Current Events > I wish my fiance and I could live together.

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But neither of us are nowhere near ready to live on our own. It sucks.
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Same here buddy
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We see each other almost every day already, minus weekends, but I miss her so much when she's gone.
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You could always move into her parents house.
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Turbam posted...

You could always move into her parents house.

She has 2 Jack Russell Terriers and they're demons on four paws I can't even take 3 steps into her house without being set upon by them.
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Duncanwii posted...

Turbam posted...

You could always move into her parents house.

She has 2 Jack Russell Terriers and they're demons on four paws I can't even take 3 steps into her house without being set upon by them.

It's not that hard to win over dogs.
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Or have them tken away
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..............yet you're engaged?
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Solid Snake07 posted...

..............yet you're engaged?

Solid Snake07 posted...

..............yet you're engaged?

We aren't getting married for another 2-3 years. During that time we'll push ourselves to live more and more alone till we get our own place when we get married.
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Duncanwii posted...

Solid Snake07 posted...

..............yet you're engaged?

We aren't getting married for another 2-3 years. During that time we'll push ourselves to live more and more alone till we get our own place when we get married.

um, there is no slow process to living on your own. you get your own place and then, boom, you're doing it.

If you've got someone you can share a cheap place with it'll be a hell of a lot cheaper.
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What's the point of being engaged if you don't get married soon after?
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scar the 1 posted...

What's the point of being engaged if you don't get married soon after?

For one neither of us have the money for the kind of wedding we want. Decent sized ceremony, not like celebrity big but still big enough that a lot of people can be invited. We both have minimum wage jobs so it might take a while.
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Get married at the courthouse and then throw a party somewhere else.
Its cheap boyo :V
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Are you not living together due to lack of funds?

If that's the issue how you gonna afford a wedding?
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Turbam posted...

Get married at the courthouse and then throw a party somewhere else.
Its cheap boyo :V

That's not very fun though. It may be girly to admit too but I've always wanted a wedding like you see in movies. Lots of people, a band ect.
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That's fucking adorable, but 2-3 years to get married is a while. I dunno
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legendarylemur posted...

That's fucking adorable, but 2-3 years to get married is a while. I dunno

I know a guy who was engaged for 9 years before getting married so it isn't unheard of.
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Duncanwii posted...

Turbam posted...

Get married at the courthouse and then throw a party somewhere else.
Its cheap boyo :V

That's not very fun though. It may be girly to admit too but I've always wanted a wedding like you see in movies. Lots of people, a band ect.

I don't think you realize how much it costs to actually have a wedding you're probably imagining. I was similar to you in that I wanted a traditional wedding. My wife told me we should save our money and spend it on the honeymoon instead. I should have listened to her.

My wife and I cooked the food, made the wedding cake, decorated, made the flower arrangements, etc. All in an effort to save money. We also had a max of 50 people invited so it was a very small wedding. In the end, I still spent around $3,500. Wedding venues and wedding photographers get more and more expensive every year.

So some advice, be realistic with your money instead of spending thousands of dollars to what is really just a big party. Save the money for either the honeymoon or down payment on a house.
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Duncanwii posted...

scar the 1 posted...

What's the point of being engaged if you don't get married soon after?

For one neither of us have the money for the kind of wedding we want. Decent sized ceremony, not like celebrity big but still big enough that a lot of people can be invited. We both have minimum wage jobs so it might take a while.

So again, what's the point of your engagement then?
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scar the 1 posted...

Duncanwii posted...

scar the 1 posted...

What's the point of being engaged if you don't get married soon after?

For one neither of us have the money for the kind of wedding we want. Decent sized ceremony, not like celebrity big but still big enough that a lot of people can be invited. We both have minimum wage jobs so it might take a while.

So again, what's the point of your engagement then?

I want my fiance to know that I love her and she's the world to me and I want to be with her for the rest of my life. Proposing says all those things.
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So does telling her what you just told us.
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Duncanwii posted...

scar the 1 posted...

Duncanwii posted...

scar the 1 posted...

What's the point of being engaged if you don't get married soon after?

For one neither of us have the money for the kind of wedding we want. Decent sized ceremony, not like celebrity big but still big enough that a lot of people can be invited. We both have minimum wage jobs so it might take a while.

So again, what's the point of your engagement then?

I want my fiance to know that I love her and she's the world to me and I want to be with her for the rest of my life. Proposing says all those things.

There are much better ways for her to know that. How long have you been dating?

Also, I'm from the school of thought that you need to live together for a year before marriage.

DelianSK posted...

Duncanwii posted...

scar the 1 posted...

Duncanwii posted...

scar the 1 posted...

What's the point of being engaged if you don't get married soon after?

For one neither of us have the money for the kind of wedding we want. Decent sized ceremony, not like celebrity big but still big enough that a lot of people can be invited. We both have minimum wage jobs so it might take a while.

So again, what's the point of your engagement then?

I want my fiance to know that I love her and she's the world to me and I want to be with her for the rest of my life. Proposing says all those things.

There are much better ways for her to know that. How long have you been dating?

Also, I'm from the school of thought that you need to live together for a year before marriage.

A year 3 months when I proposed, year 4 months now. But we love each other with 100% of our hearts.
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I wasn't doubting that or anything.

Living with someone is the best way to get to know them honestly. Even if you were to go on vacation for a week or something it's not even close to living together.

Fuck expensive weddings. It's not worth it man.

Go cheap.
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Also to add on to what I posted earlier, those wedding you see on TV that you have been told is the norm are ones paid for either partially or fully by the parents. It's just not possible for newlyweds to pay for that crap on their own.
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