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As a pick up artist with an advanced understanding of attraction, male to female dynamics, sub-communication and female psychology, I believe these 18 tips provide a good start:

1.There's no shame in not being good at talking to women-Guys that aren't good at talking to women get a lot of flack on the internet. But there's nothing wrong with it. It's a skillset, some people have no musical talent, but that doesn't mean they cant learn to play the guitar. Other people are born with innate musical ability. Doesnt mean the guy born without it cant learnif he puts in the discipline. It isnt pathetic to not be able to talk to womenit is pathetic to be too afraid to learn how.

2.Dont drink-Learning is tough enough without alcohol. Drinking means youre just doing random things and hoping it works instead of actually developing a skillset. It means you need to actually lower inhibition just to talk to girlshow pathetic does that sound when you say it out loud? If you want to be the guy that girls want to sleep with, dont you want to be able to do that sober. If you do drink, please at least keep it to a minimum, no one likes or wants to be the drunk guy who thinks he has a ton of game.

3.Take her number, dont give her yours-Girls HATE making the first move. They will take any excuse to avoid doing so, whether a snide comment from a friend or even just plain laziness. If you let a girl take your number instead of getting hers, you are just asking to be flaked on. She will not text you.

4.Tell, dont ask-A lot of guys fall into the trap of asking too many questions, and the conversation falls into interview mode. Think about any good conversation youve ever had with a friendthat is not how a good conversation looks like. Dont be afraid to make statements, tell stories or phrase a question like a statement.

5.Get the girl to talk-When youre doing all the talking, you are the one trying to impress her. Worst case, it should be split in half. Ideally you can reach the point where you can get her talking more than you. Girls feel more connected to and comfortable around people that they feel know them well and understand them. If youre doing all the talking, it feels more like a movieits entertaining while its there but ultimately youll leave and it just wouldnt be as memorable.
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6.Dont be afraid to do the talking-This applies mostly at the start of an interaction. If you have to be the one doing the talking for the first 3 minutes or so, dont be afraid to do so (just leave her a bit of space to talk). Not talking makes it seem like youre ambivalent, which you are not allowed to be because it means youre not leading and youre not a guy who knows what he wantsa super un-sexy trait. Furthermore, when youre talking you are increasing your sample size about what the girl knows about you. If youre a cool guy, talking more should only show her that and thus help her.

7.You should never be running out of things to say-Think about everything you would want to know about a girl before marrying themthat is a lot of conversation, so why would you ever be running out of things to say? Just dont fall into the trap of interview mode. Worst case, lower the bar for conversationnot everything has to be some amazing quote that will be carved on a tombstone.

8.Dont be afraid to lead-If you want to do something with the girl (dance, get a drink, leave the place, kiss her), dont be afraid to at least try it. Girls (and most people) dont like to be in charge, they spend their whole lives waiting for a guy that will tell them what to do.

9.Dont be boring-You are not allowed to ever be boring. Dont ever say anything she has heard before. Show some passion. When a girl asks you what you do for a living, accountant is not the right answer. Even I always loved working with numbers so I decided to become an accountant is an infinitely better answer. Dont be in autopilot and dont let her be. Make her feel like you and her are both alive.

10.Dont be afraid to take your time-Believe it or not, most hook ups dont happen in 30 minutes. Hell, even an hour is super-fast. You can meet girls that are down that quickbut the VAST majority arent, especially if you want very attractive girls. If it takes 4 hours, thats perfectly reasonable. If it takes the whole night, be okay with that (assuming you like the girl). Girls need to be very comfortable with a guy before sleeping with him. Even if it does end up being a one night stand, she doesnt want it to feel like it is.

11.Seize your opportunities-Girls will very subtley hint to you what they actually want. Im bored means lets go somewhere else (bar, dance flooryour place (sidenote, never say the words my place)). Last month I hooked up with a girl just because she said now all I need is a blanket while we were cuddling in a club and I knew it meant she wanted to go home with me. You really need to pick up on these clues and act on them, since girls will not explicitly tell you what they want (most of the time). Youll get a lot of opportunities, just never be afraid to act on them.
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12.Dont be afraid to let the girl know you like her-The girl may know deep down that youre talking to her because youre attracted to herbut she needs to logically know it for the interaction to make sense to her. So dont hesitate to show or hide any attraction you have for her. At the same time, the previous rules, do apply, you are still not allowed to be boring! Dont say boring things like youre so cute, even something simple like wow, your smile really warms my heart is infinitely better. Or even better, try to show you like her for more than just her physical traits.

13.Congruence-The alignment of thoughts, words and actions is extremely important. If youre thinking something, say it. If you feel like doing something, do it. Nothing shows a girl that youre a man who knows what you want and gets what you want like someone who is not afraid to be themselves.

14.Lower the goal for the interaction-When talking to a girl, youre not talking to her to get her number or to sleep with her, youre talking to her to find out if shes cool and if the two of you would get along and have chemistry, and if you do you can take further to getting her number and potentially sleeping with her. Of course, if you practice this enough you should be able to have chemistry with any girl.

