Current Events > I'm 35 and still a virgin : (

(+) Yeah! (+)

Never kissed, never had a girlfriend : (
Would I feel better if I paid an ugly diseased prostitute to lose my virginity? : (
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How about an expensive escort?

Deed more
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I'll be there in 9 months. I know your pain.
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if sex is that important to you, I see no issue with hiring an escort/prostitute
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boxington posted...

if sex is that important to you, I see no issue with hiring an escort/prostitute

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You'll still feel empty and sad that you had to pay for sex.

Sorry Bro but are you deformed or you lost a limb from an accident or just ugly?

Women aint everything. Try to enjoy life with everything else. You can go fishing. Join local sport clubs like badminton or something. Theres plenty of middle aged and even a few old guys who play.

Or you can just travel and see the world.

Dont let the modern western society/culture drag you down because you cant get a woman.

Whats important is that you live a happy life and be grateful.

There are plenty of people my age who drive nice cars. But im stuck with shitty second hand cars. Sometimes you just have to make do with what you got and not let it make you unhappy.

Being happy is the key to life.

And dont worry too much. 35 male is still a male in its prime. Once women hit 30, most of them look old. And once they become near 40, its dangerous for them to bear children. So the single women are more in a rush to find man than you.
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you worry too much about this shit
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Almost 33 and in the same boat.

Cobra1010 posted...

You'll still feel empty and sad that you had to pay for sex.

Sorry Bro but are you deformed or you lost a limb from an accident or just ugly?

Women aint everything. Try to enjoy life with everything else. You can go fishing. Join local sport clubs like badminton or something. Theres plenty of middle aged and even a few old guys who play.

Or you can just travel and see the world.

Dont let the modern western society/culture drag you down because you cant get a woman.

Whats important is that you live a happy life and be grateful.

There are plenty of people my age who drive nice cars. But im stuck with shitty second hand cars. Sometimes you just have to make do with what you got and not let it make you unhappy.

Being happy is the key to life.

I don't want to be happy. I want to have sex.
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@LeningradCowboy

Then for you its simple. Just listen to most of these gamefaqs replies and pay for it if thats what you want.
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Cobra1010 posted...

@LeningradCowboy

Then for you its simple. Just listen to most of these gamefaqs replies and pay for it if thats what you want.

Can't afford it.
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Stop caring and the women will not leave you alone
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Why is this a big deal?

Kasperia posted...

Why is this a big deal?

It's a big deal because society has made it a big deal. It seems like the longer one refrains from sexual relationships, the more difficult it is to enter into one. And honestly, I blame the "sexual revolution" as much as I do the evangelical right.

It's also a big deal because there are those of us who can't bear the thought of never experiencing physical intimacy.
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Kasperia posted...

Why is this a big deal?

Because it's something people are biologically driven to do. Society puts an inflated importance on it. Lots of people look down on those who haven't had it and treat them as if there's something wrong with them. People who have a healthy sex life wouldn't understand how it feels to go so long with nothing, and they behave as if it's so easy to get.

It eventually starts to mess with you.
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Cobra1010 posted...

Sorry Bro but are you deformed or you lost a limb from an accident or just ugly?

I'm just slightly below average, I think, for an asian : (
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I am 27. Lost my virginity at 14.

Lost my woman around New Years. Now Im wishing that I didnt like women.

All of our problems are relative.

(I didnt make this post to brag or anything like that. Just feeling hopeless)
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LeningradCowboy posted...

Cobra1010 posted...

@LeningradCowboy

Then for you its simple. Just listen to most of these gamefaqs replies and pay for it if thats what you want.

Can't afford it.

Its 1-200 bucks
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Do you not go out? What do you do for a living? Do you still live with your parents?
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PIG_B0SS posted...

Cobra1010 posted...

Sorry Bro but are you deformed or you lost a limb from an accident or just ugly?

I'm just slightly below average, I think, for an asian : (

Well being on an english board, i assume you are an asian living in the west. The racism is still strong deep down in this society. The blacks are better off now, you get tons of outrage when ever a black is wronged. So whats left are the easy targets, the asians.

