard.

Girls can say they want to be treated like a princess but guys can't say they want to be treated like a prince without being shitlorded.
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It is sexist in a culturally brainwashed sort of way, and there are women who do that.

When I was dating, I steered clear of women who said this. I know it's completely anecdotal, but it was usually a sign that they've been force-fed a lot of cultural roles and values, and they pursue those values when looking for a partner, while not expecting to treat their partners the same way.

The statement "I want to be treated like a prince/princess." is weird in general. Being treated well is something all partners should look for, treated like you're monarch, let alone, not even a fully grown one...eh, I don't even think that statement can be empowering for women.

All in all, neither of the above examples are really sexist, unless you're not willing to push those same standards on to yourself as you do with your partner. If you're a woman who says "I expect a man to do this, this, and this." and then turn around and call him sexist when he says he expects women who can cook for him. There's a little bit of hypocrisy there.
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Partners who demand being treated as royalty can quickly turn unbearable when they overstep treating their accommodating partner as a servant. And it's not uncommon for them to get dumped for being too demanding. However, it's not an unheard of arrangement when the "servant" is at least getting what he/she wants out of the deal. When they're not getting any reasonable return, that's when they need to reconsider if the relationship is worth it at all.

It might not be uncommon these days to find modern women casual about saying they want royal treatment, but there's also men who can easily make similar demands without public flack. It's the top percentages of men who can do this; the guys who hit all or most marks of what women typically find attractive (handsome, healthy, cultured, intelligent, notable status, financial independence, well endowed, etc).

This is because once a socially aware woman figures out she's finally caught one of these big fish, she usually doesn't want to let him get away before matrimony even if that means she's occasionally treated like a doormat. And when he's criticized by peers for being a bit douchey, don't be shocked to see the woman race up and defend him. Because she knows that he has other traits that are still exceptional by her standards and therefore compensate for him sometimes being an ass. I have seen women figuratively walk through the fires of Hell in order to keep a "winner", a man they consider a male champion. And to some of these women, only a champion is worth their precious time as a "strong independent woman who don't need no man...but really really wants one ". When all you'll settle for is near perfection in dating, when you think you're entitled to that, yeah you might be willing to grovel and fetch a bit to keep that trophy partner.

I'm saying that some of the "lowly subjects" willing to dote on a exceptionally super attractive king or queen have a superiority complex themselves and their inflated standards are what puts them in that situation...
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Kazi1212 posted...

Cool guys, so it seems most people a agree a man wanting similar treatment in return isnt sexist. But I cant shake the idea that a man articulating his wants in the same vein as the woman did would be more likely called a sexist in this day and age. Unreasonable?

In majority cases, yes. But look, at the end of the day in majority cases, if looking for something of purpose and meaning, your future wife and mother of your children, and not just having fun, majority don't measure up anyway.
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