Current Events > What CEgals are considered the female equivalent of ''Nice Guys'' here?

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@Number39
She should tell the guy who wants to date her she has a low sex drive, does not enjoy sex most times, and is not going to be up for "spontaneous" sex.
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Im. Fucking. BOREDDDDDDddddd!!!
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Offworlder1 posted...

If you enjoyed yourself more with a woman you might be bi or more into women, nothing wrong with that.

Physically sure. But I cuddle with girls or share beds or etc all the time. It's not the same and not really the romance I'm looking for.

I liked hugging and holding hands with guys I was dating kekeke.

Offworlder1 posted...

Number39
She should tell the guy who wants to date her she has a low sex drive, does not enjoy sex most times, and is not going to be up for "spontaneous" sex.

Yes the guy thinks I'm a waste of space for not wanting sex. LOL what a strange thing he is.
And I do tell them. Well not the first two. But later on I said "so I'm not really ready for sex or things, so even if we did date I wouldn't do it..." or something like that I mean I don't remember verbatim. And they agreed but obviously not really.
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BTW that's called "pick mes"
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The female equivalent of a nice guy are women who complain that the only girls who get any attention from men are those who act slutty

"If I have to dress like THAT, to get a man, it's not worth my self respect!"

"Everyone out here having sex like it's nothing! Sorry not sorry for having standards! You gotta work for this"
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@LittleRoyal

Well if you want to keep a boyfriend after the second or third really good date the man is going to expect some sex from you. You need to find out what you enjoy when you have sex and make sure the guy knows so both of you have a good time.

It is not wrong if a guy dumps you for not putting out after a certain period of time, you need to work on your sexual problems or you will need to accept you prefer women.
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*sigh* don't criminalize me for not wanting sex either. I have my own rights to not want that and if they don't accept it then well, I was up front and they are the ones who mislead me. They weren't right for me then. Not like I'm evil for it.
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@LittleRoyal

Not criminalizing you just telling you no healthy relationship lasts without a decent amount of sex. Men and women need it to form a really close intamate bond with eachother.

Your not wrong to have your own wants and preferances but most men need a certain amount if sex or they will go elsewhere to scratch their itch.
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I don't need it to be close to someone. That's just a sad excuse because you're too horny. Not you specifically but you get me
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@LittleRoyal

Many people see sex as a vital part of a relationship, notice that when the sex is lacking or has vanished all together many people say something to their partner, or decide to cheat ?

Sex might not be important to you but for most people it is, why it can make or break a couple.

Bottom line is you have a low sex drive or you don't get horny enough, both are a bad thing to most men and many women.
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Me I'm an incel
All the good guys are taken booooo hooooooooo
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Sami1000 posted...

Tadamoto24 posted...

There's no such thing as a female equivalent of a nice guy. Nice guys become bitter at women because they always go for the macho douchebags (who end up getting them pregnant and then leaving them) over them. There's no female equivalent of this because women don't any problem whatsoever of getting a man. I've never seen a woman become bitter because she can't get a man. It's so easy for them. Hell even Leana has had sex with 10 different guys.

Those do indeed exist, trust me. They just take a bit longer to become bitter.

Yeah that's me
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Offworlder1 posted...

LittleRoyal

Many people see sex as a vital part of a relationship, notice that when the sex is lacking or has vanished all together many people say something to their partner, or decide to cheat ?

Sex might not be important to you but for most people it is, why it can make or break a couple.

Bottom line is you have a low sex drive or you don't get horny enough, both are a bad thing to most men and many women.

But that doesn't make sense.

It should be more important to spend quality time together baking goods and going out and having fun in ways we both enjoy
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LittleRoyal posted...

But that doesn't make sense.

It should be more important to spend quality time together baking goods and going out and having fun in ways we both enjoy

You could consider those things equally important or maybe even more so, since that's what you will be spending the majority of your time doing. Relationships aren't just 100% sex all the time, but sex cannot be completely absent from any relationship that you expect to be healthy or long lasting.

