Current Events > Do you believe apologizing is a sign of weakness?

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There seems to be a strong divide on this.

Some people believe wearing your flaws, admitting fault and improving shows strength of character and the ability to grow.

Others believe that the strong don't make mistakes or at least don't admit to them and that by apologizing you're saying you have failed.



What do you think CE?
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it's the opposite, because only weak people can't admit they're wrong in the face of contrary evidence
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Yes
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ThyCorndog posted...

it's the opposite, because only weak people can't admit they're wrong in the face of contrary evidence

This. My honesty and ability to identify when Im wrong are what make me me
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ThyCorndog posted...

it's the opposite, because only weak people can't admit they're wrong in the face of contrary evidence

There's a difference between apologizing and admitting you're wrong though.
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Yes and no. Some people are too quick to apologize and play martyr without realizing how much it reflects poorly on them. In say a work situation where multiple people are responsible and you fess up to be the bigger man, chances are you're just going to get burned. Learned this the hard way.

At the same time, you'll lose respect for never being wrong, even if it makes people fearful of you in the short term.
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3deep5u posted...

ThyCorndog posted...

it's the opposite, because only weak people can't admit they're wrong in the face of contrary evidence

There's a difference between apologizing and admitting you're wrong though.

This is true.
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I can admit I'm wrong and still make you look like the bad guy.
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It depends what you are apologizing about...
If they are serious matters or mistakes that you are owning up to, it's a sign of strength if anything.

On the other hand if you are someone who is CONSTANTLY apologizing for everything that's definitely a sign of weakness.
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UnfairRepresent posted...

3deep5u posted...

ThyCorndog posted...

it's the opposite, because only weak people can't admit they're wrong in the face of contrary evidence

There's a difference between apologizing and admitting you're wrong though.

This is true.

Yeah. I guess most the time I just admit being wrong without apologizing. My sister over apologizes at times and I had to tell her it makes me look like Im being an asshole when she apologizes over small things. It makes it look like I think it's a bigger deal than it actually is
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I see apologizing as an easy way out of confrontations. Nothing wrong with that.

I agree apologizing excessively and over little things can make you look like a little bitch. I just mean apologizing when you fuck up is not weak
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pinky0926 posted...

Yes and no. Some people are too quick to apologize and play martyr without realizing how much it reflects poorly on them. In say a work situation where multiple people are responsible and you fess up to be the bigger man, chances are you're just going to get burned. Learned this the hard way.

This exact situation occurred to a dude at my job a few weeks ago. Got his ass lit up by the regional manager despite his honesty. No fucks given.
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It depends on the situation. A lot of apologizing is societal imo. It serves a purpose there. Apparently the British do it a lot.
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ThyCorndog posted...

it's the opposite, because only weak people can't admit they're wrong in the face of contrary evidence

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A_Good_Boy posted...

pinky0926 posted...

Yes and no. Some people are too quick to apologize and play martyr without realizing how much it reflects poorly on them. In say a work situation where multiple people are responsible and you fess up to be the bigger man, chances are you're just going to get burned. Learned this the hard way.

This exact situation occurred to a dude at my job a few weeks ago. Got his ass lit up by the regional manager despite his honesty. No fucks given.

I literally got fired for this. Thought that taking the heat and being the big guy who could fess up to his wrongs and learn to be better despite problems in the system would be the right thing to do, show initiative and credibility, etc. Instead I just got fired and they never addressed the systematic errors that made my job impossible in the first place.

Unfortunately, in the corporate world you have to pass the buck because the person sitting next to you really does not give a fuck about your life just because they offer to get you a coffee every morning.
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ThyCorndog posted...

it's the opposite, because only weak people can't admit they're wrong in the face of contrary evidence

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Incredibly weak when you apologize when you didn't do anything wrong/apologizing for someone else's mistake, but strong when you apologize when you did do something wrong.
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Depends on the situation. Some people use it as an opportunity to shed more blood.
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pieisthebest posted...

Incredibly weak when you apologize when you didn't do anything wrong/apologizing for someone else's mistake, but strong when you apologize when you did do something wrong.

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pieisthebest posted...

Incredibly weak when you apologize when you didn't do anything wrong/apologizing for someone else's mistake, but strong when you apologize when you did do something wrong.

This is basically what I was trying to say but simpler

The hard part is figuring out when it's really your fault or not
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Generally no

But this is an example of "apologizing" being a sign of weakness: https://www.gamefaqs.com/boards/400-current-events/76211820
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