Poll of the Day > this chick on my fb just had a baby recently and all she does is complain now.

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i met her in college and she said she and her husband were childfree.

they must have changed their minds recently as she's in her early 30s and he's in his late 30s. she just had a baby a few months ago.

all she does now with every status is complain about how difficult it is to have/take care of a baby. and then she pre-emptively says she doesn't want advice she's just posting to vent.

i mean, isn't that difficulty presumably part of the reason you guys were previously childfree? it's just unbelievable she'd decide to have a kid just to turn around and constantly complain how difficult it is. drives me batty.
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It's like a job.

People want jobs.

Then they complain they have jobs.

Just fucking don't get a job then right??
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a lot of parents are idiots and don't know the work and sleep deprivation involved in taking care of a baby, ok?

we knew, well before we got preggo, what was required from us, ok?

sure there's a lot to complain about, but we don't, simply because we knew we'd be doing all this. we took classes, we talked to other parents, we read books. we were full educated about what we were getting ourselves into, ok?
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babies are hard as fuck to take care of

but you should have known what you are getting yourself into, so there's really no point in complaining. especially if you aren't even going to ask for advice from people who've already been there. that's just stupid.

you're a parent now, buck up and take care of this seemingly permanently drunk acting person for several years
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ZiggiStardust posted...

sure there's a lot to complain about, but we don't, simply because we knew we'd be doing all this. we took classes, we talked to other parents, we read books. we were full educated about what we were getting ourselves into, ok?

there's tons to complain about but having kids is a personal choice made by billions and to just constantly complain after you were previously childfree... it just seems so silly to me. childfree people know having a kid is difficult, time consuming and you lose a lot of personal freedoms... some forever.. and that's why they decide not to have kids. to turn around on that decision and just complain about it publicly is silly imo.
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Unless you've experienced the bliss of motherhood you don't really have the perspective to complain about shit.

A newborn baby must suck, when they can move seems like where the fun is.
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ours took his first steps a few days ago :3
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it's challenging and frustrating as fuck, but then you wake up sometimes, and this bag of screaming, crying, pooping emotions is laying next to you, making coo'ing noises and almost smiling, it melts your cold, black heart and you remember why you're doing this, ok?
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darcandkharg31 posted...

A newborn baby must suck, when they can move seems like where the fun is.

I think others say the other way around. everyone is different. some women I think enjoy holding babies

Meh, I figure kids will always be a pain in the ass for varied reasons.. but they have their good moments too.
It's just the annoying moments that stand out.. And most parents get used to the dance, but the irritation never really goes away lol.
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Melon_Master posted...

Meh, I figure kids will always be a pain in the ass for varied reasons.. but they have their good moments too.
It's just the annoying moments that stand out.. And most parents get used to the dance, but the irritation never really goes away lol.

It is during the annoying moments where I try and remember the good moments. What I find most difficult now is to keep a straight face when disciplining one of my kids for something they did wrong but I find funny how they went about it.
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Zikten posted...

I think others say the other way around. everyone is different. some women I think enjoy holding babies

dat new baby smell.

My sister had babies young and I lived with her a few times for quite awhile, they do their thing plus they say/do some hilarious stuff, looking after them was kinda easy, just feed them and make sure they aint doing anything they aint supposed to be doing, and cvlean up when the house get's messy.
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Another great phenomena is some sort of chemical or hormone that causes selective memory in parents that causes them to repeat the process multiple times.
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Jen, to he credit though, its hard as fuck. Like all i ever do is complain about my baby or share cute pictures there is no in between.
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EvilMegas posted...

Jen, to he credit though, its hard as fuck. Like all i ever do is complain about my baby or share cute pictures there is no in between.

i don't careeeeeeee

you had the kids. complain to your babies' mother not to facebook.
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My son was a good baby. He'd wake up maybe 2-3 times a night but a simple diaper change and a bottle put him back to sleep.

Wait until the little fucker can walk and talk and has school and sports. This is the real struggle time.
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It's like she's unaware of Facebook groups, the perfect places to get mad about stuff with an audience
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Doctor Foxx posted...

It's like she's unaware of Facebook groups, the perfect places to get mad about stuff with an audience

true but you can never suggest stuff like that. people get hypersensitive about that stuff.
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Doctor Foxx posted...