If you still wanted to date, basically all you could do was join an asexual support group or dating site and see if you meet someone there. You will never be able to have a healthy relationship with a man otherwise, it's just not possible. Sex is always expected, and if that's not something you're willing to compromise on even a little then the only option is to find someone who also doesn't want sex.
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You seem like a child with that simple mindedness, spending tine together, going out, and having fun is important but so is sex. You act like sex is not a fun thing people enjoy doing together and I strongly believe you personal issue is the reason.

Not many men will be ok with little to no sex, they will drop a woman for good reason if she can't put out or does not find sex fun.

You can try to find some low sex drive dude who will be fine with how you are but that is not easy. It's also possible if you find a gay dude who is just a close friend to provide you with the companionship you want without the sex.

@LittleRoyal
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Ultima Dragon posted...

LittleRoyal posted...

But that doesn't make sense.

It should be more important to spend quality time together baking goods and going out and having fun in ways we both enjoy

You could consider those things equally important or maybe even more so, since that's what you will be spending the majority of your time doing. Relationships aren't just 100% sex all the time, but sex cannot be completely absent from any relationship that you expect to be healthy or long lasting.

If you still wanted to date, basically all you could do was join an asexual support group or dating site and see if you meet someone there. You will never be able to have a healthy relationship with a man otherwise, it's just not possible. Sex is always expected, and if that's not something you're willing to compromise on even a little then the only option is to find someone who also doesn't want sex.

I've tried to compromise it and I can't. Makes me feel gross and wrong, just can't do it.

And I think it's very off beat and just inconsiderate to sit her and tell me I don't deserve/can't ever find a good relationship because I need more than a month to build up to be ready for sex.
Or to say no relationship I can be in is going to be healthy/viable just because one thing I don't want to do.

My parents are both married and didn't even have sex before marriage for whatever their reason is. I don't need to go put out and have sex with every guy just to find the guy I want.

And that CE thinks every guy I find interesting or likeable has earned/deserves sex is an absolutely incorrect mindset. I didn't say I'll never have sex and I'm not waiting for marriage specifically and I don't need just one special guy as my only ever partner like my mom did.

Butim not gonna go on 3 dates and suddenly put out.
I'm not gonna have sex with every frat boy that thinks I'm cute or think it's funny to spank me either. Not that this is the part you're arguing but still.

So no~ I am not wrong for wanting more than 3 dates. I'm not the bad guy for not being ready or willing to have sex with everyone.




And the problem is that all of CE is like this.

When my then-bf cornered me and groped my boobs and butt while I already said I don't want sexual stuff CE blamed me.

They have this weird menatity that we should all need and want and like what guys want us to. Ugh. @Sayoria is well liked and I'm not
So she should be able to talk without it being judged or called a meltdown ~
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It looks like you really will do better with someone asexual or has a low sex drive from what your saying then.

You don't have to like what we are saying but this is the truth: most men/women are pretty active sexually with their partner. If that is not what you want then low sex drive or asexual partners will be the way to go for you as that way you will have a partner that might be more compatible with you.
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LittleRoyal posted...

I've tried to compromise it and I can't. Makes me feel gross and wrong, just can't do it.

And I think it's very off beat and just inconsiderate to sit her and tell me I don't deserve/can't ever find a good relationship because I need more than a month to build up to be ready for sex.
Or to say no relationship I can be in is going to be healthy/viable just because one thing I don't want to do.

My parents are both married and didn't even have sex before marriage for whatever their reason is. I don't need to go put out and have sex with every guy just to find the guy I want.

And that CE thinks every guy I find interesting or likeable has earned/deserves sex is an absolutely incorrect mindset. I didn't say I'll never have sex and I'm not waiting for marriage specifically and I don't need just one special guy as my only ever partner like my mom did.

Butim not gonna go on 3 dates and suddenly put out.
I'm not gonna have sex with every frat boy that thinks I'm cute or think it's funny to spank me either. Not that this is the part you're arguing but still.

