Current Events > Think I just broke up

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gf was always a bit unstable, but she had a good therapist and I was able to be there for her. She moved across the country, and we had the plan that we would move in together because it was actually where I wanted to be before I knew her. I visited last week and we had an amazing time, best week of my life.

The thing is she doesnt have a new therapist and has been treating me as a therapist, lashing out at me, randomly flipping moods and telling me not to come or to come, and I've put up with it. Today she flipped moods again and told me not to come, and I finally got frustrated. I told her that it wasn't fair, I've been doing my research and keeping in contact with friends in the city, etc. She said I wouldn't be able to make it out there. Well I got more annoyed and told her she can't be running me through the gamut like that, I have my own problems and it doesn't help to be treated like a therapist and to be strung along one way or another. It's exhausting. I've gotten no sleep ever since she moved in May.

Well she said she couldnt believe how mean I was being, and stubborn (true I suppose). I told her that we've had the same cycle of conversations for months now, and when it's not that, it's her constantly being negative and complaining. I can never get a word in edgewise. She said maybe we need to take a break, and I said fine, and she got mad at me for that and said that was even meaner. I tell her look, you said it yourself, you need a therapist and then she went off on me saying that's so offensive (wasnt offensive the last time I said it) and now she has to go back to work angry, resentful, and crying. I said I can't control how she reacts to things but I can't keep putting myself out there. I'm a bf, not a therapist, and although I love her this aspect of her frustrates me. She started crying and said I can't believe you're doing this, so I said "Jesus Christ" and hung up. She blocked me on all social media and blocked my number

Dodged a bullet? Yeah

Still hurts a lot though.

Sucks. But seems like you did dodge quite a big one in the long run. Trust me, once you're married and stuck with someone emotionally unstable, it just leads to a life of divorce, impacts your kids, finances, etc. Seems like a needy type of girl that just needs her way 24/7 and likes to create the drama. That's not too much of a relationship.

How long have you been dating?

about a year and a half

i know its tough but you ultimately made the right and healthy choice in the end, good for you TC
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i didn't really make the choice. I reacted out of anger and I think she closed the book. I wish we were still together, I was going to move in next month. Guess I have some plans to re-evaluate

Romulox28 posted...

i know its tough but you ultimately made the right and healthy choice in the end, good for you TC

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yeah, if you've been unhappy for more than you've been happy, seems like the right thing to do is to cut losses now.

I've been with a gf for 4 years when I knew it should've ended 2 years prior...so it's best not to waste time on the wrong person.

Still, I get why you're hurt. Losing her sucks for now, but you're doing the right thing in the long run.

Sounds like a break up that will last like 9 hours.

ideally, as these things tend to be in a cycle. however, it's never been this bad and I've never been so cold/callous to her before. i think it's done

FrenchCrunch posted...

i didn't really make the choice. I reacted out of anger and I think she closed the book. I wish we were still together, I was going to move in next month. Guess I have some plans to re-evaluate

Don't do it. If you're randomly posting about it to strangers on GameFAQs, you know something is wrong here.

Even though we disagree on everything, I wish you the best, TC. It sucks. :(
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_OujiDoza_ posted...

Romulox28 posted...

i know its tough but you ultimately made the right and healthy choice in the end, good for you TC

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i wonder when it's gonna hit me. pretty hard to work rn

Break ups are never fun, no matter how bad or toxic the relationship. My heart goes out to you,TC.
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This might not even be the end of this relationship. I think it's good that you took a stand and stood up for yourself.

It's quite possible that in a few days or a week or 2, she'll come crawling back and apologizing. It's up to you if you'd want to continue the relationship at that point.
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i pretty directly hurt her feelings bad. i wouldnt have posted this if i didnt think it was over

You dodged a bullet. Move on and never look back
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just kinda hard to forget. i had the best times of my life with her, unhealthy relationship or not. i really do care about her and care what happens to her from here

If she truly loves you - or if this is meant to be, she'll get over hurt feelings in due time. If she straightens up and flies right...would you want this relationship back?

IF she contacts you later on - the ball will be in your court whether or not to pursue. And, whichever path you take, I honestly don't think is a bad one.
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id take her back if she started going back to therapy and stopped taking things out on me. im so tired

at least i have no appetite. ill lose all the weight i gained partying with her last week

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idk what to do rn. im pretty upset.

ok, next question. i want to take her back, but i have terms. how do i go about that assuming she calls back?

When will all of you guys on CE learn, stop getting together with crazy women. Why is it always the nerds that are attracted to the crazies?

Cuckolding inbound
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FrenchCrunch posted...

ok, next question. i want to take her back

just move on bruv, i know it feels fucking scary but you'll come out better for it in the long run

FrenchCrunch posted...

ok, next question. i want to take her back, but i have terms. how do i go about that assuming she calls back?

I think you have to play hard ball, here. If you call her back she won't believe that she has to change. Unfortunately, I think the best bet is to wait for her. If she does, you get upper hand. (Lol Constanza reference :P)

I don't think it's a mistake to take her back under the right circumstances if last week was the greatest week of your life.
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megamanzero1000 posted...

When will all of you guys on CE learn, stop getting together with crazy women. Why is it always the nerds that are attracted to the crazies?

People are more than their disorders. It's not like I planned to get together with her

Caution999 posted...

FrenchCrunch posted...

ok, next question. i want to take her back, but i have terms. how do i go about that assuming she calls back?

I think you have to play hard ball, here. If you call her back she won't believe that she has to change. Unfortunately, I think the best bet is to wait for her. If she does, you get upper hand. (Lol Constanza reference :P)

I don't think it's a mistake to take her back under the right circumstances if last week was the greatest week of your life.

Maybe my life just sucks

A) Don't call her. Let her call you.
B) If she's giving you this much hardship, is it worth it in the long run? There are millions of beautiful women on this planet.
C) You're letting her have control of the situation. Not you. She seems to feed into exactly what you're doing right now. Stop that...as someone who's been there before.