It's like she's unaware of Facebook groups, the perfect places to get mad about stuff with an audience

i post certain problems i have sometimes on a "dads who game" group, and always get awesome advice, lol

it makes your "advice" seem like shit, tbh, ok?
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Sounds like it was an unplanned pregnancy to me. If she was saying they wanted to stay childless before hand, that might not have changed, but once got pregnant they decided to keep it.
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Firewood18 posted...

Another great phenomena is some sort of chemical or hormone that causes selective memory in parents that causes them to repeat the process multiple times.

Not really. My wife and I want another because we want our son to have a sibling, someone closer to his age that he can rely on and confide in. And hopefully he'll take some responsibility in caring for his younger sibling and stop being so spoiled (the price of grandparents living in the same house). For most of my friends who have more than one child, that's usually how it turns out. Everything I've learned from those who were the only child (including my own mother) is that they are spoiled as hell but also lonely. We love our son enough that we'll go through the newborn baby hardship again. But more than two? Forget it.

Jen0125 posted...

Doctor Foxx posted...

It's like she's unaware of Facebook groups, the perfect places to get mad about stuff with an audience

true but you can never suggest stuff like that. people get hypersensitive about that stuff.

Honestly I've just started linking groups to people. Some as suggestions to join. Other things as ridiculous tags

@it costs $0.00 to not be like this
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mayatola posted...

Firewood18 posted...

Another great phenomena is some sort of chemical or hormone that causes selective memory in parents that causes them to repeat the process multiple times.

Not really. My wife and I want another because we want our son to have a sibling, someone closer to his age that he can rely on and confide in. And hopefully he'll take some responsibility in caring for his younger sibling and stop being so spoiled (the price of grandparents living in the same house). For most of my friends who have more than one child, that's usually how it turns out. Everything I've learned from those who were the only child (including my own mother) is that they are spoiled as hell but also lonely. We love our son enough that we'll go through the newborn baby hardship again. But more than two? Forget it.

The grandparents will spoil the next one too. And siblings are never guaranteed to get along.
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ZiggiStardust posted...

always get awesome advice, lol

but she constantly says she doesn't want advice and don't give it to her because she just wants to complain
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Jen0125 posted...

ZiggiStardust posted...

always get awesome advice, lol

but she constantly says she doesn't want advice and don't give it to her because she just wants to complain

There's even petty rage groups specifically for venting and not for advice
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Doctor Foxx posted...

Jen0125 posted...

Doctor Foxx posted...

It's like she's unaware of Facebook groups, the perfect places to get mad about stuff with an audience

true but you can never suggest stuff like that. people get hypersensitive about that stuff.

Honestly I've just started linking groups to people. Some as suggestions to join. Other things as ridiculous tags

@it costs $0.00 to not be like this

lmao, i just discovered how deep those meta group names go
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Firewood18 posted...

And siblings are never guaranteed to get along.

yeah. i have 3 brothers and none of us are particularly close to each other.
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RCtheWSBC posted...

Doctor Foxx posted...

Jen0125 posted...

Doctor Foxx posted...

It's like she's unaware of Facebook groups, the perfect places to get mad about stuff with an audience

true but you can never suggest stuff like that. people get hypersensitive about that stuff.

Honestly I've just started linking groups to people. Some as suggestions to join. Other things as ridiculous tags

@it costs $0.00 to not be like this

lmao, i just discovered how deep those meta group names go

They're fucking hilarious sometimes

@ why can't I tag on mobile
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Yeah, somebody I know just had one and was immediately a single mom. She never bitches about the child, but she certainly surrounds herself with scummiest friends and loves whining about that.
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Jen0125 posted...

EvilMegas posted...

Jen, to he credit though, its hard as fuck. Like all i ever do is complain about my baby or share cute pictures there is no in between.

i don't careeeeeeee

you had the kids. complain to your babies' mother not to facebook.

Never! Dont make me inbox you cute baby pictures!
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i'll report you for harassment!!
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Do it, Sage. She deserves it for threatening me with pickles.
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send them to rc instead

take a pic of your kids holding pickles and send it to her!
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How horrible! My mom was killed by a pickle, Jen!
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Jen0125 posted...

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Jen0125 posted...

send them to rc instead

take a pic of your kids holding pickles and send it to her!

...while dressed up as a pickle
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I'm convinced my sister-in-law had kids so she would have someone to bitch at 24/7.
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