So no~ I am not wrong for wanting more than 3 dates. I'm not the bad guy for not being ready or willing to have sex with everyone.

I didn't say any of those things though, I am just saying that you should be more realistic. Compromise doesn't necessarily mean giving it up as soon as the guy wants it. You can still take your time, but maybe try rounding some of the bases a little without going all the way home? Again, very few guys will want to date a girl that just wants to cuddle and hold hands for several months or more. That is like middle school stuff. I am not judging you or talking down to you, that is just the reality of the society we live in. A relationship without anything sexual (not even a little groping or hand play) is going to have a hard time surviving.

If you feel sex is gross and wrong, what makes you think that giving it more time is somehow going to change that? It takes more than three dates to really know someone and get comfortable, but if you're not feeling any attraction or physical desire what makes you think you ever will? It's not like after a month, or two, or three, six, a year.. your feelings are magically going to just change on their own. Maybe sex isn't for you?

I'm assuming your parents immigrated here? If that's the case, they're from a different country with a much, much different culture where no sex before marriage is pretty much the norm or is at least extremely common. It was even more common here with older generations. Today? lolno. It's not really fair to use them as an example.

So to sum it up, no guy deserves sex from you for any reason.

You're also not wrong for not wanting to have sex or to blame for your relationships not working out. You deserve to have a relationship too.

But like, how can two people be compatible when one person wants sex and the other doesn't? I think you should try to sort this out while you're still young, because it's only going to get worse the older you get.
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Well whatever, I don't really want to feel used or simplified down to a few parts for people to use or to just be some object for everyone treated like whatever anyone wants by everyone else anymore~ ugh especially not a bf I'm supposed to be with
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ZzZz!!!
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Everyone's all catty in this topic

LittleRoyal posted...

Ultima Dragon posted...

LittleRoyal posted...

But that doesn't make sense.

It should be more important to spend quality time together baking goods and going out and having fun in ways we both enjoy

You could consider those things equally important or maybe even more so, since that's what you will be spending the majority of your time doing. Relationships aren't just 100% sex all the time, but sex cannot be completely absent from any relationship that you expect to be healthy or long lasting.

If you still wanted to date, basically all you could do was join an asexual support group or dating site and see if you meet someone there. You will never be able to have a healthy relationship with a man otherwise, it's just not possible. Sex is always expected, and if that's not something you're willing to compromise on even a little then the only option is to find someone who also doesn't want sex.

I've tried to compromise it and I can't. Makes me feel gross and wrong, just can't do it.

And I think it's very off beat and just inconsiderate to sit her and tell me I don't deserve/can't ever find a good relationship because I need more than a month to build up to be ready for sex.
Or to say no relationship I can be in is going to be healthy/viable just because one thing I don't want to do.

My parents are both married and didn't even have sex before marriage for whatever their reason is. I don't need to go put out and have sex with every guy just to find the guy I want.

And that CE thinks every guy I find interesting or likeable has earned/deserves sex is an absolutely incorrect mindset. I didn't say I'll never have sex and I'm not waiting for marriage specifically and I don't need just one special guy as my only ever partner like my mom did.

Butim not gonna go on 3 dates and suddenly put out.
I'm not gonna have sex with every frat boy that thinks I'm cute or think it's funny to spank me either. Not that this is the part you're arguing but still.

So no~ I am not wrong for wanting more than 3 dates. I'm not the bad guy for not being ready or willing to have sex with everyone.

Honestly, the whole "meltdown" argument, you have to just brush off when people say that. I don't even care anymore. When my points are on the table, they are allowed to take it or pass it to the next person.

On topic though:

I am one to believe that unless a guy specifies he has no desire for sex, that he definitely hopes and expects it somewhere down the line. At the same time, I believe no one should feel pressured into anything of the sort.

I am like you Little. I think the act of having sex is just outright disgusting and I can easily do without it. The truth is, almost every single man has those "man" needs and going into a relationship with a guy who wants a sexual relationship would definitely be unfair to him for either you or I if we are not going to budge on our views.