15.Rejection is ok- Remove all attachment to your ego. Not everyone is meant to get along with everyone. If youre truly being yourself, everyone should not like you, itd be so much weirder if they did. Even with the ability to create chemistry with almost every girl, some still will not like you and that is fine. Having abundance means its ok if things dont work out with any single girl. Also remember to not take it so personally. The girl could be married, madly in love with her boyfriend or just be completely distracted by something else.
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16.Commit 100% or be squished like a bug-But dont use the previous point to make yourself feel like it is ok to just walk away from a girl any time. If the girl tells you to leave, just leave. But if shes being ambivalent, stick it out. A lot of girls will act like that, especially really hot girls and especially at the start of the interaction before they get to know you. This also applies to opening. A lot of guys will open half-assed because they are afraid of the girl rejecting them but because they open so terribly the girl will reject them and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

17.Dont make the girl feel like a slut-Should be self-explanatory, but dont treat anything as a big deal. If youre getting her number, dont act like its a big deal and shes giving something important up. Also dont let her friends see. Along the same lines, try not to kiss a girl in front of her friends. Girls will do almost anything if they feel like doing it in the moment and there are no consequences.

18.Dont be afraid to disagree with the girl-More along the line of congruence, but I always see guys trying overly hard to be too agreeable. I have a friend that is a hardcore atheist and wouldnt stop ranting about how stupid religion is. But the second he meets a hot girl that tells him shes Christan his response was oh cooldo you go to church?. Dont be afraid to disagree with the girl if its genuinely what youre thinking and believe. The girl will be happy to see the strength of your convictions, passion and get a different perspective, even if she doesnt agree with you. That said, that doesnt mean to trash her or talk down to her if you disagree. Also dont be afraid to drop the conversation or circumvent it if it reaches a touchier topic (abortion, politics, etc) that doesnt necessarily help you lead the conversation in the direction you want it to; ie a 2 hour conversation about politics will not lead to a girl sleeping with you.
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extremely good info here, cemen take note and tag this topic for future reference
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1. Have lots of money so she knows when shes with you she can just sit at home and post duckface selfies and spend all your money on clothes and shit.

2. Be incredibly good looking and have a 20 inch weenie.

3. Work a lot so she can bang other dudes in your bed.
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Better than I was expecting
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19. Don't get cucked!
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TC has no game
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All I gather from this is that it's way too much work to impress a girl and they need to start initiating more and stop thinking their shit don't stink.

Basically you have to be a fake life of the party to get girls interested.
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Kind of suspect how you call yourself a pick up artist - might wanna leave that to the lesbians.

Best advice is #18 except that's more for dating than picking up a girl at first IMO. But yeah, I'm the type of guy who will always just lay it out if I disagree with the girl on some subject or topic. I don't care how big of a deal it is to her. It does a few things in your favor as a guy: 1) Since you're actually responding to what the girl is saying with a contrary opinion, it shows that you actually listened to what she had to say and, though you disagree, you are actually paying attention to her viewpoint; 2) You're not afraid to have your own viewpoints = independent thinker; 3) If it really is that big of a deal to her and she doesn't wanna date you anymore, well, good, at least you were honest and up front so you could avoid this psycho. News flash - unless they're a hardcore Christian (or whatever) and are talking about their faith, this will almost never be the case.

And on actual dates, I think you should always match the (number of) drinks of your lady friend. Helps both of you loosen up.
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Lift with your knees
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This is all very basic stuff that every man should know.

DoctorPiranha3 posted...

This is all very basic stuff that every man should know.

every guy likes to think they know how to pick up a girl out of fragile male ego, then the second they have a hottie in front of them, they don't know what the fuck they're doing lol
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liberal bluepill nonsense
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No_U_L7 posted...

DoctorPiranha3 posted...

This is all very basic stuff that every man should know.

every guy likes to think they know how to pick up a girl out of fragile male ego, then the second they have a hottie in front of them, they don't know what the fuck they're doing lol

Well I mean. You can study the playbook for days. But you gotta go out and execute. All there is to it.

DoctorPiranha3 posted...

No_U_L7 posted...

DoctorPiranha3 posted...

This is all very basic stuff that every man should know.

every guy likes to think they know how to pick up a girl out of fragile male ego, then the second they have a hottie in front of them, they don't know what the fuck they're doing lol

Well I mean. You can study the playbook for days. But you gotta go out and execute. All there is to it.

Obviously...and when you do execute, remember these tips.
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NOM posted...

All I gather from this is that it's way too much work to impress a girl and they need to start initiating more and stop thinking their shit don't stink.

And while you're being a wallflower, nursing a drink, wishing some girl would talk to you -- I'm jumping into the fray, impressing the honeys, and getting this trick and her friends back to my place.

I've said it before and I'll say it again -- women aren't the 'problem'. Other dudes are. Rise to the occasion or drop out.
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No_U_L7 posted...

As a pick up artist

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c final answer
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