Current Events > Uh... CE? How can I tell whether a girl is my g/f or a friends with benefits?

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I need help.
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Ask her?
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MrResetti posted...

Ask her?

It's not that easy.
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Does it matter? Just live each day naturally and enjoy what there is.
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Raw Dog = GF
Condom = FWB
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KiwiTerraRizing posted...

Raw Dog = GF
Condom = FWB

She was on her period, so idk...
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And I don't want to ask her since obviously she assumes that I can read her mind so I'm probably supposed to know
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Does she let you pihb?
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when she doesnt want to be seen with you you arent her boyfriend
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Motherfucker, all you have to say is "how do you see us?" And explain how you feel

Damn.
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Ask her if she wants to meet your parents
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Not gf until you have a talk to define you as be/gf
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smh
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Which one do you want her to be?
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If she lets you slip a pinky in the booty, she's your gf
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The Admiral posted...

Which one do you want her to be?

I have no idea. I'm just a bit confused.

She was my best friend 10 years ago. Like we were totally BFFs. Then life happened and we kind of drifted apart because work and everything and then I was in a relationship for a few years, and she was in school, so I kind of lost touch with most of my friends. I just had very very little free time for years and I had to take care of aging parents too so I couldn't stay in regular touch with even my close friends

So we haven't really talked much for the past few years. Then all of a sudden she contacts me out of the blue and we start hanging out and yeah
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Why do you have to have a label? Just go with the flow.

Maybe talk to her and see what she thinks, sounds like if she contacted you out of the blue after so many years she might want to be your girlfriend but started as a FWB with you.

If you both like each others then talk and figure out what you want to be.
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doesn't matter
what's the rush?
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Best way to find out is actually to ask her "do your friends know about me? What do you tell them about us?"

That basically gets to the point if you don't want to be direct. You can guide the conversation based on the answers.
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Have you asked her out? The answer to that question will answer your question.
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Do you meet up just for sex, or do you hang out alone together as well just to chill?
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treewojima posted...

Why do you have to have a label? Just go with the flow.

because bf/gf implies some level of commitment and a reduction in dating/sleeping around to spend more time with said person.

That said, if y'all haven't had "the talk" or even "a talk" then y'all are not a couple and merely FWB at best.

frozenshock posted...

And I don't want to ask her since obviously she assumes that I can read her mind so I'm probably supposed to know

Sounds like a lovely person that's worth spending a significant portion of your free time with. /eyeroll
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She just texted me to say that she never wants to leave my arms (with a little heart-eyed emoji)

Oh boy... >_>
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Sounds like you're dating bro.
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philsov posted...

because bf/gf implies some level of commitment and a reduction in dating/sleeping around to spend more time with said person.

That said, if y'all haven't had "the talk" or even "a talk" then y'all are not a couple and merely FWB at best

Well yeah, and generally that conversation comes up in the course of a relationship. That's why I told him to roll with it, since it'll inevitably pop up in one way or another.

frozenshock posted...

She just texted me to say that she never wants to leave my arms (with a little heart-eyed emoji)

Oh boy... >_>

... And there you go. Sounds like you're an unspoken thing. May as well bring it up now.

She texted me again to say that she's never been happier in her life

Oh man I don't know what I did to her to get that kind of reaction in her.

I mean, it's not that I don't like her, it's just that this whole thing feels completely out of the blue. She came over to my place to watch anime because that's what we always did back in the day so I wasn't even thinking about the possibility of anything else. But I did notice that she was sitting very close to me and she kept touching my shoulders and making sex jokes about everything that was happening on TV, and then, yeah.

And the thing is that I broke up with my ex about a year ago and I'm still kind of emotionally hurt by what happened. My ex moved on and she's with another guy now, but I'm still kind of fragile so I don't really know what to do now
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frozenshock posted...

She texted me again to say that she's never been happier in her life

Oh man I don't know what I did to her to get that kind of reaction in her.

I mean, it's not that I don't like her, it's just that this whole thing feels completely out of the blue. She came over to my place to watch anime because that's what we always did back in the day so I wasn't even thinking about the possibility of anything else. But I did notice that she was sitting very close to me and she kept touching my shoulders and making sex jokes about everything that was happening on TV, and then, yeah.

And the thing is that I broke up with my ex about a year ago and I'm still kind of emotionally hurt by what happened. My ex moved on and she's with another guy now, but I'm still kind of fragile so I don't really know what to do now

Sounds like a good thing fell into your lap. Run with it and enjoy yourselves!

treewojima posted...

May as well bring it up now.

Yup. Time to prompt it, OP. And be forward and aggressive about it. Don't ask the girl "So, uh, do you like me?"

Grab her by the metaphorical pussy and be like "Yo, girl. You feel great on my chest. I like you too. Wanna go steady?" assuming that's what you want. Else be upfront along the lines of "Whelp, my arms are open for other chicks too. Sorry, I don't see you that way."
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Don't fuck this up TC. Forget about your ex. This is a good thing
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The thing is, the conversation needs to be had at some point. What are we doing? Sometimes it's before you start banging, sometimes it's after.

However, it sounds like she's looking for a relationship and if you are too, then great!
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