Can a couple have a healthy relationship without sex? I definitely believe so. I just think it would be a long hike through many, many men before you could find one with a similar take on sex. Men are just naturally horny creatures. If they sense there's no chance of "sticking it" with the girl they are with, they'll bail out. I hate to say that I have never met a guy who could abstain completely from sex and can't even be sure I ever will.

It would take the most perfect woman in every other way for a guy to cut ties with the idea of having sex with the woman, and even that isn't likely. We are in a corner Little. We really are. The pool of guys out there is probably a million to one. Maybe greater.
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Sex is hella fun
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ssj3vegeta2 posted...

Sex is hella fun

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Dustin1280 posted...

Tadamoto24 posted...

Doom_Art posted...

Are there even CEgals anymore?

There's like 6 of them

LittleRoyal
Leanaunfurled
Asherlee
Vyrulisse
Hermiione
Sablewolfangel

Your missing a few, but they don't generally advertise that they are female because it changes the way people respond to them.

Nah. StrikeGently is gone for a couple days.
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LittleRoyal posted...

Well whatever, I don't really want to feel used or simplified down to a few parts for people to use or to just be some object for everyone treated like whatever anyone wants by everyone else anymore~ ugh especially not a bf I'm supposed to be with

This entire topic is why I call you naive.

Any NORMAL man is going to want sex, usually by the 2nd or 3rd date. I guarantee if a guy is interested in you and you tell them you don't do sexual stuff, he will drop you immediately.

The ONLY way you are going to find someone that works for you is try to find someone who is asexual, or a real religious boy that wants to wait till marriage. Even if you wait till marriage, that religious boy is GOING TO WANT SEX.

Let me state for clarity: ALL GUYS WANT SEX, THE ONLY EXCEPTION ARE ASEXUAL ONES. If you are not prepared to have sex then you just cut your dating pool down to 10% of what you could get IF YOU ARE LUCKY. Believing in a bullshit idea, like "the right guy will wait as long as i need" is about as ignorant as you could possibly be.

This is just the truth of the matter. I'm not saying to go whore yourself out to every guy, but don't actually expect to get in a real relationship w/o sex.

Pro Tip: One of the reasons long distance relationships rarely work is because there is no PHYSICAL intimacy...

@LittleRoyal
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Sluts are basically the female equivelant of nice guys.

Men and women are valued for different things. They need to safeguard and be selective with whom they share what they're valued for, unless they be percieved as lesser.

Women are the gatekeepers of reproductive access. Men are the gatekeepers of commitment.

Sluts and niceguys share their valued commodities too freely and are ultimately two sides of the same coin. Which is why they often end up in unhealthy non-relationships, bootycallers and friendzoners.
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CruorComa posted...

Sluts are basically the female equivelant of nice guys.

Men and women are valued for different things. They need to safeguard and be selective with whom they share what they're valued for, unless they be percieved as lesser.

Women are the gatekeepers of reproductive access. Men are the gatekeepers of commitment.

Sluts and niceguys share their valued commodities two freely and are ultimately too sides of the same coin. Which is why they often end up in unhealthy non-relationships, bootycallers and friendzoners.

No, no they are not...

The "nice guys" of women are the ones that constantly talk about how all the good men are taken, and then go on a rant about how much the remaining men suck.

How you managed to come to the conclusion that a "slut" is the equivalent is of a female "nice guy" is beyond me...
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Dustin1280 posted...

CruorComa posted...

Sluts are basically the female equivelant of nice guys.

Men and women are valued for different things. They need to safeguard and be selective with whom they share what they're valued for, unless they be percieved as lesser.

Women are the gatekeepers of reproductive access. Men are the gatekeepers of commitment.

Sluts and niceguys share their valued commodities two freely and are ultimately too sides of the same coin. Which is why they often end up in unhealthy non-relationships, bootycallers and friendzoners.