The asian females have it easier, they are considered trophy material so you see a ton of white knights chasing after them. But asian males have it really bad.

I suggest you look for fellow asians. Forget about the white chicks. Especially the rural areas, not all of them are racists but many of them are. Even if you find a girl who isnt racist, but their parents or friends could be racist which would make your relationship tough.
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Makeveli_lives posted...

LeningradCowboy posted...

Cobra1010 posted...

@LeningradCowboy

Then for you its simple. Just listen to most of these gamefaqs replies and pay for it if thats what you want.

Can't afford it.

Its 1-200 bucks

Yeah, I don't have that kind of money to spend. I also don't work (on disability) or drive. The money I do get has to go towards food and other necessities for myself, my elderly father, and ill sister (who has no income source of her own).

I'm going to die miserable and alone. It's just a fact.
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that sucks, man.
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Hows your wizardry?
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boxington posted...

if sex is that important to you, I see no issue with hiring an escort/prostitute

TC isn't just craving sexual release, he wants actual intimacy and human connection, something you're not getting from paid sex. It'll feel good while he's doing it but when it's over he'll have the same hollow feeling he's talking about after deeding.
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PIG_B0SS posted...

Cobra1010 posted...

Sorry Bro but are you deformed or you lost a limb from an accident or just ugly?

I'm just slightly below average, I think, for an asian : (

So you're voluntarily choosing this path for yourself? Are you fat?
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Gamer99z posted...

boxington posted...

if sex is that important to you, I see no issue with hiring an escort/prostitute

TC isn't just craving sexual release, he wants actual intimacy and human connection, something you're not getting from paid sex. It'll feel good while he's doing it but when it's over he'll have the same hollow feeling he's talking about after deeding.

That's what I want too. I don't think just having sex would fix anything. I do however feel it could help, I figured it'd give a confidence/self esteem boost, give something to be kind of proud of, and kill the feeling of hopelessness.

Apparently I'm wrong though, and it'd be a mistake to seek a relationship or have sex at all. I've been told that by many posters across several boards... I'm not meant to be with anyone. For someone struggling with feeling unwanted and worthless, that's not exactly a comforting thing to hear.
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KogaSteelfang posted...

Gamer99z posted...

boxington posted...

if sex is that important to you, I see no issue with hiring an escort/prostitute

TC isn't just craving sexual release, he wants actual intimacy and human connection, something you're not getting from paid sex. It'll feel good while he's doing it but when it's over he'll have the same hollow feeling he's talking about after deeding.

That's what I want too. I don't think just having sex would fix anything. I do however feel it could help, I figured it'd give a confidence/self esteem boost, give something to be kind of proud of, and kill the feeling of hopelessness.

Apparently I'm wrong though, and it'd be a mistake to seek a relationship or have sex at all. I've been told that by many posters across several boards... I'm not meant to be with anyone. For someone struggling with feeling unwanted and worthless, that's not exactly a comforting thing to hear.

If you think it'll help you in some way then you don't have anything to lose by doing it. All I can say is for me personally, having sex didn't really change anything about how I feel about myself. It's never done anything for me unless it's been with someone I care about, and even then it's only helped so much and it doesn't really last either.

Also I've learned the hard way that it's not really healthy for relationships to put the burden of fixing you on someone else. Ultimately you just have to work on yourself to feel better about yourself and be happy and then from there you can find people who compliment you, as in go well with you, but expecting someone else to make you feel better about yourself isn't really a good idea.
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Gamer99z posted...

If you think it'll help you in some way then you don't have anything to lose by doing it

It certainly feels like it would, to a degree anyway. It doesn't matter though, you say that as if its something one can just go out and get. I think it's clear we don't have much of a choice in the matter.

All I can say is for me personally, having sex didn't really change anything about how I feel about myself.

Do you think it would have affected you if you'd never had it though? I don't know how old you are, but it's clear you've had intimacy. You don't think a life without that would be worse than one with it?

It's never done anything for me unless it's been with someone I care about, and even then it's only helped so much and it doesn't really last either.

So, it did affect how you felt, even if it was just temporary. You've had people you cared about, who showed you intimacy, and affected how you felt. Yet, I'm in the wrong for wanting to experience this for myself?

