Hey everyone, I used to be a happy guy who was in good shape loved to play video games all the time. But everything went wrong.
Lately ever since I've been living on my own I've been eating fast food all the time and I've gained 150 lbs in the past 2 years. Now I'm so depressed I can't even go out and when I play video games I feel like I am a waste and should be excercising. I was wondering if anyone here had any advice on what I should do?
If it helps I'm 20 now haven't had a girlfriend (yet) but that doesn't mean I'm not lookin haha, and I'm afraid of exercise because the regulars at the gym scare me and I feel like they laugh at me because I am over weight.
It hasn't just been fast food. I completely stopped exercising and going out and maintaining a healthy lifestyle. I am constantly eating chips, pop, cereal throughout the day.
I gained 80 pounds in six months, and became almost zombie-like in my hopelessness, so I know where you're coming from.
It took me two years to get myself over the depression, but now my life is awesome.
What helped me was first to get my emotions in order. Believe it or not, watching Gurren Lagann and Clannad really helped with this. I think it's because I really identified with the characters, which was a first for me. I didn't understand human emotions, and these stories really helped with that. I'm not sure what will work for you, but the point is, you need to find your real self again. Regain your confidence and strength.
After that, I was able to start working on my body. This involved actually disciplining myself about what I ate, first of all. For me, that meant keep caloric intake at or below 1600 every day. It also meant real exercise. For me this has meant running and hiking. Whatever the case, this will be hard. It will not be pleasant. You will not like doing it, but you will love the results. When you are able to look in the mirror again and think "Hey, that looks like a human being" it will be one of the most peaceful days of your life. Trust me.
Finally, I started getting involved socially again. This meant joining social groups and volunteering. Nothing big, but you need to do some kind of work for other people. Don't think about this for a while, you'll know the opportunities when they come.
Don't even think about a girlfriend until you're proud of yourself. If you did actually get a girl that you really loved, you'd just be ashamed that you weren't living up to what you think she deserves. If that's not what you're looking for, then you can hire out services anyway.
It will take a long time and it will be hard. But that's life. Start now, your situation will only be worse the more time you spend not fixing it.
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Sounds like me, only this has been going on for 5 years, ever since my first (and only) girlfriend used me as a rebound for a month and then cheated on me with her ex, and broke up with me on Xmas eve to go back to him.
She took my ****ing virginity too, something I had valued.
oh and I guess I do play Video Games, but that's about all I ever do anymore, or browse the internet, and I can't put on weight for the life of me.
Yeah, that really was helpful, thanks for the response. I think what I am going to do is just take it a step at a time. It's harder to do then say but we will see how the progress goes on a day-by-day. I'm excited for the long run benefits though so I'm starting to try to get motivated
From: CoLDReaMMaster | #001 If it helps I'm 20 now haven't had a girlfriend (yet) but that doesn't mean I'm not lookin haha, and I'm afraid of exercise because the regulars at the gym scare me and I feel like they laugh at me because I am over weight.
Thanks!
Nobody who goes to the gym regularly is going to look down on you because you're overweight. If they take note of you at all, it's because they hope to see you make progress.
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Biolizard28 posted... From: CoLDReaMMaster | #001 If it helps I'm 20 now haven't had a girlfriend (yet) but that doesn't mean I'm not lookin haha, and I'm afraid of exercise because the regulars at the gym scare me and I feel like they laugh at me because I am over weight.
Thanks! Nobody who goes to the gym regularly is going to look down on you because you're overweight. If they take note of you at all, it's because they hope to see you make progress.
As a gym regular, when I see an overweight person working out on a daily basis, I respect them for attempting to change themselves for the better.
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