No, no they are not...

The "nice guys" of women are the ones that constantly talk about how all the good men are taken, and then go on a rant about how much the remaining men suck.

How you managed to come to the conclusion that a "slut" is the equivalent is of a female "nice guy" is beyond me...

I explained it pretty aptly.
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CruorComa posted...

Dustin1280 posted...

CruorComa posted...

Sluts are basically the female equivelant of nice guys.

Men and women are valued for different things. They need to safeguard and be selective with whom they share what they're valued for, unless they be percieved as lesser.

Women are the gatekeepers of reproductive access. Men are the gatekeepers of commitment.

Sluts and niceguys share their valued commodities two freely and are ultimately too sides of the same coin. Which is why they often end up in unhealthy non-relationships, bootycallers and friendzoners.

No, no they are not...

The "nice guys" of women are the ones that constantly talk about how all the good men are taken, and then go on a rant about how much the remaining men suck.

How you managed to come to the conclusion that a "slut" is the equivalent is of a female "nice guy" is beyond me...

I explained it pretty aptly.

That "explanation" is a delusion, and isn't remotely close to the truth...
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Dustin1280 posted...

CruorComa posted...

Dustin1280 posted...

CruorComa posted...

Sluts are basically the female equivelant of nice guys.

Men and women are valued for different things. They need to safeguard and be selective with whom they share what they're valued for, unless they be percieved as lesser.

Women are the gatekeepers of reproductive access. Men are the gatekeepers of commitment.

Sluts and niceguys share their valued commodities two freely and are ultimately too sides of the same coin. Which is why they often end up in unhealthy non-relationships, bootycallers and friendzoners.

No, no they are not...

The "nice guys" of women are the ones that constantly talk about how all the good men are taken, and then go on a rant about how much the remaining men suck.

How you managed to come to the conclusion that a "slut" is the equivalent is of a female "nice guy" is beyond me...

I explained it pretty aptly.

That "explanation" is a delusion, and isn't remotely close to the truth...

Why?
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ssj3vegeta2 posted...

Sex is hella fun

I'll never know
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Kanaya413 posted...

ssj3vegeta2 posted...

Sex is hella fun

I'll never know

Why?
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Dustin1280 posted...

No, no they are not...

The "nice guys" of women are the ones that constantly talk about how all the good men are taken, and then go on a rant about how much the remaining men suck.

How you managed to come to the conclusion that a "slut" is the equivalent is of a female "nice guy" is beyond me...

Usually sluts are the ones that talk about how all the good men are taken. Maybe they are not outright whoring around, but I think on average a lot of young women just go from guy to guy to guy and have these relatively short "relationships."

But like, I can see what he's saying. Nice guys freely give up their resources (usually financial, time, etc) hoping for sexual intimacy. They get used for their resources but nobody wants to date or marry them.

Sluts freely give up their resources (their bodies) hoping for financial security and commitment. Although not all, some girls just like sex. In the same sense though, they get used for their resources but nobody wants to date or marry them.
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Ultima Dragon posted...

Usually sluts are the ones that talk about how all the good men are taken. Maybe they are not outright whoring around, but I think on average a lot of young women just go from guy to guy to guy and have these relatively short "relationships."

Ok the "sluts" that fit my description above, sure I will agree with that.

But like, I can see what he's saying. Nice guys freely give up their resources (usually financial, time, etc) hoping for sexual intimacy. They get used for their resources but nobody wants to date or marry them.

If all you got is "nice" then you are a boring person and it's no wonder people don't want to date you. You need to work on confidence and be outgoing if you hope to date someone you are interested in. Nice guys who sit in corners and are afraid of women bring it on themselves.

Sluts freely give up their resources (their bodies) hoping for financial security and commitment. Although not all, some girls just like sex. In the same sense though, they get used for their resources but nobody wants to date or marry them.

The problem is not all "sluts" are equal. Some just like sex, and want to have sex with multiple men, the same way men want to have sex with multiple women. Others are exactly as you say and are gold diggers looking for someone to just pay for everything for them.

