Current Events > Been struggling woth the idea of leaving my mother to fend for herself.

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Currently renting in the same house. Owners are moving so we getting kicked out. I'm moving in with girlfriend, but mom thought I'd take her with me. I would have, too, but me and bae needs space to grow together.

It makes me feel guilty af, but then I remwmber how annoying and restricted I am around. Especially when she flexes her motherly position. I aint a kid foo I'm koo off living with you lmao.

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So what did you decide to do?
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How old is she? Can she provide for herself?

My advice: Your mother is more important than your girlfriend. It is your obligation to take care of her if she cannot take care of herself. You can always find another girlfriend. Whereas you'll only ever one mother.

Idk, maybe my culture is different.

You piece of shit.

Sticking with the decision to move out without her. I've been carrying my mother since 2008. This is almost ten years later and I'm still gonna be living with her? I'm not her only child. She has other children. I think she's only sticking with me because I was the one who volunteered to do it in the first place.

If this continues, I'll be living with her until one of us dies.
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Asian mothers live to be 127
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3khc posted...

Sticking with the decision to move out without her. I've been carrying my mother since 2008. This is almost ten years later and I'm still gonna be living with her? I'm not her only child. She has other children. I think she's only sticking with me because I was the one who volunteered to do it in the first place.

If this continues, I'll be living with her until one of us dies.

At least communicate with your siblings and put together a plan. Maybe each of you can contribute some money each month so she can stay afloat.

Buy her some bitcoins and in 2 months she won't be a problem. Anymore
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I swear this topic has been made before.
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This is why I'm having so much trouble with the decision.
Oldest sister is married with four children. No room in her house.
Younger sis is estranged. Ditched the family and only shows up when she needs things. Won't even give us her address.
Younger bro is living out of town. I've been paying for his rent/phone/food as well smh.

I'm the only one barely in position to help, but I'm getting anxious because I want to do my own thing like everyone else had a chance to.
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How much does your mom make? Is it completely a financial decision? Or more emotional support/having somebody around?

Ruvan22 posted...

How much does your mom make? Is it completely a financial decision? Or more emotional support/having somebody around?

Both. For the longest time, I've stuck around because I don't want her to be alone or struggle with money. I know she can make it by on her own. I've always had this team mentality that would be better if we pool our resources.

But I didn't plan on this going on for so long. I want my own space.
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