Also I've learned the hard way that it's not really healthy for relationships to put the burden of fixing you on someone else. Ultimately you just have to work on yourself to feel better about yourself and be happy and then from there you can find people who compliment you, as in go well with you, but expecting someone else to make you feel better about yourself isn't really a good idea.

I don't expect to be fixed. I want to be accepted, understood, and cared about as I am. Yeah, I get that would seem to be part of "being fixed" but It's not like I expect this to be a miracle or anything. I just want a partner in life who cares about me, and will help nudge me towards a happier life.

It's clear no one thinks I'm capable of that, even myself, so I don't even bother any more. I deleted my other posts because I didn't want to derail the topic to be about myself, but I felt your post was worth responding to.
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KogaSteelfang posted...

I felt your post was worth responding to.

Heh, guess I'm not though.
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you beat me, but at least I asked a girls number.
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KogaSteelfang posted...

Gamer99z posted...

If you think it'll help you in some way then you don't have anything to lose by doing it

It certainly feels like it would, to a degree anyway. It doesn't matter though, you say that as if its something one can just go out and get. I think it's clear we don't have much of a choice in the matter.

All I can say is for me personally, having sex didn't really change anything about how I feel about myself.

Do you think it would have affected you if you'd never had it though? I don't know how old you are, but it's clear you've had intimacy. You don't think a life without that would be worse than one with it?

It's never done anything for me unless it's been with someone I care about, and even then it's only helped so much and it doesn't really last either.

So, it did affect how you felt, even if it was just temporary. You've had people you cared about, who showed you intimacy, and affected how you felt. Yet, I'm in the wrong for wanting to experience this for myself?

Also I've learned the hard way that it's not really healthy for relationships to put the burden of fixing you on someone else. Ultimately you just have to work on yourself to feel better about yourself and be happy and then from there you can find people who compliment you, as in go well with you, but expecting someone else to make you feel better about yourself isn't really a good idea.

I don't expect to be fixed. I want to be accepted, understood, and cared about as I am. Yeah, I get that would seem to be part of "being fixed" but It's not like I expect this to be a miracle or anything. I just want a partner in life who cares about me, and will help nudge me towards a happier life.

It's clear no one thinks I'm capable of that, even myself, so I don't even bother any more. I deleted my other posts because I didn't want to derail the topic to be about myself, but I felt your post was worth responding to.

Oh yeah I figured you were still talking about paid sex. Just getting laid isn't necessarily easy but it isn't necessarily hard either if you just generally take care of yourself, have something interesting to talk about, and are willing to put yourself out there.

I'm quite a bit younger than you and TC, so I didn't experience being alone that long, but I can empathize with it pretty heavily and have a lot of issues with isolation and shit that i don't really want to go into. It's undoubtedly something that affects anyone pretty heavily, but meaningless sex really wouldn't help that, and even meaningful sex really only gets you so much once you've gone that far down a hole of self loathing, insecurity, and lack of self worth. Even though it changes something, it's extremely temporary. As in like maybe the rest of the day and then it's back to the usual. at least in my experience. Your mileage may vary.
And I don't think you're wrong for wanting it, you're supposed to want it. I also don't agree with other people saying you shouldn't do it, just that you should also work on yourself and making yourself happy without needing anyone else.

And I also do think you're capable of it. You seem like a nice enough guy, it just seems like you've got issues with social anxiety and depression, which I can relate to, as well as some other things idk if you want shared here or just on my board. But I think if you work on yourself, get your situation better, and get better at managing your social anxiety that you wouldn't have much trouble finding someone at all. Trust me, if I managed to so it, anyone can.
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Villain posted...

Do you not go out? What do you do for a living? Do you still live with your parents?

Yes. Nothing. Yes

faizan_faizan posted...

Are you fat?

I've always been slightly chubby : (

Cobra1010 posted...

I suggest you look for fellow asians. Forget about the white chicks

But I find white girls attractive, especially the pale and blonde ones
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LeningradCowboy posted...

I don't want to be happy. I want to have sex.

The realest shit I've seen said on here in a long while. It's just as depressing as it is true for some people.
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