Just writing every women who likes sex off as a slut and assuming the worst is a terrible philosophy that is all too common.
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To be fair, I don't use "slut" in a derogatory way. A woman certainly isn't a slut just for liking sex. I don't look down on a guy or girl for sleeping around, but they're still a slut. Might as well just say it like it is and own it.

Edit: This above sentence seems fucked after I read it again, but a woman can like sex without taking a new guy home every night. Being a slut is excessive, simply liking and enjoying sex is not.

You can use that same argument for women though? Like if all you have is your three holes, it's no wonder people don't want to date you. How many girls do you know that are really boring, lack personality, don't have anything that isn't vapid to say, don't have much going on in their lives (usually just chill at home most of the time on Netflix or Facebook, get smashed in the bars/clubs on the weekend). But they put out so it's okay?

I've dated girls like that, all my friends have dated girls like that, etc.

Anyway, I'm just saying I get the point the guy is trying to make. As always it's one of those "can't paint everyone with the same brush" thing. Not all nice guys or sluts are the same. We are just analyzing the stereotypical versions here mostly.
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Ultima Dragon posted...

You can use that same argument for women though? Like if all you have is your three holes, it's no wonder people don't want to date you. How many girls do you know that are really boring, lack personality, don't have anything that isn't vapid to say, don't have much going on in their lives (usually just chill at home most of the time on Netflix or Facebook, get smashed in the bars/clubs on the weekend). But they put out so it's okay?

Been with people like that, not okay, dumped them. It's not worth it to be with a boring vapid person for a real relationship.

The only time I would be okay with someone like that is solely for a physical no strings attached relationship, and they would still have to appeal to me physically for me to even consider it.

You ARE right though, we are talking about primarily stereotypes here. The problem is people like CruorComa don't see it that way and that's the issue.
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Dustin1280 posted...

LittleRoyal posted...

Well whatever, I don't really want to feel used or simplified down to a few parts for people to use or to just be some object for everyone treated like whatever anyone wants by everyone else anymore~ ugh especially not a bf I'm supposed to be with

This entire topic is why I call you naive.

Any NORMAL man is going to want sex, usually by the 2nd or 3rd date. I guarantee if a guy is interested in you and you tell them you don't do sexual stuff, he will drop you immediately.

The ONLY way you are going to find someone that works for you is try to find someone who is asexual, or a real religious boy that wants to wait till marriage. Even if you wait till marriage, that religious boy is GOING TO WANT SEX.

Let me state for clarity: ALL GUYS WANT SEX, THE ONLY EXCEPTION ARE ASEXUAL ONES. If you are not prepared to have sex then you just cut your dating pool down to 10% of what you could get IF YOU ARE LUCKY. Believing in a bullshit idea, like "the right guy will wait as long as i need" is about as ignorant as you could possibly be.

This is just the truth of the matter. I'm not saying to go whore yourself out to every guy, but don't actually expect to get in a real relationship w/o sex.

Pro Tip: One of the reasons long distance relationships rarely work is because there is no PHYSICAL intimacy...

LittleRoyal

2nd date you still hardly know the person.
And you're very wrong. Because I've told people I don't want sexual stuff and they still dated me l for a while.


Yes I don't want the kind of guy that only cares about sex and at the 2nd date expects me to go that far. That is just ridiculous to act like every relationship needs to be that way
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LittleRoyal posted...

Dustin1280 posted...

LittleRoyal posted...

Well whatever, I don't really want to feel used or simplified down to a few parts for people to use or to just be some object for everyone treated like whatever anyone wants by everyone else anymore~ ugh especially not a bf I'm supposed to be with

This entire topic is why I call you naive.

Any NORMAL man is going to want sex, usually by the 2nd or 3rd date. I guarantee if a guy is interested in you and you tell them you don't do sexual stuff, he will drop you immediately.

The ONLY way you are going to find someone that works for you is try to find someone who is asexual, or a real religious boy that wants to wait till marriage. Even if you wait till marriage, that religious boy is GOING TO WANT SEX.

Let me state for clarity: ALL GUYS WANT SEX, THE ONLY EXCEPTION ARE ASEXUAL ONES. If you are not prepared to have sex then you just cut your dating pool down to 10% of what you could get IF YOU ARE LUCKY. Believing in a bullshit idea, like "the right guy will wait as long as i need" is about as ignorant as you could possibly be.

This is just the truth of the matter. I'm not saying to go whore yourself out to every guy, but don't actually expect to get in a real relationship w/o sex.

Pro Tip: One of the reasons long distance relationships rarely work is because there is no PHYSICAL intimacy...

LittleRoyal

2nd date you still hardly know the person.
And you're very wrong. Because I've told people I don't want sexual stuff and they still dated me l for a while.


Yes I don't want the kind of guy that only cares about sex and at the 2nd date expects me to go that far. That is just ridiculous to act like every relationship needs to be that way

I agree. If you dont want sex, you dont want it. May be hard to find a guy that doesn't, but it is possible.
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LittleRoyal posted...

2nd date you still hardly know the person.
And you're very wrong. Because I've told people I don't want sexual stuff and they still dated me l for a while.


Yes I don't want the kind of guy that only cares about sex and at the 2nd date expects me to go that far. That is just ridiculous to act like every relationship needs to be that way

That's the key factor, they dated you hoping you would change your mind and you didn't so they ended it. OR you ended it because they started wanting a more physical relationship.

You are wrong, if you go through life expecting what you currently expect every one of your relationships is going to end in disappointment. I guarantee this 100%

The two exceptions are religious boys who are saving themselves or asexual men.

Zodd3224 posted...

I agree. If you dont want sex, you dont want it. May be hard to find a guy that doesn't, but it is possible.

That my friend is the key factor, her dating pool is 10% of what it could be with her expectations. Let's hope she is EXTREMELY attractive and had a good dating pool to begin with.

Honestly this stuff is just the truth of life, regardless of how much it sucks.
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Dustin1280 posted...

LittleRoyal posted...

2nd date you still hardly know the person.
And you're very wrong. Because I've told people I don't want sexual stuff and they still dated me l for a while.


Yes I don't want the kind of guy that only cares about sex and at the 2nd date expects me to go that far. That is just ridiculous to act like every relationship needs to be that way

That's the key factor, they dated you hoping you would change your mind and you didn't so they ended it. OR you ended it because they started wanting a more physical relationship.

You are wrong, if you go through life expecting what you currently expect every one of your relationships is going to end in disappointment. I guarantee this 100%

The two exceptions are religious boys who are saving themselves or asexual men.

Zodd3224 posted...

I agree. If you dont want sex, you dont want it. May be hard to find a guy that doesn't, but it is possible.

That my friend is the key factor, her dating pool is 10% of what it could be with her expectations. Let's hope she is EXTREMELY attractive and had a good dating pool to begin with.

Honestly this stuff is just the truth of life, regardless of how much it sucks.

Well I mean, gay people have a pretty small dating pool and they seem to make it work.
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Zodd3224 posted...

Well I mean, gay people have a pretty small dating pool and they seem to make it work.

How many gay people do you know that don't have very physical relationships?

The only point I am trying to make here is believing that your prince is going to wait till you are ready is delusional and setting yourself up for extreme disappointment as you get on with life.

Not having a sexual relationship is going to cut the vast majority of your relationships short, regardless of what that guy tells you. That's assuming you aren't dropped almost immediately after telling them you don't plan to be sexual.

Stop living in your dream world, or at least accept that by doing so you are going to be pulling guys from a tiny fraction of the possible dating pool. Don't expect that perfect guy any time soon either.
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Dustin1280 posted...

Zodd3224 posted...

Well I mean, gay people have a pretty small dating pool and they seem to make it work.

How many gay people do you know that don't have very physical relationships?

The only point I am trying to make here is believing that your prince is going to wait till you are ready is delusional and setting yourself up for extreme disappointment as you get on with life.

Not having a sexual relationship is going to cut the vast majority of your relationships short, regardless of what that guy tells you. That's assuming you aren't dropped almost immediately after telling them you don't plan to be sexual.

Stop living in your dream world, or at least accept that by doing so you are going to be pulling guys from a tiny fraction of the possible dating pool. Don't expect that perfect guy any time soon either.

Dont compromise who you are. If you dont want sex, you dont want sex. If you like to dress like a clown on the weekends, dress like a clown on the weekends.
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Zodd3224 posted...

Dustin1280 posted...

Zodd3224 posted...

Well I mean, gay people have a pretty small dating pool and they seem to make it work.

How many gay people do you know that don't have very physical relationships?

The only point I am trying to make here is believing that your prince is going to wait till you are ready is delusional and setting yourself up for extreme disappointment as you get on with life.

Not having a sexual relationship is going to cut the vast majority of your relationships short, regardless of what that guy tells you. That's assuming you aren't dropped almost immediately after telling them you don't plan to be sexual.

Stop living in your dream world, or at least accept that by doing so you are going to be pulling guys from a tiny fraction of the possible dating pool. Don't expect that perfect guy any time soon either.

Dont compromise who you are. If you dont want sex, you dont want sex. If you like to dress like a clown on the weekends, dress like a clown on the weekends.

I'm not telling her to compromise who she is, I'm trying to set her expectations so she understands the SMALL fraction of people that are going to be okay with what she wants to do.

I don't want her to have these grandiose expectations that the perfect man is going to come and sweep her off her feet. Or that she is even working with a large group of people to begin with, because she isn't.

The type of guy she is looking for is a rare occurrence and the chance of finding that guy at random is minuscule. As long as she realizes this she can do what she wants.
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Dustin1280 posted...

Zodd3224 posted...

Dustin1280 posted...

Zodd3224 posted...

Well I mean, gay people have a pretty small dating pool and they seem to make it work.

How many gay people do you know that don't have very physical relationships?

The only point I am trying to make here is believing that your prince is going to wait till you are ready is delusional and setting yourself up for extreme disappointment as you get on with life.

Not having a sexual relationship is going to cut the vast majority of your relationships short, regardless of what that guy tells you. That's assuming you aren't dropped almost immediately after telling them you don't plan to be sexual.

Stop living in your dream world, or at least accept that by doing so you are going to be pulling guys from a tiny fraction of the possible dating pool. Don't expect that perfect guy any time soon either.

Dont compromise who you are. If you dont want sex, you dont want sex. If you like to dress like a clown on the weekends, dress like a clown on the weekends.

I'm not telling her to compromise who she is, I'm trying to set her expectations so she understands the SMALL fraction of people that are going to be okay with what she wants to do.

I don't want her to have these grandiose expectations that the perfect man is going to come and sweep her off her feet. Or that she is even working with a large group of people to begin with, because she isn't.

The type of guy she is looking for is a rare occurrence and the chance of finding that guy at random is minuscule. As long as she realizes this she can do what she wants.

Small pool is fine if she's only looking for one anyways. What's the point in having a large pool if most of them are not what she is looking for?
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Zodd3224 posted...

Small pool is fine if she's only looking for one anyways. What's the point in having a large pool if most of them are not what she is looking for?

Just don't expect that "one" to appear any time soon.

Her best bet would be to make use of the asexual dating sights out there. At least then she has a focused pool of candidates that she won't have to root through to find the type of guy she is looking for.

She sure as hell isn't going to meet her unicorn through day to day experiences, she is going to have to focus in areas like asexual dating sites or religious groups to fine tune her chances.

That is assuming she even wants a serious relationship right now.
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I don't want asexual who won't enjoy my body when the time is right
Or a guy who thinks second date I'm expected to have sex.
It's two extremes
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